Questions tagged [marriage]
marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?
In biblical accounts, several figures, such as Isaac, are noted to have married at a relatively older age compared to today's standards. Isaac, for instance, married at the age of 40. Given the ...
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40 days before the formation of the fetus
I know chazel say 40 days before the formation of a fetus a bas Kol goes out and says "bas ploni lploni" I was wondering in the language of the bas Kol, why does it say "bas ploni ...
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Can gentile couples be forgiven for adultery?
Are noahide couple partners allowed to "forgive" adultery (as a consumated act described by rambam for noahides)?
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Kings of Israel and the prohibition of "many wives"
The Torah explicitly states that kings should refrain from having many wives (Devarim 16:17):
וְלֹ֤א יַרְבֶּה־לּוֹ֙ נָשִׁ֔ים וְלֹ֥א יָס֖וּר לְבָב֑וֹ וְכֶ֣סֶף
וְזָהָ֔ב לֹ֥א יַרְבֶּה־לּ֖וֹ מְאֹֽד׃
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Does an older widow have to wait before re-marrying?
There is a concept that a widow should wait several months after her husband dies before she remarries in order that the paternity of any children will be obvious.
If the widow is obviously beyond ...
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Is the marriage contract valid upon the death or the divorce of the spouse?
I had a specific question related to the Kiddushin and death contract.
In the schools of Halakha, is the marriage contract considered "void" or "cancelled" or "paused" at ...
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Can two people who are asexual get married?
The situation is a couple where both the man and woman are not interested in consummating the marriage, but they want to get married because they are in love and they want the companionship. How would ...
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Balancing privacy of spouses' relationship with revealing important information to others [closed]
In general, the Torah places a lot of supremacy to the spousal relationship in marriage, compared to other relationships, and one must generally put one's spouse first over almost any other commitment,...
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Wives of the Shevatim
Do any midrashim etc detail the names and background of each the wives of the sons of Jacob?
I know the book of Jubilees does, but that is not considered 'canonical'.
Besides that, I only know of the ...
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Origin of wedding rings [duplicate]
Where did the custom of giving wedding rings originate?
Was it always a part of Jewish custom, or was it adopted by other cultures, and if so, how come it is so important that we have Halachas ...
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Why strangulation for adultery?
The Torah tells us which relationships are forbidden and what the punishments are. Some of them are cut off from the people, some are strangled, some are burnt, killed by sword others are stoned. The ...
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'Plonis' in Poskim on Nedarim 20
This page on Nedarim 20 is discussing the stringency of a husband avoiding thinking of other women during sex.
https://dafyomi.co.il/nedarim/halachah/nd-hl-020.htm
When it comes to the Poskim ...
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Angels of impurity before marriage?
I cam across an article here stating that before we marry, each person has an 'angel of impurity' attached to them from birth.
https://www.dailyhalacha.com/WeeklyParasha.asp?ParashaClipID=754
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Would marriage and divorce for Gentiles be invalid for being an appropriation of Jewish commandments?
I've read somewhere that God gave the law of divorce to the Jews but not to the Gentiles, quoted some rabbinic opinion about it, didn't say which one. Is there anything to that effect in the Talmud? I ...
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Four counted as dead & Agunot
Nedarim 64b relates of the Gemara: "it was taught in a baraita: Four are considered as if they were dead: A pauper, and a leper, and a blind person, and one who has no children."
Could one ...
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marriage halacha between noahide couple [duplicate]
My girlfriend and I are noahide and we live together. We want to get married in December, but currently we refer to ourselves as boyfriend/girlfriend, not as married or engaged. By Jewish law, would ...
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'Hole in sheet' myth VS Nedarim 20a,b and Gur accounts
First, sorry to rehash this old canard.
Second, I'm aware this topic has been addressed here:
Origin of myth about the hole in the sheet?
However, that addresses R' Yose ben Chalafta's behaviour, and ...
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Passion or affinity in search of a spouse?
What is the Jewish position regarding the status of the beginning of a marital relationship? Should you look for the person with the greatest possible affinity with you or should the component of ...
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Can a woman time intercourse to avoid conception?
Can a woman whose husband already has children refuse sex with him on days she may be fertile with the goal of not conceiving?
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Can a Yefat Toar be taken from nations who are ineligible for marriage?
My understanding is that a Yefat Toar (Devarim 21:10-14) is forcibly converted and can be married.
The Torah prohibits marrying people from certain nations such as Egypt and Edom for a number of ...
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Who has final say, husband or wife?
I have heard (and read) it said in Shalom Bayit classes and books that a husband should defer to his wife in matters to do with the home - how to decorate it, whether or not to invite So-and-So, etc. -...
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Kohanic in vitro Pregnancy
I have the following theoretical questions, from many I’ve met and even a real case of someone very special I met in a hostel in Israel.
My assumptions are between parentheses after the list item.
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Is there a name for the timeframe when a wife is permissible to her husband?
Is there a name for the time when a woman can have sex with her husband?
The Torah tells married couples not to have sex during the period of niddah, when she menstruates until right before the moment ...
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Can a Jew who grew up Conservative have an Orthodox wedding?
Suppose there was a Jewish man, let’s call him John.
John comes from a Conservative Jewish family. Both of John's grandparents, on both sides, were married in Conservative synagogues.
Today if he ...
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What is the meaning of the story of demon doubles?
Every man and woman that is born has a demonic double also born in the world of hell ruled by Samael, the Evil One. The world of hell is in all respects identical to the world of humanity. If you were ...
