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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Kesubos 72a תניא נמי הכי המדיר את אשתו שלא תשאל ושלא תשאיל נפה וכברה ריחים ותנור יוציא ויתן כתובה מפני שמשיאה שם רע בשכינותיה Someone who imposes a vow on his wife that she may not borrow or lend ...
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?

The Talmud in Gittin 35b, Nedarim 67a, 72a, and 89a says a general rule אין הבעל מיפר בקודמין The halakha is that the husband does not have the ability to nullify with regard to vows his wife took ...
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Source for taking an oath on beard and payos

I found the source I was looking for ,it is from the Chofetz Chaim in his Kuntres Tiferes Adam (on the issur of shaving ). He writes that he remembers that when a Jew took a vow he would do so with ...
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Don't have to articulate hataras nedarim?

The barebone Halacha is in Yoreh De'ah 228 - סימן רכח - דיני התרת נדרים - where it says that all that the 3 people need to say is מֻתָּר לָךְ - preferably thrice. So I'm not sure what the others ...
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If Kol Nidre is effective, why do people do hatarat nedarim?

yeshiva.co was posed this question ("Hatarat Nedarim & Kol Nidrei") and responded: 1) The most common answer [...] is that Kol Nidrei refers to the vows of the community, while Hatarat Nedarim ...
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Eirichin & Nedarim

At face value, it would seem that the mitzvah of arachin is ‘powered’, so to speak, by nedarim. It is a pledge to pay one’s ‘eirech’ value, not unlike the neder one can make to donate one’s ‘damim’ ...
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Did Yiftach's daughter have to comply with his vow?

Midrash Bereshis Rabba 60,3 says clearly that Yiftach's daughter did not need to comply as Yiftach's neder was not valid to bring his daughter as a sacrifice and therefore according to Reish Lakish ...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?

It appears indeed one should keep his promises in the context of a small gift. The Rambam writes (MT Mechira 7:9) (based on the gemara in Baba Metzia 49a) Similarly, if a person promised to give a ...
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Can a husband or father object to a woman becoming a Nazir

The Ramba'm codifies this in nezirus (2:17): נשים עובדים יש להם נזירות והאב או הבעל מפר נזירות האשה אם רצה כשאר הנדרים A woman and a slave can be nazirites, and a father or husband can nullify a ...
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If Jews make an oath to not do mitzvot which are normally required after an action, is it binding

The Radvaz on the Rambam Shavuos 1:6 discusses a shavua not to wear tzitzis. Although the case is not mentioned in the Gemara, the Rambam adds it in to the list. He explains that it referring to ...
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Was it customary for there to be an annual lamentation for someone's death, e.g. the daughter of Jephthah? Details as to her mourning process?

I believe answers your questions are all found in the Metzudos David. The first thing to note is that based on the explanation of the the commentary. It is to be noted that he is of the opinion that ...
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Why didn't Yosef's brothers bury him where he asked?

As I explain in Vayigash - Why didn't the family go back?, Par'o only allowed Yosef to bury Yaakov in Eretz Yisrael because of the oath Yaakov had made him swear. Even then, he forced the brothers ...
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Why didn't Yosef's brothers bury him where he asked?

The OP quotes a verse that has Yoseph saying: "When G-d comes to you..." Yosef planned on being buried in Egypt. He simply wanted to leave when everyone else did. By that time, his brothers had ...
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Can a woman be one of the three for hatares nedarim?

Source: http://halachipedia.com/index.php?title=Hatarat_Nedarim Rabbi Akiva Eiger (comments on Shulchan Aruch YD 228:1) who writes that while relatives can serve as a Bet Din for Hatarat Nedarim, a ...
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Can you abandon a personal chumra if it was based on a misunderstanding of the mitzvah?

Yes In Shulchan Aruch YD 214 is stated that אבל הנוהגים איסור בדברים המותרים מחמת שסוברים שהם אסורים לא הוי כאילו קבלום בנדר ‏ If someone was acustomed to prohibiting something that is permitted by ...
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?

From Halachipedia The practice of Talmidei Chachamim is to tell their daughters prior to Kiddushin that all Nedarim they have taken are hereby revoked.[20] In fact, Rav Moshe Shternbuch advises ...
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A Wife Taking a Vow

Rashi, citing Sifrei and the Talmud, answers this. If you look at the structure, it goes: A daughter's vow can be cancelled by her father What if she "will be to a man?" That man can cancel ...
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Why did Avraham ask Eliezer to swear in the way he did?

Ibn Ezra explains that this was a standard form of displaying the servant's subservience to the master, and notes that it is still in practice in India: והקרוב אלי שהיה משפט בימים ההם לשום אדם ידו ...
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Can a husband forbid his wife from doing something (which will not hurt her)

I am merely translating the passage quoted by the questioner from the Chelkas Mechokek Shulchan Aruch even hoezer 74,17 which gives us the answers: אם מדיר אותה דבר שהוא לטובתה כגון שהדיר קונם ...
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Tzedakah and tax deduction

R Shimon Taub (The Laws of Tzedakah and Maaser, p. 149) writes that One who benefits by giving tzedakah because he ends up paying less taxes is not obligated to give that profit to tzedakah. ...
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Promise on a death bed

Regarding the first and last parts of your question, if this is a valid promise, and if it’s quoted in the Shulchan Aruch, see YD 179:14 (h/t DoubleAA): להשביע את החולה לשוב אליו לאחר מיתה להגיד לו ...
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Why is garlic forbidden to one who forswore mikpa?

I think that the Bartenura follows the Pshat of the Rosh (here 4th line from the end). The Rosh words are below. דלא תימא כי היכי דנודר מן המקפה אסור בשום משום שדרך ליתן שום במקפה, הוא הדין נמי ...
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Annulment of women's nedarim

Yes it still applies. The laws are found in Shulchan Arukh YD 234. Here is an example of a modern rabbi discussing using it practically nowadays.
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Annulment of women's nedarim

Yes. These halachos can be found in the Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah 234:1-72 (the case you specifically mention- annulling the vow until sunset- can be found in YD 234:21). Even though technically ...
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Why the Minimum Nazirship Length?

במדבר ו ה כָּל־יְמֵי֙ נֶ֣דֶר נִזְר֔וֹ תַּ֖עַר לֹא־יַעֲבֹ֣ר עַל־רֹאשׁ֑וֹ עַד־מְלֹ֨את הַיָּמִ֜ם אֲשֶׁר־יַזִּ֤יר לַיהוָה֙ קָדֹ֣שׁ יִהְיֶ֔ה גַּדֵּ֥ל פֶּ֖רַע שְׂעַ֥ר רֹאשֽׁוֹ׃ Bamidbar p6 5 ...
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Is one allowed to swear to do something that depends on someone else's approval?

In this particular case, we see that Yosef did not want to swear as his father asked, because he wanted to say that he would do all that he could himself. While normally he should only have sworn to ...
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Did אָכִיש actually use Hashem?

Good question! According to Radak on the verse, Achish wanted to convince David that he was only letting him go because of peer pressure from the other seranim (leaders of the Phillistines), and not ...
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Coming Into Agreement With Thoughts

Other than צדקה nedarim are not valid when made in thought only. Regarding Tzedaka it is a machlokes see shulchan aruch, choshen mishpat 212:8 and Rema, yoreh deah 358:13 . Per the mishna Berurah the ...
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Taanit dibbur breaking

Rav Chaim Kanievsky (Shoneh Halachos, Moadim, 572:10, page 217, note 2) is quoted as ruling that one need only refrain from “idle words.” However, if one must speak to perform a chesed or other ...
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