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How to explain to friends/family that one will not attend an intermarriage
Like many things in life, this will obviously depend on the specific situation. For example, if the relevant people understand your lifestyle and why you would be sensitive to this issue before it ...
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Intermarriage Attendance
There are numerous halahic problems in attending a mixed marriage:
Aiding one committing a sin. Sourced in BT AZ (6b). There is a difference of opinions among Rishonim if this applies to a scenario ...
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Does a Jew need to obtain a get if his ex-wife is not Jewish?
A non-Jew is in the category of Ein Kiddushin Tofsin Bam (marriage does not 'catch' them). (Mishna Kiddushin 3:12, ShA EH 44:8)
Thus there was not and cannot be a marriage between a Jew and a non-Jew,...
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Currently in a marriage with a non-observant Jewish woman and I want to convert to Orthodox
Greetings and welcome to J.SE.
Many born-Jewish couples have worked out agreements whereby one spouse's level of observance is higher than another's. Some of the biggest questions involve matters ...
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How does Judaism reconcile the prohibition against Moabites/Ammonites joining the congreration and their royal lineage?
The Torah uses the male form for the words, and the Sages extrapolated from here that male Amonites and Moavites are banned from the congregation, but females are not.
It says on Chabad's Ask the ...
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Where in US can someone go for sanctuary to repent for their intermarriage?
Sounds like you have a very complicated situation. This may be a job for a therapist.
Again, concepts of "sanctuary for repentance" don't really fit with the vocabulary of Judaism.
But for theory's ...
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Is it really kosher to "apply" to become a gentile king's wife?
There are several places in the Talmud which assume she was taken by force, e.g. Megillah 15a:
לך כנוס את כל היהודים וגו' עד אשר לא כדת אמר רבי אבא שלא כדת היה שבכל יום ויום עד עכשיו באונס ועכשיו ...
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Does G-d want intermarried couples to divorce?
A proof that one should divorce is Ezra ch. 10 where he tries to encourage everybody to leave their non-Jewish wives, he does not tell them to stay together to avoid the mizbeach shedding tears. ...
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Was Intermarriage Permissible at the time of Tanakh?
Deut 7:3:
וְלֹא תִתְחַתֵּן, בָּם: בִּתְּךָ לֹא-תִתֵּן לִבְנוֹ, וּבִתּוֹ לֹא-תִקַּח לִבְנֶךָ.
neither shalt thou make marriages with them: thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his ...
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Keeping Kosher Jewish/gentile marriage
Even people who care about kashrut sometimes find it challenging to manage. Asking someone who is not invested in it to maintain a kosher kitchen is, I suspect, very unlikely to work out, no matter ...
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Clarifications on Faith
Q. Judaism consists of many people blindly following what they are told,
A. While we have faith and a normative set of rules, there is constant learning, study and questioning. In some ways, ...
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Is it really kosher to "apply" to become a gentile king's wife?
Esther 2:8 uses the term "Vatilakach" - she was taken. While it doesn't clearly imply "forcibly", there are several hints that this was mandatory.
One is 2:3 that says that the king should gather ...
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Prohibition on relations with a gentile woman
To avoid repetition I will address only the relative prohibition of Jews and non-Jews, not the nature of the prohibition of non-Jews discussed fairly extensively in the linked page.
At face value the ...
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Does a Jewish woman married to a non-Jew need to cover her hair?
The Mishna Berura concludes that even an unmarried woman who has had relations needs to cover her hair, although we won't force her to do so (M.B. 75:11).
ובתולות ארוסות אסורות לילך בגילוי הראש וה"...
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Intermarriage Attendance
The most straightforward halachic source would appear to be the prohibition of chanufa, falsely flattering a sinner by implying that his/her sin is permitted. (This is different than a vague statement ...
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Was Intermarriage Permissible at the time of Tanakh?
The people you list did not marry non-Jews. Joseph and Moshe married before the giving of the Torah and the wives converted to the religion of their husbands according to the standards and practices ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?
Based on Yevamot 44a to 45b
The settings are as follows.
First, there are opinions in the Gemara Yevamot 44b that even for Shimeon Hatimni he is Mamzer, as it is a forbidden affair where Kiddushin ...
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Is the Cushite woman Zipporah?
Mefarshim from here.
The Mefarshim that say Zipporah was the Cushite do not necessarily get this from the simple reading of the verse. See Rabbeinu Bachya/Bechaye who bases this off of a Gematriya (...
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Is the Cushite woman Zipporah?
The unnamed Cushite wife of Moshe mentioned in the Torah was Queen Adoniyah of Cush. She was the first wife of Moshe before Tzipporah.
As mentioned in the Torah in parshat Shemot 2:14-15, after Moshe ...
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Conservative procedures for avoiding intermarriage?
I can offer you one anecdotal piece of evidence. My wife and I were married by a Conservative rabbi in a town we had lived in for only a few years. He was satisfied of my wife's status by her ...
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Minhagim for someone with a non-Jewish father
As explained in naming convention for a Jew with a non-Jewish father? such a person can be called to the Torah using his grandfather's name. Similarly, he would follow the minhagim of his grandfather. ...
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Can a Jew have a non-Jewish "bashert" or vice-versa?
The idea of Bashert is that soul-mates are actually two halves of a single soul. Jews and non-Jews possess different types of souls. Therefore, a Jew and a non-Jew cannot be two halves of one soul, ...
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How to explain to friends/family that one will not attend an intermarriage
Recommendation: just send your regrets that you will not be able to attend. Explaining your issue will only cause hurt feelings, for no good reason.
More generally, I see only a few options.
Decline ...
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Does G-d want intermarried couples to divorce?
The Gemara in Yevamos (66a) says that we don't let a Kohen's illegal (Jewish) wife's (Melog) slaves eat Teruma, even though according to biblical law they should, since the Rabbis want her to get ...
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What is the prohibition of intermarriage?
The Gemara (AZ 36b), concerning non-Jew women, made a clear difference between two kind of man-woman relationship: marital or non marital. Marital relationship is a natural reality which was anterior ...
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What is the tikkun for a unmarried Jewish man that slept with a non Jewish woman with protection?
Shaar Ruach Hakodesh Tikun Avonos - page 54 - Rabbi Chaim Vital says the Teshuva for such a sin is Tevila in snow 7 or 9 times. I do not how this is done. However Hashem always accepts sincere Teshuva ...
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What makes a Kohen not a Kohen?
You asked:
If a Kohen has sex with a non-Jew do they lose their Kohen status forever?
No - once a Kohen always a Kohen. However, a child born from such a union would be a damaged Kohen; a Chalal ...
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Can an Orthodox Jew attend the Reform wedding of a close relative?
There are a number of reasons not to attend such a ceremony (which is invalid to begin with). I am separating out different reasons, each of which is enough to make it wrong to attend. Since I am ...
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Hebrew name of a convert with a Jewish father?
This question it is similar to the case of a person who is adopted by a Jewish family and can call himself after the name of his adoptive father. When an adopted child is called to the torah, how are ...
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Currently in a marriage with a non-observant Jewish woman and I want to convert to Orthodox
When my husband inquired of the orthodox (RCA) Beit din, he was told that conversion would not be permitted unless I (a born Jew) agreed to become halachically observant as well. Truthfully, the Beit ...
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