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(Why) May a Beit Din refuse to bury a body in order to coerce a man into giving a divorce?

In this particular case R. Lau was upholding the UOR’s ruling. The latter’s ruling (viewable here) was based on Rema (EH 154:21), citing earlier authorities, who permits to withhold any aid to a “...
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May a man marry the women with whom he committed adultery?

No. See Mishnah Sotah, 5:1: כְּשֵׁם שֶׁאֲסוּרָה לַבַּעַל, כָּךְ אֲסוּרָה לַבּוֹעֵל, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (שם) נִטְמְאָה, וְנִטְמָאָה, דִּבְרֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא. אָמַר רַבִּי יְהוֹשֻׁעַ, כָּךְ הָיָה דוֹרֵשׁ ...
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Why can't a woman demand a divorce?

The woman can ask but the torah specifies that the man must write (order the writing of) the divorce document and deliver it to her. There are cases in which the court can order the man to write the ...
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Does a Jew need to obtain a get if his ex-wife is not Jewish?

A non-Jew is in the category of Ein Kiddushin Tofsin Bam (marriage does not 'catch' them). (Mishna Kiddushin 3:12, ShA EH 44:8) Thus there was not and cannot be a marriage between a Jew and a non-Jew,...
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What is a “halachic annulment” of a marriage and when is it employed?

1. Where does the principle of halachic marriage annulment (afka'inhu) apply? There are five Talmudic cases where this principle is invoked: A man betrothed (eirusin) a minor (rabinically) and was ...
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Divorced woman remarrying her ex-husband

Both the first relationship and the second one would have to be formal marriages (the kind that requires a Get to dissolve) for the prohibition of remarrying your divorcée to come into effect. (ShA EH ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?

The current answers don't address the question in detail. So here goes: What is the source and reason for this? The source is the Mishna in Yevamos 64a and the subsequent discussion in the Talmud ...
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Why divorcing your first wife should be done only in extreme cases?

Divorcing one's first wife is viewed as a particularly sad event. Gittin 90b says that "even the Mizbeach sheds tears" when that happens. The rest of the Gemara there is probably what you heard ...
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How does Kibbud Av V'Eim work for a child of divorced parents?

Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:14 rules that if someone's divorced parents both ask him for a favor (the case of the S.A. is requesting a drink), he may choose to respond to either one first. Pischei ...
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How should an aguna go about seeking a Gett?

A. Assuming she is in the United States, she should contact the Beth Din of America and explain the situation to them. Most likely, upon understanding the predicament, they will issue a summons to her ...
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Are civil divorces not recognized by Orthodox rabbis?

There are only two ways out of a kosher marriage: a kosher get or death of a spouse. (Kiddushin 2a) It doesn't sound like any semblance of the former (a document handwritten by a Jew for the divorce ...
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Divorce by phone?

In his responsa (Tzitz Eliezer 10:47) R. Waldenburg quotes some authorities who maintained that in a state of emergency one can direct by telephone to write a get for his wife without even appearing ...
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Can a woman divorce her husband and then convert to Judaism?

It sounds like whoever's asking this question is going through a great deal of upheaval of a both personal and religious nature, and would greatly benefit from speaking with a competent rabbi in-...
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Why Shammai says that a man can only divorce his wife due to adultery?

The opinion of the House of Shammai, as quoted in the Mishnah (Gittin 90a), is: Beit Shammai say: A man may not divorce his wife unless he finds out about her having engaged in a matter of ...
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Question about using the same bed after divorce

If the bed reminds the husband of his first wife and makes him think about her while with the 2nd wife, then he should not use that bed Nedarim 20b quoted in Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 240,2: ולא ...
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Does G-d want intermarried couples to divorce?

A proof that one should divorce is Ezra ch. 10 where he tries to encourage everybody to leave their non-Jewish wives, he does not tell them to stay together to avoid the mizbeach shedding tears. ...
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Not to marry a divorcée

It is a gemara in Pesachim 112a which talks about advice from the chachamim (I don't believe this is quoted in the poskim - not sure): לא תבשל בקדירה שבישל בה חבירך מאי ניהו גרושה בחיי בעלה דאמר מר ...
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Can a Kohen get a divorce?

A Cohen may divorce his wife. The Mishna and Halacha mention special rules for the divorce procedures of a Cohen, so it follows that may do so: For example, in the laws of how to write the names of ...
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Are there any recent statistics showing the "marriage longevity" rate for shidduch arranged marriages?

It is very difficult to find accurate statistics on divorce, and differences between countries are so great that any answer can only be useful from a specific countries' perspective. Finding ...
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Can a man purchase the wife off a husband?

The short answer is no the only way a married woman can marry someone else, is by first receiving a get from the first husband, or after the death of her husband. (Rambam Hilchot Ishus 1:3) And as ...
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Can a woman who commits adultery do teshuva and return to her husband?

Maimonides writes in Laws of Divorce 11:14 that Deuteronomy 24 does indeed apply in the case of a married woman willingly committing adultery, such that she is then forbidden from returning to her ...
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Does a sotah warning from a couples first marriage carry into their second marriage?

The Rambam (Hil. Sotah 1:7) rules that divorce erases the previous warning and if they remarry, he would have to warn again. Kesef Mishneh notes that the source is the Yerushalmi in the second chapter ...
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Is a couple who got divorced allowed to be together?

If they are divorced then they are not married, and they certainly may not be intimate. Halachikally they are two strangers, and all of the halachos of yichud, etc. apply. For cases where they are ...
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Leaving a mate behind in egypt

Rashi in Beshalach on "chamushim" states that all those left behind died during the three days of darkness. Every member of Bnai Yisrael who survived left in the Exodus. Thus, if a husband or wife was ...
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Does a sotah warning from a couples first marriage carry into their second marriage?

He'd need a new warning. (Rambam Sotah 1:7, Shulchan Arukh EH 178:12)
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May coercion be used to facilitate halitzah?

Coercing a levir to perform halitzah [when one side has reason to reject entering into levirate marriage] is discussed in Yeb. 39b (see Tos. s.v. amar & Tos. Ket. 64a s.v. ve'dinei). In modern ...
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Why for a divorce does a woman do many different actions, but doesn't do them for Kiddushin?

As noted by @joelk in a comment, if the kiddushin (engagement) are not valid, there is a bitul aseh (annulment of a positive commandment; see Rambam Laws of Marriage 1:1-2) or, at worst*, no marriage (...
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Were Kohanim forbidden from serving in King David's army?

This is the subject of an old debate when it comes to kohanim giving conditional divorces. R. Mordechai Ben Hillel wrote that one cannot bring a proof from the fact that kohanim at war gave such ...
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Divorce and Mizbeach

The Chidushei Agadata of the Maharsha points you to the same memoir in Sanhedrin 20a. There he explains that the Mizbeach - usually - gets the bird offerings that a wife brings, mostly from the first ...
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Do any poskim recommend giving a conditional divorce?

I doubt you would find any Halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional Get. The reason being that after giving such a Get, he may not seclude himself with his wife. If he did seclude ...
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