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marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`

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Can a witness at Kiddushin have had committed inconsequential crimes?

I remember hearing in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein that a criminal who-- by normal and objective standards-- should be invalidated from testifying can still be considered a Kosher witness if his ...
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multiple wives decrease onah of each

In Rambam, Hilchot Ishut, Chapter 14:1, he outlines a husband's obligations of onah (conjugal rights) to each wife based on his profession. So a sailor every 6 months, an in-town laborer twice per ...
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Question about shidduchim and finding your bashert?

I know this is kind of a weird and long-shot question, but are there any Torah sources which mention signs (simanim) that a person is about to find their bashert? And are there are any sources which ...
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On the halachic level, does the sexual intercourse between a Jewish man and a Gentile woman married to a Gentile man constitute adultery or not?

I am an Italian noahide. As is known, the Torah prohibits marriage between Jews and Gentiles, and in general sexual intercourses between them. There is, except for my mistake, the exception ...
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How much help can a kohen's wife get

At the very end of Orach Chaim 128:45, the Rema says: אסור להשתמש בכהן אפי' בזמן הזה דהוי כמועל בהקדש אם לא מחל על כך It is forbidden to be serviced by a Kohen even in our current time......
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Source for Arizal Marital Advice

Rav Ezriel Tauber's To Become One (p.46) quotes a story about the Arizal who told a husband, "This is your tikun, the way you can repair a fault in your spiritual self. In a previous existence the ...
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Do women need to marry to be fulfilled?

The Talmud says: Rabbi Tanhum stated in the name of Rabbi Hanilai: A man who has no wife lives without joy, without blessing, and without goodness. (Yevamot 62b) Is there a parallel quote anywhere ...
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What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah?

Following "the shape or form of chuppa": Halachicly speaking, Chuppah makes Nissuin - the start of the formal obligations of both sides. What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah? A square ...
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What criteria allow one to lie to a spouse?

In this week's Torah parsha, Vayeira, in Breishit 18:13, Saying וַיֹּ֥אמֶר יְהוָ֖ה אֶל־אַבְרָהָ֑ם לָ֣מָּה זֶּה֩ צָחֲקָ֨ה שָׂרָ֜ה לֵאמֹ֗ר הַאַ֥ף אֻמְנָ֛ם אֵלֵ֖ד וַאֲנִ֥י זָקַֽנְתִּי׃ Then ...
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Should a young man establish an income/house first and then marry or vice versa?

I learned a teaching about which order a man should pursue marriage first and a house / income second or the other order, but I have forgotten the source and the holding. If anyone knows the origin of ...
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Lot's Reason for Marriage

Based on the fact that Lot was such a giving person (Bereishis 19:2) that he was willing to risk his life for kindliness וַיִּפְצַר־בָּם מְאֹד וַיָּסֻרוּ אֵלָיו וַיָּבֹאוּ אֶל־בֵּיתוֹ וַיַּעַשׂ ...
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Minimum age of קידושין for a female?

What is the minimum age of kiddushin (that is Dioryta) that the father can effect via כסף or שטר?
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Divorced woman remarrying her ex-husband

May a woman, who after receiving a get from her husband has relations with another man out of wedlock, remarry her husband?
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“It is not good for man to be alone” : Is this some sort of commandment, and does it apply to b'nei Noach?

וַיֹּ֨אמֶר֙ יְהֹוָ֣ה אֱלֹהִ֔ים לֹא־ט֛וֹב הֱי֥וֹת הָֽאָדָ֖ם לְבַדּ֑וֹ אֶֽעֱשֶׂה־לּ֥וֹ עֵ֖זֶר כְּנֶגְדּֽוֹ: ‏ And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man is alone; I shall make him a ...
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How can the mourner remarry within one month, if he has to wait two regalim?

