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Moses makes it clear that when the Jews enter the Promised Land, eventually one special place shall be chosen, and that will be the only place that animal sacrifices are authorized. That place is the Temple in Jerusalem. Today the Temple does not stand; it's unclear exactly where on the Temple Mount area the altar stood; there are numerous uncertainties ...


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According to the Ibn Ezra, Nineveh had previously been a righteous city, so they were given a chance to repent, whereas Sodom and Gomorrah didn't merit a prophet to warn them. Ibn Ezra, Jonah 1:2: והנה מצאנו כתוב היתה עיר גדולה לאלהים שהיו יריאים השם מקדם... ופירוש לאלהים כי היו יריאים השם הימים הקדמונים רק עתה בימי יונה החלו לעשות רע. ולולי זה ...


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Anyone can convert to Judaism. We find an example in Gittin 57:2 that Nevuzardan killed millions of jews and then converted.


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In Shulchan Aruch Harav siman 582 sief 3 the Baal HaTanya writes that even if you went home and said 90 times hamelech hakadosh and then were uncertain if you did it right in davening, you still have to recite over shemoneh esrei, and he explains that this is different than mashiv haruach because when you practice saying the brochoh you can't say Hashem's ...


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Among those Rabbis that I know, if/when they are approached by someone who wasn't raised as a Jew but has a Jewish maternal grandparent, they welcome them with open arms as Jews, albeit Jews who have been estranged from their own religion. I have known this to have occurred on multiple occasions (although I was never personally involved in any). It may be ...


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Check the prayers found in most Machzors before Kol Nidrei; here it is from this one (conjugated in the plural, but I'm used to seeing it in the singular; emphasis added): I hereby absolutely forgive anyone who has harmed me, other than money I can still claim by law, or those who harm me figuring that I'll forgive them. Other than those, I completely ...


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Here are some ideas. Many are not my own, but are copied or adapted from others. If you can't or won't quit completely: If you can't or won't quit completely, then you may want to at least reduce your pornography usage gradually. The "StayFocusd" Google Chrome extension, or one of its competitors, may help. If you'd like to quit completely: You can ...


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Ohr Hachaim (Deut. 1:43,45) says that indeed they hadn't done teshuvah at that point; they swung into action - trying to go up the mountain and push their way into Eretz Yisrael - without having first asked Hashem for forgiveness. Only after they were beaten did they cry to Hashem (1:45), but by then their sin had been compounded so severely (גדלה צחנתם, lit....


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Brothers Ask For Forgiveness: Bereshit 50:16-18 Yosef does not explicitly forgive them. Instead he tells them it was all G-d's plan: Bereshit 50:19-21 Rabbeinu Bechaye says that because Yosef never forgave the brothers the 10 Martyrs were killed.


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Non-Jews are certainly able to do teshuva and be forgiven, as evidenced by the story of Jonah and Ninveh (who were forgiven, despite having sinned both against man and God). The Mabit, in Beis Elohim Shaar Teshuvah chapters 13-14 writes that although non-Jews are able to do teshuva, their repentance is fundamentally different than that of Jews in several ...


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Shulchan Arukh, Yoreh Deah 268:12 ‏...ואפילו חזר ועבד עבודת כוכבים – הרי הוא כישראל מומר שקידושיו קידושין.‏ ישראל מומר שעשה תשובה – אינו צריך לטבול. רק מדרבנן יש לו לטבול ולקבל עליו דברי חבירות בפני שלושה ...even if the convert returned to worshiping idols -- he is still a Jew such that his marriage proposals are binding. An apostate Jew ...


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Sounds like you have a very complicated situation. This may be a job for a therapist. Again, concepts of "sanctuary for repentance" don't really fit with the vocabulary of Judaism. But for theory's sake: at your average Orthodox Union synagogue, if someone shows up and says "I wasn't raised observant, I was previously married to someone not Jewish and now ...


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No, the rabbi wouldn't find it strange. & Yes, he would accepted you at the spot as 100% jewish. And I can tell you from my own personal experience they would be even very happy!


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See Talmud Ta'anit 20a - 20b. Synopsis: Rav Elazar ben Rav Shimon was on the road and an ugly man greeted him. Rav Elazar offended him by asking, "Are all people from your village as ugly as you?" He had to follow the man to his town begging for forgiveness. The maxim that Rav Elazar himself states, on p. 20b, after he apologized and realized his error, is ...


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The commentary often attributed to the Rosh and sometimes to one of his students, to B'reshis 4:16 (after Kayin's banishment), reads: ויצא קין יצא כמעלים מבוראו ונגלה לו הקב״ה וא״ל גדול עונך מנשא כיון ששמע קין התחיל לעשות תשובה ואמר גדול עוני מנשוא ואמר אתה טוען עליונים ותחתונים ונקראת נושא עון אמר לו הקב״ה אתה עשית תשובה אבל מחצה עד שהוא יוצא פגע בו אדם ...


