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Is it possible to have a Jewish wedding after a civil ceremony?

There is no reason not to have a Jewish wedding. On the contrary! There is a strong reason to have one, in order to live according to halacha with a kosher wedding and ketuba. Note that, in many ...
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Intermarriage Attendance

There are numerous halahic problems in attending a mixed marriage: Aiding one committing a sin. Sourced in BT AZ (6b). There is a difference of opinions among Rishonim if this applies to a scenario ...
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How can there be only two Halachic witnesses at a large wedding?

The Ritva in Kiddushin 43a brings the custom of designating specific witnesses at a ceremony where there are invalid witnesses present, to get around the problem of עדות שבטלה מקצתה בטלה כולה (the ...
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What age were Leah and Rachel when they got married

The Seder Olam Rabba (ed. Leiner) states (ch. 2) that they were twins and were both 22 when they got married: נמצאו רחל ולאה נשאו בנות כ"ב כ"ב, שהיו תאומות Thus, Rachel and Leah were both ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

R. Avraham Azulai (Hesed LeAvraham, Nahar 48 bot. of pg.) describes this custom as a symbol of dominion. He relates as follows (trans. by Israel Abrahams, Jewish Life in the Middle Ages, pg. 203 fn. ...
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When were "acrobatics" introduced at weddings?

I don't know if it's the earliest but Kesubos 17a provides three examples of shtik. אמרו עליו על רבי יהודה בר אילעאי שהיה נוטל בד של הדס ומרקד לפני הכלה ואומר כלה נאה וחסודה רב שמואל בר רב יצחק מרקד ...
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Halachic issues with double ring wedding ceremony

This question was posed to R. Moshe Feinstein by R. Ephraim Greenblatt in 1969, and is recorded in Igros Moshe E.H. 3:18. In the first paragraph he explains that the kiddushin is still effective even ...
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Non-Jewish family in an Orthodox Jewish Wedding

I was involved with someone who had the following situation (I don't know the sources involved in the decision, just the guidance that was given. HaRav Tzvi Berkowitz was the Rav being consulted): ...
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Can a woman who did not receive a get but only a civil divorce marry again?

First question: the mishna at the beginning of tractate Kiddushin makes it clear that the only way a Jewish married woman is allowed to marry someone else is either with a Get (a Jewish divorce), or ...
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Child marriage today

A boy at the age of 13, and a girl at the age of 12, who have fully matured according to halacha, (as explained in Rambam Sefer Nashim Hilcos Ishus perek 2) are considered adults according to halacha. ...
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Who composed the text for Tena'im?

I don't believe there is a single set one, but a few with minor variations. Some of the classic Tenaim texts were collected in Sefer Nachalas Shiv'a, and another version was drafted by Rav Moshe ...
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Is it required to read the Ketubah under the Chuppah?

The Aruch HaShulchan in Even Ha'Ezer 62:8 says that reading the Ketubah under the Chuppah is a custom instituted by Rashi (1040-1105) ורש"י ז"ל הנהיג לקרות הכתובה אחר הקדושין כי היכי דליהוי הפסק ...
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How can there be only two Halachic witnesses at a large wedding?

There are two issues at play here. 1) Who actually saw the event. 2) Who are the members of the "official group" ("Kaht") of witnesses that not only saw the event, but also serve as a specific group ...
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Why are huge challot displayed on the wedding couple / Bar Mitzvah's table?

The earliest source for having a large Challah at a wedding is the Maasas Binyomin (d. 1620) There is a wide spread custom to distribute slices of the large challa to the friends of the Chosson and ...
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Source for Baal Haturim Writing Commentary on his Wedding Night!

Hidabroot (here) writes It is a well-known fact that Rabbi Yaakov [Ben Asher, the Baal Haturim] wrote his entire commentary on the Torah in one night, orally, although no reliable source has ...
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Inviting deceased relatives to a wedding

I found a number of references to this custom R Moishe Dovid Lebovits here mentions Some bring down the custom for the chosson and kallah to go the cemetery to invite their non-living grandparents to ...
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Earliest moment for interrupted wedding to be considered binding?

From the moment the bride receives the ring (or anything else of value) from the groom after he declares הֲרֵי אַתְּ מְקֻדֶּשֶׁת לִי in the presence of 2 Kosher witnesses, they are married, and the ...
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Intermarriage Attendance

The most straightforward halachic source would appear to be the prohibition of chanufa, falsely flattering a sinner by implying that his/her sin is permitted. (This is different than a vague statement ...
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What age were Leah and Rachel when they got married

Seder Olam Rabbah 2 calculates that they were twins and married Yaakov at 22. I don’t follow the math, myself. It seems to just throw out there that Rachel was 36 when she died; since Yaakov married ...
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Which word is said under the chuppah - זוֹ or זוּ?

Google searches yield a number of hits for both results. This website quotes Chanoch Yellon as saying that Ashkenazim use זוּ while Sefardim and Teimanim use זוֹ. Cool historical fact: This forum ...
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Which word is said under the chuppah - זוֹ or זוּ?

I have to admit that it's been a while since I said this to my bashert, and I guess I have to find my rav to confirm what I said. (He has a better memory than I.) But, to add to רבות מחשבות's answer, ...
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Why doesn't the chatan sign the ketubah?

The kesuba serves as documentary testimony that the groom accepted upon himself the responsibilities entailed therein. It is not an I.O.U., but it is the documentation of his acceptance. Consider the ...
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Breaking a cheap glass under the Chuppah

In Yalkut Yosef שובע שמחות חלק א דף רמא he brings down the idea from the ראבי"ה who uses the Gemera in Moed Katan 27a that nowadays we have a cheap cup in order to not embarrass others who don't ...
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Is there a minhag for a chassan and kallah to hold hands after the chupah?

There are a few sources for the Chassan and Kallah to hold hands (not necessarily between the chuppah and yichud): R. Elazar of Worms, Sefer Harokeach Hilchos Eirusin V'nissuin # 352 וכשהכלה נכנסת ...
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Causing Rabbis Bitul Torah

As was mentioned in the comments, we ignore the problem of בטול תורה because, as the gemara in Kesubos 17a says: תנו רבנן מבטלין תלמוד תורה...ולהכנסת כלה The Sages taught: One suspends the ...
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Mazinka dance (dance with a broom) source?

What is the source for mezinka and is it in any seforim? Technically it's in Rav Moshe Heinemann's sefer on Hilchos Kiddushin (10:12), but it might not be what you're looking for. Q: What’s the inyan ...
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Chosson and Kallah Stand with backs facing the Audience

HaRav Hershel Schachter, shalita, (Kiddushin 5777 Shiur #58) quotes the Yekkish Minhag to stand with the couple's backs facing the audience as a means of avoiding being considered Mekadesh beShuk. He ...
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Wedding Blessings (Sheva Brachot)

There are a number of things wrong with this. First, the traditional practice is to have the same person recite all the blessings. Even if there was some sort of pressing circumstance here, it's hard ...
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Sephardic Wedding Custom: Avram Siz Reading

The Arukh (under Chatan) mentions reading 3 verses (ie. Genesis 24:1-3). The Tashbetz (2:39) says the local custom near him is like the Arukh. The Avudarham (at the end of the Laws of Wedding ...
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