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Leviticus 19:32 מִפְּנֵי שֵׂיבָה תָּקוּם, וְהָדַרְתָּ פְּנֵי זָקֵן Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head, and honour the face of the old man The Talmud (Kiddushin 32b) understands this to refer (in addition to the elderly) to any Torah scholar, and so it is codified in Shulchan Arukh (YD 244:1) that one must stand to honor a Torah scholar who passes ...


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I think in modern Hebrew it's אזכרה - Azkara.


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R Eli Mansour explains here During the times of the Beth Hamikdash, those who were unable to bring their sacrifices on the day of Shavuot itself – which in Israel is celebrated only on the sixth of Sivan - were allowed to do so during the six days following Shavuot, through the twelfth of Sivan As such some don't say Tahanun in the week after ...


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I asked this question just this week to HaRav Zundel Kroizer. I asked if I could fly to EY knowing I would miss minyanim and kadeshim during the flight, but improve my learning here. He said the zchus of learning was far greater.


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The halacha does not differntiate between one mourning for a mother or a father in terms of priority for any of the chiyuv davening activities. In fact, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:16 states that even one who is mourning for both a mother and a father does not get priority over one mourning for another relative.


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 77:4 in the name of Orach Chaim 568:7 and Rama Yoreh Deah 402:12 and Maharash 457 that the day of the Yarzheit is always the day of death. However Shaalos U'Tshuvos Massas Binyamin 84 says that this is only after the first year, since if it is celebrated on the day of death on the first year, at times they will not have completed the ...


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The "simcha" of R. Shimon bar Yochi on Lag b'Omer is that he began his studies with R. Akiva. After the plague of R. Akiva's students ended, R. Shimon bar Yochi was one of the 5 students who formed the new generation of students to continue learning under R. Akiva. (This accords with the manuscripts which say not that "he died" on Lag b'Omer but that it was ...


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In my experience. . . Generally, yes, and many knowledgeable people I've met who have a lot of siyumim under their belts don't seem to mind that much about it (which I have always found surprising). Usually not. Indeed things relating to anniversaries generally ignore the time of day and rather calculate the reocurrence of the original date's day as their ...


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The most common expression I have heard - "May the neshama have an aliyah". The concept is that while the physical body remains in the earth, the dead person's neshama (soul) should rise to Gan Eden, and this is based on the person's merits. See www.jewishanswers.org for details. (I'll edit the full link, later, B"N.)


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In Britain (certainly in Scotland) many ashkenazim say "you should have a long life" (not said as some kind of irony when being said to the one commemorating the yahrzeit but said in recognition of the mitvza of kibud av va'aym (honoring one's parents) which is reflected in their observance of their p'tira (passing) ).


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus 2 - 77:1 says that there are those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the earlier day, those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the later day, and those that say to hold the Yahrzheit both days. Those that say the Yahrzheit should be held the earlier day include Zechor L'Avraham, Shut Knaf Ranana OC 55, Darchei Hachaim ...


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Birke Yosef (OC 284) holds that when two people have otherwise equal obligation/right to an aliya to the Torah, but one is a talmid chacham, then the other gets the aliya. One of his arguments is that a talmid chacham can study in the merit of the deceased, whereas the other fellow has no merit comparable to an aliya. Nit'e Gavriel (Avelus volume 2, chapter ...


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In Rosh ha-Shanah 10b-11a, there is a Machaloqet between R. Eli'ezer and R. Yehoshu'a over when, amongst other events, the Avot( Avraham and Ya'aqov) died: תניא רבי אליעזר אומר בתשרי נברא העולם בתשרי נולדו אבות בתשרי מתו אבות בפסח נולד יצחק בראש השנה נפקדה שרה רחל וחנה בראש השנה יצא יוסף מבית האסורין בר"ה בטלה עבודה מאבותינו במצרים בניסן נגאלו בתשרי ...


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As this is for you a practical question, I really suggest you ask the rabbi of your local, orthodox synagogue. Besides always relying on your rabbi for practical questions rather than relying on answers you get here, there's a special consideration in the case of this question: Synagogues' practices differ w.r.t. the answer to your question, w.r.t. who says ...


