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Can Nissuin be done before kiddushin

According to Halacha, is it permitted for Jews to do Nissuin before kiddushin, and if so, when is the Seudat mitzvah? Or no, does kiddushin necessarily have to proceed Nissuin?
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Conversion for marriage

Halacha dictates that a Jewish court must not convert a non-Jew if it believes it's for the purpose of marrying a Jew (H. Issurei Biah 13:14). But what if the non-Jew is already married to a Jew, non-...
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Halachot of Communal Wedding Rings

Ruth Gay writes in her book on German Jewry (Jews of Germany) that in most of the Rheinland communities, a communal wedding ring would be used. Given that the kinyan must be done with something ...
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Are men with dead or divorced wives before the first year still exempt

According to Deuteronomy 24:5 a man is exempt from public service for a year when he marries a wife. What does Halacha say in the case a man marries a woman and divorced her or she dies before that ...
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Could the court compel a man to marry

I’ve heard that the court could compel a man to find a wife unless he was fully involved in the study of Torah. Is this true?
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Pictures of married women before they were married - hair uncovered

Is there any reason whatsoever to not look at, or to not display in the house (or submit for job interviews, or use as profile picture on social media, etc etc), pictures of a married women, before ...
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Are there any Rabbis who require a DNA test for every child born as a means of preventing infidelity?

If your wife commits infidelity, you are required to divorce her. This is taken from Mishneh Torah, Divorce 11. וּבִכְלַל לָאו זֶה שֶׁכָּל אִשָּׁה שֶׁזִּנְּתָה תַּחַת בַּעְלָהּ נֶאֶסְרָה עָלָיו ...
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Is kiddushin which a man was coerced to do valid

According to Halacha, if a man was coerced/forced to do kiddushin to a woman, under threat of penalty (from say a Beit Din) is that a valid kiddushin? Or no, since this was done against his true will ...
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If a Jew got testicular biopsy, can Jews marry him

Testicular biopsy is when men get a portion of their testes removed to be scientifically tested, often for reproductive reasons. The Torah prohibits Jews having marriage with eunuchs, men with injured ...
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In Halacha, can you sue for Alienation of Affection?

In old times, there were laws on the books that defined a cause of action called "Alienation of Affections" which, among other things, allowed an aggrieved spouse to sue their spouse's ...
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May a wife go a place against her husband’s will

According to Halacha, if a husband tells his wife she can’t go somewhere (for example, the supermarket) is the wife obligated to listen to her husband? Or can she (at least by halacha) go against her ...
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Are relations with spouse on demand generally required

According to Halacha, is one generally obligated to have intimate relations with your spouse if they ask for it? A man is obligated to have it generally, but my question is, even if a man fulfills ...
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What is the true origin of this quote so often attributed to the Baal Shem Tov?

What is the true origin of this quote so often attributed to the Baal Shem Tov?: From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven, and when two souls that are destined to be ...
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If someone becomes gravely ill and their name is changed in Shul, is their name also changed on their Kesubah?

A source: https://outorah.org/p/119405/ When someone becomes gravely ill and their name is changed in order to aid in their refuah, is their name also altered on their Kesubah?
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Using a predated ketubah at a wedding ceremony

In Halacha, is it permissible to use written and signed ketubah that predates the actual wedding ceremony? So basically, the ketubah is written and signed like a day or so earlier than the actual ...
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If someone lost a ketubah, are they obligated to replace it

According to Halacha, if a Jewish married couple has a Ketubah and they lost it, are they obligated to have it replaced with another Ketubah or no? Is it considered like an obligation to have ...
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Conservative converts wanting to marry Orthodox [closed]

If there were an instance where a Conservative convert woman wanted to marry an Orthodox man, would an Orthodox rabbi perform the ceremony?
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Questions about marriage, life, Judaism as a BT who grew up reform? [closed]

I Grew up as a reform Jew but I became more religious my parents were never married and don't have a Ketubah. I also do not have ketubah for my grandparents, what will happen how can I get married? ...
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כִּי יִקַּח אִישׁ אִשָּׁה—what does it mean (kiddushin or nisuin)?

Jewish marriage occurs in two distinct stages, each with its own halachic implication. Chazal term the first kiddushin and the latter nisuin. Biblically they're termed eirusin and likuchin, ...
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Does kiddushin work if the couple don't understand the implications?

According to the first Mishna of Kiddushin, if I understand correctly, marriage is effectively a legal contract where the man takes "ownership" of the woman with her consent. This answer to ...
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Source for not asking your spouse to do something for you

I recall hearing an idea once that you shouldn't ask your spouse to do something for you, but I'm not sure where it is from. Does anyone know the source?
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What are the practical implications of marriage being the husband's ownership of the wife?

Halachically, marriage is a contract where the husband takes ownership of the wife. I've been married for over 17 years and although I have always been aware of this, I've never really thought of my ...
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Prussian Jews and tallit gadol

The custom of Jews from Prussia (German Poland) was wear tallit gadol from bar mitzvah or from marriage? And the custom of Ashkenazi Jews from Belgium?
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The consent of the girl for marriage and honour killing history [closed]

I want to ask about the historical context of the value of the girl's consent in marriage in ancient Jewish culture. As old as possible. If a girl had married a man without her father's permission, ...
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Application of the mitzvah of marriage in Jewish men with Asperger’s Syndrome

It is a fact that a Jewish man who does not fulfill the mitzvah of getting married in the chuppah and having children will have to account for it in the Olam HaBa. There are also halachic cases in ...
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Insurance as kiddushin Kessef

According to Halacha, could insurance paid for by a man be given to a woman to count as a “Kiddushin Kessef”? Does it count as a value that the man owns that could legitimately be used. The reason ...
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Is taking an Eshet Yefat To'ar allowed today?

