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May my wife wear my jacket to keep warm?

From Rav Aviner's tshuvot (text) Wearing Wife's Jacket in the Cold Q: Is it permissible for a husband to wear his wife's jacket if he is cold, or is it forbidden on account of "Lo Yilbash" (...
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Wife not wearing wedding ring after marrriage

For a good review of the significance of the wedding ring in Judaism, I recommend the section entitled "The Marriage Ring" of the book The Jewish Way in Love & Marriage, by R' Maurice Lamm. As R' ...
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Why would a Jewish woman marry through a religious ceremony, knowing she risks becoming an agunah for life?

Let's take your question a step farther: why get married at all? Why not just live with, and have relations with, whomever you like? No marriage means no difficulties in ending it. If you're ...
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Can a rabbi conduct a marriage if the bride is already pregnant from the groom?

Short answer -- it's allowed. You'll find a discussion elsewhere on this site about if someone impregnated a woman, do we recommend that he marry her. Which implies that the rabbi can certainly do ...
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Should a young man establish an income/house first and then marry or vice versa?

Sotah 44a: תנו רבנן אשר בנה אשר נטע אשר ארש לימדה תורה דרך ארץ שיבנה אדם בית ויטע כרם ואח"כ ישא אשה ואף שלמה אמר בחכמתו (משלי כד, כז) הכן בחוץ מלאכתך ועתדה בשדה לך אחר ובנית ביתך הכן בחוץ מלאכתך זה ...
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What defines an Almana?

The mishna in Y'vamos (6:4) indicates that a widow is forbidden to a Kohein Gadol whether she was a widow only from erusin (when intimacy was still forbidden) or whether she was a widow even from nisu'...
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May a man marry the women with whom he committed adultery?

No. See Mishnah Sotah, 5:1: כְּשֵׁם שֶׁאֲסוּרָה לַבַּעַל, כָּךְ אֲסוּרָה לַבּוֹעֵל, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (שם) נִטְמְאָה, וְנִטְמָאָה, דִּבְרֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא. אָמַר רַבִּי יְהוֹשֻׁעַ, כָּךְ הָיָה דוֹרֵשׁ ...
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Kesubos 72a תניא נמי הכי המדיר את אשתו שלא תשאל ושלא תשאיל נפה וכברה ריחים ותנור יוציא ויתן כתובה מפני שמשיאה שם רע בשכינותיה Someone who imposes a vow on his wife that she may not borrow or lend ...
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What is the prayer uttered by Michael Ginberg's dad in Mad Men?

He is reciting Numbers 6:24-26 (he only gets through half of the last verse in that clip): The LORD bless thee, and keep thee; The LORD make His face to shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee; ...
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Is it acceptable under Judaism to never marry?

The general answer is no it is not acceptable. Marrying and having children is a personal obligation of every Jewish man. Even if a man has the required number of children, or is unable to have ...
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Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters?

In the Tzavaos of Rabbi Yehuda HaChasid #25 seen here he says two brothers should not marry two sisters. See note #37 (#32 in the linked edition) from Rabbi Reuven Margolis quoting the Noda Biyehuda ...
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What is the greatest age difference between a married couple in Tanach?

Based on certain midrashim and assuming they're compatible, Naamah was Noach's wife and was born, at the latest, in 129. Noach was born in 1056. That makes her at least 927 years (+/- rounding ...
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Jewish Marriage and Pleasure

The Sages say yes on Nedarim 20b. Rabbi Johanan ben Dehavai advocates for a more ascetic approach to sexuality that is rejected by a different Rabbi Johanan in the name of the Sages, who assert that ...
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Source why ביאה is not an option for שליח קידושין

R' Elchonon Wasserman in Kovetz Shiurim (Kesuvos 74a) brings this question from R' Akiva Eiger, and explains how the Kiddushin of Biah is fundamentally different from Kessef and Shtar, and why that ...
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Why is the first time a couple has marital relations called "beilas mitzvah?"

Tosfos, Ketubot 4a: בעילת מצוה. קרי לה בעילת מצוה משום דכתיב כי בועליך עושיך ואמרי' (סנהדרין דף כב:) אין אשה כורתת ברית אלא למי שעושה אותה כלי וע''י כך מידבק בה ובאין לידי פריה ורביה ולהכי קרי לה ...
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Minimum age of קידושין for a female?

From the day she is born (Shulchan Arukh EH 37:1).
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Why is the daughter of a married woman permissible?

Halochos Gedolos - Halachos Arayos brings that this question was asked by Yosi ben Tadai Ish Teveria to Rabbi Gamliel. Rabbi Gamliel answered him that it would be impossible for a Kohain Gadol to ever ...
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Divorced woman remarrying her ex-husband

Both the first relationship and the second one would have to be formal marriages (the kind that requires a Get to dissolve) for the prohibition of remarrying your divorcée to come into effect. (ShA EH ...
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Hypothetical, what should a wife do if she discovers her husband is uncircumcised?

Being circumcised does not affect one's status as a Jew. His wedding is valid, and he can continue living with his wife. There are certain males who are not allowed to be circumcised, including those ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?

The current answers don't address the question in detail. So here goes: What is the source and reason for this? The source is the Mishna in Yevamos 64a and the subsequent discussion in the Talmud ...
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If a Cohen slept with non-Jews, may he marry a Jewish woman who has done the same?

The answer is that a Cohen who has relations with a non-Jewish woman is not removed from his sanctity and therefore not permitted to marry a woman who's had relations with non-Jews. רמבם הלכות איסורי ...
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What does a marriage proposal look like?

In some more "Yeshivish" circles (this was pretty normal among my crowd in Yeshiva), the custom is to propose with a bracelet, not a ring, and it is usually done with some formulation of "will you ...
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Couples showing affection in public

The Rama writes (EH 21:5) יש אומרים דאין לנהוג אפילו עם אשתו בדברים של חיבה, כגון לעיין ברישיה אם יש לו כינים, בפני אחרים Some say that you shouldn't act with your wife in affectionate matters, ...
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What's the difference between נכסי צאן ברזל and נכסי מלוג?

The difference is discussed extensively in the eighth perek of Ketubot. נכסי מלוג refers to assets that a woman brings into the marriage, or which falls to her as either an inheritance or as a gift ...
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Currently in a marriage with a non-observant Jewish woman and I want to convert to Orthodox

Greetings and welcome to J.SE. Many born-Jewish couples have worked out agreements whereby one spouse's level of observance is higher than another's. Some of the biggest questions involve matters ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

R. Avraham Azulai (Hesed LeAvraham, Nahar 48 bot. of pg.) describes this custom as a symbol of dominion. He relates as follows (trans. by Israel Abrahams, Jewish Life in the Middle Ages, pg. 203 fn. ...
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"She may marry any Jewish man"

They meant "other than a Kohen, she can marry any Jewish man that a born-Jewess can marry"; her status as a convert poses no additional issues. (In fact, she can marry more men than a born-Jewess, as ...
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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?

Pesachim 72b discusses a woman who desires intimacy from her husband, and it is approaching the expected time of her period. והאמר רבא חייב אדם לשמח אשתו בדבר מצוה סמוך לווסתה The Gemara asks further:...
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Why is it that you are not allowed to be intimate with your wife during niddah, but you are allowed to eat food prepared by a niddah?

You have correctly identified the flawed premises in your argument. Premise 2 is technically incorrect. One who is intimate with a niddah has the status of an av hatum'ah (source of impurity) on a ...
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