מִפְּנֵי שֵׂיבָה תָּקוּם, וְהָדַרְתָּ פְּנֵי זָקֵן
Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head, and honour the face of the old man
The Talmud (Kiddushin 32b) understands this to refer (in addition to the elderly) to any Torah scholar, and so it is codified in Shulchan Arukh (YD 244:1) that one must stand to honor a Torah scholar who passes ...
R Eli Mansour explains here
During the times of the Beth Hamikdash, those who were unable to bring
their sacrifices on the day of Shavuot itself – which in Israel is
celebrated only on the sixth of Sivan - were allowed to do so during
the six days following Shavuot, through the twelfth of Sivan
As such some don't say Tahanun in the week after ...
I asked this question just this week to HaRav Zundel Kroizer. I asked if I could fly to EY knowing I would miss minyanim and kadeshim during the flight, but improve my learning here. He said the zchus of learning was far greater.
The halacha does not differntiate between one mourning for a mother or a father in terms of priority for any of the chiyuv davening activities. In fact, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:16 states that even one who is mourning for both a mother and a father does not get priority over one mourning for another relative.
Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 77:4 in the name of Orach Chaim 568:7 and Rama Yoreh Deah 402:12 and Maharash 457 that the day of the Yarzheit is always the day of death. However Shaalos U'Tshuvos Massas Binyamin 84 says that this is only after the first year, since if it is celebrated on the day of death on the first year, at times they will not have completed the ...
In my experience. . .
Generally, yes, and many knowledgeable people I've met who have a lot of siyumim under their belts don't seem to mind that much about it (which I have always found surprising).
Usually not. Indeed things relating to anniversaries generally ignore the time of day and rather calculate the reocurrence of the original date's day as their ...
The most common expression I have heard - "May the neshama have an aliyah".
The concept is that while the physical body remains in the earth, the dead person's neshama (soul) should rise to Gan Eden, and this is based on the person's merits. See www.jewishanswers.org for details. (I'll edit the full link, later, B"N.)
In Britain (certainly in Scotland) many ashkenazim say "you should have a long life" (not said as some kind of irony when being said to the one commemorating the yahrzeit but said in recognition of the mitvza of kibud av va'aym (honoring one's parents) which is reflected in their observance of their p'tira (passing) ).
Nitei Gavriel Aveilus 2 - 77:1 says that there are those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the earlier day, those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the later day, and those that say to hold the Yahrzheit both days.
Those that say the Yahrzheit should be held the earlier day include Zechor L'Avraham, Shut Knaf Ranana OC 55, Darchei Hachaim ...
As this is for you a practical question, I really suggest you ask the rabbi of your local, orthodox synagogue. Besides always relying on your rabbi for practical questions rather than relying on answers you get here, there's a special consideration in the case of this question: Synagogues' practices differ w.r.t. the answer to your question, w.r.t. who says ...
Birke Yosef (OC 284) holds that when two people have otherwise equal obligation/right to an aliya to the Torah, but one is a talmid chacham, then the other gets the aliya. One of his arguments is that a talmid chacham can study in the merit of the deceased, whereas the other fellow has no merit comparable to an aliya.
Nit'e Gavriel (Avelus volume 2, chapter ...
In Rosh ha-Shanah 10b-11a, there is a Machaloqet between R. Eli'ezer and R. Yehoshu'a over when, amongst other events, the Avot( Avraham and Ya'aqov) died:
תניא רבי אליעזר אומר בתשרי נברא העולם בתשרי נולדו אבות בתשרי מתו אבות בפסח נולד יצחק בראש השנה נפקדה שרה רחל וחנה בראש השנה יצא יוסף מבית האסורין בר"ה בטלה עבודה מאבותינו במצרים בניסן נגאלו בתשרי ...
Davening from the amud is not an obligation indeed, and if someone else has priority one is not obligated to find another minyan in order to daven from the amud. It is a custom as a way of honoring one’s parent.
R Avraham Yosef (previously Chief Rabbi of Holon, son of R Ovadia Yosef) was asked last Friday on his weekly radio halacha Q&A "what does one ...
The source of this custom is a letter (From Rosh Chodesh Shvat 5711) of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, where he writes what one should do for the first Yahrtzeit (10 Shevat 5711) of the Previous Lubavitcher Rebbe:
להדליק נר שידלק כל המעת לעת. אם אפשר בקל - נר של שעוה.
