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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?

In general, my understanding is that you are not supposed to refuse your wife intimacy. However, it is also expressly forbidden to engage in intimacy while she is in a niddah state. Does the latter ...
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Why is abstinence is important for Rivkah but not other foremothers or other Toranic female figures?

וְהַנַּעֲרָ טֹבַת מַרְאֶה מְאֹד בְּתוּלָה וְאִישׁ לֹא יְדָעָהּ ...׃ - The maiden was very beautiful, a virgin whom no man had known. Genesis.24.16 Why is the fact of sexual abstinence is important ...
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A list of Shulchan Aruch Halachot that repeat themselves?

I'm researching the prohibition for couples to have relations at a time of famine, which is brought by the Shulchan Aruch in Orach Chaim 240:12, Orach Chaim 574:4 and Even Ha'ezer 25:6. While many of ...
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What is Judaism's take on Dying a virgin?

I take it from the Torah that G'd commanded mankind to procreate and that pre-marital sex is forbidden and all that, But what happens with people who either choose to remain unmarried or otherwise ...
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What is the real position on the pilegesh expressed in the Shulchan Arukh?

Here is what Rabbi Yoel Lieberman says in the article present at the link https://www.yeshiva.co/ask/8800 "We must immediately say, that the issue of Pilegesh is far from an issue which just has ...
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Ramban’s interpretation of the expression “leshem zenut” in Mishneh Torah-Hilchot Ishut 1: 4

We read in Mishneh Torah-Hilchot Ishut 1:4 “Before the Torah was given, when a man would meet a woman in the marketplace, and he and she desired, he could give her payment, engage in relations with ...
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History of Premarital Relations [duplicate]

What was the view on premarital relations in the times of the gemara? To be clear, this is not a question of what is or isn't permitted. This is a question about historical practices; historically how ...
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Vayikra 15:16-18 - who must wash after an emission of semen, and when? [duplicate]

Does Vayikra 15:16-18 mean men must always wash their whole bodies after any emission of semen and couples must both wash after marital relations? When must they do it? eg immediately after? before ...
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Torah approach to getting out of inappropriate feelings/thoughts

What is the Torah approach to stop yourself from feeling sexually aroused in the moment? Anything from the mussar experts?
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Would marriage really not solve this man's problem?

Another question on pikuach nefesh. The Talmud [Sanhedrin 74a] recounts this story: There was an incident involving a certain man who set his eyes upon a certain woman and passion rose in his heart [...
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Marital relations cover [duplicate]

I heard by a friend that during marital relations one needs to cover oneself and his wife with a blanket? Is there a reason for this? Is it a obligation or a minhag?
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Marital relations in a time of plague? [duplicate]

I remember that the people and animals in Noah's Ark were not allowed to have marital relations because it was an inappropriate thing to do in light of the destruction going on all over the world. I ...
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Why use impossible cases to illustrate laws?

In Bava Kamma 27a we find the following scenario: If a man fell from a roof and was inserted into a woman [due to the force of the fall, but with no intention to engage in sexual intercourse,] he ...
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HaGra about Rambam's position concerning the status of pilagshim taken by Jewish commoners

I am an Italian noahide. My question expresses a purely intellectual curiosity, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. As we know Rambam states in Hilchot Melachim 4: 4: “A commoner is ...
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Who exactly is the “kedesha” according to Rambam's interpretation?

I am an Italian noahide. My question expresses a purely intellectual curiosity, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. I cannot understand what is the exact definition of "kedesha" by Rambam , as ...
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Teshuva related to Pgam HaBrit [closed]

If pre-ejaculate fluid is released prior to intercourse (while kissing etc), does a person have to do teshuva? Pre-jaculate can contain but typically doesn’t contain semen.
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Taking pictures for one’s husband

Would Jewish law prohibit or limit the types of pictures a wife could send to her husband in private? Assume that the means of sending the pictures would be secure and no one else would be able to see ...
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Does the Noahide Law allow prostitution to the Gentiles?

I am an Italian noahide. Unless I am mistaken, in terms of sexual conduct the prohibitions established by the Noahide Law are the following (see Rambam’s Mishneh Torah-Melachim uMilchamot 9:5): ...
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Why are some stories in the Talmud? [closed]

I take the position that everything in the Talmud is there for a reason. That reason could be transmitting relevant facts through the generations. Even if they are not facts, surely there is a ...
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Jewish married man having relations with Jewish divorced woman [closed]

What is the Halacha of a Jewish married man engaging in physical relations with a Jewish divorced woman.
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Halachic approaches to marital relations in a Succah

What are the Halachic approaches to allowing or prohibiting marital relations in one's Succah? Note: This question does not ask for the final accepted Halachah, but for the sources for different ...
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Can a man hug or kiss a man?

There seems to be a custom that men hug (cheek kiss) each other when they greet each other (especially if they did not see each other for a long time). Are Jews permitted to do so? (does it matter if ...
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Gender and “Seeding” - Just Torah-Derived or Common Belief?

Niddah 31a writes (Davidson Edition translation): אמר רבי יצחק אמר רבי אמי אשה מזרעת תחילה יולדת זכר איש מזריע תחילה יולדת נקבה שנאמר (ויקרא יב, ב) אשה כי תזריע וילדה זכר Rabbi Yitzḥak says that ...
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Application of the baraita about “Don't profane daughter for Zenut” Leviticus 19:29 reported in Sanhredin 76a?

