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Questions tagged [kibbud-av-veim-honoring]

Honor thy Father and Mother

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Is a convert's biological son obligated in "kibud av' (honoring his father)?

This is the reverse of this question, in a sense. Suppose that a Gentile intermarries and he has a son who is Jewish. Later, the Gentile converts. Is the biological son ever halachically obligated to ...
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Is a child allowed to circumcise his father?

Assume that the father is a Gentile who married a Jewish woman. The child, who is Jewish, obviously, becomes a mohel. Years, later, the father decides to convert, so he needs a brit. Is the son ...
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Is one required to honor his deceased father's wishes if in conflict?

I had heard that when there is a conflict of requests between father and mother, a son should defer to his father first. Does this rule apply if the father is dead but the mother is still alive? I.e.,...
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Do I need to honor a grandparent?

Do I get reward (or am commanded, presumably) for honoring a grandparent? Is there some direct opinion like that out there in the Talmud ?
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Why a married woman is exempt from honoring her parents?

Although the wife should listen to the husband and make her best to please him, it is not a Mitzvah at all, and there are no DeOraytah obligations on the wife toward her husband (Rambam Ishut 22-24). ...
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Repaying care expenses for a parent from inheritance

This is a practical question, looking for existing Shu"Ts that cover this scenario: A child takes care of his old and dying father for a couple of years - he feeds him, pays for a nurse, housekeeper ...
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Distribution of כבוד אב between kids

Imagine a family of parents and 5 kids sitting at the Shabbos table and the father says - "I'm thirsty - bring me some water". All the kids are immediately obligated in כיבוד אב D'Oraysoh and the ...
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Blessing “אשר חלק מכבודו” on father or Rabbi?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin (30b) brings the idea of the analogy between honoring Hashem and honoring one's father (and mother). "ת"ר נאמר (שמות כ, יב) כבד את אביך ואת אמך ונאמר (משלי ג, ט) כבד את ה' ...
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Similarity between Eisov and Dama ben Netina for honoring parents

Eisov = Red = Edom = Romi (Rome) Eisov excelled in honoring Yitzhok (B"R 65) Dama B"N was a senator (? or a general) in Rome's province in Ashkelon (according to Yerushalmi) דמא is the letters אדום He ...
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Eisov not wearing his best clothes for Yitzhak's blessing?

Eisov wore his best suit (the "royal robe" he took from Nimrod, who took it from Adam etc) whenever he served his father Itzhok (Bereishis Rabboh 65, 16). He kept it by his mother Rivkah's: "...
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Professional work for father / Rav

Real life examples: my Rabbi z"l asked me to fix his wooden bed and fix his leaking roof. My father asked me to take his car for yearly maintenance etc. Of course, they pay all the expenses and, ...
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One who pays for learning Torah gets all the respect

When discussing precedence of honoring one's Rabbi vs one's father, Poskim (see "Psakim and Teshuvos" by Aharon Katz on יו"ד ר"מ for the list) note that if the father (or someone else) pays the Rabbi, ...
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Honoring female Rabbis - sources [duplicate]

Sorry I'm stuck with this topic... I am looking for sources on various Halakhot of honoring female Rabbis (knowledgeable women that tech Judaism). My basic assumption is that as many rule that כיבוד ...
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Why father that teaches Torah is equal in honoring to divorced mother?

Here's another tricky question about Halakhot of honoring parents (Shu"A ר"מ-רמ"א). I rewrite it to change the line of thinking. THe Gemmorah (Kid 30b, also Mishna Kritus 6,9 "**האב קודם לאם בכל מקום"...
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No Son's obligation to bury his parents?

I've been studying the Sugya of honoring the parents for almost a month now, and only today I stumbled upon Shu"A רמ"א that exempts converts from obligations to engage in burying his gentile parents. ...
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Do the Gentiles have “Three partners in man” and why they exempt from honoring parents?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 30b states (: "שלשה שותפין הן באדם הקב"ה ואביו ואמו" There are three partners in the forming of a person: The Holy One, Blessed be He, who provides the soul, and his ...
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Spending one-fifth of one's money on honoring parents?

