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marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`

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Is a man permitted to petition for permitted sexual relations during the Amidah?

Would a man be permitted to ask Hashem to bring about permitted sexual acts with his current or future wife as part of the requests he makes during the Amidah, given that we are generally highly ...
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Eidei Nisuin at weddings?

At a wedding, we designate both eidei kiddushin (witnesses for the kiddushin) and eidei ketubah (witnesses for the ketubah). However, I haven't really seen the practice of designating eidei nisuin at ...
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Is it permitted to learn Torah with one's wife?

Is it permitted to learn Torah with one's wife? And if so, are there any special recommendations for what to study with her? Generally speaking I understand that men don't take women as Chavrutas, ...
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Is it possible to pray to Hashem for a specific person as your prospective spouse?

I understand in the first Amud of Masechet Sotah, an individual’s future [first] spouse is predestined. Is there a possibility of praying to Hashem, such that one may change the decree and designate a ...
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Judged By Treating Wife [duplicate]

Rabbi Tzoren quotes Alenu L'Shabeach who quotes Rav Chaim Vital saying A man’s character is measured only by how he treats his wife! Where does Rav Chaim Vital say this?
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Are common half siblings related to each other?

I have 2 half-siblings, one through my father and one through my mother. Are these 2 related to each other in any way according to the Torah (even though they share no common parent)? For example, ...
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Why did the “Jews” separate from their wives 3 days before Matan Torah?

If a Jewish Man has intimate relations with his wife, and then the seed escapes the woman's body she becomes known as a Paletes Shichvas Zerah. Now, if that occurs within 3 days she becomes Tamei. If ...
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When did the practice of doing Kiddushin followed immediately by Nisuin begin?

not really related to: "Why in olden days was there a long break between Kiddushin & Nisuin?" In the times of the Talmud (Ketubot 57a) there was usually a significant amount of time between ...
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If the woman seduces the man, must he pay the penalty?

The Torah says if a man seduces a woman he must pay her 50 silver shekel and should marry her (Shemot 22,16): וְכִי־יְפַתֶּה אִישׁ בְּתוּלָה אֲשֶׁר לֹא־אֹרָשָׂה וְשָׁכַב עִמָּהּ מָהֹר יִמְהָרֶנָּה ...
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Does Jewess who wants to marry a non-converted Noachide need a ketubah?

I understand that traditionally this is prohibited, but since they are the same faith would they require a ketubah or a modified version? I read that Rav Feinstein would rather à kohen marry a Goya ...
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Where are the dinim of multiple wives located?

I know the history, the gezerim, etc., but what I can't find is the practical halachot once one has multiple wives. Where can I find this?
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Does בית שמאי hold a second מיאון effective?

The mishna at the start of chapter 13 of Y'vamos cites a disagreement between the schools of Shamay and Hilel about a minor girl who is married off by (for example) her mother and can refuse the ...
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If only a married woman can be a sotah, why does a non-spouse have authority to warn her?

Sotah 4:1 explains that certain women do not drink the sotah waters and do not receive the ketubah because they are not yet married and the torah says "she goes astray while married to her husband". ...
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Can a Ketubah not mention monetary obligations?

While researching this question, I've bumped on Ketubah.com site that offers copies of Ketubahs of the Reform and Conservative branches in Judaism. This is a sample text of a Reform Ketubah: On ...
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Can one sign as a witness on a Conservative/ Reform Ketubah?

Was at a Conservative friend's house the other day, and noticed the Ketubah from their wedding on their wall. I went to look at it and saw 4 witnesses had signed it: 2 men & 2 women. If an ...
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How early in the process can the accused sotah refuse to drink?

The mishnayot in the first chapter of Sotah describe the beginning of the process -- the accusing husband brings her to the court where they try to intimidate her into confessing, and if she doesn't ...
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Sources on preventing someone's marriage to a non-Jew? [closed]

A close family member is dating a non-Jew very seriously, and I am worried they will get married. Is there any recommended reading material, that could help me prevent their marriage, or ending the ...
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Why the story of a kohen gadol marrying a widow (יבמות ו:ד)?

