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How can I redeem a wasted youth?

Talmud Sukkah 53A: חסידים ואנשי מעשה כו': ת"ר יש מהן אומרים אשרי ילדותנו שלא ביישה את זקנותנו אלו חסידים ואנשי מעשה ויש מהן אומרים אשרי זקנותנו שכפרה את ילדותנו אלו בעלי תשובה אלו ואלו אומרים אשרי ...
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How can I redeem a wasted youth?

What happened happened and the Torah approach is not to dwell on it, but rather focus on improving going forward. Regarding sins from the past, the Rambam writes (Hilchot Teshuva 1:3) Teshuvah [...
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Teshuva and non-Jews?

Non-Jews are certainly able to do teshuva and be forgiven, as evidenced by the story of Jonah and Ninveh (who were forgiven, despite having sinned both against man and God). The Mabit, in Beis Elohim ...
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Getting "used to" making a change in davening

In Shulchan Aruch Harav siman 582 sief 3 the Baal HaTanya writes that even if you went home and said 90 times hamelech hakadosh and then were uncertain if you did it right in davening, you still have ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

Among those Rabbis that I know, if/when they are approached by someone who wasn't raised as a Jew but has a Jewish maternal grandparent, they welcome them with open arms as Jews, albeit Jews who have ...
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Why didn't Adam ask for forgiveness?

Bereishis Rabbah 22:13 seems to indicate that Adam didn’t know that he had that option: פָּגַע בּוֹ אָדָם הָרִאשׁוֹן אָמַר לוֹ מַה נַּעֲשָׂה בְּדִינְךָ, אָמַר לוֹ עָשִׂיתִי תְּשׁוּבָה ...
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Where in US can someone go for sanctuary to repent for their intermarriage?

Sounds like you have a very complicated situation. This may be a job for a therapist. Again, concepts of "sanctuary for repentance" don't really fit with the vocabulary of Judaism. But for theory's ...
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If a convert goes off the derekh, must he go to the mikvah again after he repents?

Shulchan Arukh, Yoreh Deah 268:12 ‏...ואפילו חזר ועבד עבודת כוכבים – הרי הוא כישראל מומר שקידושיו קידושין.‏ ישראל מומר שעשה תשובה – אינו צריך לטבול. רק מדרבנן יש לו לטבול ולקבל עליו דברי חבירות בפני ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

No, the rabbi wouldn't find it strange. & Yes, he would accepted you at the spot as 100% jewish. And I can tell you from my own personal experience they would be even very happy!
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Someone in authority apologizes?

See Talmud Ta'anit 20a - 20b. Synopsis: Rav Elazar ben Rav Shimon was on the road and an ugly man greeted him. Rav Elazar offended him by asking, "Are all people from your village as ugly as you?" He ...
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Source for repentance being illogical (or counter intuitive)

The Midrash says: שאלו לחכמה החוטא מהו עונשו, אמרה להם וחטאים תרדף רעה (משלי יג: כא). שאלו לנבואה החוטא מהו עונשו, אמרה להם הנפש החוטאת היא תמות (יחזקאל יח: ד). שאלו לתורה חוטא מה עונשו, אמרה להם ...
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How can someone, halachically, do teshuva when s/he has offended an anonymous person on the internet?

Chovos Halevavos - #7 - Shaar Teshuva ch.10 ch.9 But for the sins towards G-d and man, it will be difficult to repent for several reasons: He may not be able to find the person he ...
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"Gay" people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

In general, the Torah is not so concerned and doesn't judge how people feel or what their desires are. It is mainly concerned in how we act. Nowhere does the Torah consider feelings for same-sex ...
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Rosh HaShanah for Under 20

Based on the accepted answer to the question you refer to (Why does earthly punishment start at 13 and divine punishment at 20?), it seems that teenagers really should be taking the Yamim Noraim ...
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Source wanted: Talmudic story about the power of teshuvah

I think you're referring to the story of R. Elazar ben Dodaya, which can be found in Avodah Zarah 17a. To summarize the story, it was said about a man named Elazar ben Dodaya that there was not a ...
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The Rambam's "Complete Repentence" + halachical logistics

R. Ephraim Luntschitz indeed explains (Kli Yakar Bamidbar 19:21) that the penitent must seclude himself with the woman that he previously sinned with. He thus explains the statement of the Sages that ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

There are many stories of great rabbis apologizing to people much below their spiritual level. For instance, this story of the Steipler Gaon apologizing to a bar mitsva boy for mistakenly criticizing ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

For example did Hashem ever apologize? Chulin 60b tells of how God tried to appease the moon after diminishing it, and eventually ordains the new month's sacrifices as a sin offering for his having ...
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How can I redeem a wasted youth?

There is nothing that does not come from G-d - even evil has a kernel of good. This is why evil is referred to as a klipah, a shell - it separates holiness from G-d but the holiness is still there, ...
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Source about a king like Haman if Israel doesn't repent

Sanhedrin 97b If they do not repent, will they not be redeemed at all? Rather, the Holy One, Blessed be He, will establish a king for them whose decrees are as harsh as those issued by Haman, and the ...
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How can you quit a habit of visiting inappropriate websites?

Marry a wife Pele Yoetz (here) says it helps with sin Seifer Hachinuch (mitzva 582.2) explains that the reason of the Mitvzah that after the first year of marriage you need to be happy with your ...
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"Gay" people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

In terms of actual prohibitions: 1- Male homosexual sex is prohibited to both Jew, and under the covenant G-d made with Noah, to non-Jews as well. 2- Male homosexual intimacy that is not prohibited ...
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Waiting to do teshuvah until 20

The implication of the last mishna in Yoma is that the answer is no: האומר, אחטא ואשוב, אחטא ואשוב, אין מספיקין בידו לעשות תשובה. One who says, "I will sin, and then repent, I will sin, and then ...
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Does teshuva remove punishment?

There is a disagreement between the Rambam and the Raavad regarding the Ir Hanidachas - wayward city, whether it is possible to remove the punishment if the town did indeed repent. The Rambam (עבודת ...
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Where can I see the letter/proclamation the Chafetz Chaim wrote about the major natural disasters in his time?

HaShem helped me find two letters of the Chafetz Chaim about natural disasters, and what they mean to us. He says very clearly that if we had Prophets nowadays, It is clear to me that they would be ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

Berachot 31b ויען עלי ויאמר לכי לשלום אמר רבי אלעזר מכאן לחושד את חברו בדבר שאין בו שצריך לפייסו ולא עוד אלא שצריך לברכו שנאמר ואלהי ישראל יתן את שלתך Then Eli answered and said, Go in Peace....
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How can I redeem a wasted youth?

I think there is maybe something by Rambam about not seeing yourself as either good or bad, but just thinking of acting rightly in the very next moment. So, the present is everything. A similar idea ...
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Tikkun for Timtum HaLev

Rav Pesach Feinhandler in Avnei Yasfei 3:76 writes that he does not see why teshuva doesn't help. He brings a proof from chelev (forbidden fats) that if one ate cheilev (shogeg) he can bring a korban ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

I was in a similar situation a decade ago. The Rabbi of the orthodox shul looked into my background and accepted me and made me feel welcome. You never know where such things lead and I'm now on the ...
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How does one rectify money fraud done earlier in his life?

Just to redact the fantastic comments of DoubleAA and of Danny Schoemann into a consolidated answer format: There are the general steps of repentance, namely: 1) Regret that he did it. 2) Stop doing ...
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