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When a person attains adult status according to halacha, and becomes obligated in mitzvot. For boys, it is at age 13 ("bar mitzvah"); for girls, age 12 ("bat/bas mitzvah").

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Tisha Ba'av that fell out on Shabbos

If Tisha Ba'av fell out on Shabbos, and therefore it was pushed off to Sunday. Is a Bar Mitzvah Boy obligated to fast if he turned 13 on Shabbos? In other words: Does the fact that Tisha Ba'av fell ...
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In Jeremiah 1:6-7 was Jeremiah actually a child?

When Jeremiah attempts to recuse himself from his calling to be a prophet he does so by saying that he is unqualified because he is a child: BSB Jeremiah 1: 6“Ah, Lord GOD,” I said, “I surely ...
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The exact current Halachic status of Bar Mitzvah celebratory meal? [duplicate]

This answer brings sources for celebrating Bar Mitzvah by arranging a Seuda. However I'd like to know what's its current Halachic status - is it mentioned in Poskim, Shu"A, Shu"a Harav etc and how ...
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Is one obligated to do Bar Mitzvah if one's father didn't do it for him?

Braitah in Kiddushin 29a: תנינא להא דת"ר האב חייב בבנו: למולו ולפדותו וללמדו תורה ולהשיאו אשה וללמדו אומנות וי"א אף להשיטו במים...: ... the Sages taught in a Baraita: A father is obligated ...
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What to do if bar mitzvah is on a fast day

Just out of curiosity, what does one do if his bar mitzvah falls on a fast day such as Yom Kippur or Tisha BeAv or any other of the 6 fast days? Is the seudah passed on to the next day? The previous ...
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Bar mitzvah for child born in Adar

If a child is born in Adar of a non-leap year, and he/she reaches the age of 13/12 in a leap year, when is it appropriate to celebrate the child becoming bar/bat mitzvah? Would that be Adar I or Adar ...
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What do Orthodox communities do for profoundly-disabled 13-year-olds (bar mitzvah or similar)?

I occasionally hear (in the US) about a community celebrating a bar mitzvah for a child with profound cognitive disabilities (cerebral palsy, Down's syndrome, etc). All such cases I've heard about ...
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bar mitzvah medals

Long ago, I received a bronze bar mitzvah medal that I have always treasured. I am looking to purchase one now but I can't seem to find any of this minted year. The few I have seen online all seem ...
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Revoking bar mitzvah

Recently on the Late Show with Stephen Colbert, actor Michael Rapaport has called for the rabbis who gave the bar mitzvah honor to Jared Kushner to have it revoked. (Kushner was born and raised in a ...
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Candles, becoming a bas mitzvah on Shabbos

If a girl becomes a bas mitzvah exactly on Shabbos, can she fulfill the mitzvah of lighting candles on behalf of another person on that week? On one hand, the candles are specifically for Shabbos, ...
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Wearing a tallit when you are bar mitzvahed but not married, when it isn't your minhag

Let's say someone becomes bar mitzvah and decides to wear a tallit everyday, even though this isn't his minhag, because he wants the opportunity to make another brachah. Is this the right thing to do? ...
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Dancing at Bar Mitzvah Celebration during Sefira

I attended a Bar Mitzvah last night, and there was so-called "sefira music" playing, and there was also dancing. As far as I recall learning, there are some justifications for listening to such music, ...
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A Bar Mitzvah question

A friend asked me if I would ask you for your help. He was wondering if all boys in Conservative sects give a d'var on their bar Mitzvah, or is that not until after the bar Mitzvah? Thoughts please? ...
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Why do we say bar mitzvah instead of ben mitzvah?

