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Learning laws of aveilut when your parents are alive?

Here it brings the following sources on the matter: The Chasam Sofer (Shut Y.D. 341) was concerned about it and spoke about pushing off the learning until the coming Tisha B'Av. Sefer Chassidim (261)...
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What does one say to an Onen?

Not words of comfort In Pirkei Avot 4:181, R' Shim'on ben Elazar says: וְאַל תְּנַחֲמֶנּוּ בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁמֵּתוֹ מֻטָּל לְפָנָיו [D]o not console him at the time when his deceased lies before him; The ...
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What sad/terrible events actually took place on the 9th of Av?

Several events are listed in chapter 13 of Megilat Ta'anit: The Jews in the wilderness were decreed to die in the wilderness and not enter Israel. The First Temple was destroyed. The Second Temple ...
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What sad/terrible events actually took place on the 9th of Av?

Here are additional events to the ones already noted in other answers Expulsion from England (1290): The Jews of England were expelled by King Edward I (chabad.org) French expulsion (1306): The Jews ...
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Do mourners change their seats in shul today?

When I was an aveil (for each of my parents), I changed my seat for the entire year. That is also the general minhag in my shul. This included Shabbosa as my new seat became my makom kavua for that ...
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Does a mourner tear one garment, or every garment he wears for a period of time?

Shulchan Arukh YD 340:14 על כל המתים אם בא להחליף תוך ז' ימים מחליף ואינו קורע על אביו ואמו אם מחליף תוך ז' קורע כל הבגדים שהוא מחליף ואינו מאחה לעולם כמו בפעם הראשון.‏ Upon any [ordinary] ...
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

The idea behind not learning the laws of mourning, is a superstition that this could cause someone to die, and the laws to become applied (see Hattam Sofer YD 346, and a discussion of the idea here). ...
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How did Rabbi Akiva start again after losing 24,000 students?

See Yevamot 62b. The juxtaposition of the sentences in Gemara leads to understand that he learned this from a verse (Ecclesiastes 11.6). ר"ע אומר למד תורה בילדותו ילמוד תורה בזקנותו היו לו תלמידים ...
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Priority for multiple "chiyuvim" to be Shaliach Tzibbur

Rule #1: Don't fight about it. First, one should never get into fights with others to do Mitzvot (Mishna Berura 53 sk 65). Regarding our case, the Chatam Sofer (YD 345) writes that if you deserve a ...
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Covering the mirrors in the house of a mourner

Zvi Ron wrote an entire article about this in Ḥakirah (vol. 13). To quote and summarize: the earliest source is the Hattam Soffer (19th century) [i]: He explains that mirrors were turned around ...
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How can the mourner remarry within one month, if he has to wait two regalim?

Rashi on 21b points to the continuation of the gemara on Moed Katan 23a which provides the answer ואם אין לו בנים מותר לישא לאלתר משום ביטול פריה ורביה הניחה לו בנים קטנים מותר לישא לאלתר מפני ...
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Can a mourner/avel learn Torah on Shabbat?

It is Halacha and is brought in Shulchan Arukh YD 384. It applies on Shabbat just like all other mourning restrictions: only when not done publicly. So learning Gemara in your house is prohibited, ...
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What sad/terrible events actually took place on the 9th of Av?

Heinrich Himmler received the formal command from the Nazi Party to initiate the Final Solution, an order which resulted in millions of Jewish deaths. This happened on Tisha B'Av in 5701, which ...
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When there are four aveilim (mourners), Is it better to have one minyan of 40 people or 4 minyonim of ten each?

Rav Moshe Feinstein (Igrot Moshe YD 4:61:4) ruled they should not split up because of BeRov Am, and all the more so in a case where the extra group would not be in a Shul or even a room without a ...
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What is the halachic source for the minhagim of mourning during Sefira?

As DoubleAA pointed out, the Beis Yosef quotes the "Gaonim". Those "Gaonim" could be referring to the Halachos Pesukos, which was a sefer written by one of the Gaonim, possible ...
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Learning laws of aveilut when your parents are alive?

