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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

I don't know the source off the top of my head, but I recall seeing a source (maybe a midrash) that says that when Yaakov conceived Reuvain not only was that his first time ever having intercourse it ...
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

Keep in mind that the Rambam (Ishus 1:1) states that before the giving of the Torah marriage was simply an act of intimacy with intent to marry. No formal ceremony. So your question is basically, &...
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Intimacy, עוֹנָה and Narcotics

"One is not allowed to be drunk during intimacy with one's spouse. See... Issurei Biya 21:12." The Rambam does not use the word אסור (forbidden) as he does by the case of thinking of ...
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sex with jewish girlfriend... what are the ways to atone?

Assuming that premarital sex is a sin (and many authorities agree that it is): When a person sins, he makes teshuva (repentance). Part of making teshuva is absolving not to perform the sin again. If a ...
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

The pasuk says: Genesis 49:3 רְאוּבֵן֙ בְּכֹ֣רִי אַ֔תָּה כֹּחִ֖י וְרֵאשִׁ֣ית אוֹנִ֑י יֶ֥תֶר שְׂאֵ֖ת וְיֶ֥תֶר עָֽז׃ Reuben, you are my first-born, My might and first fruit of my vigor, Exceeding in ...
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Does the prohibition of bestiality apply to fish

The Gemara (Sanhedrin 58a) teaches that the prohibition for Noahides to have relations with land-based non-humans is derived from the commandment: “and they shall become one flesh” i.e. they may only ...
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Does a kohen have to marry a convert or divorcee he rapes

He may not marry her. See Mishneh Torah, Na'arah Besulah 1:5: היתה אנוסה זו אסורה עליו אפלו מחיבי עשה ואפלו שניה הרי זה לא ישאנה If the girl he raped was forbidden to him, even if the prohibition ...
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Conversion therapy and Halacha

Peninei Halacha* (Simchat Habayit 4:13 onwards, and matches what I've learned since forever, e.g. see Rabbi David Gottlieb's "Alternative Lifestyles" lecture), explains that nobody should be ...
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Do Jews need to care about non-Jewish homosexuality?

This question is contradictory between its title and the specifications in the first paragraph. The title relates to issues about hashkafa (Jewish belief and world view) while the first paragraph, in ...
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Prohibited acts with animals

The capital sin of bestiality (all humans with any animal or bird) only applies when there was insertion of the glans/organ, either if the person penetrated the animal or bird (vaginally/anally) or ...
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Is it a sin to watch a naked woman?

General case for men looking at women There are 3 types of looking for our purposes1: Looking lustfully. Looking to enjoy beauty. Looking without either of the above. The answer to your question is, ...
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Is a woman allowed to break her hymen by herself?

While not offering a direct halachic source, in bYevamot 34b there is an indication that auto-defloration by crushing the hymen is a virtuous act וְהָא תָּמָר בְּבִיאָה רִאשׁוֹנָה אִיעַבַּרָא! אֲמַר ...
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Intimacy, עוֹנָה and Narcotics

Let us divide the question into two parts, what is the point at which one has drunk too much alcohol where it is recommended to avoid intimacy? Is there a difference between Alcohol and other ...
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Prohibited acts with animals

The Shulchan Aruch permits this provided it is for the purposes of animal husbandry. As usual, CYLOR for any practical application of this halacha: אלו שמנאפים ביד ומוציאים שכבת זרע לא די להם שאיסור ...
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marriage halacha between noahide couple

The Divine Code stipulates that in your situation, you would be considered as married if the public is aware of your relationship and your living together. If a woman specifies herself for one man's ...
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Men's response to women's teshuka - source and explanations

Found it, Yoma 75a: תַּנְיָא, אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹסֵי: בּוֹא וּרְאֵה שֶׁלֹּא כְּמִדַּת הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא מִדַּת בָּשָׂר וָדָם. מִדַּת בָּשָׂר וָדָם: מַקְנִיט אֶת חֲבֵירוֹ — יוֹרֵד עִמּוֹ לְחַיָּיו....
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Can two people who are asexual get married?

This is the kind of question that will, in practice, have to run through a personal Rabbi who knows the couple and the situation. It seems there might indeed be Rabbis who would marry the couple, as ...
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Relationships and Intimacy

Sounds like this couple needs to talk to a competent rabbi, and probably a relationship therapist. Let's call this three issues: A.) There's a mismatch between the religious upbringing of the pair. ...
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Are relations with spouse on demand generally required

For a halachic view see here: https://ph.yhb.org.il/en/category/14/14-02/ For a spiritual view: The gemara says that when Leah was assertive with Yaakov she merited to have a son who was a תלמיד חכם. ...
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Can lustful desires be expressed appropriately?

Sexuality and sexual passion can promote and actualize a man's or woman's innate Divine potential as nothing else can, but the fascination with its very power can divert a person's focus from its true ...
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Does a kohen have to marry a convert or divorcee he rapes

A Kohen cannot marry a convert or divorcee. Even in the event that a Kohen had sexually assaulted a woman of either category, they cannot marry a divorcee or a convert. This rule applies even in a ...
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sex with jewish girlfriend... what are the ways to atone?

I have seen firsthand 2 cases of couples who lived together unmarried and became religious during that time. In both cases their rabbis had them move into separate apartments and only see each other ...
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'Plonis' in Poskim on Nedarim 20

'Plony and Plonit are the Jewish equivalents of John and Jane Doe.' https://www.becomingjewish.net/blog-into-the-jewish-pool/archives/07-2017 Oops XD
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marriage halacha between noahide couple

As far as I know Noachide law is very vague and under-developed in comparison with Jewish Halakhah. At least the opinion of the Rambam is that for a non-Jew marriage consists of (1) living together ...
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what is considered sex in halacha?

Any physical contact that has sensual/sexual undertones, with someone with whom sexual relations are forbidden, is prohibited as an accessory to the sin itself. Shulchan Arukh, Even HaEzer (20:1) If ...
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'Hole in sheet' myth VS Nedarim 20a,b and Gur accounts

In general people don't talk about this kind of thing very much. But many years ago I became pretty close with a bona fide Breslov chasid (not the Na Nach kind) and he told me that was basically his ...
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Intimacy, עוֹנָה and Narcotics

I read this question basically as what is the halachic definition of intoxication The degree of impairment required to be considered "intoxicated" is a matter of debate among halachic ...
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