Y'vamos, chapter 6, mishna 4, reads, in part: אירס את האלמנה ונתמנה להיות כהן גדול יכנוס. ומעשה ביהושע בן גמלא שקידש את מרתא בת ביתוס ומינהו המלך להיות כהן גדול וכנסה.‏ If someone kidushin-...
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Is Nisuin Biblical or Rabbinic?

In exploring the topic of a convert or orphan who is married as a Na'arah, I stumbled upon a surprising piece in the Beis Shmuel: ...הואיל קידושין דאורייתא הם ונישואין אינם מדאורייתא... ......
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How can a convert be a Na'arah Me'orasah?

Kesuvos 4:3 discusses various cases of a convert who commits adultery as a Na'arah Me'orasah. In response to my other question on this Mishnah, Heshy raised an intriguing question: Wait... how can ...
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Why the Megillah does not mention Ester marrying Achashverosh?

The Megillah (2.16) mentions taking Ester into the Palace, loving here [more than other girls] and crowning her as the queen but no mention of the marriage or being Achashverosh's wife: וַתִּלָּקַח ...
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Did Ester reveal to Achashverosh she was married to Mordechai?

ומרדכי בא לפני המלך כי־הגידה אסתר מה הוא־לה That very day ... Mordecai presented himself to the king, for Esther had revealed how he was related to her. (Ester 8.1) Rashi does not elaborate much:...
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Purposes of Marriage in Judaism [duplicate]

Why do we get married according to Judaism? What is the point behind us working so hard to get married? Presumably it is not just to bear children! I have heard of a concept of two halves coming ...
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Chuppa and Kedushin Course by Chabad/Rabbanut

I have read and heard that the Central Committee of Chabad offers a course in the laws of Chuppa and Kedushin, with tests from the Rabbanut. Does anyone know anything about this course as I would ...
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Can a Kohen have his prohibited ex wife as pilagesh?

If a Kohen's wife is G-d forbid raped and he witnessed, there is no heter (permission) to stay married with her as she is a zonah (Leviticus 21:7). However, after he divorces her, can he take her back,...
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What is the greatest age difference between a married couple in Tanach?

In many instances, we know the ages of personalities in Tanach and when they got married. In some cases, we aren't given enough information within the text and in some of those instances, the ...
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Why don't people ever get married via a shtar kiddushin?

The Mishnah on Kiddushin 2a lists 3 ways a woman can be mekudeshet (betrothed): via money, via the act of intercourse, via a shtar (document). Now I understand 2 of the acquisition methods: ✅ money-...
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Could a secular marriage contract conceivably be considered a shtar kiddushin?

Suppose a secular Jewish couple got civilly married- no halachik ceremony- and they get their marriage license. Could this marriage license serve as a Halachik Shtar, ie they'd need a Get if they ...
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Stipulated Kiddushin case Halachah

I was presented with the following scenario, that differs a bit from the one in Kiddushin (48-50) and couldn't figure the Halacha: A man gives a woman a coin of unknown value before Kosher witnesses (...
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Meaning of the phrase הכנסת כלה

Is the literal translation of the phrase הכנסת כלה, 'bringing in the bride'? If this is correct, where are we bringing her in from, by whom and for what?
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How do Chazal know that the descendants of a Mamzer may never marry into the general populace?

The passuk says (Devarim 23:3-4): לֹא־יָבֹ֥א מַמְזֵ֖ר בִּקְהַ֣ל יְהוָ֑ה גַּ֚ם דּ֣וֹר עֲשִׂירִ֔י לֹא־יָ֥בֹא ל֖וֹ בִּקְהַ֥ל יְהוָֽה׃ A Mamzer may not come into the congregation of Hashem; even ...
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Why did they need such an elaborate plan after Pilegesh Begiv'ah?

I've been thinking about this for a while, but this question reminded me. After the incident of Pilegesh Begiv'ah, the tribe of Binyamin had been almost wiped out and was down to 600 men. Everyone ...
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Elopement in Judaism

Some people used to elope (run away with their loved ones to marriage). More colloquially, elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in sudden and secretive fashion, usually ...
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Why isn't a divorced woman mentioned in the first mishna of Maseches Kesuvos?