I'm an Italian Noahide. The topic in question manifests my purely intellectual interest, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. We read in Talmud Bavli-Sanhredrin 76a (English translation from “...
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Is a man permitted to petition for permitted sexual relations during the Amidah?

Would a man be permitted to ask Hashem to bring about permitted sexual acts with his current or future wife as part of the requests he makes during the Amidah, given that we are generally highly ...
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Location of halachos of “a chosson and kallah”

Where are the halachos found in shulchan aruch regarding the practical halachos that a chosson is taught before he gets married: how a chosson and kallah have תשמיש המטה on the first night (and other ...
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A puzzle in the Steinsaltz’ Talmud commentary

It is written in Shabbos 83a in the Steinsaltz edition of the Talmud that gentiles are designated the status of zav. The commentary explains that the reason is “So that a Jewish child will not grow ...
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Does acting “for G-d's sake” override Arayos prohibitions?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 81b describes the story of a Rabbi seemingly overriding the [as most agree, Biblical] prohibition of Kiruv Ervah. After a short debate, he finds an excuse that he was acting "...
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What constitutes the Biblical Mefateh?

I'm trying to understand the Biblical concept of "Mefateh" (a "seducer"): The Torah says (Shemot 22,15) without elaborating: וְכִי־יְפַתֶּה אִישׁ בְּתוּלָה אֲשֶׁר לֹא־אֹרָשָׂה וְשָׁכַב עִמָּהּ ...
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How could the law of marrying the rape victim ever be implemented?

I ask this in good faith as I am religious. How is it possible for this situation to come about? If you claim the rapist must receive a punishment via the fines, then we know that at least two ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to sex before marriage? [duplicate]

As far as im aware the prohibition of Shomer Negiah comes from two pesukim in ויקרא: אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל-כָּל-שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ, לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה: אֲנִי יְהוָה "None of you shall come ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?

One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles. ...
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Minimizing Onah obligation for maximizing income

Where to find sources regarding what happens when a man needs to travel to support his family (he cannot support them if he does not travel) (in both cases that if he will not traval he 1. can live ...
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Is a Zav allowed to have relations with his wife?

Would a Zav be allowed to have relations with his wife while she is Tahor? I can't think of any source to forbid it.
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Thinking of another woman during sex [closed]

If a person is thinking of another woman during intercourse, what is it considered? Does it matter if it is his wife or not? (Could it be considered adultery if committed with let's say a girlfriend?...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?

What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age? Or is it completely avoided until marriage? Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Being with a non Jew [closed]

I’ve read on this site that teshuva fixes all sins except the ones done between you and someone else, like stealing someone’s shoe for example. If teshuva does work, will that take away her soul ...
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Teshuva for intercourse with non Jew [duplicate]

This question is different than the one people think is a duplicate because the other one doesn’t necessarily answer the questions I’m asking. If someone has intercourse with a non Jew even if he ...
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A holistic explanation of King David's use of Avishag

Melachim 1:1: וְהַמֶּלֶךְ דָּוִד זָקֵן בָּא בַּיָּמִים וַיְכַסֻּהוּ בַּבְּגָדִים וְלֹא יִחַם לוֹ׃ King David was now old, advanced in years; and though they covered him with bedclothes, he never ...
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Importance of describing the lack of Rivkah's intimate experience

Gen 24:16: "וְהַנַּעֲרָה טֹבַת מַרְאֶה מְאֹד בְּתוּלָה וְאִישׁ לֹא יְדָעָהּ" The maiden was very beautiful, a virgin, whom no man had known. We know (Rashi on Genesis 34:7) that the nations ...
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Why aren't there any Gay people in the Bible?

Our scriptures (the Bible and later) are full of people who sinned. Every kind of sin, including murder and sexual sins. The sinners are both from our people as well as non-Jews. Some of the sinners ...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

In Bereishis 19:30-38 the story is told how the 2 daughters of Lot thought (for whatever reason) that they should sleep with their father. From the psukim themselves, it is unclear whether or not what ...
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Shemiras einayim & non-essential trips

What heterim are there for people to go on non-essential trips that will inevitably result in breaches of shemiras einayim and machshava. I heard on a recent Headlines podcast that Reb Moshe Feinstein ...
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Must tashmish at night be under a blanket?

From here it seems that relations by day must be under a blanket (e.g. a tallis). But, at night, is it necessary that the couple be covered, or is this a chumra (i.e. stringency)? What if there are ...
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Is a nocturnal emission (Keri) a sin?

Is a nocturnal emission, also known as keri, a sin? If it happens to you at night, is teshuvah necessary?
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Are women permitted to masturbate? [duplicate]

From Tosfos in Niddah 13a it would seem like women are permitted to masturbate. However, I haven't seen any modern teshuves permitting or prohibiting it. According to Wikipedia, The Halakhic ...
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Not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala?

Are there Kabbalistic or Talmudic sources saying that not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala (wasteful seminal emission)? I heard a popular rabbi make this claim in a class ...
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Married women rape by a stranger payments division

What sources which talk specifically about a married woman being raped and how the payments of embarrassment, damage (pegam), and pain (see Kesubos 3:4) is apportioned between her and her husband?
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Wife's obligation to submit to her husband for relations

Some people say only a husband is obligated to provide relations to his wife but the wife has no obligations. If she wants to she submits, if not she does not (since her husband is not allowed to rape ...
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When can I attend service (Shabbat) after seminal emission? [closed]

Unmarried, 22 year old Jewish man here. I've been consciously trying to get myself rid of masturbation for a year now. I started to take precautions and I take this fight very seriously now. I put a ...

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