Questions tagged [minhag]

Questions about Jewish customs and traditions.

Filter by
Sorted by
Tagged with
5
votes
0answers
58 views

Why is Mar son of Ravina's prayer commonly recited after Amidah?

Berachot 16b-17a lists a number of prayers that various amoraim recited at the end of Amidah. Common practice (at least in the Ashkenazi and Edot Mizrach siddurim that I've seen) seems to be to ...
2
votes
1answer
48 views

Moving a sefer torah - requirement to read three times

Rema Orach Chaim 135:1 permits one to move a sefer torah to be used in a jail as long as it placed there a day or two before it is used. I have a recollection of a custom to require a plan to read ...
6
votes
0answers
65 views

Source of wishing “Titchadesh” - תתחדש on new clothes

What is the source for wishing someone "תתחדש" for a new item of clothing? See the Rema OC:224 who brings a minhag to wish someone that bought new clothes "תבלה ותחדש". Literal translation is "You ...
3
votes
2answers
85 views

Wicks of Menorah after Chanukah

Where is the source of the Minhag to burn the oil, wicks of the menorah/Chanukiya after Chanukah?
1
vote
0answers
30 views

Lighting after maariv in shul

At my shul, the first maariv minyan on Chanukah is after teitz hachocavim (5:15, in Eretz Yisroel). It takes a couple minutes until there are ten people, and when ten people arrived some members ...
0
votes
1answer
107 views

Minhag of eating jelly doughnuts on chanukah

Many yiden have the custom to eat potato latkes or jelly doughnuts on chanukah. Who started this custom??
2
votes
0answers
51 views

Skipping tachanun [closed]

I have found some people who have a minhag to skip the takhanun and continue with vehu rachum instead. I have heard a halakha that says you're allowed to do so bediavad. Is there any posek who agrees ...
1
vote
0answers
29 views

Origin of “shaliach mitzvah” money [duplicate]

Before someone goes on a trip, there is a custom to give that person a dollar to give to tzedakah when they arrive at their destination. I have heard that the reason for this is that no harm comes to ...
2
votes
0answers
68 views

Tagim in Tefilin

I'm having tefilin written for my son's bar mitzvah, and the sofer told me that today the minhag is to only put tagim ("crowns" or "thorns") on the letters שעטנז גץ throughout the tefilin and nothing ...
5
votes
1answer
133 views

Is it fine to exploit the loophole in the laws of inheritance?

After my last question on mi yodeya, I learnt thanks to the answer and comments that a trick was possible in inheritance law according to the halacha to make daughters get the same inheritance parts ...
1
vote
2answers
70 views

Why does the Chasan perform Bedeken?

As explained in Taamei Haminhagim #950, the minhag of bedeken comes from the Pasuk in Chayei Sarah: "And she said to the servant, ‘Who is that man walking in the field towards us?’ And the servant ...
2
votes
1answer
127 views

Did Bartenura really mention this minhag?

There is a quote making the social media rounds which claims the Bartenura mentions a minhag he witnessed on his way to Jerusalem where people would drink wine before going to shul on Friday night. ...
0
votes
2answers
87 views

Which parent names the first child?

Which parent names the first child according to current custom?
5
votes
1answer
94 views

Source for the tradition of buying seats in synagogues

In many synagogues, it is common to buy a seat before the new year's day. The price for a seat often serves also as "membership fee" for membership in the synagogue community. When did this tradition ...
10
votes
3answers
314 views

Challa knife - Non serrated

Recently I met someone who told me there are those that specifically only use a non serrated Challa knife at the Shabbos meal. I was wondering if there is a source that discusses this and what is the ...
4
votes
1answer
83 views

Practice to end a speech with praying for moshiach

Something I've noticed is almost every speech, devar Torah, or words of inspiration I hear end the exact same. The speaker ends with some permutation of the following words: May we all merit to see ...
8
votes
0answers
76 views

Those who observe “Ben Zachar” at night and “Shalom Zachar” by day

There's a pretty common custom to observe what's commonly called a "Shalom Zachar" on the Friday night after a baby boy is born. People go to where the baby's father is, eat snacks, sing and share ...
0
votes
0answers
55 views

Do Women Look at Fingers for Havdala?