Maseches Kesuvos 2a begins with: בתולה נשאת ליום הרביעי ואלמנה ליום החמישי A virgin is married on Wednesday and a widow on Thursday. The ensuing dafim tell us the reasons why these days were ...
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Can a rabbi conduct a marriage if the bride is already pregnant from the groom?

Are there any prohibitions against or stipulations for conducting a marriage between a woman and the man who recently impregnated her, assuming they are otherwise fit for marriage.
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Why in the olden days was there such a long break between Kiddushin & Nisuin?

In the times of the Gemara, a person would do the Kiddushin and then a year later would do the Nisuin (see Mishnah on Kesuvos 57a). Today we do Erusin and Nissuin at once under the Chupah. Why did ...
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What does it mean “…idleness leads to Shiamum”?

Mishnah Ketubot 5:5: רַבָּן שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן גַּמְלִיאֵל אוֹמֵר, אַף הַמַּדִּיר אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ מִלַּעֲשׂוֹת מְלָאכָה, יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּתָהּ, שֶׁהַבַּטָּלָה מְבִיאָה לִידֵי שִׁעֲמוּם: ......
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When did a Jew last marry a woman captured in war?

What is the last recorded case of a Jew marrying a woman captured in war, as allowed by the Torah [Deut. 21:10-14]? Anybody more recent than King David, as mentioned in Sanhedrin 21a and Kiddushin ...
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Why is halitzah mandatory and is subsequent marriage allowed?

Some batei din make halitzah mandatory and do not allow levirate marriage, even threatening jail if the surviving brother refuses halitzah and wants a levirate marriage. What is the law if the couple ...
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Is a kiddushin valid if one just gives a ring but doesn't say “harei at mekudeshes li?”

If someone were to just give a ring and not say anything (everything else is Kosher- witnesses etc) would this be considered a valid kiddushin or do we require the saying of "harei at" to make it ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to sex before marriage? [duplicate]

As far as im aware the prohibition of Shomer Negiah comes from two pesukim in ויקרא: אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל-כָּל-שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ, לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה: אֲנִי יְהוָה "None of you shall come ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?

One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles. That ...
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Blessing one's spouse on Shabbas

Every Shabbas I bless my 3 children but I feel like it's incomplete. What about a blessing on for my wife? I suppose many sing Eshet Chayil but I feel it is more directed to the Shabbas rather than ...
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Question about using the same bed after divorce

Let's suppose a married couple have relations in a specific bed, then divorce and one of then (let's suppose the man), keeps the bed in his house after the divorce. Can that man have relations with ...
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Minimizing Onah obligation for maximizing income

Where to find sources regarding what happens when a man needs to travel to support his family (he cannot support them if he does not travel) (in both cases that if he will not traval he 1. can live ...
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Is a teleconference wedding halachically valid? [duplicate]

Suppose that a couple goes into a conference room and sets up a web cam. The edei kiddushin (witnesses) watch the declaration via Skype, etc. (Offhand, I don't think a chuppa is an absolute ...
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Why for a divorce does a woman do many different actions, but doesn't do them for Kiddushin?

I've witnessed the giving of a get, and it has many steps (the below bulletpoints are adapted from here). For example: the woman accepts the folded get into her cupped hands grasping it. The woman ...
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Story of Megaddalela, rabbi tells man to marry woman of ill-repute

I once read a story in the Talmud about a woman of ill-repute named Megaddalela, whom a rabbi told a man to marry. I used it for a research project and can no longer find the original source. And I do ...
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Why do we say Harei At Mekudeshes Li … “k'Das Moshe v'Yisrael”?

Why do we have this "k'Das Moshe v'Yisrael" addendum? To my knowledge we don't really say this by other mitzvos so why do we say it here/ what's it adding?
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Where ואהבת לרעך applies to one's wife?

In Kiddushin 41a we read that if the wife is/becomes repulsive to her husband he [might be] overriding/transgressing the Mitzvah of ואהבת: "דאמר רב יהודה אמר רב אסור לאדם שיקדש את האשה עד שיראנה ...