Moed katan (21b): מתה אשתו ונשא אשה אחרת — אינו רשאי ליכנס לביתו לדבר עמו ]תנחומין, [כדי שלא לפגוע באשה החדשה. If it was the mourner’s wife who died and he married another woman within thirty ...
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Looking for a Tosafos

I remember seeing a Tosafos in Ksubos a while back which states that when a man gets married, he should go to his in-laws for the chag that follows his wedding. Does anyone know exactly where I can ...
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Is there ever a case that the groom can get back the money he used for the wedding

Halachikly the groom is the one who pays for the wedding (last paragraph on this page Igros Moshe 7 even ezer 4:92:1 and can the bride's family force Sheva Brachot ) Is there ever a case that the ...
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Status of children born from a yefat toar who was converted to judaism after the 30 day period

In parshat Ki Teietze it talks about the yefat torah. If after the 30 days if he still wants to marry her, she is converted to judaism, then he can marry her. Question: Is this conversion a regular ...
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To what extent can a Beit Din actually force someone to get married?

In an answer on this site regarding the obligation to procreate, R. Hershel Schachter is quoted as saying (emphasis mine), And although Beth Din could force someone to get married even if he did ...
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Can a mamzer, Ammonite, or Moabite enter the temple after ten generations?

Does Deuteronomy 23:3-4 mean these people can never enter the temple or must count 10 generations forward before they can enter the temple. The scripture is a bit ambiguous. לֹא־יָבֹ֥א מַמְזֵ֖ר ...
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What's on Kiddushin Rabbi obligatory check-up list?

IIRC, a Rabbi that makes Kiddushin takes a great responsibility (forgot the exact wording of the Gemmorah), at most he can be allowing Arayot, at least he can make the blessings said in vain. As the ...
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Although I heard in a shiur that there is a gemara which says a husband is not allowed to tell his wife not to lend to others since she would eventually develop a bad name, I can't find it - are there ...
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Marriage between followers of different Hasidic courts

I know that high-profile marriages between followers of different Hasidic courts occur -- such as the Belzer Rebbe, Rabbi Yissachar Dov Rokach and one of the Satmar Rebbes, Rabbi Aharon Teitelbaum ...
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Must you love your wife more than your friend?

The Rambam (Hilchus Ishus 15:19) writes: כן צוו חכמים שיהיה אדם מכבד את אשתו יתר מגופו ואוהבה כגופו The Chachamim instituted that [each] man should respect his wife more than himself, and love her ...
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Jewish married men and affair with non-Jewish women

Are relations between a Jewish married man with a non-Jewish woman either married or single considered adultery?
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Why is the term “Know” used between Adam and Chava? [duplicate]

Why does the Torah refer to the process of Adam having children with Chava as "knowing" her? (Bereishis 4:1) וְהָאָדָם יָדַע אֶת־חַוָּה אִשְׁתּוֹ וַתַּהַר וַתֵּלֶד אֶת־קַיִן וַתֹּאמֶר קָנִיתִי ...
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May a man marry the women with whom he committed adultery?

A single man commits adultery with a married woman. Later the woman divorces her husband, and wishes to marry the single man with whom she had the meretricious relationship. Is this allowed?
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Why is the first time a couple has marital relations called “beilas mitzvah?”

The gemara (Ketubot 4a) and poskim (Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Deah 193:1) refer to the first time a couple having marital relations as "beilas mitzvah" (mitzvah of marital relations). Being as the couple ...
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How common are Levirate marriages today?

Under Jewish law, if a woman's husband dies without giving her a child, the brother of the deceased husband has an obligation to give his wife a child. In the event that they don't wish to go through ...
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Is a man permitted to petition for permitted sexual relations during the Amidah?

Would a man be permitted to ask Hashem to bring about permitted sexual acts with his current or future wife as part of the requests he makes during the Amidah, given that we are generally highly ...
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Eidei Nisuin at weddings?

At a wedding, we designate both eidei kiddushin (witnesses for the kiddushin) and eidei ketubah (witnesses for the ketubah). However, I haven't really seen the practice of designating eidei nisuin at ...
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Is it permitted to learn Torah with one's wife?

Is it permitted to learn Torah with one's wife? And if so, are there any special recommendations for what to study with her? Generally speaking I understand that men don't take women as Chavrutas, ...
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Is it possible to pray to Hashem for a specific person as your prospective spouse?

I understand in the first Amud of Masechet Sotah, an individual’s future [first] spouse is predestined. Is there a possibility of praying to Hashem, such that one may change the decree and designate a ...
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Judged By Treating Wife [duplicate]

Rabbi Tzoren quotes Alenu L'Shabeach who quotes Rav Chaim Vital saying A man’s character is measured only by how he treats his wife! Where does Rav Chaim Vital say this?
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Are common half siblings related to each other?

