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Leviticus 19:32 מִפְּנֵי שֵׂיבָה תָּקוּם, וְהָדַרְתָּ פְּנֵי זָקֵן Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head, and honour the face of the old man The Talmud (Kiddushin 32b) understands this to refer (in addition to the elderly) to any Torah scholar, and so it is codified in Shulchan Arukh (YD 244:1) that one must stand to honor a Torah scholar who passes ...


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R Eli Mansour explains here During the times of the Beth Hamikdash, those who were unable to bring their sacrifices on the day of Shavuot itself – which in Israel is celebrated only on the sixth of Sivan - were allowed to do so during the six days following Shavuot, through the twelfth of Sivan As such some don't say Tahanun in the week after ...


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus 2 - 77:1 says that there are those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the earlier day, those that say it is best to hold the Yahrzheit the later day, and those that say to hold the Yahrzheit both days. Those that say the Yahrzheit should be held the earlier day include Zechor L'Avraham, Shut Knaf Ranana OC 55, Darchei Hachaim ...


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In Britain (certainly in Scotland) many ashkenazim say "you should have a long life" (not said as some kind of irony when being said to the one commemorating the yahrzeit but said in recognition of the mitvza of kibud av va'aym (honoring one's parents) which is reflected in their observance of their p'tira (passing) ).


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 77:4 in the name of Orach Chaim 568:7 and Rama Yoreh Deah 402:12 and Maharash 457 that the day of the Yarzheit is always the day of death. However Shaalos U'Tshuvos Massas Binyamin 84 says that this is only after the first year, since if it is celebrated on the day of death on the first year, at times they will not have completed the ...


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The most common expression I have heard - "May the neshama have an aliyah". The concept is that while the physical body remains in the earth, the dead person's neshama (soul) should rise to Gan Eden, and this is based on the person's merits. See www.jewishanswers.org for details. (I'll edit the full link, later, B"N.)


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Davening from the amud is not an obligation indeed, and if someone else has priority one is not obligated to find another minyan in order to daven from the amud. It is a custom as a way of honoring one’s parent. R Avraham Yosef (previously Chief Rabbi of Holon, son of R Ovadia Yosef) was asked last Friday on his weekly radio halacha Q&A "what does one ...


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The source of this custom is a letter (From Rosh Chodesh Shvat 5711) of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, where he writes what one should do for the first Yahrtzeit (10 Shevat 5711) of the Previous Lubavitcher Rebbe: להדליק נר שידלק כל המעת לעת. אם אפשר בקל - נר של שעוה. A yahrtzeit candle should be lit that will burn for the entire twenty-four hours. If possible, the ...


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The easiest way that my wife and I have found is to slowly pour warm water onto the candlesticks or you can use a hot damp towel and rub it over the wax. It will loosen up the wax enough so that you can peel it off in pieces and discard them. I'd imagine this method should work with yahrtzeit candles, but, I tend to discard them in the garbage after ...


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The Mishnah Berurah 154:56 writes that one should not use a ner from the bais kenesses to light a tobacco pipe, but one may use a yartzeit candle to do so. The Piskei Teshuvos 514 brings this source as well that one can use a yartzeit candle for their own personal needs when necessary. So according to these opinions it would be permissible to take fire ...


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Some say in Yiddish די נשמה זול האבען אן עלייה May the neshama have an aliyah


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Nitei Gavriel - Aveilus 2 - 75:1 says that there are those that light the Yarzheit candle before sunset. He says in the notes on bottom see next page - note 2 that is the Minhag Chabad. Based on this I would say one can do as they please and light the candle whenever is best for them.


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See the story about the Baal Shem Tov knowing about the Ohr HaChayim's death because he (the Baal Shem Tov) had received the secret of hand washing, which had previously been entrusted to the Ohr HaChayim. From there: Chassidic tradition is that the main reason the Baal Shem Tov twice tried so hard (and failed) to get to the Holy Land was that he said if ...


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Old shuls in Europe have these plaques as well, but without the lights. Is your question when (and why) lights were added, or when these plaques were first used? I recall from Medieval Jewish History classes that the concept/importance of Yahrtzeit was popularized in the aftermath of the Crusades.


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HaRav Yechiel Yaacov Weinberg says here that he should, since it's normal human behavior, and if the second wife dislikes it she actually stats that he lacks that normal etiquette RE-EDIT: actually, Hrav Ovadia Yalkut Yosef - Avlut 23 14 also state the same thing implicitly. he says that in reversed situation (where the wife wants to make a memorial to her ...


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I have been told by a Rabbi whom I greatly respect that he has permitted geirim, along with the Jewish son of a non-Jewish father and a Jewish mother, to say Kaddish for their non-Jewish parent(s). I believe that much of his reasoning was based on Kibbud Av v'Em (which continues to apply to one's non-Jewish parents even after conversion where one is ...


