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Thinking of another woman during sex

The Talmud (Nedarim 20b) expresses this in a slight riddle. Says Rebbi: Once should not drink from a cup whilst thinking about another cup. Based on the verse (Num. 15:39) ‘do not stray after ...
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Reading Shna'yim mikrah vi'echad targum aloud

R. Moshe Sternbauch addresses this in his Teshuvot V'hanahagot (Vol. IV #73): והנה לכאורה פשוט דתרגום אונקלוס צריך לקרוא בפיו דוקא ולא מספיק בהרהור, ולפ"ז אולי גם כשלומד רש"י לתרגום הדין כן, שיש ...
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Thinking of another woman during sex

Rambam Issurei Biah 21:12 "וְכֵן אָסְרוּ חֲכָמִים שֶׁלֹּא יְשַׁמֵּשׁ אָדָם מִטָּתוֹ וְלִבּוֹ מְחַשֵּׁב בְּאִשָּׁה אַחֶרֶת." "Similarly, the sages forbade a man to have marital ...
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Can a machsheva be a bracha levatala in specific circumstances?

There is much discussion is this in Aharonim. R. Yitshak Yosef writes in Yalkut Yosef (Kitsur OH 184:14, 185:4, etc.) that a mental blessing cannot be a berakha l'vatala. R. Zilberstein quotes this ...
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Is the Prohibition on Coveting the Only Thoughtcrime in Torah Law?

Here are some other examples of thoughts that are considered a sin unto themselves. Believing in foreign gods (Sifrei on Bamidbar 15:39). Planning to worship idols (Kiddushin 39b). Sexual fantasies ...
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When attempting to sin is considered an actual sin?

It's a few lines later in the gemara you quoted from Kiddushin 40a: ואלא הא דכתיב למען תפש את [בית] ישראל בלבם ... עולא אמר כדרב הונא דאמר רב הונא כיון שעבר אדם עבירה ושנה בה הותרה לו הותרה לו סלקא ...
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A thought is considered a separate sin?

How do we reconcile these two positions: (1) Bad thoughts are sinful and require atonement; and (2) You can't help your thoughts and must not be punished for them? In the standard Jewish fashion: By ...
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Coming Into Agreement With Thoughts

Other than צדקה nedarim are not valid when made in thought only. Regarding Tzedaka it is a machlokes see shulchan aruch, choshen mishpat 212:8 and Rema, yoreh deah 358:13 . Per the mishna Berurah the ...
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Source of "Nashim Datan Kala"

There are two Talmudic passages that utilize the principle of nashim da'atan kalah, and the two contexts are somewhat different. Shabbat 33b ואמאי קרו ליה ראש המדברים בכל מקום דיתבי רבי יהודה ורבי ...
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Thinking of another woman during sex

Midrash Rabbah Bamidbar 9:34 (note that this is a Midrash, not Halacha): אָמְרוּ רַבּוֹתֵינוּ בִּזְּמַן שֶׁהָאִשָּׁה מִיַּחֶדֶת עִם בַּעֲלָהּ וְהִיא מְשַׁמֶּשֶׁת עִמּוֹ וְלִבָּהּ לְאִישׁ אַחֵר ...
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why are bad thoughts worse than actual sin?

The simple sense would be as the Rambam describes it (Hilchos Teshuva 7:3) ואלו העוונות, קשים מאותן שיש בהן מעשה, שבזמן שאדם נשקע באלו, קשה הוא לפרוש These sins [anger, hatred, jealousy, etc. as ...
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why are bad thoughts worse than actual sin?

R. Yeshaya di Trani explains in Tosafot Rid (there) that קשו doesn't mean worse. Rather it means that thinking about sin causes more lust for the sin than committing the sin itself. As noted by R. ...
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If I deny G-d access to my thoughts. Would He read it anyway? Are my thoughts publics by default?