I've heard somewhere that there is a source explaning why do we say "bar mitzvah" instead of "ben mitzvah". I assume that this source it's not dealing with common knowledge on this (such as the ...
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About coming back to Jewish practice

I'm 47 and I've spent my whole adult life far from Jewish practice. But now I'm engaged in tshuva (i.e. returning to Judaism; lit. repentance) and I want to come back to Hashem and live my Jewish life ...
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Why the 1 year difference between Bar/Bat Mitzva? [duplicate]

Why the difference of 1 year between girls reaching obligation in mitzva observation versus boys? (a girl's Bat Mitzva = 12 years old, while boy's Bar Mitzva = 13 years old) Is this due to girl's ...
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Becoming Bar Mitzvah on Shabbas but made early kiddush

A child once they become Bar/Bas Mitzvah is now an adult and is obligated in all the mitzvos (assuming they've reached physical maturity). In the case where they became Bar Mitzvah on Shabbas (Friday ...
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Non Jews: What honor to give a non jewish father at an Orthodox bar mitzvah (Jewish son) or at a wedding?

I have heard from an active Rabbi that he would give a non Jewish father the honor of opening the ark. What about putting on a Torah covering? Where is this issue discussed in halachic sources? Due ...
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Source For Bar Mitzvah Celebration

What are the earliest explicit sources that reference a celebration upon becoming a bar mitsvah, and indicate that this celebration has some halakhic significance? The Yam Shel Shelomo to Bava Kamma (...
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When does an Eved Knani become bar mitzvah?

When does an Eved Knani become bar mitzvah, at age 12 like a woman or 13 like a man?
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Will no one come to the batmizva on sfirat haomer

I have my daughter's batmitzva scheduled on Sunday, May 22. Many of her friends are religious (e.g. Chabad). And the party will be attended by kids mostly. My ex-wife says that those kids will not ...
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who makes brocha by bar mitzva if no dad?

If someone's father passed away, who makes the brocha of baruch shepotrani when he gets his aliya at the torah by his bar mitzva?
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Book suggestion for Bat Mitzva gift [closed]

I am looking for a suggestion for a good Jewish book (english) for a somewhat observant Bat Mitzva girl. Something which will teach her more about Judaism at her level.
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What's a common blessing given to people at a bar mitzvah?

What is a common blessing given to the bar mitzvah boy when attending his bar mitzvah? What is a common blessing given to the friends and family of the bar mitzvah boy when attending a bar mitzvah?
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Sources for a Pshetel on the topic a kattan washed and ate a seudah and became a gadol during the seudah [duplicate]

I am trying to work with my son on his Pshetel on the topic: If a 12 year old boy washed for a seudah and during the seduah it became night and now the boy is 13 and is a gadol, may he lead the ...
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Implications of gradual gender change at age 12

In the village of Salinas, Dominican Republic, about 2% of the females (as determined by external genitalia) gradually morph into males at age 12.[​1][​2] If such a child was Jewish and accepted as ...
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Bar mitzvah boy joining a zimun on the night of his bar mitzvah, having started the meal during the day

(This question could probably be made better if someone answers What time does a bar mitzvah come into effect?, but for now i'll just use the earlier or later time, as applicable.) Let's say a boy's ...
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What happens at an Orthodox Bat Mitzvah?

My cousins are Orthodox (black-hat/yeshivish/live in Passaic) and one of them is having a Bat Mitzvah in November. I have never attended an Orthodox Bat Mitzvah, so I don't really know what to expect. ...
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Is tachanun said at a bar mitzvah?

Is tachanun said at a bar mitzvah boy's aliyah latorah that takes place on a day when tachanun is normally said (basically Monday and Thursday)? I've been to a few of these, and seen different cases. ...
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What time does a bar mitzvah come into effect?

At what halachic time does a boy having his bar mitzvah become chayav b'mitzvot? It seems to me that the most likely times are either shkia or tzeit.
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Attending a Bar Mitzvah at a Reform Synagogue

Do any contemporary Orthodox poskim discuss the matter? What potential problems could arise from attending, or from not attending, if the Bar Mitzvah boy is a close relative?
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If you travel back in time, would you be obligated in Mitzvot?

Let's say time travel is possible, Time-Turner style. You are age 31. You travel back 20 years to when you are 11 years old, before your Bar Mitzvah. At that time period, you were not Chayav ...
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When did the bar mitzvah ceremony originate, and when did it take on its current form?