At least in some communities, women haven't been seen looking at their fingers during havdala for the bracha on fire. (Badei Hashulchan (96:12) – לא ראיתי שנשים יביטו בצפרנים אחר בומ״ה) Is it just me ...
2
votes
0answers
51 views

Bracha on Hallel On Rosh Chodesh

The last Tosafos on Masechet Arachin Daf 10 amud Aleph and continuing to amud Beis https://www.yutorah.org/daf.cfm/6039/arachin/10/a/ make a compelling case to recite a Bracha on Hallel. Many Sefardim ...
3
votes
0answers
69 views

Would a razor that doesn’t touch the skin be permissible?

I have seen Gillette has come out with a new razor that has as they call it a skin guard Skin Guard Razor in essence there is a piece of plastic between your face and the blade thus the shave is not ...
10
votes
3answers
4k views

Can a fiance sleep at his in-law's?

Seems to be a minhag that a fiance shall not sleep at his future in-law's house. Even just as a guest for one night. And obviously, even if there is no problem of yichud. Is there a reference in ...
4
votes
1answer
118 views

What is the basis for the custom to stand or sit by Vayivarech Dovid?

What is the basis for the customs to either stand or to sit for Vayivarech Dovid?
3
votes
1answer
49 views

Why do mourners study Mishnah Kelim, Ch. 24 and Mikvaos, Ch. 7?

Mourners traditionally study two chapters of the Mishnah, these two chapters being Kelim Ch. 24 and Mikvaos Ch. 7. Besides these sections having to do with ritual purity, what is the underlying ...
5
votes
2answers
200 views

Shacharit on י"א תשרי

I have heard that there is a minhag in ashkenazi communities to daven shacharit on the morning after yom hakippurim a bit earlier than the time that one would normally daven shacharit. Anyone have the ...
1
vote
0answers
92 views

Why is wearing two pairs of tefillin simultaneosly not a violation of Lo Titgodedu (do not create factions)?

There is a custom of some individuals to wear two pairs of tefillin at the same time. I understand based on this and similar answers that there is halachic basis for this practice. However, I believe ...
3
votes
1answer
180 views

Why don't we say “Ashrei” for Mincha of Yom Kippur?

Why don't we recite "Ashrei" during the afternoon prayer of Yom Kippur like we do for every other Mincha of the year?
2
votes
0answers
59 views

How does one put on a Gartel according to the Ashkenazi tradition?

I go to a Chabad synagogue where everyone wears black belts called gartels. When I went on a Chasidic tour to Williamsbourg I bought a black Gartel. Now that Yom Kippur is on its way I have bought a ...
1
vote
0answers
44 views

Did anyone propose switching back to using date honey on Rosh-Hashanah to dip apples?

As seen from "why-use-bee-honey-on-rosh-hashana", the use of bee honey in the minhag is clearly circumstantial - the lack of "the original" honey led to use its substitute - bee honey. Some ...
3
votes
0answers
60 views

Sources for when we change the Parochet to white

It is customary to change the Parochet, Torah covers, and some other items in the shul to white for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, and it is common practice to keep the white covers up until after ...
0
votes
0answers
56 views

Changing Hagba During Simchas Torah?

How can allusions to like "turn the Torah over because it's all in it" - הֲפֹךְ בָּהּ וַהֲפֹךְ בָּהּ, דְּכֹלָּא בָהּ [Avos 5:22]) justify putting the Torah at greater risk of falling or tearing by ...
0
votes
0answers
32 views

Possible to change tefillin from outward wrapping to inward?

Is it possible to change the tefillin shel yad from one that wraps outward to one that wraps inward? Is it necessary to re-tie the knot? Thanks in advance and shanah tovah.
3
votes
1answer
101 views

Does one need to fast if a pasul Torah is dropped?

There is a minhag to fast when a Sefer Torah is dropped. Does this apply if the dropped Torah was pasul (not "kosher")? My thinking - a pasul Torah is not a "true" Torah in the sense that it can be ...
3
votes
0answers
25 views

Giving Gift to Mourning Spouse?

Although the Rema (YD 385:3) writes ואסור לשלוח מנות לאבל על אביו ואמו כל י"ב חדש - It is forbidden to send [or bring] gifts to one who is in mourning for his father or mother, throughout the ...
4
votes
2answers
139 views

Why use bee honey on Rosh Hashana?

The honey in "land of milk and honey" is date honey (I believe), and yet most people use bee honey on Rosh Hashana. Does it matter what kind of honey you use at all?
2
votes
0answers
21 views

Does the concept of “leaving a sefer open leads to forgetfulness” apply to Torah on a computer screen?

