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Why Megilat Ester is obsessed with the sexual aspects of the story of Purim?

The sex motif is very pronounced both in the Megillah itself (details on Achashverosh taking virgins and non-virgins and the treatment of the harem and the schedule etc) and the interpreters (Vashti ...
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How could the law of marrying the rape victim ever be implemented?

I ask this in good faith as I am religious. How is it possible for this situation to come about? If you claim the rapist must receive a punishment via the fines, then we know that at least two ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to sex before marriage? [duplicate]

As far as im aware the prohibition of Shomer Negiah comes from two pesukim in ויקרא: אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל-כָּל-שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ, לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה: אֲנִי יְהוָה "None of you shall come ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?

One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles. That ...
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Minimizing Onah obligation for maximizing income

Where to find sources regarding what happens when a man needs to travel to support his family (he cannot support them if he does not travel) (in both cases that if he will not traval he 1. can live ...
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Is a Zav allowed to have relations with his wife?

Would a Zav be allowed to have relations with his wife while she is Tahor? I can't think of any source to forbid it.
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Thinking of another woman during sex [closed]

If a person is thinking of another woman during intercourse, what is it considered? Does it matter if it is his wife or not? (Could it be considered adultery if committed with let's say a girlfriend?...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?

What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age? Or is it completely avoided until marriage? Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Being with a non Jew [closed]

I’ve read on this site that teshuva fixes all sins except the ones done between you and someone else, like stealing someone’s shoe for example. If teshuva does work, will that take away her soul ...
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Teshuva for intercourse with non Jew [duplicate]

This question is different than the one people think is a duplicate because the other one doesn’t necessarily answer the questions I’m asking. If someone has intercourse with a non Jew even if he ...
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A holistic explanation of King David's use of Avishag

Melachim 1:1: וְהַמֶּלֶךְ דָּוִד זָקֵן בָּא בַּיָּמִים וַיְכַסֻּהוּ בַּבְּגָדִים וְלֹא יִחַם לוֹ׃ King David was now old, advanced in years; and though they covered him with bedclothes, he never ...
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Importance of describing the lack of Rivkah's intimate experience

Gen 24:16: "וְהַנַּעֲרָה טֹבַת מַרְאֶה מְאֹד בְּתוּלָה וְאִישׁ לֹא יְדָעָהּ" The maiden was very beautiful, a virgin, whom no man had known. We know (Rashi on Genesis 34:7) that the nations ...
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Why aren't there any Gay people in the Bible?

Our scriptures (the Bible and later) are full of people who sinned. Every kind of sin, including murder and sexual sins. The sinners are both from our people as well as non-Jews. Some of the sinners ...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

In Bereishis 19:30-38 the story is told how the 2 daughters of Lot thought (for whatever reason) that they should sleep with their father. From the psukim themselves, it is unclear whether or not what ...
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Shemiras einayim & non-essential trips

What heterim are there for people to go on non-essential trips that will inevitably result in breaches of shemiras einayim and machshava. I heard on a recent Headlines podcast that Reb Moshe Feinstein ...
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Must tashmish at night be under a blanket?

From here it seems that relations by day must be under a blanket (e.g. a tallis). But, at night, is it necessary that the couple be covered, or is this a chumra (i.e. stringency)? What if there are ...
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Is a noncturnal emission (Keri) a sin?

Is a nocturnal emission, also known as keri, a sin? If it happens to you at night, is teshuvah necessary?
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Are women permitted to masturbate? [duplicate]

From Tosfos in Niddah 13a it would seem like women are permitted to masturbate. However, I haven't seen any modern teshuves permitting or prohibiting it. According to Wikipedia, The Halakhic ...
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Not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala?

Are there Kabbalistic or Talmudic sources saying that not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala (wasteful seminal emission)? I heard a popular rabbi make this claim in a class ...
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Married women rape payments

Are there any sources which talk specifically about a married woman being raped and how the payments of embarrassment, damage (pegam), and pain (see Kesubos 3:4) is apportioned between her and her ...
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Wife's obligation to submit to her husband for relations

Some people say only a husband is obligated to provide relations to his wife but the wife has no obligations. If she wants to she submits, if not she does not (since her husband is not allowed to rape ...
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When can I attend service (Shabbat) after seminal emission? [closed]

Unmarried, 22 year old Jewish man here. I've been consciously trying to get myself rid of masturbation for a year now. I started to take precautions and I take this fight very seriously now. I put a ...
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What are reasons of מצוות עונה marital sex?

Besides the reason of having children, are there other reasons to the מצוות עונה (marital sex)?
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Aruch Hashulchan's comments about the form of a fetus

In his discussion of the sin of wasting seed, R. Yechiel Michel Epstein writes that scientists using microscopes have found that the drop of semen contains the entire image/form of a person, thus ...
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Noachide and sin confusion

For a noahide, do sexual thoights without actions or arousal constitute sins? I’m confused about this as it is not clear whether the sexual sins are just forbidden relations or also include more ...
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Does the Torah forbid visiting/hiring a prostitute?

I know that the Torah explicitly forbids adultery and also forbids selling the services of one's daughter: Lev 19:29  Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land ...
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Did the rights of a Jewish slave owner include having sex with his female slaves?