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This question is more of a Lifehacks Stack Exchange question, but I will give you some of my advice on how to deal with glass votive containers such as the ones that are used for Yahrtzeit candles. The first step is to use your oven. Get a metal baking/roasting pan, put the glass containers—votives, whatever…—onto the sheet upside down. Place them in the ...


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"The sages taught: Tashmishei mitzva (objects used to perform a mitzva) may be discarded; tashmishei kedusha (accessories of kedusha) are buried. And these are tashmishei mitzva: a succa, lulav, shofar and tzitzit. And these are tashmishei kedusha: cases of books (=Torah scrolls), tefillin and mezuzot, a bag of a Torah scroll, the sack of tefillin, and its ...


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The main things done for a yahrtzeit are: Getting Maftir on the Shabbos before Getting an Aliya to the torah Davening from the Amud Learning mishnayos l'ilui nishmas the niftar Lighting a yahrtziet candle Saying Kaddish Going to the kever and reciting certain pirkei Tehilim Reciting Kel Maleh Rachamim Fasting Of all the above listed items, the only ones ...


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The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch in 221:1 says that those who always fast on a Yahrzeit have the Din of one who made a Neder to fast. Such a person does not need to accept the fast the day before, the same way those who fast at other known times - e.g. Selichot or Erev Rosh Hashana - don't have to, as is implied in Siman 127:3.


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My son is the gabbai of our shul and he followed the minhag of our shul by announcing that he would be doing Kail Malei for each person who needed it at Mincha of Shabbos Mevorchim. Everyone who needed it came up at Mincha to have it done. Our shul has three mincha minyonim on Shabbos (after Daylight Savings Time starts), 2 P.M., 5:30 P.M. and a later mincha ...


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You asked: What about at the end of the day? The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch in סימן כו - דיני קדיש יתום says: סעיף כ"א: מִי שֶׁהָיָה לוֹ יָאהרְצַיְיט, וְלֹא [הָיָה] יָכוֹל לוֹמַר קַדִּישׁ, כְּגוֹן, שֶׁהָיָה בַּדֶּרֶךְ, אוֹ שֶׁלֹּא הִגִּיעַ לוֹ קַדִּישׁ, יָכוֹל לוֹמַר קַדִּישׁ בִּתְפִלַּת עַרְבִית שֶׁלְּאַחַר הַיָּאהרְצַיְיט. ‏ So it's documented that ...


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It is not mutar to miss a minyan lechatchila. However, if there is such a circumstance (such as being in a city with no minyan) then one can arrange for someone else to say kaddish. Another reason for this to occur is to be in a minyan in which only one person says kaddish (rather than a group) and the individual involved cannot get a kaddish opportunity. ...


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There are many ways people celebrate a YorTzeit. One of the ways as done in Yeshivas is to have a shiur in honor of the deceased. This is based on an ancient practice as seen in Rashi in Yevamos top of 122a. He quotes the Gaonim that having the Talmudic academies assemble at the grave of a Rabbi on the anniversary of his death was a way to honor him. ...


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus 2 - 70:1 says that the Neshama gets judged on the day of the Yahrzheit. He quotes this in the name of the Arizal - Shaar Hakavanos, Lechem Hapanim 376, Mishmeres Shalom in the name of the Baal Shem Tov, Sh"ut Torah Lishma 493, Nishmas Chaim and others.


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This custom is brought in various modern Chassidic sefarim. See Chayei Halevi and מנהג ישראל תורה ח''א סי' קלא R' Yaakov Yosef quotes the Minchas Yitzchak who challenges this custom, as surely every day is someone prominent's Yartzheit, and so Tachanun may never be said!


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When to do "missing" Nissan "Kel Maleh"? According to the answer given here one should say the kel maleh on the shabbat preceding the yahrtzeit or the last shabbat before the yahrtzeit that one can say a kel maleh.


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Rav Shlomo Aviner at kipa.co.il rejects a connection between the memorial lights in shul and the נר של מתים mentioned in ברכות נג א and the נר יהא דלוק במקומו mentioned by רבי יהודה הנשיא in כתובות קג. Extract of the Hebrew Text below: He says that the Rishonim (= leading rabbis who were deciders of Jewish law and lived between 1050 and 1500) wrote in ...


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It is sometimes quoted that Kadish and / or Yahrtzeit are not kept longer than 50 (not 100) years after the deceased's passing. Yet, The ספר ציץ אליעזר חלק יד' סימן עה, סעיף ב and ספר ציוני הלכה הלכות אבלות - Authored by הרב בן ציון הכהן קוק - in the name of R' Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, and R' Ovadia Yosef ספר חזון עובדיה על הלכות אבלות חלק ג' (עמודים רלז-רלח) ...


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Burn a tea light in the glass after using it, and once the tea light has burned out, remove the metal case from the glass and the remaining wax in the bottom of the glass should come out with it. The heat from the metal tea light case will have melted the remaining wax onto itself.


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