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Questions tagged [children-parenting]

Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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How Jewish Sex Education is done?

What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age? Or is it completely avoided until marriage? Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Why are there no “deRabanan regulations” on the Ben Sorer uMoreh Mitzvah?

This is the first question in a series on Ben SU"M. Let me recap on this Mitzvah (Rambam Mamrim 7): A 13 to 13 and 3 months old boy that disobeys his father and mother in a very specific way of ...
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Halachot of Naming (kids)

Has naming children ever formed systematized Halachot? Or is it left as a sort of a prophecy to the parents?
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Stealing in the House of your parents?

If a child lives in his parent’s home, and uses the stuff in the house, eats the food in the house, etc, what can be used to say that he is not stealing? For example, how can a child live in his ...
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How a father is allowed to cause embarrassment to his underage daughter?

In Ketubot 40b the Gemara says that we see that the father gets his daughters (child) embarrassment and degradation payments from the fact that he can marry off his daughter to someone horrible, ...
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Can a father marry off his daughter for nissuin or only arusin?

In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?
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Parents of old age and children of 'disability' [closed]

While working I saw an old lady being aided by her daughter and grandson. I stood out of respect. Then it hit me. My last job before lunch was a mother of a son who was a quaddraplegic. I know the ...
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Halachic sources for not using the first names of your parents?

I understand that it's a common understanding that as part of the mitzvah of respecting one's parents one shouldn't use their first names. See e.g. Can an adopted child call birth parents by first ...
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The father has the obligation of chinuch until what age

Until what age is the obligation on the father to train his children to do Mitzvot? I see contradictory sources please clarify, or bring more accepted sources No limit. http://halachipedia.com/...
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what is the source that a parent carries the sins of their children when the children are minors?

As a child I learned that a minor is not culpable for his or her sins and that any negative effect from those sins is borne by the parent (I don't recall if it was specifically the father). I would ...
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What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying?

What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying? I understand that the number one or the most recommended Torah passage for a child to begin ...
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Is the father responsible to clothe and room his older children

Until the age of 6 the father is obligated to feed, clothe and room his children. And it is enforceable. Then until 13/12 he should still do it. But after 13/12 he is only obligated to do it as ...
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Marriage and p'ru urvu

An answer here states: The mitzva of Pru Urvu covers only marrying someone believed to be fertile. And one here: "The mitzva per se of pru urvu means: "marry someone who is able to bear ...
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Should a child wash his hands before eating on Yom Kippur?

I know that you're not allowed to eat or wash on Yom Kippur. But suppose a child (not obligated to fast) is going to eat bread - should he wash his hands before eating it?
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Is someone required to ask forgiveness if he causes tangential discomfort to another?

My son relayed this to me a few days ago. When he was in yeshiva high school, the principal would enter each classes a few days before Yom Kippur and tell all the students that he was sorry if he may ...
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Did Ishmael receive “שְׁנַיִם, בְּכֹל אֲשֶׁר-יִמָּצֵא, לוֹ” like a firstborn does?

Did Ishmael ben Avraham receive a double-portion in accordance to the rights of the firstborn? Or did he forfeit them because he was estranged from the family? I know that the law of the double ...
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Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy?

Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy? "If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the ...
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Hitting vs rape/seduction of a young girl who gets the money for the damages

It seems that: When a girl is damaged by someone hitting her, at least part of the damages go to her Halacha 14 here and HM 242.6 But if she was raped/seduced ALL the damages go to the father Halacha ...
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Teaching Jewish morals/ethics to children: books and other aids

Looking for books with ethical and moral dilemnas (scenarios) that can serve as starting points for discussions with kids 7 year old and older to explore Jewish moral and ethical values and laws. Not ...
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Parent/child relationship : how does adoption compare to geirus?

Take a father and daughter who both underwent geirus. Now take a Jewish man who adopted a baby girl of unknown (Jewish) parents. In both situations, the father raises the child since birth. Are the ...
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Discovered my Jewish heritage at 61 yrs old; now what? [closed]

For my entire life I believed I was of 100% Italian heritage; typical Neopolitan roots from grandparents who came in the 'big wave' of Italian immigrants in 1900-1910. I've traveled to Italy and am a ...
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Negel vasser after touching shoes

A person must perform a ritual hand-washing after the completion of certain activities, including upon arising in the morning; before eating bread; after shaving, haircutting, clipping one’s nails,...
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Does taking money from government programs change the Halachic status of the family structure?

Does taking government subsidies such as Section 8 and Food Stamps in a situation where the government subsidy is specifically providing money for food per child (Food Stamps) or money for an extra ...
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Giving maaser money to parents

If one is working part time and his / her parents whose financial state is really not great (their balance is negative), is s/he allowed to give his / her maaser money to them even though they support ...
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Are there any teachings about “tough love?”

Sometimes, in order for one to learn, one must experience the failure of the ideas one believes to be true which are, in fact, not true. If the student in this process is a child or someone under the ...
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can a parent confiscate his dependent child's property?

