Years ago it was a popular custom that a Chasan would give out cigarettes to his friends. Nowadays some still do so, however as smoking has become less popular so has this Minhag. What is the source and reason that a Chasan gives out cigarettes?

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    Chasan Domeh LeMelekh and a king has a right to kill people at will. – Double AA May 7 '15 at 15:02
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    Cause the Kalla always only agreed to marry them if they quit, so they gave them all away. – user6591 May 7 '15 at 15:14
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    When I first saw this custom I asked why. I was told, "So you should find your own match." – Menachem May 7 '15 at 16:08
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    I gave cigars! I dont think everything that is done is a 'Jewish' minhag. – cham May 7 '15 at 18:22
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    I think that this should be re-asked as PTIJ next Adar ב – Noach MiFrankfurt May 7 '15 at 20:14

Natai Gavriel (Shidduchim V'Tanaim 23:17) says this is not a good custom - and recommends giving out delicacies instead - but in the footnote notes that מנהגי לעלוב does bring this custom as a way of avoiding Eiyen Hara - in other words, of reducing any jealous reaction among those who hear the news.

  • The link in your post is to this question. Cut and paste error? – Popular Isn't Right May 8 '15 at 2:37
  • @Bachrach44 Fixed link – Lee May 8 '15 at 4:50
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    @Bachrach44 Amazing that this post got 5 upvotes and an accept with such an error in it. Why isn't anyone checking sources??? – Double AA May 8 '15 at 4:51
  • In my yeshiva, the custom is to bring a bag of assorted candies during breakfast. – MTL May 8 '15 at 19:12

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