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Why does Siddur Avodat Yisrael not contain piyutim for a wedding?
Levush HaHur (minhagim) records what seems to have been the widespread ashkenazi practice to recite certain piyutim on the shabbat of a wedding. (I assume this means where the chupah takes place on a ...
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Is anger OK for a husband?
The Gemara says that
וא״ר חִסְדָא תּוּקְפָא בְבֵיתָא כִי קַרְיָא לְשוּמְשְמָא אִידִי וְְאִידִי בְאִיתְּתָא אֲבָל בְגַבְרָא לֵית לָן בָהּ
And Rav Chisda also said: Anger in a house is like a worm in ...
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Sexual Relations with a married woman that's asur to her husband
Is it ok for a man to have relations with a married woman who's already been unfaithful to her husband?
Is there still an isur kareth?
Or since she's already prohibited from being with her husband and ...
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Is it possible to use free will to avoid getting married?
In the context of zivugim, it seems that it's not possible to marry someone who is not your zivug. See this answer for some sources, as well as this gemara in Moed Katan 18b for example.
What I have ...
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When will the "marriage" between G-d and Am Yisrael be completed?
There is a Midrash that explains that this worlds serves as the "engagement of Am Yisrael with Hashem" and that the world-to-come will serve as the marriage itself. See Yechidus, Eve of 17th ...
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To return to G-d from their sins via teshuva? Yoma 86b
In a previous post the question is asked how Hashem could remarry Yisrael if in Devarim (24:4) it is written that it is assur to remarry a divorcee after she strayed with another husband?
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Can Jews attend a Muslim wedding? [closed]
I have a close Muslim personal friend who is getting married soon. Being a close friend, I was invited to his wedding. The wedding takes place in a conventional event venue (i.e., not a mosque or any ...
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What are the halachic implications of unconsummated marriage?
I remember learning something about the process of marriage having several steps (for example: bedeken, erusin, chuppah, yichud) with the final step being consummation. If this is the case, does it ...
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Is there a Jewish source for the saying: "only the father knows when the wedding would take place"?
The website below describes what is apparently an ancient Jewish wedding custom, in which it was apparently said that "only the Father" of the groom "knows" when the wedding would ...
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Mitzvot shanah rishonah mechilah
Could a wife be mochel the chiyuv of the husband with regards to the mitzvah of shanah rishonah
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If a cohen's wife has an affair with a non-Jew after they are married do they have to get divorced?
I know that someone is considered a zona if they have had forbidden relations including with non-Jews and those in their family but what if this were found to happen whilst they are already married so ...
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Is a ketubah valid without agreement on value of zuz/zekukim?
I would have thought that a contract is only valid if both parties agree on the definitions of the terms mentioned, especially when it comes to specifying how much money is at stake. That said, as ...
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Can co-parents-in-law marry? For example, a husband's father and a wife's mother (but applied to Judaism)
Same question as here but for Judaism. I don't see how a married couple's becoming step-siblings is any different from step-siblings' become a married couple.
Suppose Alice and Bob are widows (or ...
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Yibbum and Jewish brothers who share a Gentile father
Suppose there are two brothers who share the same Jewish mother and non-Jewish father. One marries a Jewish woman but subsequently dies childless. Does yibbum/chalitzah apply in this situation, or are ...
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What can a husband do halachically if his wife steals money from him?
Suppose a wife takes a significant amount of money from her husband without his knowledge. Or perhaps, she transfers an asset into her name, without him knowing.
Or in another case, she misleads him ...
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How did King Solomon and King David keep up his duties to his wives
How did King Solomon and King David keep their marital duties to so many wives? Was there a system of rights the woman of the kings Harem enjoyed?
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What rights does a husband have over his wife?
I just wish to know the opinions of the Sages or what the Halacha is.
What are the rights a man has over his wife?
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Kohen marriage after cohabitation?
If a cohen cohabits, lives with publicly and may even have had a child with a jewish woman, born jewish, can they marry afterwards?
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Taking advice from Astrologers
I read in kitzur shulchan aruch a law not to take advice from astrologers and I would like to know how far to take this in the example of the following book.
There is a book on astrology called The ...
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What constitutes Halachic intercourse during Niddah? [duplicate]
Specifically when it comes to forbidden relationships during niddah and/or the following "clean" days, what constitutes an act of sexual intercourse punishable with Karet?
Presumably, a ...
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Is there an age difference limit for marriages in halakha?
What is the biggest age gap permitted by halakha between a man and a girl/woman for them to get married?
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Is there a sefer that is m'laket all of the sources from Chazal relating to marriage?
I have read several different sefarim that are related to marriage - Binyan Bayis, the new sefer by Rabbi Schaeffer, the kuntris from R Wolbe - but is there a sefer that has all of the midrashim, ...
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Kohen Gadol and marriage
We know that a Kohen hedyot may marry a woman who is not a giyoret, gerushah, challalah, or zonah (Lev. 21:8) and that the Kohen Gadol may only marry a betulah (ibid. 13).
Given this, what would ...
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Is there anything wrong with getting married to have intimacy?
Is it halachically wrong to marry a woman to have a physical outlet and with mutual understanding that this is the purpose until a more suitable candidate arrives? This practice is found in Islamic ...
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Can intercourse mean marriage even without any actual marriage?
If two people have intercourse, can it sometimes be considered that they are now married on some level, or in any sense? I don't remember the sources, but there is a concept that a man gives a part of ...
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