If a child is over bar mitzva and dependent on the parent, may the latter confiscate his child's possessions as a form of punishment or would this be considered damage/theft I am not asking on ...
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New Name for parent [duplicate]

My father is very ill and they have given him an additional name. Does this new name that he was given a few weeks ago alter the way that I get called up for an Aliyah going forward, both while he is ...
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Teenagers and Modesty [closed]

I am the mother of three girls, the two oldest are 12 and 14. The youngest is 6 months of age. They're into wearing what the other girls wear. My 12 year old girl gives me heart attacks. She's very ...
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Mom And Baby Talk

What do other Jewish moms do with their babies? I have a six month old baby. I want her to learn Torah from the first words she speaks. I don't live around other Jewish people, we've only been ...
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Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?

Let's say one has an emotionally abusive parent. When the parent visits someone, she is emotionally abusive to her son and daughter in law. The abuse is so harsh that it affects Shalom Bayit in the ...
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Are we children or servants of HaShem?

HaShem teaches us to serve Him (Shemot 23:25), because we're His servants (Vayikra 25:42, 25:55), HaShem also teaches that we're His children (Devarim 14:1). There is a long explanation about these ...
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Walking around indoors without shoes

Does anyone know of a source for the practice of not walking around indoors without shoes? (I am seeking an actual source, not speculation)
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Non-Jewish father: son of whom for an aliyah? [duplicate]

Let's say there is a person born of Jewish mother, but not a Jewish father. To further complicate things, the mother was raised secular and at a later point converts to Christianity. Does her change ...
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The 5th Commandment - Who should be financially supported first - children or parents?

During a recent Pirkei Avot shi'ur in my synagogue, our rabbi discussed two concepts. Jewish Virtual Library citing of Talmud, Tractate Kiddushin 31B Our Rabbis taught: What is "revere" and what ...
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Does marrying the woman one got pregnant before the baby is born make a difference?

The non-Jewish world considers any child born out of wedlock a bastard. As such, there is often a rush to get married before the baby is born, once the child is conceived out of wedlock. In Jewish ...
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What are traditional Jewish symbols of fertility?

What are some traditional Jewish symbols of fertility? (with biblical, talmudic, medrashic or kabbalistic sources) Specifically, I am wondering what ideas/things are associated with fertility and ...
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What teshuvot address educating children on inappropriate touch? [closed]

A friend of a non-observant family shared a story which inspired this question. Two cousins were playing together. The boy was about 7 years old. The girl was about 3 years old. Early on, the mother ...
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Understanding derivation of rule that “פרו ורבו” is mandatory only for men?

The Gmara (Yevamot 65b) says that the reason why men are the only ones that have to keep "פרו ורבו" is because right after it its written "וכבשוה" (the human has to take over the world), and men are ...
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How could Yaakov make Menashe and Efraim like his sons?

We find in the last part of Bereshit that, just before Yaacov Avinu passed away, he blessed Yosef sons and made them his sons. How do we understand that a grandson becomes a son? Can we apply it in ...
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What is mandatory for the second seder?

I have tried looking up the answer to this question, I hope someone here can give me an answer! My mother-in-law had heard somewhere that because the second seder outside Israel is of rabbinic ...
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Touching a Stepson [closed]

As an orthodox Jew, I married another orthodox Jew. This is a second marriage and he has a son. Am I allowed to touch the boy, as his stepmother, after he reaches the age of 9?
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Halakhot of raising babies

I don't think I've ever encountered halakhot that pertain to interacting with newborns, but as any new parent knows, such interactions take up a great deal of one's time, during the day, at night, ...
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Liven up the seders with photos?

Has anyone tried making the seders more attractive to kids by use of photos? If so, what did you try and how did it work? Update: I have found photos of: breaking a matza, locusts, a seder plate, ...
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Who picks a yeshiva for a son or daughter, the mother or the father

Which of the parents has a halachic obligation to pick the religious institution a son or daughter goes to - the father or mother of the child?
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Retroactive annulment of conversion? [duplicate]

If a woman converts to Judaism, has a baby, and then converts to Christianity, is the baby still considered a born Jew? That is, can the woman's conversion be retroactively annulled in a way that ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Children's “Little Gemarah”?

My family enjoys this English language Little Midrash series. Does something like an English language 'Little Gemarah' (ie introduces reasoning logic) exist for children 6-12 years old?
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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Tehillim for success in child-rearing

I have often been given the parenting advice, in addition to everything else done to care for and teach a child, to pray for the successful raising of the child to be righteous. As Tehillim is often ...
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Are you yoitze the Mitzva of Pirya Verivya with children born out of wedlock

I know there is a machlokes Rishonim (rambam / Rosh) if Kedushin is a Mitzva or Hecsher Mitzva for Pirya Verivya. Say one has children out of wedlock, is that Mitzva fulfilled or do we say its a ...