Years ago it was a popular custom that a Chasan would give out cigarettes to his friends. Nowadays some still do so, however as smoking has become less popular so has this Minhag. What is the source and reason that a Chasan gives out cigarettes?
asked May 7, 2015 at 14:59
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17Chasan Domeh LeMelekh and a king has a right to kill people at will.– Double AA ♦Commented May 7, 2015 at 15:02
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6Cause the Kalla always only agreed to marry them if they quit, so they gave them all away.– user6591Commented May 7, 2015 at 15:14
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11When I first saw this custom I asked why. I was told, "So you should find your own match."– MenachemCommented May 7, 2015 at 16:08
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2I gave cigars! I dont think everything that is done is a 'Jewish' minhag.– chamCommented May 7, 2015 at 18:22
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2I think that this should be re-asked as PTIJ next Adar ב– Noach MiFrankfurtCommented May 7, 2015 at 20:14
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Natai Gavriel (Shidduchim V'Tanaim 23:17) says this is not a good custom - and recommends giving out delicacies instead - but in the footnote notes that מנהגי לעלוב does bring this custom as a way of avoiding Eiyen Hara - in other words, of reducing any jealous reaction among those who hear the news.
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The link in your post is to this question. Cut and paste error? Commented May 8, 2015 at 2:37
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2@Bachrach44 Amazing that this post got 5 upvotes and an accept with such an error in it. Why isn't anyone checking sources???– Double AA ♦Commented May 8, 2015 at 4:51
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In my yeshiva, the custom is to bring a bag of assorted candies during breakfast.– MTLCommented May 8, 2015 at 19:12