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Wife not wearing wedding ring after marrriage

For a good review of the significance of the wedding ring in Judaism, I recommend the section entitled "The Marriage Ring" of the book The Jewish Way in Love & Marriage, by R' Maurice Lamm. As R' ...
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Why would a Jewish woman marry through a religious ceremony, knowing she risks becoming an agunah for life?

Let's take your question a step farther: why get married at all? Why not just live with, and have relations with, whomever you like? No marriage means no difficulties in ending it. If you're ...
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Can a rabbi conduct a marriage if the bride is already pregnant from the groom?

Short answer -- it's allowed. You'll find a discussion elsewhere on this site about if someone impregnated a woman, do we recommend that he marry her. Which implies that the rabbi can certainly do ...
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May a man marry the women with whom he committed adultery?

No. See Mishnah Sotah, 5:1: כְּשֵׁם שֶׁאֲסוּרָה לַבַּעַל, כָּךְ אֲסוּרָה לַבּוֹעֵל, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (שם) נִטְמְאָה, וְנִטְמָאָה, דִּבְרֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא. אָמַר רַבִּי יְהוֹשֻׁעַ, כָּךְ הָיָה דוֹרֵשׁ ...
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Should a young man establish an income/house first and then marry or vice versa?

Sotah 44a: תנו רבנן אשר בנה אשר נטע אשר ארש לימדה תורה דרך ארץ שיבנה אדם בית ויטע כרם ואח"כ ישא אשה ואף שלמה אמר בחכמתו (משלי כד, כז) הכן בחוץ מלאכתך ועתדה בשדה לך אחר ובנית ביתך הכן בחוץ מלאכתך זה ...
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What is the greatest age difference between a married couple in Tanach?

Based on certain midrashim and assuming they're compatible, Naamah was Noach's wife and was born, at the latest, in 129. Noach was born in 1056. That makes her at least 927 years (+/- rounding ...
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Kesubos 72a תניא נמי הכי המדיר את אשתו שלא תשאל ושלא תשאיל נפה וכברה ריחים ותנור יוציא ויתן כתובה מפני שמשיאה שם רע בשכינותיה Someone who imposes a vow on his wife that she may not borrow or lend ...
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Source why ביאה is not an option for שליח קידושין

R' Elchonon Wasserman in Kovetz Shiurim (Kesuvos 74a) brings this question from R' Akiva Eiger, and explains how the Kiddushin of Biah is fundamentally different from Kessef and Shtar, and why that ...
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Why is the first time a couple has marital relations called "beilas mitzvah?"

Tosfos, Ketubot 4a: בעילת מצוה. קרי לה בעילת מצוה משום דכתיב כי בועליך עושיך ואמרי' (סנהדרין דף כב:) אין אשה כורתת ברית אלא למי שעושה אותה כלי וע''י כך מידבק בה ובאין לידי פריה ורביה ולהכי קרי לה ...
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Minimum age of קידושין for a female?

From the day she is born (Shulchan Arukh EH 37:1).
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Hypothetical, what should a wife do if she discovers her husband is uncircumcised?

Being circumcised does not affect one's status as a Jew. His wedding is valid, and he can continue living with his wife. There are certain males who are not allowed to be circumcised, including those ...
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Divorced woman remarrying her ex-husband

Both the first relationship and the second one would have to be formal marriages (the kind that requires a Get to dissolve) for the prohibition of remarrying your divorcée to come into effect. (ShA EH ...
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Currently in a marriage with a non-observant Jewish woman and I want to convert to Orthodox

Greetings and welcome to J.SE. Many born-Jewish couples have worked out agreements whereby one spouse's level of observance is higher than another's. Some of the biggest questions involve matters ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

R. Avraham Azulai (Hesed LeAvraham, Nahar 48 bot. of pg.) describes this custom as a symbol of dominion. He relates as follows (trans. by Israel Abrahams, Jewish Life in the Middle Ages, pg. 203 fn. ...
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"She may marry any Jewish man"

They meant "other than a Kohen, she can marry any Jewish man that a born-Jewess can marry"; her status as a convert poses no additional issues. (In fact, she can marry more men than a born-Jewess, as ...
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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?

