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Questions tagged [marriage]

marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`

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Why in the olden days was there such a long break between Kiddushin & Nisuin?

In the times of the Gemara, a person would do the Kiddushin and then a year later would do the Nisuin (see Mishnah on Kesuvos 57a). Today we do Erusin and Nissuin at once under the Chupah. Why did ...
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What does it mean “…idleness leads to Shiamum”?

Mishnah Ketubot 5:5: רַבָּן שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן גַּמְלִיאֵל אוֹמֵר, אַף הַמַּדִּיר אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ מִלַּעֲשׂוֹת מְלָאכָה, יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּתָהּ, שֶׁהַבַּטָּלָה מְבִיאָה לִידֵי שִׁעֲמוּם: ......
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When did a Jew last marry a woman captured in war?

What is the last recorded case of a Jew marrying a woman captured in war, as allowed by the Torah [Deut. 21:10-14]? Anybody more recent than King David, as mentioned in Sanhedrin 21a and Kiddushin ...
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Is a kiddushin valid if one just gives a ring but doesn't say “harei at mekudeshes li?”

If someone were to just give a ring and not say anything (everything else is Kosher- witnesses etc) would this be considered a valid kiddushin or do we require the saying of "harei at" to make it ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to sex before marriage? [duplicate]

As far as im aware the prohibition of Shomer Negiah comes from two pesukim in ויקרא: אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל-כָּל-שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ, לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה: אֲנִי יְהוָה "None of you shall come ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?

One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles. That ...
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Blessing one's spouse on Shabbas

Every Shabbas I bless my 3 children but I feel like it's incomplete. What about a blessing on for my wife? I suppose many sing Eshet Chayil but I feel it is more directed to the Shabbas rather than ...
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Question about using the same bed after divorce

Let's suppose a married couple have relations in a specific bed, then divorce and one of then (let's suppose the man), keeps the bed in his house after the divorce. Can that man have relations with ...
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Minimizing Onah obligation for maximizing income

Where to find sources regarding what happens when a man needs to travel to support his family (he cannot support them if he does not travel) (in both cases that if he will not traval he 1. can live ...
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Is a teleconference wedding halachically valid? [duplicate]

Suppose that a couple goes into a conference room and sets up a web cam. The edei kiddushin (witnesses) watch the declaration via Skype, etc. (Offhand, I don't think a chuppa is an absolute ...
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Why for a divorce does a woman do many different actions, but doesn't do them for Kiddushin?

I've witnessed the giving of a get, and it has many steps (the below bulletpoints are adapted from here). For example: the woman accepts the folded get into her cupped hands grasping it. The woman ...
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Story of Megaddalela, rabbi tells man to marry woman of ill-repute

I once read a story in the Talmud about a woman of ill-repute named Megaddalela, whom a rabbi told a man to marry. I used it for a research project and can no longer find the original source. And I do ...
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Why do we say Harei At Mekudeshes Li … “k'Das Moshe v'Yisrael”?

Why do we have this "k'Das Moshe v'Yisrael" addendum? To my knowledge we don't really say this by other mitzvos so why do we say it here/ what's it adding?
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Where ואהבת לרעך applies to one's wife?

In Kiddushin 41a we read that if the wife is/becomes repulsive to her husband he [might be] overriding/transgressing the Mitzvah of ואהבת: "דאמר רב יהודה אמר רב אסור לאדם שיקדש את האשה עד שיראנה ...
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Is boyfriend/girlfriend status between non-Jews relevant to adultery laws?

Is having intimate relations by a Non-Jewish man with a Non-Jewish woman who is not married but lives with a boyfriend a form of adultery?
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If there were no other Jews around is a Jewish woman permitted to marry & have children with non Jews?

If a Jewish woman lived on an island without any other Jews & she was unable to leave or convert any of the locals, is she permitted to marry & have children? Would there be any difference or ...
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Why use “Kiddushin” instead of biblical “Erusin”?

Why did the Sages see a need of inventing a new word "Kiddushin" e.g Masechet Kiddushin 46a - שצריכה הימנו קידושין , instead of the biblical Hebrew word "Erusin" used everywhere in the Torah, as in: ...
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Witnesses of Kiddushin no need to know the couple?

The Jewish Halacha does not require the witnesses to familiarize themselves with the couple prior to Kiddushin: they are not required to know the couple in person before the wedding or have any ...
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Why Cheder Yihud does not accommodate a bed?

Isn't it what Cheder Yichud is for, to fulfill the נישואין, the consummation? We all know that Halachically it is not required, as the seclusion alone is sufficient, but as we tend to ensure that ...
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Source why ביאה is not an option for שליח קידושין

This might sound a bit silly, but "that's the Torah and I need to learn it" (R"A). A woman can be Mekudeshet in three ways which Halachah-wise are all equal (neither makes a better Kiddushin). A ...
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Marrying through a messenger without knowing whom?

Based on the basic idea of marrying through a messenger (Shaliah) both by a man and a woman (Kiddushin 41). First, the bride and the groom say to the messengers: "go bring me any man/woman". So one ...
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Is a non-Jew forbidden to his father's ex-wife?

A Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each other forever, even after his father dies or divorces her. (Issurei Biah 2:1) A non-Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each ...
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Can a Cohen marry a single mother?

Can a Cohen marry a single mother (who has had relations once in her life, for example, and the child’s father is Jewish)? The single mother fits all other requirements as well as being a bat cohen.
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Asking the husband about the wife אַיֵּה שָׂרָה אִשְׁתֶּךָ - what are the views of contemporary poskim?