A yahrtzeit candle should be lit that will burn for the entire twenty-four hours. If ...
The easiest way that my wife and I have found is to slowly pour warm water onto the candlesticks or you can use a hot damp towel and rub it over the wax. It will loosen up the wax enough so that you can peel it off in pieces and discard them.
I'd imagine this method should work with yahrtzeit candles, but, I tend to discard them in the garbage after ...
Nitei Gavriel - Aveilus 2 - 75:1 says that there are those that light the Yarzheit candle before sunset. He says in the notes on bottom see next page - note 2 that is the Minhag Chabad.
Based on this I would say one can do as they please and light the candle whenever is best for them.
Some of this is conjecture on my part, but it seems like Rashi commentary discusses why we need all these dates (except Aharon's passing). He seems to be implicitly answering your question.
The first census
Rashi (Bamidbar 1:1) says that G-d often counted the Jews because He loved them. The Maskil Ledavid, in his commentary on Rashi, explains that all the ...
See the story about the Baal Shem Tov knowing about the Ohr HaChayim's death because he (the Baal Shem Tov) had received the secret of hand washing, which had previously been entrusted to the Ohr HaChayim.
Chassidic tradition is that the main reason the Baal Shem Tov twice tried so hard (and failed) to get to the Holy Land was that he said if ...
Old shuls in Europe have these plaques as well, but without the lights. Is your question when (and why) lights were added, or when these plaques were first used? I recall from Medieval Jewish History classes that the concept/importance of Yahrtzeit was popularized in the aftermath of the Crusades.
HaRav Yechiel Yaacov Weinberg says here that he should, since it's normal human behavior, and if the second wife dislikes it she actually stats that he lacks that normal etiquette
RE-EDIT: actually, Hrav Ovadia Yalkut Yosef - Avlut 23 14 also state the same thing implicitly. he says that in reversed situation (where the wife wants to make a memorial to her ...
I have been told by a Rabbi whom I greatly respect that he has permitted geirim, along with the Jewish son of a non-Jewish father and a Jewish mother, to say Kaddish for their non-Jewish parent(s).
I believe that much of his reasoning was based on Kibbud Av v'Em (which continues to apply to one's non-Jewish parents even after conversion where one is ...
According to this essay by Rabbi Yossi Jacobson:
Before his passing, Rabbi Shimon instructed his disciples to observe his yahrzeit (the day of his death) as a time of joy and festivity
The sources for this:
See Zohar vol. 3 p. 287b; p. 291a. Pri Aitz Chaim Shaar Sefiras Haomer chapter 7; Shaar Hakavanos Sefiras Haomer Derush # 12. Mishnas Chassidim (...
This question is more of a Lifehacks Stack Exchange question, but I will give you some of my advice on how to deal with glass votive containers such as the ones that are used for Yahrtzeit candles.
The first step is to use your oven. Get a metal baking/roasting pan, put the glass containers—votives, whatever…—onto the sheet upside down. Place them in the ...
"The sages taught: Tashmishei mitzva (objects used to perform a mitzva) may be discarded; tashmishei kedusha (accessories of kedusha) are buried.
And these are tashmishei mitzva: a succa, lulav, shofar and tzitzit.
And these are tashmishei kedusha: cases of books (=Torah scrolls), tefillin and mezuzot, a bag of a Torah scroll, the sack of tefillin, and its ...
Tur Orach Chaim 90 says that that learning can always be done later, however Tefila b'Tzibur can not and therefore Tefila B'Tzibur is first.
ומיהו א"א ז"ל כתב בתשובת שאלה, וז"ל: טוב להתפלל עם הצבור בעשרה כי זמן
תפלה לחוד וזמן תורה לחוד, וגם אין תורתנו כל כך אומנתנו ובהרבה שעות
ביום אנו מתבטלין, נבטל תורתינו בשעת תפלה ונשלם אותה בשעות אחרות ונצא
The main things done for a yahrtzeit are:
Getting Maftir on the Shabbos before
Getting an Aliya to the torah
Davening from the Amud
Learning mishnayos l'ilui nishmas the niftar
Lighting a yahrtziet candle
Going to the kever and reciting certain pirkei Tehilim
Reciting Kel Maleh Rachamim
Of all the above listed items, the only ones ...