In the extract of David Rosenberg's book An Educated Man that I've looked at out of curiosity, he makes mention of Jesus of Nazareth presumably undertaking bar mitzvah studies and chanting the ...
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How to explain the start of Parsha Pinchas to bar/bat mitzva kids

How do you go about dealing with the adult nature of the beginning of the Parsha Pinchas to kids aged 12 or 13? Any on-line material you suggest, suitable for kids this young, on that part of the ...
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Bar Mitzvah Meal Before Becoming 13

Mishne Berura, I believe, writes that a Bar Mitzvah seudah (meal) is conferred the status of a seudas mitzvah if either it is held on the day of the boy's becoming 13 (i.e. his birthday) or, he ...
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Bat mitzvah gift from non-Jew

Would it be offensive for my daughter to give her friend a Star of David necklace for her Bat Mitzvah? We are not Jewish but my daughter wants to recognize her friend in a meaningful way. Thank you.
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Chabad custom not to have bar mitzva aliya shabbat morning

According to this question, the Annotated Tehillat Hashem Siddur (a Chabad siddur) encourages the Bar mitzvah boy to get his first aliya on Monday, Thursday, or Shabbat Mincha or Rosh Chodesh. This ...
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If one makes a party for Bar Mitzvah during the 9 Days, can he serve meat?

As I understand, there is no mitzvah to make a se'udah for a Bar Mitzvah, unlike what occurs for a Brit, Pidyon Haben, Wedding or Siyum Masechta. Assuming that there is no siyum done, can a person ...
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Happiness for a Bar Mitzvah

I heard in the name of the Chasam Sofer that the first mitzvah of a bar mitzvah boy is that of simcha (happiness). Does anyone know where I could find the original source of this? I searched Google ...
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Is having a Bat Mitzvah girl recite a section from Ketuvim in a shul a problem of Kol Isha?

A shul that I have gone to has a custom that the Bat Mitzvah girl recites a section from Ketuvim (usually from Divrei Hayamim or Nechemia) in front of the congregation (men and women are there). She, ...
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When a Bar Mitzvah boy says “Y'chalelu et Shem Hashem” instead of “Y'Halelu”, should someone correct him?

Perhaps, the title of my question sounds amusing, but I see this happen in my shul a bit too often for me to laugh at it any more. Many of the Bar Mitzvah boys in my shul can barely read Hebrew. but, ...
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What is this medallion?

This was given to me on my bat mitzvah several years ago, and I have no idea what it's about. Can you please explain/translate what this is? Does it have an official name? I'd like to read more about ...
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Putting on Tefilin one month before Bar Mitzva

Rabbi Shimon Eider Zatzal brings in his Sefer that the Minhag is to put on Tefilin from one to three months before the Bar Mitzva. To the best of knowledge there are three different schools of ...
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Where does the custom of a second “bar mitzvah” at 83 come from?

I have noticed more 83 year old men celebrating their second bar mitzvahs, and cannot find any source for this. Is it a new custom? Does it have any basis in pre-20th century practice?
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Is it okay to skip a bar mitzvah?

In the popular TV show Arthur, there is an episode wherein Francine Frensky, the Jewish girl, faces a tough dilemma - going to her cousin's bar mitzvah or helping her team win a game. Alan (aka "The ...
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Bar Mitzvah and reading curses (tochicha)

Should a Bar Mitzvah--who is reading the rest of the parsha-- read the curses (tochicha) in Ki Tavo? I have heard of some traditions that suggest someone else should read it, but I'm beginning to ...
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Counting years according to the solar calendar

I once heard there is an opinion in Rishonim (maybe Gaonim?) that says we count ones years of life according to the solar calender. So for example a boy would become bar mitzvah when he would turn 13 ...
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Realistic expectations at bar mitzvah age

Being a high school teacher I am interested in better understanding what is realistically expected of boys of the age of bar mitzvah in this day and age. Is, for instance, the non attendance to ...
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If the yetzer tov enters the body at bar mitzvah, how do we have well-behaved minors?

There's a notion that the yetzer tov enters the body at the age of bar mitzvah. If this is so how do we see children that behave properly and act kindly towards others?
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Communities that celebrate menarche

Are there traditional communities that have rituals celebrating (or otherwise marking the occurrence of) a girl's first menses? If so, what do those rituals look like? (For purposes here, let's ...