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The source of this custom is a letter (From Rosh Chodesh Shvat 5711) of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, where he writes what one should do for the first Yahrtzeit (10 Shevat 5711) of the Previous Lubavitcher Rebbe: להדליק נר שידלק כל המעת לעת. אם אפשר בקל - נר של שעוה. A yahrtzeit candle should be lit that will burn for the entire twenty-four hours. If ...


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The easiest way that my wife and I have found is to slowly pour warm water onto the candlesticks or you can use a hot damp towel and rub it over the wax. It will loosen up the wax enough so that you can peel it off in pieces and discard them. I'd imagine this method should work with yahrtzeit candles, but, I tend to discard them in the garbage after ...


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I always thought of it as יום הזכרון Kitzur Shulchan Oruch 128(6) translates someone who has a יאר צייט as a בעל יום זכרון So יום זכרון (without the ה) could have been a translation if not for אזכרה.


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Nitei Gavriel - Aveilus 2 - 75:1 says that there are those that light the Yarzheit candle before sunset. He says in the notes on bottom see next page - note 2 that is the Minhag Chabad. Based on this I would say one can do as they please and light the candle whenever is best for them.


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According to this essay by Rabbi Yossi Jacobson: Before his passing, Rabbi Shimon instructed his disciples to observe his yahrzeit (the day of his death) as a time of joy and festivity The sources for this: See Zohar vol. 3 p. 287b; p. 291a. Pri Aitz Chaim Shaar Sefiras Haomer chapter 7; Shaar Hakavanos Sefiras Haomer Derush # 12. Mishnas Chassidim (...


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Eliezer Brodt claims here that the death aspect of it is all based on a misprint: Rabi Shim'on bar Yochai wasn't dead. He was happy!


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See the story about the Baal Shem Tov knowing about the Ohr HaChayim's death because he (the Baal Shem Tov) had received the secret of hand washing, which had previously been entrusted to the Ohr HaChayim. From there: Chassidic tradition is that the main reason the Baal Shem Tov twice tried so hard (and failed) to get to the Holy Land was that he said if ...


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Old shuls in Europe have these plaques as well, but without the lights. Is your question when (and why) lights were added, or when these plaques were first used? I recall from Medieval Jewish History classes that the concept/importance of Yahrtzeit was popularized in the aftermath of the Crusades.


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HaRav Yechiel Yaacov Weinberg says here that he should, since it's normal human behavior, and if the second wife dislikes it she actually stats that he lacks that normal etiquette RE-EDIT: actually, Hrav Ovadia Yalkut Yosef - Avlut 23 14 also state the same thing implicitly. he says that in reversed situation (where the wife wants to make a memorial to her ...


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I have been told by a Rabbi whom I greatly respect that he has permitted geirim, along with the Jewish son of a non-Jewish father and a Jewish mother, to say Kaddish for their non-Jewish parent(s). I believe that much of his reasoning was based on Kibbud Av v'Em (which continues to apply to one's non-Jewish parents even after conversion where one is ...


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Some of this is conjecture on my part, but it seems like Rashi commentary discusses why we need all these dates (except Aharon's passing). He seems to be implicitly answering your question. The first census Rashi (Bamidbar 1:1) says that G-d often counted the Jews because He loved them. The Maskil Ledavid, in his commentary on Rashi, explains that all the ...


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Davening from the amud is not an obligation indeed, and if someone else has priority one is not obligated to find another minyan in order to daven from the amud. It is a custom as a way of honoring one’s parent. R Avraham Yosef (previously Chief Rabbi of Holon, son of R Ovadia Yosef) was asked last Friday on his weekly radio halacha Q&A "what does one ...


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Some say in Yiddish די נשמה זול האבען אן עלייה May the neshama have an aliyah


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This question is more of a Lifehacks Stack Exchange question, but I will give you some of my advice on how to deal with glass votive containers such as the ones that are used for Yahrtzeit candles. The first step is to use your oven. Get a metal baking/roasting pan, put the glass containers—votives, whatever…—onto the sheet upside down. Place them in the ...


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"The sages taught: Tashmishei mitzva (objects used to perform a mitzva) may be discarded; tashmishei kedusha (accessories of kedusha) are buried. And these are tashmishei mitzva: a succa, lulav, shofar and tzitzit. And these are tashmishei kedusha: cases of books (=Torah scrolls), tefillin and mezuzot, a bag of a Torah scroll, the sack of tefillin, and its ...


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