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Why does Tanac"h frequently use the term for "knowledge" when referring to sexual relations?

Ibn Ezra to Genesis (3:6) suggests that Adam had sex with Eve as a result of eating from the Tree of Knowledge. Therefore, sex is euphemistically referred to as knowledge. Additionally, he notes that ...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

There is a certain amount of ambiguity here. On the one hand, we see that our Sages praise the daughters of Lot, and especially the elder daughter who took the initiative. Nazir 23a: אלא משל ללוט ...
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Not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala?

The Kabalistic work "Tikunei Zohar" (30a) mentions this as a punishment for a person who has relations with women he should not be having relations with. It is stated there that is that this ...
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Sex in the world to come

The Talmud (Berachot 17a) states: העולם הבא אין בו לא אכילה ולא שתיה ולא פריה ורביה ולא משא ומתן ולא קנאה ולא שנאה ולא תחרות אלא צדיקים יושבין ועטרותיהם בראשיהם ונהנים מזיו השכינה שנאמר ויחזו את ...
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Which prohibition does one commit when viewing pornography?

You're looking for the verse (Devarim 23:10): וְנִשְׁמַרְתָּ מִכֹּל דָּבָר רָע then thou shalt keep thee from every evil thing.‏ The Talmud (AZ 20) interprets this (based on context from the ...
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What are reasons of מצוות עונה marital sex?

A woman has a right to receive sexual pleasure from her husband, just as much as food and clothing. See below: Ra’avad, Ba’alei Hanefesh, Gate of Holiness – selection 4: :הארבע כוונות אשר המעשה ...
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Thinking of another woman during sex

The Talmud (Nedarim 20b) expresses this in a slight riddle. Says Rebbi: Once should not drink from a cup whilst thinking about another cup. Based on the verse (Num. 15:39) ‘do not stray after ...
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Did the rights of a Jewish slave owner include having sex with his female slaves?

The master of a female Hebrew slave has the option to marry her either to himself or to his son (with her consent). If he (or his son) does marry her, it is not his right, but in fact his obligation ...
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Does the Torah forbid visiting/hiring a prostitute?

This is not allowed, as stated by the Rambam in Hilchos Ishus 1:4 קודם מתן תורה היה אדם פוגע אשה בשוק אם רצה הוא והיא נותן לה שכרה ובועל אותה על אם הדרך והולך. וזו היא הנקראת קדשה. משנתנה התורה נאסרה ...
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Is a Zav allowed to have relations with his wife?

Yep. See Tosefta Zavim 1:9, זב מותר בתשמיש המטה בימי גמרו, and Chasdei David there. Also Yerushalmi Shabbos 1:3, לא יאכל הזב עם הזבה הא זב עם מצורעת מותר, and Pnei Moshe there.
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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?

Pesachim 72b discusses a woman who desires intimacy from her husband, and it is approaching the expected time of her period. והאמר רבא חייב אדם לשמח אשתו בדבר מצוה סמוך לווסתה The Gemara asks further:...
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Did Adam have intercourse with animals?

There is disagreement about this among the commentators. Here is a quote from the Artscroll Rashi Chumash Bereishis 2:23 footnote 4: Divrei Dovid...says that this prohibition [to have relations ...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

There was an element of good in the naming as brought out in this story of Rav Moshe Feinstein zatzal. I have edited the story which appears in full at the link. The original is in Igros Moshe vol. 8,...
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Would marriage really not solve this man's problem?

This question is based on a misquote of the Talmud. Here is the actual text: ולינסבה מינסב לא מייתבה דעתיה כדר' יצחק דא"ר יצחק מיום שחרב בית המקדש ניטלה טעם ביאה וניתנה לעוברי עבירה שנאמר (משלי ט, ...
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Is wasting seed a sin for a gentile?

The Tzitz Eliezer brings opposing sources in his responsa discussing whether Bnei Noach are 'neherag' for wasting seed. Either way it seems undesirable from the remaining sources that he brings i.e. ...
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

The idea behind not learning the laws of mourning, is a superstition that this could cause someone to die, and the laws to become applied (see Hattam Sofer YD 346, and a discussion of the idea here). ...
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Why aren't there any Gay people in the Bible?

In this week’s Torah portion parshat Vayeira Genesis 19,5 it says about the wicked people of Sedom who got destroyed because of their sins: וַיִּקְרְא֤וּ אֶל־לוֹט֙ וַיֹּ֣אמְרוּ ל֔וֹ אַיֵּ֧ה ...
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

I don't know the source off the top of my head, but I recall seeing a source (maybe a midrash) that says that when Yaakov conceived Reuvain not only was that his first time ever having intercourse it ...
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Where in the Gemara does it say a woman never forgets her first

The Talmud, Pesachim 112a, says: דאמר מר גרוש שנשא גרושה ארבע דעות במטה When a divorcé marries a divorcée, there are four minds in the bed Rashbam explains that each participant is thinking ...
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Sudden Menstruation and Sex

Accidental violation of the prohibition of Niddah warrants a Korban Chattat like most Karet prohibitions (Kereitot 1:1-2). The same applies if after intercourse blood is discovered to have been ...
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Talmud passage relevant to #metoo

The reference is to Sanhedrin 19a where it is recorded that R Yosi enacted in Tzippori that women speak to each other aloud when in the outhouses so men would hear them and know not to come in (which ...
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Halachic approaches to marital relations in a Succah

The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 135:2 writes that it is permissible. אבל תשמיש המיטה מותר בסוכה, שהרי עיקר מצוותה איש ואשתו.‏ (...) But marital relations are permitted in the sukkah, for the underlying ...
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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?

A stronger proof might be from Kesubos 72a, which lists, among infractions of דת משה (Torah law) that are grounds for divorce and forfeiture of the kesubah, משמשתו נדה, she engages in relations with ...
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?

Keep in mind that the Rambam (Ishus 1:1) states that before the giving of the Torah marriage was simply an act of intimacy with intent to marry. No formal ceremony. So your question is basically, &...
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How can you quit a habit of visiting inappropriate websites?

Marry a wife Pele Yoetz (here) says it helps with sin Seifer Hachinuch (mitzva 582.2) explains that the reason of the Mitvzah that after the first year of marriage you need to be happy with your ...
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Which to choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed

This topic is largely treated in Talmudic books. We are going to start with a Mishna in Sanhedrin 9, 6 וְהַבּוֹעֵל אֲרַמִּית, קַנָּאִין פּוֹגְעִין בּוֹ .‏ Or cohabits with a heathen [lit. syrian {...
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Where in the Gemara does it say a woman never forgets her first

I think that this Gemara is what you are looking for, despite that it is not exactly the same words. The issue is the strenght of the alliance into which the wife enter with her husband. Sanhedrin ...
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When did masturbation become such a severe prohibition?

Even before the Arizal, it was known as a serious sin. For example, the Talmud (Niddah 13b) states: מאי דכתיב ידיכם דמים מלאו - אלו המנאפים ביד What is the meaning of the verse: "your hands ...
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"Recreational" use of ED medications

First and foremost, there are two people in a relationship; we're assuming both are okay with this. Any time someone mentions "recreational use" of a prescription medication, the critical questions ...
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When can I attend service (Shabbat) after seminal emission?

The problem, as I understand it, is that your struggle is causing you to be distanced from normal, healthy mitzva behavior. Dr. Yocheved Debow writes about this phenomenon in her guide for educators.. ...
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