(related: "Leaving Sefarim Open and forgetfulness") The Be'er Hetev in Yoreh Deah 277 quotes the Bach who states: וכתב הב''ח מכאן יש ללמוד שלא ילך אדם חוץ ויניח הספר פתוח [...] מי שמניח ספר פתוח ...
3
votes
1answer
93 views

Source for Red Apples?

Rav Yisroel Reisman (Ki Savo 5775) mentions an interesting concept for dipping apples in honey, The Mechabeir says that a sweet apple is typically red. I have seen those who wonder of why we use ...
1
vote
0answers
85 views

List of establishing rabbis for each set of minhagim [closed]

I am a baal teshuva who is becoming orthodox and wondering what customs to hold. Is there a list of important rabbis who set minhagim (ie ashkenazi, sephardi yekki, chabad, notable subgroups, etc) and ...
2
votes
0answers
94 views

Is switching customs allowed?

To what extent are, say, Ashkenazic Jews halachically obligated to follow Ashkenazic customs by, say, refraining from eating kitniyot on Pessah? Chullin 110a-b says: Follow the restrictions of the ...
6
votes
1answer
172 views

If a man converts to Judaism, does his already-Jewish son have to follow the custom his father decides to follow?

If a man converts to Judaism and follows Sephardic customs, and his son (who is Jewish-by-birth or has already converted) follows Ashkenazic customs, does the son have to follow his father and also ...
1
vote
2answers
96 views

Married Jewish women and tzedaka

Are married Jewish women permitted to give tzedaka by themselves? Are they required to give it only together with their husband? There seems to be some question about this based on the Rashi and ...
2
votes
0answers
52 views

Birkat kohanim at shacharit and ne'ilah of Yom Kippur

Rema Orach Chayyim 128:44 notes that some Ashkenazi communities recite birkat kohanim at ne'ilah of Yom Kippur, and some even at shacharit. Every Ashkenazi synagogue (outside of Israel) that I've ...
10
votes
2answers
493 views

Shabbat clothing on shabbat chazon

The rema writes in סימן תקנ"א that on shabbat chazon one does not wear shabbat clothing and instead one wears weekday clothing. אפי' בשבת של חזון אין מחליפין ללבוש בגדי שבת כי אם הכתונת לבד (מרדכי ...
1
vote
0answers
66 views

Source for not whistling at night?

I have heard that one is not allowed to whistle at night, something to do with bringing demons. does anyone know a source for this?
1
vote
0answers
31 views

Number of times the names of the husband & wife appear on the Ketubah

From a few Ketubot that I've seen, it seems that the husband's name is written 6x and the wife's name is written 3x. Is there a specific number of times a husband's and wife's names should appear on ...
3
votes
1answer
262 views

When were “acrobatics” introduced at weddings?

The "earliest" samples of "acrobatics" that I have seen at weddings were bottle dancers, which seemed to be popular among Hassidim, and I guess originated from Russian custom. The Talmud mentions in ...
0
votes
2answers
92 views

Origin of wearing a hat [duplicate]

Wearing a hat has become so widespread in the orthodox community but what is it’s origin? Is it based off of anything from the Torah or Chazal? How old is the custom to wear a hat? And when did it ...
1
vote
0answers
25 views

Why do women wave their hands in front of the Shabbos candles before making the bracha? [duplicate]

There seems to be a widespread custom among women to wave their hands in front of Shabbos candles before making a bracha on them. I have never seen men do this when lighting the Shabbos candles. Why ...
2
votes
0answers
47 views

Eating an Egg Whole

Is there a basis for this custom that one may not bite into an egg which is still whole, but must be first cut or broken in two, unless it's a time of mourning (aveilut) and only then the egg is ...
4
votes
1answer
60 views

Custom to specifically have whiskey after fish because of danger

The Rema (YD 116:3) says to eat something and drink something between having fish and meat. Many have the custom to specifically make a lechaim between fish and meat, meaning they have something ...
1
vote
0answers
43 views

Shuls that say Hungarian Selichos?

Are there any shuls (I'm preferably looking for shuls in Yerushalayim) that say the Hungarian(/Bohemian/Moravian/Silesian) selichos for the Yemei HaSelichos? (This is the selichos that is found in ...