How does Kibbud Av V'Eim work for a child of divorced parents?

(not referring to a case where one tells him to break Shabbos and the other tells him not to)

What about a regular case- like they both ask him to visit for Shabbos. Which parent would get precedence and why?

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Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:14 rules that if someone's divorced parents both ask him for a favor (the case of the S.A. is requesting a drink), he may choose to respond to either one first.

Pischei Teshuva s.k. 12 suggests that for sustenance and clothing the mother would get precedence.

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    That answers it perfectly- thank you so much!
    – alicht
    Jan 29, 2019 at 18:57
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    @alicht You're very welcome. Please also see the qualification in the new paragraph I just added
    – Jay
    Jan 29, 2019 at 23:44

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