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The Rambam writes that it is considered cruel to repeatedly refuse to forgive someone who asks sincerely for forgiveness. Under normal circumstances if they ask once, twice and then a third time you must forgive them, or else you become the one in the wrong. They however do need to appease the wronged party and make amends as far as possible, such as ...


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Nitey Gavriel (Yom Kippur Perek 20 Sif 19) writes that many have the custom not to whip on Erev Yom Kippur. He cites as a source Kaf HaChaim (O.C. 607:40) who claims that Erev Yom Kippur is considered a Yom Tov and we do not give lashes on Yom Tov. The Nitey Gavriel notes that this is the prevelant custom in Zitshov, Tshernobil, Gur and Amshinov.


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Bereishis Rabbah 22:13 seems to indicate that Adam didn’t know that he had that option: פָּגַע בּוֹ אָדָם הָרִאשׁוֹן אָמַר לוֹ מַה נַּעֲשָׂה בְּדִינְךָ, אָמַר לוֹ עָשִׂיתִי תְּשׁוּבָה וְנִתְפַּשַּׁרְתִּי. הִתְחִיל אָדָם הָרִאשׁוֹן מְטַפֵּחַ עַל פָּנָיו, אָמַר, כָּךְ הִיא כֹּחָהּ שֶׁל תְּשׁוּבָה וַאֲנִי לֹא הָיִיתִי יוֹדֵעַ Adam bumped into [Kayin]. [...


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This piece from Derekh Eretz Rabbaiti is one of my favorites: There is no reason to treat people unkindly but we don't have to open ourselves up to being hurt. For people who repeatedly cause us pain or transgress against us, I try to remind myself of this. Suspect them, protect yourself, but never embarrass, humiliate, or refuse to show respect to them. The ...


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A halachic source that bears on this is Rambam, Hil. Melachim 10:4 (from Sanhedrin 71b): A gentile who converts after cursing G-d's name, worshipping false gods, engaging in relations with a colleague's wife, or killing a fellow gentile is exempt from punishment. In contrast, if he converted after killing a Jew or having relations with a Jew's wife, ...


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This may not exactly answer your question, but Sharei Teshuva (as well as Rambam) brings 24 categories that impede teshuva: One who frequently spreads Rechilus (slanderer) One who regularly speaks Lashon Hara (Gossiper) One who gets angry quickly One whose bad (impure) thoughts control him Being connected to a rasha (evildoer) Taking from food that isn't ...


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Sort of. Rambam writes (Teshuvah 4:3): To use translation on chabad.org (their additions in brackets, my one addition in {curly brackets}: Among these [24 {sins which make repentance hard}] are five [transgressions] for which it is impossible for the person who commits them to repent completely. They are sins between man and man, concerning which ...


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Fine yourself 50 dollars (to be paid to tzedaka) for each time you view pornography, enforced with a neder (vow), and with a maximum of 100 dollars per day. Make a condition that the neder be valid only if you remember it beforehand and that it is valid for one or two weeks only. (You can renew it after.) You'll squash the habit in no time. However, this ...


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Chovos Halevavos - #7 - Shaar Teshuva ch.10 ch.9 But for the sins towards G-d and man, it will be difficult to repent for several reasons: He may not be able to find the person he oppressed, or the person died or moved far away... Perhaps the oppressed will not forgive him for what he oppressed him or hurt him physically, or spoke badly of ...


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In general, the Torah is not so concerned and doesn't judge how people feel or what their desires are. It is mainly concerned in how we act. Nowhere does the Torah consider feelings for same-sex people to be a prohibition. But the Torah is concerned about actions and as is well known homosexual male intercourse is forbidden. The gmara in Kiddushin 40a ...


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Based on the accepted answer to the question you refer to (Why does earthly punishment start at 13 and divine punishment at 20?), it seems that teenagers really should be taking the Yamim Noraim seriously. To be more specific, the accepted answer lists 4 caveats from the Chacham Tzvi (Response 49) about the under 20 rule. Let's analyze each one: It ...


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I think you're referring to the story of R. Elazar ben Dodaya, which can be found in Avodah Zarah 17a. To summarize the story, it was said about a man named Elazar ben Dodaya that there was not a prostitute in the world that he had not been with. When he heard of a distant beautiful woman, he went to go be with her. In the middle of his act, the woman told ...


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R. Ephraim Luntschitz indeed explains (Kli Yakar Bamidbar 19:21) that the penitent must seclude himself with the woman that he previously sinned with. He thus explains the statement of the Sages that in the place where penitents stand even the wholly righteous cannot stand: the penitent must seclude himself with the woman in order to repent but the righteous ...


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There are many stories of great rabbis apologizing to people much below their spiritual level. For instance, this story of the Steipler Gaon apologizing to a bar mitsva boy for mistakenly criticizing him six years earlier (written up by R Mordechai Kamenetzky on torah.org) In the city of B’nai Beraq there are many Bar Mitzvah celebrations every Shabbos. ...


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