We hold that one is obligated to spend up to one-fifth of his money on positive Mitzvot (and all the money to refrain from negative ones) (Ketubot 50a). Honoring one's parents is a positive Mitzvah. (...
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Is Eved Ivri obligated in honoring one's parents?

A tough question that I could not find anyone mentioning. The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 30b says a married woman is exempt from honoring the parents as "whereas with regard to a woman, it is not in her ...
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Should a child honor a parent’s wish even if the parent does not “benefit” from the child’s compliance? [duplicate]

Does a child have to obey a parent's wish if it is something that does not pertain to them(the parent)? What is the halacha lmasysa?
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Is an Onein Patur from EVERY positive mitzvah?

After the death of a close relative, a person enters the state of aninut, during which he is exempt from a variety of mitzvot. It seems (from the limited write ups which I have read) that this ...
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If someone has a doubt as to which seat in a room is his father's, Is he forbidden to sit anywhere because of kol kavua k'mechtza al mechtza?

If someone enters a room, and he knows that one of the seats in the room is his father's seat, but he does not know which seat it is, is he forbidden to sit in any seat because all the seats are kavua,...
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Do you have to follow all of your parents' wishes after their death?

I am not sure what the extent is of honoring your parents after their death. Do you have to honor all their wishes (except for those that violate Torah law, which you would need to disobey even while ...
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As the מזמן, should I say “ברשות אבי מורי” before “סבי מורי” or the other way around?

When eating with my parents at my my grandparents' (father's parents) house, if I am asked to be מזמן, should I say “ברשות אבי מורי וסבי מורי„ or “ברושת סבי מורי ואבי מורי„?
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May one perform an autopsy on his father?

I understand that an autopsy may sometimes be performed if doing so is useful to gain knowledge that may be used to prevent deadly diseases or sicknesses in other people. Refer to this M.Y. answer. ...
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How could they call Yaakov by name?

Chazal in a few places (Pesachim 56a and Bereishis Rabbah 98:3 for example) say that Yaakov asked his twelve sons if any of them had turned rotten, or had a lapse in faith. They responded שמע ישראל ...
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Kibud and Hidur

Does providing the person you are supposed to honor, such as one's father and Rebbi, the opportunity to do a mitzvah in a more mihudar way at the expense of your own hiddur fall under what is required ...
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Who should adopted children honor?

Are adopted children obligated to search for their biological parents so they can honor them? The Talmud implies that an adopted son is not obligated to honor his adopted parents: "Rabbi Aha ben ...
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Kabed et Avicha v'et imecha vs Being one of the first ten for a minyan

We know that the first ten people who make up a minyan get schar for every person who attends that minyan. So what happens if a person and their father come to shul and see that there are 9 people. ...
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Am I obligated to “honour [my] mother” (if she became a needy widow and) if she had given me up? [duplicate]

Am I obligated to "honour [my] mother" (if she became a needy widow and) if she had given me up? If someone was given up by his or her own mother (as in the quote below), is one obligated to "honour ...
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Esau, Edom, Rome and the Jews

In parshat Devarim, Hashem tells the Israelites to leave the Edomites alone and bypass them: "You shall not provoke them, for I will not give you of their land...because I have given Mount Seir to ...
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Is there a mitzvah to honor the bechor?

I have heard that the mitzvah to honor ones parents includes a commandment to honor one's oldest brother. Is this really the case?
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Is the mitzvah to honor the bechor d'oraisa or d'raban?

I see in the answer to this question that the mitzvah to honor one's mother and father includes an obligation to honor one's oldest brother. This idea is originally referenced in Ketubot 103a. Is this ...
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Why does the Torah not include a specific command to love one's parents?

This related M.Y. answer explains that there is no specific mitzvah to love one's parents and the concept is incorporated in the mitzvah of loving one's fellow. There is a mitzvah to love the convert,...
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Is shunning/Herem against a parent considered acceptable if it prevents you from dishonoring them through further confrontation?

