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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

The Rema writes in the first Halacha of Shulchan Aruch (Partial Quote) וְלֹא יִתְבַּיֵּשׁ מִפְּנֵי בְּנֵי אָדָם הַמַּלְעִיגִים עָלָיו בַּעֲבוֹדַת ה' יִתְבָּרַךְ גַּם בְּהֶצְנֵעַ לֶכֶת. And ...
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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

There is not such a thing as "too orthodox", no. There can be such a thing as "too pushy" when people are too direct in trying to change others, but that's not the situation you've described. Never ...
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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

You might be a source of inspiration for others that want to be more observant. Keep going.
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Why are challenges to respected rabbis not treated seriously?

If you find that your questions are not being received as they were intended and they were asked with the proper deference (כבוד רבך ככבוד שמים), perhaps you need to ask your question of authorities ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

Among those Rabbis that I know, if/when they are approached by someone who wasn't raised as a Jew but has a Jewish maternal grandparent, they welcome them with open arms as Jews, albeit Jews who have ...
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Where in US can someone go for sanctuary to repent for their intermarriage?

Sounds like you have a very complicated situation. This may be a job for a therapist. Again, concepts of "sanctuary for repentance" don't really fit with the vocabulary of Judaism. But for theory's ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

No, the rabbi wouldn't find it strange. & Yes, he would accepted you at the spot as 100% jewish. And I can tell you from my own personal experience they would be even very happy!
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If I daven amida very slowly what do I do when the shatz reaches Kedusha?

Orach Chaim 104:7 & Aruch Hahulchan 104:13 say that one who is in middle of Shemona Esrei when the Chazan reaches Kedusha should remain quiet and listen to the Chazan recite the Kedusha and it is ...
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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

The word "Orthodox" is ambiguous. Technically, it is a sociological grouping. Because in practice, that group is of people trying to observe classical notions of halakhah, we think of "Orthodox" as ...
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What is the proper procedure for answering parts of Kedusha?

The original method (dating back to the Tosefta Berakhot 1:11) which was uniformly practiced in all locations (Ashkenaz, Poland, Spain, North Africa, Yemen, Italy, etc.) is simply the leader recites ...
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Can a mistaken extra Mincha count for Ma'ariv?

Mishchas Shemen volume 2:123 asks this exact question. He concludes that he has to Daven Maariv again.
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When there are four aveilim (mourners), Is it better to have one minyan of 40 people or 4 minyonim of ten each?

Rav Moshe Feinstein (Igrot Moshe YD 4:61:4) ruled they should not split up because of BeRov Am, and all the more so in a case where the extra group would not be in a Shul or even a room without a ...
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How Should I Pray When Alone?

Take a look at this page. This is the summary: In conclusion, you do not recite: Kaddish. Barchu. The additional prayers recited during the chazzan's repetition of the amidah. G d's ...
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Do I have to worry about "Maris Ayin" if my kashrut standards are different than the majority of a community?

No. You do not have to worry about Marit Ayin. Marit Ayin is when a Jew does something technically permitted, but may cause someone to reason that a different activity is permitted, when in fact, it ...
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Why are challenges to respected rabbis not treated seriously?

The way in which The asker claims to have been answered is certainly questionable. I think it depends on who is being asked. With people in general, it probably stems from humans being human. They ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

I was in a similar situation a decade ago. The Rabbi of the orthodox shul looked into my background and accepted me and made me feel welcome. You never know where such things lead and I'm now on the ...
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How to start שחרית at the עמוד if one's already said ישתבח

Rama discusses a similar situation in ShA OC 54:3 where, after reciting Yishtabach, the congregation halted the prayer service for specific Mitzva/communal needs. He recommends in that case for the ...
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Where can one find frum friends?

The above answer is excellent. One thing many shuls provide are shiurim (classes) on various subjects, and this another excellent way to meet a friendly group of people. If your neighborhood has a ...
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How can we get people to stop talking (much, loudly) during minyan?

My personal experience, as Shaliach tzibur, to silence the Schul talkers has been to stop as soon as I sensed any utterances coming from the congregation. Following a few seconds of showing my "...
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Tircha D'Tzibbur vs. Kavod Hatorah - which wins?

Machzor Vitri - page 206 brings a story on Rosh Chodesh which was Chanuka where they took out 2 Sefer Torahs and the person who read the Torah, in error read 4 Aliyos in Rosh Chodesh and the Halacha ...
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Saying tachanun when the tzibbur doesn't

I asked this question to Reb Dovid Feinstein with respect to a Chassidish shul that skips Tachanun on various days when I don't, and he said I could ignore that custom and say Tachanun there.
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Why can't we distribute mitzvah obligations around the community?

See the Tosfos Rid in Maseches Kiddushin 42b: התוס' רי"ד: "יש מקשים, אם כן לכל דבר מצוה יועיל השליח, ויאמר אדם לחברו: שב בסוכה עבורי, הנח תפילין עבורי! ולאו מילתא היא, שהמצוה שחייבו המקום ...
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Colourful Tallitot

Let's assume the question is the color of the garment, not the stripes. There is actually some (small) halachic basis for such an argument (in addition to whatever "soft" concerns about distraction, ...
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What are the parameters of Tircha D'Tzibbur

This article has a fairly detailed explanation of Tircha D'tzibbur. It discusses various places where this is mentioned in the Gemarrah, and which halachot apply as well as practical applications. In ...
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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

No there isn't.. Truth is truth..No name can change it..If it is changed then it doesn't remain truth..So if one one obeys the truth,people's remarks does not matter.. It happens just because people ...
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Is there such a thing as "too Orthodox"?

Yes. One is "too Orthodox" when one judges others for shortcomings other than sheer evil; when one hates people (for the group they belong to); when one no longer feels or acts like a part of humanity;...
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Who is the Veretzky Rebbe that's been coming up everywhere?

The Veretzky Rebbe you speak of is Rabbi Yitzchak Isaac Labin of Bnei Brak. His father is Rabbi Naftali Tzvi Labin of Ziditchov. They are both descendants of Rabbi Yissachar Berish Eichenstein of ...
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Does Kabbalas Shabbos require a minyan?

At least during the pandemic, Rabbi Mordechai Willig shlit'a has led Kabbalas Shabbos up until Mizmor Shir on Zoom, with guitar. (From KolCorona). Which strongly implies not a minyan. בפראג נהגו ...
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Sefardi praying schacharit with Ashkenazim

Tachanun According to Halacha Berurah 131:2, a Sepharadi davening with Ashkenazim needs to say vidui, and the 13 midot. Apparently, he should say the 13 midot with ta'amim (as he would if he were ...
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Singing too loudly in shul

In the laws of Rosh Hashana The Mechaber mentions that even though a whole year one should not daven with a raised voice on Rosh Hashana it is permitted since people are davening from a Machzor and ...
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