The Torah provides that a Jewish soldier may, by following a specific process, take a woman captive as his wife and convert her to Judaism as an אשת יפת תואר (Devarim 21:10-14). Is this provision ...
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Was Yaakov's kidushin to Leah valid?

It says in Masechet Bava Batra 123a: אָמַר לָהּ מִינַּסְבַתְּ לִי אָמְרָה לֵיהּ אִין מִיהוּ אַבָא רַמָאָה הוּא וְְלאֹ יָכְלַתְּ לֵיהּ אָמַר לָהּ מַאי רַמָּאוּתֵיהּ אֲמָרָהּ לֵיהּ אִית לִי אַחְתָּא ...
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Are we missing the point in the idea of a bashert?

There are several sources which say that our spouse is predetermined from when/before we are born. I remember hearing a Rav say once that there are many people who we could be equally happy with as ...
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Does everyone end up with their 'soulmate'/bashert?

I ask this in all respect because there are people who end up not having a romantic partner or spouse in their life. Yet, there is an assertion that HaShem has designated for each individual a ...
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Why were Jews allowed to commit incest?

Amram married Yokheved, his aunt, Yitzkhak married Rivkah, his cousin, Yehudah married his daughter-in-law, etc. Why were they allowed to commit incest even though it is prohibited in the Torah. And ...
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Bride wearing a veil during wedding in Halacho [duplicate]

I am curious about the historical origins of brides wearing veils in Halacho. Additionally, I am interested in the earliest documented sources of this custom; and, if available, any notable inquiries ...
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Relationships and Intimacy [closed]

A girl (21) recently confessed her love for me, and she’s a nice girl, but she’s not a virgin. I approach all possible romantic relationships very seriously with the intent of marriage, and I don’t ...
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How is it that Yaakov Avinu was permitted to marry Zilpah, because she was the sister of Bilhah and Leah already had 4 sons?

How is it that Yaakov Avinu was permitted to marry Zilpah, because she was the sister of Bilhah and Leah already had 4 sons? According to Bereishit Rabbah 74:13 Bilhah and Zilpah were also daughters ...
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Saying Harei At Mkudeshet Li

If someone gives a girl a ring in front of a group of Jews and says "Harei at mkudeshet li" while they are dating does she now need a get to marry someone else after they break up?
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

In biblical accounts, several figures, such as Isaac, are noted to have married at a relatively older age compared to today's standards. Isaac, for instance, married at the age of 40. Given the ...
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40 days before the formation of the fetus

I know chazel say 40 days before the formation of a fetus a bas Kol goes out and says "bas ploni lploni" I was wondering in the language of the bas Kol, why does it say "bas ploni ...
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Can gentile couples be forgiven for adultery?

Are noahide couple partners allowed to "forgive" adultery (as a consumated act described by rambam for noahides)?
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Kings of Israel and the prohibition of "many wives"

The Torah explicitly states that kings should refrain from having many wives (Devarim 16:17): וְלֹ֤א יַרְבֶּה־לּוֹ֙ נָשִׁ֔ים וְלֹ֥א יָס֖וּר לְבָב֑וֹ וְכֶ֣סֶף וְזָהָ֔ב לֹ֥א יַרְבֶּה־לּ֖וֹ מְאֹֽד׃ And ...
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Does an older widow have to wait before re-marrying?

There is a concept that a widow should wait several months after her husband dies before she remarries in order that the paternity of any children will be obvious. If the widow is obviously beyond ...
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Is the marriage contract valid upon the death or the divorce of the spouse?

I had a specific question related to the Kiddushin and death contract. In the schools of Halakha, is the marriage contract considered "void" or "cancelled" or "paused" at ...
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Can two people who are asexual get married?

The situation is a couple where both the man and woman are not interested in consummating the marriage, but they want to get married because they are in love and they want the companionship. How would ...
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Balancing privacy of spouses' relationship with revealing important information to others [closed]

In general, the Torah places a lot of supremacy to the spousal relationship in marriage, compared to other relationships, and one must generally put one's spouse first over almost any other commitment,...
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Wives of the Shevatim

Do any midrashim etc detail the names and background of each the wives of the sons of Jacob? I know the book of Jubilees does, but that is not considered 'canonical'. Besides that, I only know of the ...
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Origin of wedding rings [duplicate]

Where did the custom of giving wedding rings originate? Was it always a part of Jewish custom, or was it adopted by other cultures, and if so, how come it is so important that we have Halachas ...
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Why strangulation for adultery?

The Torah tells us which relationships are forbidden and what the punishments are. Some of them are cut off from the people, some are strangled, some are burnt, killed by sword others are stoned. The ...
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'Plonis' in Poskim on Nedarim 20

This page on Nedarim 20 is discussing the stringency of a husband avoiding thinking of other women during sex. https://dafyomi.co.il/nedarim/halachah/nd-hl-020.htm When it comes to the Poskim ...
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Angels of impurity before marriage?

I cam across an article here stating that before we marry, each person has an 'angel of impurity' attached to them from birth. https://www.dailyhalacha.com/WeeklyParasha.asp?ParashaClipID=754 I ...
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Would marriage and divorce for Gentiles be invalid for being an appropriation of Jewish commandments?

I've read somewhere that God gave the law of divorce to the Jews but not to the Gentiles, quoted some rabbinic opinion about it, didn't say which one. Is there anything to that effect in the Talmud? I ...
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Four counted as dead & Agunot

Nedarim 64b relates of the Gemara: "it was taught in a baraita: Four are considered as if they were dead: A pauper, and a leper, and a blind person, and one who has no children." Could one ...
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