In Vayikra 25:17 it says: You shall not therefore defraud one another; but thou shalt fear thy G-d: for I am the L-rd your G-d. On this pasuk, Rashi explains the proper way to answering someone who ...
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A thought is considered a separate sin?

This has been discussed a lot, and there are different opinions. Some hold that thoughts of sin (hirhurei aveira) are not punishable1, and some hold they are worse than the actual sin2. Some hold that ...
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Non-Jewish philosophical defense of religion

According to Rambam's Introduction to the Eight Chapters, it states: Know, however, that the ideas presented in these chapters and in the following commentary are not of my own invention; neither did ...
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Hashem "joins" a good thought to deed

Not sure if it's just a play on words but came across the following this week in explanation of Shemos 1:20 וַיֵּיטֶב אֱלֹהִים לַמְיַלְּדֹת וַיִּרֶב הָעָם וַיַּעַצְמוּ מְאֹד. God dealt well with the ...
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How can we exist?

Interesting question. Let's look at this piece by piece. Positing that G.od is perfect; a change that he makes would mean that he was less or more perfect before the change came about. This does not ...
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Hashem "joins" a good thought to deed

This concept is spelled out in Sefer Hamaamarim 5702 p. 87: The true meaning of "joining to deed" is that when a Jewish person intends to do something with respect to Torah study, ...
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Hashem "joins" a good thought to deed

Tanya (ch. 16) explains it as follows: כִּי דְּחִילוּ וּרְחִימוּ שֶׁבְּהִתְגַּלּוּת לִבּוֹ, הֵם הַמִּתְלַבְּשִׁים בְּמַעֲשֵׂה הַמִּצְוֹת לְהַחֲיוֹתָם לְפָרְחָא לְעֵילָא, כִּי הַלֵּב הוּא גַּם כֵּן ...
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Are there more sources which say "foreign thoughts" are harmless if they are not "yours"?

This is referring to a tzaddik who has already elevated himself beyond such thoughts: כל זה דוקא לאדם שבטלו תאוותיו ואינו מתאווה בעצם לאותן הדברים הגופניים, ואם כן מהיכן באה לו המחשבה זרה הזאת, על ...
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Thoughts in the shower

Refer to Shulchan Aruch OC 85:2 אפי' להרהר בד"ת אסור בבית הכסא ובבית המרחץ ובמקום הטנופת והוא המקום שיש בו צואה ומי רגלים: הגה ואפי' הלכות המרחץ אסור ללמוד במרחץ (ר"ן פ' כירה ונ"י בשם ...
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Does halacha provide suggestions on what we should occupy our minds with?

The very beginning of the book of Psalms provides an answer to your question: Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat ...
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How our thoughts influence others -- seeking source from Lekutei Maharan

The source is Likutay Moharan 282: "Know, a person must judge everyone favorably (Avot 1:6). Even someone who is completely wicked, it is necessary to search and find in him some modicum of good; ...
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Aliyat ha-dorot

There is knowledge and knowledge. Aliyat hadorot is the mystics' answer to the Talmudic doctrine of Yeridat HaDorot – the decline of the generations. The Ba'al Shem Tov is quoted as saying flatly: ...
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Aliyat ha-dorot

The Lubavitcher Rebbe (לקוטי שיחות יה) explains why pnimiyus haTorah, the mystical dimension of the Torah, was revealed in the last generation in which the "footsteps of Moshiach" can be ...
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Aliyat ha-dorot

The midrash in Rosh Hashanah 25b teaches that we need to listen to the authorities of our generation even if authorities of other generations were superior. It gives as examples that Jerubaal (Gideon) ...
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"Evil" thinking vs. lashon hara

Judaism isn't as overtly focused over negative thoughts like some other religions are. The Christians follow a Rabbi who says that someone who murders in their heart or commits adultery in their heart ...
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Are there any writings which speak to the spiritual aspects of different materials (Metals/Wood/etc.)?

You would probably enjoy looking through Midrash Talpiot on the section dealing with all the various stones, both precious and otherwise. It has extensive discussion of precisely what you are ...
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