When we learned for Smiche, Dayan Zimmermann (The Rov in Gateshead) told us that people should learn Aveilus BEFORE they need it. Otherwise one will make mistakes when it needed.
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Does Yom Tov end the "Shloshim" period?

Yes, Shloshim is cancelled if Shiva ended before the holiday started. ShA YD 399:3
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Brit milah during shloshim

Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 23:20 says that the father of the baby can participate in a Bris and Seuda for his son even during the Sheloshim. אבי הבן, כשהוא אבל עושה משתה ושמחה ביום המילה ומשתתף אף ...
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Covering pictures in the house of a mourner

Rabbi Oshinski in his sefer Hilchos Aveilus (Perek 3:24) he writes (bringing the Zichron Eliyahu and the Pnei Baruch) that mirrors are covered and some hold that pictures are covered as well. He does ...
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Heter to call a mourner to the Torah on a weekday in the first week of his aveilus

There is an opinion that a mourner can be called up to the Torah on a weekday - (but not at all on Shabbat). It's the opinion of the Maharil in Hilchot Kriat HaTorah (דף ק"ח סוף ע"א). He is quoted by ...
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What halachos of mourning apply to a grandchild for his grandparent's death?

Upon hearing bad news, one says the blessing ברוך אתה יקוק אלוקינו מלך העולם דיין האמת"‏" (OC 222:2). Regarding mourning, the Shulchan Arukh rules (YD 374.6): כל מי שמתאבל עליו מתאבל עמו אם ...
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Mourning for a parent for a year

R David Brofsky in his Hilkhot Avelut p. 192 quotes R Yosef Blau (Memories of a Giant) as explaining R Yosef Soloveitchik was puzzled why there were 12 months of aveilut for a parent who had lived a ...
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Learning laws of aveilut when your parents are alive?

R' Yosef Berger told me not to learn the latter half of Mo'ed Katan while both parents are living. This was to learn through the sugyas of the gemaras, not just to learn the laws of aveilus, and he ...
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Wishes to a mourner in addition to "Hamokom Yenachem Eschem"

Rav Yehudah Aryeh Dunner of Bnei Brak in his שאלות המצויות - ח"ג עמ' קז quotes Rav Shmuel Vosner ZTL that the reason this phrase was added was because the words המקום ינחם אתכם are in future tense, ...
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Taking a Shower during the Nine-Days

R. Yitzchak Abadi discusses this in a responsum: Ohr Yitzchak 1:219 ואגב דעסקינן ברחיצה לא אוכל להתאפק מלהעיר על מנהג של הרבה אנשים אשר לא מתרחצים מר"ח אב עד העשירי בו וחושבים שלרחוץ הוא איסור ...
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Why do Sefaradim skip "Uva LeTziyon" in the house of a mourner?

A source for skipping a part of U'va L'tziyon in the house of a mourner is the Avudraham. Avudraham - in Seder Tfilas H'taniyos (end of page in this linked edition) says that similar to Tisha B'Av ...
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What does it mean for a mourner to "have a chiuv"?

Davening from the amud is not an obligation indeed, and if someone else has priority one is not obligated to find another minyan in order to daven from the amud. It is a custom as a way of honoring ...
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"Chiyuv" to be chazan vs. congregational approval and refusal

R Eliezer Melamed addresses this (online under 3 but also in The Laws of prayer p. 51) The chazan is the emissary of the congregation, and therefore a person is prohibited from taking hold of the ...
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Brit milah during shloshim

The Rama (YD 391:2) quotes opinions both ways if a mourner may partake of the meal at a circumcision (the doubt is if it is considered "celebratory" like a wedding is), and notes the custom is to ...
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"Hamakom" after shiv'a

גשר החיים (vol. 1 20:9) writes: (translation mine) אם לא נחמו תוך ז׳ ופגע בו תוך ל׳ — מביע לו ג״כ ברכת תנחומין הנהוגה. ואחר ל׳ אומר לו רק ״תתנחם״. ועל אביו ואמו מנחמו כל י״ב תרש (טוש״ע שם).&...
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