In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?

  • How would a father effect nissuin?
    – Double AA
    Commented Jul 9, 2018 at 2:40
  • @DoubleAATo To be honest i was wondering that myself. What I can't up with is that he 'allows' the biah with the husband. But that sounds horrible. The only reason I thought that is because of a rashi sefaria.org/Ketubot.40b.6 on this who seems to be saying that the father can marry off his daughter with biah.
    – Orion
    Commented Jul 9, 2018 at 2:53

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Rambam Hilchot Ishut 10:16:

המארס בתו קטנה, ותבעה הבעל לנישואין - בין היא בין אביה יכולין לעכב, שלא תינשא עד שתגדיל ותיעשה נערה. ואם רצו וכנסה, כונס; ואין ראוי לעשות כן.‏

One who effects erusin on behalf of his minor daughter, and the husband then wishes to perform nissuin, either the father or the daughter can prevent this from taking place, so that nissuin will not occur until she grows up and becomes a na'arah. But if they wish for him to perform nissuin he may; however it is not correct to do so.

Thus, the father has a veto over his minor daughter's nissuin, but he also cannot allow the nissuin to take effect against her will (unlike erusin).

In any event, Rambam rules that it's not proper to effect nissuin with a minor, even if all parties consent.

  • Rambam rules that it's not proper to effect nissuin with a minor - How about other great rabbis or fundamental Jewish texts ?
    – user18041
    Commented Nov 15, 2020 at 23:25
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    Tur (Even HaEzer 56) and Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 56:4) both rule like Rambam
    – Joel K
    Commented Nov 16, 2020 at 14:21
  • The Mechon Mamre edition contains the plural form consistent with your quote.
    – user18041
    Commented Nov 16, 2020 at 17:32

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