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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Kesubos 72a תניא נמי הכי המדיר את אשתו שלא תשאל ושלא תשאיל נפה וכברה ריחים ותנור יוציא ויתן כתובה מפני שמשיאה שם רע בשכינותיה Someone who imposes a vow on his wife that she may not borrow or lend ...
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?

The Talmud in Gittin 35b, Nedarim 67a, 72a, and 89a says a general rule אין הבעל מיפר בקודמין The halakha is that the husband does not have the ability to nullify with regard to vows his wife took ...
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Promised to name son Shimon - now husband is Shimon?

I finally found the Sefer Lulei Toratcha stories with Rav Shach on the parsha.Parshas Matos 30:4. Rav Shach answered that she should name the child Shmayah since it is similar to the name Shimon and ...
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Source for taking an oath on beard and payos

I found the source I was looking for ,it is from the Chofetz Chaim in his Kuntres Tiferes Adam (on the issur of shaving ). He writes that he remembers that when a Jew took a vow he would do so with ...
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Don't have to articulate hataras nedarim?

The barebone Halacha is in Yoreh De'ah 228 - סימן רכח - דיני התרת נדרים - where it says that all that the 3 people need to say is מֻתָּר לָךְ - preferably thrice. So I'm not sure what the others ...
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If Kol Nidre is effective, why do people do hatarat nedarim?

yeshiva.co was posed this question ("Hatarat Nedarim & Kol Nidrei") and responded: 1) The most common answer [...] is that Kol Nidrei refers to the vows of the community, while Hatarat Nedarim ...
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If someone knowingly designates a Korban Mincha with barley, does he offer with wheat?

By making the neder to bring a mincha with barley when he knows it is not possible, this person is making a neder in vain – a neder shov. From INSIGHTS INTO THE DAILY DAF Nedarim 15 I see that ...
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Eirichin & Nedarim

At face value, it would seem that the mitzvah of arachin is ‘powered’, so to speak, by nedarim. It is a pledge to pay one’s ‘eirech’ value, not unlike the neder one can make to donate one’s ‘damim’ ...
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Can a person break an oath to G-d to save a life?

Your example is politically loaded. Let's try a simpler one. Joe makes a vow not to eat chocolate. Then he finds himself on a desert island where there is no food other than chocolate, and he will ...
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Neder not specified

The Shulchan Arukh in the laws of Nedarim (YD 210:1) rules that if one intended to prohibit wheat bread to himself as a Neder but only said "bread" unmodified, only wheat bread is prohibited to him. (...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?

It appears indeed one should keep his promises in the context of a small gift. The Rambam writes (MT Mechira 7:9) (based on the gemara in Baba Metzia 49a) Similarly, if a person promised to give a ...
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Should Jepthah have sacrificed his daughter?

On a peshat level, Yiftach (see Shofetim 11) was not exactly the most educated or refined of individuals. 1) He was the son of a harlot (pasuk 1) 2) He was a gang leader of a group of no-goodniks (...
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Do those who do become religious after a divorce need to cover their hair (women) or wear a tallis (men)?

Tallis -- this is easy. The halachic default is that everyone 13 and up should be wearing a Tallis; Ashkenazi never-married-men happen to have a custom otherwise. (Rabbi Meiselman, for instance, feels ...
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When Yaakov said "whoever stole the idols will not live", was that a curse or vow?

Rashi to the cited verse: לא יחיה: ומאותה קללה מתה רחל בדרך Shall not live: and from that curse Rachel died on the road. So it seems that it was a curse.
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How does a husband make a neder on his wife

There is nothing special going on here based on the marriage relationship. Anyone can say to anyone else: "Do you swear XYZ?" and if they answer affirmatively, the oath is binding on them. So too if ...
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Are nedarim considered Biblical or Rabbinic laws?

It depends on the circumstances. Obviously, n'darim in general are a matter of biblical law: they're mentioned in the Tora. Yad, N'darim 1:4. On the other hand, some rules were established by the ...
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Can you abandon a personal chumra if it was based on a misunderstanding of the mitzvah?

Yes In Shulchan Aruch YD 214 is stated that אבל הנוהגים איסור בדברים המותרים מחמת שסוברים שהם אסורים לא הוי כאילו קבלום בנדר ‏ If someone was acustomed to prohibiting something that is permitted by ...
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Was it customary for there to be an annual lamentation for someone's death, e.g. the daughter of Jephthah? Details as to her mourning process?

I believe answers your questions are all found in the Metzudos David. The first thing to note is that based on the explanation of the the commentary. It is to be noted that he is of the opinion that ...
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Can a woman be one of the three for hatares nedarim?

Source: http://halachipedia.com/index.php?title=Hatarat_Nedarim Rabbi Akiva Eiger (comments on Shulchan Aruch YD 228:1) who writes that while relatives can serve as a Bet Din for Hatarat Nedarim, a ...
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Why didn't Yosef's brothers bury him where he asked?

The OP quotes a verse that has Yoseph saying: "When G-d comes to you..." Yosef planned on being buried in Egypt. He simply wanted to leave when everyone else did. By that time, his brothers had ...
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Why didn't Yosef's brothers bury him where he asked?

As I explain in Vayigash - Why didn't the family go back?, Par'o only allowed Yosef to bury Yaakov in Eretz Yisrael because of the oath Yaakov had made him swear. Even then, he forced the brothers ...
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?

From Halachipedia The practice of Talmidei Chachamim is to tell their daughters prior to Kiddushin that all Nedarim they have taken are hereby revoked.[20] In fact, Rav Moshe Shternbuch advises ...
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Did Yiftach's daughter have to comply with his vow?

Midrash Bereshis Rabba 60,3 says clearly that Yiftach's daughter did not need to comply as Yiftach's neder was not valid to bring his daughter as a sacrifice and therefore according to Reish Lakish ...
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Why do we call the "judges" experts?

The Shela in the beginning of Mesechtas Yoma - paragraph beginning with וכך הוא המנהג mentions saying דיינים מומחים in the context of saying it in front of a group of Talmidei Chochomim (wise scholars)...
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Tzedakah and Maaser - one obligation or two?

You can give Tzedakah with Maaser money, as long you don't have an obligation to give that Tzedakah. Example: Someone got an Aliya. The cost of the Aliya was $180. He is not permited to deduct it from ...
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bli neder on pas yisroel

The Beis Yosef in O.C. 603 quotes a Tashbet"z quoting R' Shmuel of Burnburk that one shouldn't accept not to eat pas palter during aseres yemei teshuva because if he did he'd have to continue keeping ...
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When does the clock for a husband annulling his wife's vows start?

The relevant date is the date when he hears who vowed and what they vowed. (Rambam Nedarim 12:21, Shulchan Arukh YD 234:21,31-32)
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According to the Rambam, if I make a vow and I realize that it was based on an error, is it still binding?

It's a Mishna in Nedarim states that vows based on an error are one of 4 types of vows that are invalid. פרק ג - משנה א אַרְבָּעָה נְדָרִים הִתִּירוּ חֲכָמִים, נִדְרֵי זֵרוּזִין, וְנִדְרֵי הֲבַאי, ...
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Why is Sabbath so important?

First, let me note that the passage you quoted comes after some other Divine expectations. It's not saying that only Shabbat is important, but it clearly is saying that Shabbat is important. I'll ...
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Can a husband forbid his wife from doing something (which will not hurt her)

I am merely translating the passage quoted by the questioner from the Chelkas Mechokek Shulchan Aruch even hoezer 74,17 which gives us the answers: אם מדיר אותה דבר שהוא לטובתה כגון שהדיר קונם ...
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