I know that Abraham had sex with his slave who acted as a surrogate for Sarah and I understand that to have been standard practice (even though God did not intend for his promise to be fulfilled ...
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Talmud passage relevant to #metoo

At the Seder table, my sister told me about a passage in the Talmud advocating that women go to the toilet together, lest they be raped. I was wondering if anyone had the exact location?
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Are forbidden relations forbidden to the passive non-jew?

(Rambam sefaria, HebrewBooks, Chabad.org) A non-jewish man cannot have relations with: (a woman who was) his father's wife his mother a (another) man's wife his maternal sister a man an ...
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is a person allowed to pray or learn with traces semen/zera on his underwear?

if a person has traces of semen on his underwear, is he allowed to pray or study Torah? because it's forbidden to pray when your garments are not clean.
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Who gets more rewarded for the Mitzvah of procreation?

The man is obligated in the mitzvah of Pru Urivu (Having children 1 male 1 female) while the woman is not (technically it's a machlokes in the gemara, but we hold of the one that they're not chayav). ...
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Mekor that bnei t'murah doesn't apply to women- berachot 20a?

I'm trying to recall a source that the issue of bnei t'murah (having thoughts of another while having relations with one's wife) does not apply to women. I saw the related posts but I seem to think I ...
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Pre Marital relations and wasted seed

Do pre-marital relations count as wasted semen after intercourse? What does Halacha say about this situation? It would obviously be a sin but would it count as wasted seed if ejaculation occurred ...
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what is the minimum requirement of onah (marital obligation) on the husband

(to my poor understanding it seems that usually, mitzovs have specific guidelines, of what is the minimum needed to be done to fulfill them) what is the minimum requirement of onah? (biblical and ...
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Why does Tanac“h frequently use the term for ”knowledge" when referring to sexual relations?

Frequently, when Tanac"h speaks about a man and woman having sexual relations, it uses the term ידע as in Breishit 4:1 וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם יָדַ֖ע אֶת־חַוָּ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וַתַּ֙הַר֙ וַתֵּ֣לֶד אֶת־קַ֔יִן ...
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What is minimum age for relations for a boy when passive

I understand that someone to be given the death penalty for relations with a girl she needs to be at least 3 years old But how about with a boy. What is the minimum age the boy needs to be for ...
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

I was told that one should not learn the laws of Nidda (I guess including orach Chaim 240 and even hoezer 25) until engaged, and not the laws of mourning until applicable (lo alainu) Is this true? Or ...
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Does Devarim 23:18 prohibit pre-marital relations

I was having a discussion with a friend, some weeks back, about adultery in Torah. The discussion hinged on the Christian understanding being incorrect (that is to say, that both the man and woman are ...
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Source that a Jewish girl is forbidden to have relations with a non Jew

I see that it is forbidden for a Jewish girl to get married to a non-Jew (E"H 16.1) but why is she forbidden to have relations with him without marriage? Source please. (I guess the source might be ...
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Was Rabbi Akiva exempt from his conjugal duties?

The Gemara (in Kesubos 63a) says, “When Rabbi Akiva returned, he brought twelve thousand students with him. As he approached his home, he heard a certain old man saying to [his wife], ‘Until when will ...
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“Recreational” use of ED medications

From what I understand, there is no problem using Erectile Dysfunction medications for ED. I am wondering if there is anything problematic about using a drug like Viagra for the purpose of extending ...
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Is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried superior to marriage? [duplicate]

In Judaism, is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried a higher state of life than marriage?
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can a very poor Jew have relations with his wife?

i see that relations are forbidden if their is no Kesuba and i understand that a Kesuba is a lien on the property of the husband theoretically, can a husband have relations with his wife if he has ...
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No criminal punishment for rapists in Judaism? [closed]

Rambam starts Ilkhos Ishus with a negative commandment: "Not to have relations with a woman unless she has been granted a marriage contract, and the relationship sanctified through the rites of ...
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Is a man obligated to seek a medical remedy to fulfill onah?

If a husband is physically incapable or performing onah (the obligation for a husband to sexually satisfy his wife as outlined in Shulchan Aruch Even Ha'Ezer 76)due to an inability to have an erection ...
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Is masturbation prohibited for those that aren't married?

This article seems to claim that for single men masturbation isn't forbidden. It is a little bit over my head, especially since most of the modern day literature (albeit based largely on the Zohar and ...
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Does the Torah use the word טָמְאָה to imply physical defilement anywhere besides sotah?

In the parsha of sotah (Bamidbar 5:13) the Torah describes the woman who was secluded and had relations with another man as וְנִסְתְּרָ֖ה וְהִ֣יא נִטְמָ֑אָה meaning that she became physically defiled -...
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Sudden Menstruation and Sex

I am having trouble finding any treatment of this topic on the internet. A couple who has been having sex suddenly discovers that a blood flow has begun. Are they liable for kareth? Leviticus 15 ...
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Heter to be permitted to a Cohen after relations with a non-jew with condoms?

If a woman has relations with a non-Jew with condom use, are they still permissible to a Cohen? Does anybody have a reference to the specific heter which permits this. Edit: I know that relations ...
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what does the “uncovering of Boaz’ legs” have to do with Keri?

I was shown Shulchan Aruch Harav 619 : וְעַל כָּל פָּנִים יִזָּהֵר שֶׁלֹּא לְכַסּוֹת רַגְלָיו, זֵכֶר לַדָּבָר "וַתְּגַל מַרְגְּלֹתָיו" שֶׁל בֹּעַז, שֶׁלֹּא יָבוֹא לִידֵי חִמּוּם: One should at ...