How do you go about dealing with the adult nature of the beginning of the Parsha Pinchas to kids aged 12 or 13?

Any on-line material you suggest, suitable for kids this young, on that part of the parsha?

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    Doesn't this apply to anyone (of that age) studying the parasha, not just those whose birthday is that week? Or am I perhaps missing something?
    – msh210
    Feb 5, 2015 at 0:45
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    Yes, of course. However, the bar/bat mitzva kid has the parsha thrust on them more than other kids.
    – Yehuda W
    Feb 5, 2015 at 2:18
  • Bar/Bat-Mitzvah isn't such a young child anymore. Why don't you just learn the pshat? I did at that age.
    – Scimonster
    Feb 5, 2015 at 6:29
  • Not all kids of that age are the same. Some are more mature than others in their outlook on life. Some are more adult and some more childlike.
    – Yehuda W
    Feb 5, 2015 at 14:33

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Many kids aged 12/13 have already heard about sex and very often have been told specific things about sex. The information they receive could be true, false, true but expressed in a non-ideal way, etc. etc. The point being that kids talk about this stuff and they will hear about sexuality sooner than a lot of people would expect.

That being said, my Rabbi told me once that explaining to a child the concepts of sexuality within the context of learning first of all allows you to form the concept for him. This is much better than a reactionary after the fact explanation once the child has already heard idea's from other sources. Additionally, explaining sexuality to a child through the Torah allows for the idea that sex has a place within the mitzvos/Torah.

Of course you need to know the child and understand how to teach the child these topics, but isn't that true with the education of a child for everything?

I'll end off with a question that, I believe, drives home the point: What better way is there to teach a child about sexuality than through and in the context of the parts of the Torah that talk about them?

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