Pesachim 72b discusses a woman who desires intimacy from her husband, and it is approaching the expected time of her period. והאמר רבא חייב אדם לשמח אשתו בדבר מצוה סמוך לווסתה The Gemara asks further:...
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Why is it that you are not allowed to be intimate with your wife during niddah, but you are allowed to eat food prepared by a niddah?

You have correctly identified the flawed premises in your argument. Premise 2 is technically incorrect. One who is intimate with a niddah has the status of an av hatum'ah (source of impurity) on a ...
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For those who hold that David sinned, how was he allowed to ever marry Bat Sheba?

The Gemara in Kesubos 9a asks that question and gives two answers 1) The woman only becomes forbidden (to her husband, and as a consequence also to the adulterer) if she willingly commits adultery. ...
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what percentage of Reform Jews are halachically Jewish?

Non-halachic Reform Jews are those whose mother was not Jewish, yet they consider themselves Jewish because of either a heterodox conversion or patrilineal descent. We can mostly figure out the ...
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Wife not wearing wedding ring after marrriage

Halachically speaking a person does not have to use a ring for kiddushin (thus the woman need not wear it). Additionally, after the ceremony is over, the wife does not have to keep whatever object ...
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Was Dan born out of wedlock?

You're possibly referring to the Maharsha to Shabbos 55b. To explain how Reuven didn't sin with Bilhah, he explains based on the gemarra in Yevamos that Avaraham's children couldn't marry a shifchah. ...
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Can a woman who commits adultery do teshuva and return to her husband?

Maimonides writes in Laws of Divorce 11:14 that Deuteronomy 24 does indeed apply in the case of a married woman willingly committing adultery, such that she is then forbidden from returning to her ...
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Can a man knowingly marry a woman who can't have children?

The Rama writes in Even Ha'Ezer 1:3 ובזמן הזה נהגו שלא לכוף ע"ז וכן מי שלא קיים פריה ורביה ובא לישא אשה שאינה בת בנים כגון עקרה וזקנה או קטנה משום שחושק בה או משום ממון שלה אע"פ שמדינא היה ...
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Would marriage really not solve this man's problem?

This question is based on a misquote of the Talmud. Here is the actual text: ולינסבה מינסב לא מייתבה דעתיה כדר' יצחק דא"ר יצחק מיום שחרב בית המקדש ניטלה טעם ביאה וניתנה לעוברי עבירה שנאמר (משלי ט, ...
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Can you marry your Wife's Sister as a non "Rival Wife"?

The Torah clearly states that one may not marry one's wife's sister, as long as one's wife is alive. This is true whether you are still married to your first wife or not. I.e. whether she is a rival ...
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If two Jewish sisters marry one's son to one's daughter, are their descendants all mamzerim forever?

Marriage between first cousins are allowed in Judaism. aish.com writes explicitly It is permitted under Torah law for cousins to marry. In fact, the Sages seem to view marriages between ...
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Question about using the same bed after divorce

If the bed reminds the husband of his first wife and makes him think about her while with the 2nd wife, then he should not use that bed Nedarim 20b quoted in Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 240,2: ולא ...
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How do Chazal know that the descendants of a Mamzer may never marry into the general populace?

Torah Temimah (text here) cites the Sifri here (my loose translation): גם דור עשירי – נאמר כאן דור עשירי ונאמר להלן בעמוני ומואבי דור עשירי (פ׳ ד׳) מה דור עשירי דלהלן עד עולם אף דור עשירי שבכאן עד ...
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Is it possible to pray to Hashem for a specific person as your prospective spouse?

The gemara in Moed Kattan 18b would seem to advise against it: כי הא דרבא שמעיה לההוא גברא דבעי רחמי ואמר תזדמן לי פלניתא א"ל לא תיבעי רחמי הכי אי חזיא לך לא אזלא מינך ואי לא כפרת בה' בתר הכי ...
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?

The Talmud in Gittin 35b, Nedarim 67a, 72a, and 89a says a general rule אין הבעל מיפר בקודמין The halakha is that the husband does not have the ability to nullify with regard to vows his wife took ...
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