This question is pretty straightforward but I'll and explain it in a more detailed way. A Jewish man has a mother who is abusive. She is abusive in such a way that she creates confrontations with him....
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May one install a web cam to check in on an elderly parent?

With a friend, I discussed the idea of installing a web cam to check in on an elderly parent who lives in her apartment alone and is serviced by a Gentile aid. The children are concerned that the aid ...
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Getting a parking ticket in order to help a parent

My mother asks me to help her carry in some stuff into her apartment. I can't find a legal parking spot. Does the mitzvah of kibud av vi'eim require that I double park and take a chance at getting a $...
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What do commentaries say about the different version of “Honor Thy Parents”?

Regarding the mitzva of Honor Thy Father and Mother, the reading of the Aseret Hadibrot in V'etchanan is slightly different than the previous reading in Yitro. The words "because God has commanded ...
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Esau honored his father; why didn't he honor God?

According to the Rambam (according to Aish), the reason that the commandment to "Honor Parents" is included in the first group of the Aseret Hadibrot (Ten Commandments) is because the child-parent ...
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Are there mitzvot in the Torah that include an explicit reason?

I was watching the video on "Honor Thy Father and Mother" from Dennis Prager's video series on the Ten Commandments. In the video (at 8 seconds in) Prager claims that the mitzva of honoring parents ...
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In regards to Torah and Rabbinical writings, how does “honor your father and mother” work when you've been raised in an abusive household?

This is a question I have always had a hard time getting an answer for and I was hoping somebody would be able to explain it. Honoring your parents is one of the most basic mitzvah in all of Judaism....
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Visiting a sick parent who doesn't want visitors

If one's parent is ill, one would probably want to visit. It is, it seems, some level of mitzvah (though it isn't explicitly on the Rambam's list of 613, it is included under some other general ...
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Minyan vs. Kibbud Av V'em

What if your parents don't want you Davening with a Minyan for whatever reason. Is it permissible to go Daven with the Minyan without their permission?
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Is it permitted for a parent to turn down a potential match for their child without the child knowing?

In Yoreh Deah 240:25 says the following, אִם הָאָב רוֹצֶה לְשָׁרֵת אֶת הַבֵּן, מֻתָּר לְקַבֵּל מִמֶּנּוּ אֶלָּא אִם כֵּן הָאָב בֶּן תּוֹרָה. תַּלְמִיד שֶׁרוֹצֶה לָלֶכֶת לְמָקוֹם אַחֵר, שֶׁהוּא ...
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Kibbud Av V'Eim versus Prevention of a Mitzvah

The Mishnah (BM 32a) says that one may not listen to his father if the father tells the son to do something prohibited, such as becoming tamei by entering a cemetery. The Gemara derived this from the ...
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Giving haircut to parent [duplicate]

Is there a problem with a child giving his/her father or mother a haircut from the aspect of kibud av v'eim? Is there also a concern that one might "nick" the skin in the process and cause a wound?
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Empty seat at the head of the table after the parent is dead

My mother, grandmother and aunts had a rule that no one was allowed to sit in the seat at the head of the table that was previously occupied by their (now) deceased husbands. They said that this was ...
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Must one give his father the head of the table?

If your father is a guest in your home for a meal (ex. Sabbath) are you under duty to give him the head of the table due to the commandment of honoring your father?
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Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?

Let's say one has an emotionally abusive parent. When the parent visits someone, she is emotionally abusive to her son and daughter in law. The abuse is so harsh that it affects Shalom Bayit in the ...
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How should you react when being scolded by a parent? [duplicate]

I read in Sefer Hachinuch mitzva 338 that a Jew is obligated to not be as a stone when he is getting degraded. But does this still stand by a parent whom you have to respect? What should you do if ...
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Visiting Deceased Loved Ones

Is it a mitzvah of some sort to visit the grave-sites of parents or other close relatives at the cemetery (as opposed to it being primarily sentimental/emotional in nature)? To what extent must one go ...