I have 2 half-siblings, one through my father and one through my mother. Are these 2 related to each other in any way according to the Torah (even though they share no common parent)? For example, ...
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Why did the “Jews” separate from their wives 3 days before Matan Torah?

If a Jewish Man has intimate relations with his wife, and then the seed escapes the woman's body she becomes known as a Paletes Shichvas Zerah. Now, if that occurs within 3 days she becomes Tamei. If ...
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When did the practice of doing Kiddushin followed immediately by Nisuin begin?

not really related to: "Why in olden days was there a long break between Kiddushin & Nisuin?" In the times of the Talmud (Ketubot 57a) there was usually a significant amount of time between ...
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If the woman seduces the man, must he pay the penalty?

The Torah says if a man seduces a woman he must pay her 50 silver shekel and should marry her (Shemot 22,16): וְכִי־יְפַתֶּה אִישׁ בְּתוּלָה אֲשֶׁר לֹא־אֹרָשָׂה וְשָׁכַב עִמָּהּ מָהֹר יִמְהָרֶנָּה ...
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Does Jewess who wants to marry a non-converted Noachide need a ketubah?

I understand that traditionally this is prohibited, but since they are the same faith would they require a ketubah or a modified version? I read that Rav Feinstein would rather à kohen marry a Goya ...
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Where are the dinim of multiple wives located?

I know the history, the gezerim, etc., but what I can't find is the practical halachot once one has multiple wives. Where can I find this?
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Does בית שמאי hold a second מיאון effective?

The mishna at the start of chapter 13 of Y'vamos cites a disagreement between the schools of Shamay and Hilel about a minor girl who is married off by (for example) her mother and can refuse the ...
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If only a married woman can be a sotah, why does a non-spouse have authority to warn her?

Sotah 4:1 explains that certain women do not drink the sotah waters and do not receive the ketubah because they are not yet married and the torah says "she goes astray while married to her husband". ...
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Can a Ketubah not mention monetary obligations?

While researching this question, I've bumped on Ketubah.com site that offers copies of Ketubahs of the Reform and Conservative branches in Judaism. This is a sample text of a Reform Ketubah: On ...
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Can one sign as a witness on a Conservative/ Reform Ketubah?

Was at a Conservative friend's house the other day, and noticed the Ketubah from their wedding on their wall. I went to look at it and saw 4 witnesses had signed it: 2 men & 2 women. If an ...
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How early in the process can the accused sotah refuse to drink?

The mishnayot in the first chapter of Sotah describe the beginning of the process -- the accusing husband brings her to the court where they try to intimidate her into confessing, and if she doesn't ...
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Sources on preventing someone's marriage to a non-Jew? [closed]

A close family member is dating a non-Jew very seriously, and I am worried they will get married. Is there any recommended reading material, that could help me prevent their marriage, or ending the ...
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Why the story of a kohen gadol marrying a widow (יבמות ו:ד)?

Y'vamos, chapter 6, mishna 4, reads, in part: אירס את האלמנה ונתמנה להיות כהן גדול יכנוס. ומעשה ביהושע בן גמלא שקידש את מרתא בת ביתוס ומינהו המלך להיות כהן גדול וכנסה.‏ If someone kidushin-...
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Is Nisuin Biblical or Rabbinic?

In exploring the topic of a convert or orphan who is married as a Na'arah, I stumbled upon a surprising piece in the Beis Shmuel: ...הואיל קידושין דאורייתא הם ונישואין אינם מדאורייתא... ......
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How can a convert be a Na'arah Me'orasah?

Kesuvos 4:3 discusses various cases of a convert who commits adultery as a Na'arah Me'orasah. In response to my other question on this Mishnah, Heshy raised an intriguing question: Wait... how can ...
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Why the Megillah does not mention Ester marrying Achashverosh?

The Megillah (2.16) mentions taking Ester into the Palace, loving here [more than other girls] and crowning her as the queen but no mention of the marriage or being Achashverosh's wife: וַתִּלָּקַח ...