Rashi on Braishis 18 (9) says We learn that a person should ask in his lodging place of the husband about the wife, and of the wife about the husband The Shulchan Oruch Horav says One may ...
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Non-jewish woman converting for marriage [duplicate]

If a non Jewish woman converts in order to marry a Jewish man are their children still considered Jewish? Even though the mother is converted and not raised in the religion.
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Should you not rejoice with your spouse also?

"וְשָׂמַחְתָּ בְּחַגֶּךָ אַתָּה וּבִנְךָ וּבִתֶּךָ וְעַבְדְּךָ וַאֲמָתֶךָ וְהַלֵּוִי וְהַגֵּר וְהַיָּתוֹם וְהָאַלְמָנָה אֲשֶׁר בִּשְׁעָרֶיךָ׃ " You shall rejoice in your festival, with your son, ...
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Does second wife Kiddushin hold nowadays Halachicly?

To elaborate the question of "Can-a-jew-be-polygamous". If a married Jew makes Kosher second Kiddushin: Do they hold legally (קידושים תופסים, she's married and needs a Gett to be divorced)? Can ...
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“She may marry any Jewish man”

My friend showed me her conversion document. The last sentence was [almost identical to the following]: "She may marry any Jewish man except a Kohen." Why would the conversion document go out of its ...
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Jewish view on unrequitted love

I know that traditionally, Judaism doesn't put much emphasis on 'love' as in experiencing those romantic feelings and it's rather focused on building a big Jewish family, having a compatible partner ...
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History of chattan & kallah classes

A common practice in some segments of today's Jewish world is for brides and grooms to attend "Chattan/kallah classes" where the attendees receive instruction and advice on relationship dynamics and ...
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Can a Jew be polygamous today?

Polygamy is allowed by the Torah but outlawed in the countries where Jews live. So, because of Dina dmalchuta dina, Jews cannot have more than one wife. Rabbenu Gershom imposed a ban on polygamy for ...
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Why is a Moaviyah acceptable to marry?

The pasuk (Dev 23:4) says that a Moavi and Amoni cannot marry into the Jewish people. The stated reasons are that they did not provide bread and water (as mentioned in Dev 23) and "he" hired Bil'am. ...
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Can a woman who commits adultery do teshuva and return to her husband?

Suppose a married woman goes her own way and leaves (but not divorces) her husband. She engages in sexual relationships with other men. But after a year, she realizes the error of her ways and does ...
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Source for an ideal Shidduch based on proximity

A Rebbi of mine in yeshiva said in the name of Rav Ruderman z"tl who referred to a Chazal that a person should ideally try to marry someone from the "same מבוי (street), if not then the same שכונה (...
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Does a Jewish woman have a responsibility, according to halacha, to get married?

Does a Jewish woman have a responsibility, according to halacha, to get married? My question references the halacha. The other question does not reference halacha, and neither do the answers ...
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Marriage in the world to come?

As I understand it, in Judaism the soul waits in gan eden until the messiah comes and the people are resurrected ushering in the era of the messiah. Will there be marriage in the world to come during ...
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Shalom Bayit vs. Making shabbat bread [closed]

If someone has the option to fix their marriage and save it or make bread for Shabbat (which would put fixing the relationship on hold) which one should be the priority?
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Fate of female captive children from Midian given to Elozor and the Leviim

Bamidbor 31 (18) allows the female captive children from the war with Midian to be kept alive. From them there had to be a 'tax' of one out of 500. One half of these was to be given to Elozor Hacohen ...
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How a father is allowed to cause embarrassment to his underage daughter?

In Ketubot 40b the Gemara says that we see that the father gets his daughters (child) embarrassment and degradation payments from the fact that he can marry off his daughter to someone horrible, ...
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Can a father marry off his daughter for nissuin or only arusin?

In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?
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Is a Jew allowed to marry a non-observant Jew?

Is a Jew allowed to marry another Jew who is generally unconcerned with observing Judaism? On one hand, the first Jew's observance could be negatively affected by the second Jew's non-observance, and ...
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If the Kesubah was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated?

If, at a wedding, the Kesubah (marriage contract) was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated, because of the hefsek (interruption) ...
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Did many / any women remarry in the desert or after first entering Israel?

Follow up to this answer that states that women were excluded from the decree of dying in the desert. If their husbands died and they didn't have children, I assume that they wanted children. Thus, ...
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Sources on how to make one's wife happy

Are there any seforim or sources how a man can make his wife happy outside the bedroom and especially inside?
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How could Kayin have married his sister, if it was prohibited?

The Rambam writes in Melachim uMilchamot (Ch. 9) that six different mitzvot were given to Adam. One of these mitzvot is the prohibition of incest and adultery. The Gemara (Sanhedrin 38b) says that ...
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If two Jewish sisters marry one's son to one's daughter, are their descendants all mamzerim forever?

I've heard that the children of two sisters are like siblings spiritually. If a woman gives her son to marry her sister's daughter this is forbidden, correct? Does this make the union incest and the ...
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Can a Shliach for receiving a get be מקדש the same woman with the service he is doing for her?

If a woman appoints a shliach (messenger) to receive her get for her, can the shliach be מקדש her with the service he is doing for her by receiving her get for her, and thus the moment he takes her ...
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What is the “good of marriage” in Jewish thought?

In Christian philosophy, many ancient philosophers such as Aquinas and Augustine speak about the "good of marriage." Marriage is "good", they argue, because it leads to offspring, chastity and ...
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Lesbian adulterer

Today morning I was reading the newspaper, when a film review called The rabbi and his daughter caught my eyes. Eventually it turned out that it was reviewing a recent, not really kosher film. Putting ...
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Can a man purchase the wife off a husband?

Marriage in Judaism is technically a purchase of a woman with at least two witnesses. So, I was wondering if it's technically possible for man A to negotiate the purchase of the wife of man B (to then ...