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A wife wants to stop going to the mikva. What does that mean for the husband?

Halachically, you transgress a biblical commandment if you knowingly have relations with a niddah, and the punishment is karet. See this answer, which cites Rambam Laws of Prohibitions on Relations 4:...
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A wife wants to stop going to the mikva. What does that mean for the husband?

I am impressed by the gravity of your inquiry and your care in the matter in that you are seeking real answers to a complicated question. May Hashem help the two of you and anyone else in need of this ...
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Menstruating on Wedding Day

Practically speaking, the wedding goes ahead as planned, with minor differences at the ceremony: The groom is careful not to touch the bride when putting the ring on her finger. The groom does not ...
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If a convert goes off the derekh, must he go to the mikvah again after he repents?

Shulchan Arukh, Yoreh Deah 268:12 ‏...ואפילו חזר ועבד עבודת כוכבים – הרי הוא כישראל מומר שקידושיו קידושין.‏ ישראל מומר שעשה תשובה – אינו צריך לטבול. רק מדרבנן יש לו לטבול ולקבל עליו דברי חבירות בפני ...
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Building a Mikva Upstairs

There is no Halachic issue SA YD 201.7 Rema הגה: מותר לעשותו על הגג ובלבד שלא יהיה תוך כלי או אבן אחת שחקקו ולבסוף קבעו אבל חבור אבנים הרבה לא מקרי כלי (תשובת הרשב"א סימן ת"ת):‏ Its allowed ...
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May a mikveh immerse by shower rather than by tank?

This wouldn't work, as Mikvah water needs to be contained (Ashboren) not flowing (Zochalin). See Rambam Mikvaot 9:18 for a parallel case.
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Difference between Chabad mikvaos and other mikvaos?

It's not politics (at least not purely); it's a matter of construction. Suppose you have a big pit in the ground that collects rainwater; everyone agrees that pit is a mikvah. Fine. Today, people want ...
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Can I make a mikvah using artificial rain?

As Ephraim already mentioned, HaRav Menashe Klein discusses this in משנה הלכות חלק ב. He brings a Chazon Ish in חידושי חזו"א מקואות תנינא סי' יו"ד ס"ק י"א which talks about using condensed steam for ...
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Menstruating on Wedding Day

She has a chuppas niddah. It was a dispute among the Rishonim as to what extent chuppas niddah is effective, but common practice is that they go ahead with the wedding as normal (Shach Yoreh De'ah 192:...
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Removing Niddah status without a mikvah

Shulchan Arukh (YD 201:1) writes: אין האשה עולה מטומאתה ברחיצה במרחץ ואפילו עלו עליה כל מימות שבעולם עדיין היא בטומאתה וחייבים עליה כרת עד שתטבול כל גופה בבת אחת במי מקוה או מעיין שיש בהם מ' ...
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Why does water purify?

R Aryeh Kaplan in his beautiful book Waters of Eden (also part of his Anthology vol. 2) writes this is a chok and cites Bamidbar Rabbah 19:8 By your lives, a dead person doesn't make things impure, ...
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Aruch Hashulchan on municipality water for a mikvah

Aruch Hashulchan YD 201:169 ויש מקוות בערים הגדולות שבשם הולכים המים מהנהרות לכל בתי העיר דרך צנורות וסלונות תחת הקרקע בעומק ונקרא בלשון המדינה וואד"א פראוואדי"ן וממשיכין גם למקואות המים ...
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How does one create a mikvah in a region without precipitation?

Ohr.edu says that in an area where there is no rain, snow can be trucked in. Putting snow in a mikveh and letting it melt is in fact one of the methods sometimes used to fill a mikveh. I hear ...
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Mikvah during UK COVID-19 Lockdown

This is the guidance issued by the United Synagogue. The observance of Taharat Hamishpacha (the laws of family purity) is a fundamental mitzvah. Mikvaot remain open for women. Best-practice ...
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Can I convert a pool into a kosher mikvah (for wife)

Obviously, as you mentioned, you'll ask a specific shaila. Here's a couple of issues for you to check out and ask: 1) how was your pool made? If it was a preformed concrete block which is placed in ...
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Why do we cut nails for mikvah but not hand washing?

The custom for women to trim their nails before going to the Mikva is recorded in Shulchan Arukh YD 198:18 but the reason given is related to avoiding dirt under the nail in the part of the nail which ...
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What happens if a non-Jew uses a mikvah?

Maimonides states in the Laws of Forbidden Sexual Relations 13:4, that a non-Jew immerses in a mikveh by himself, it has no effect. The Shulchan Aruch in Y"D 268:3 holds this way as well, provided one ...
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Contact lenses during conversion immersion

On a similar question about a woman's regular mikvah immersion, Daily Halacha reports several opinions (emphasis mine): Hacham Ovadia Yosef addresses this question in his work Taharat Habayit (vol. ...
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How many Judges need be present at a Mikva for conversion?

The Talmud states in several places (Yevamos 46b, Kiddushin 62b), based on Biblical exegesis, that 3 people are required to witness something in order for the conversion to be valid: גר צריך שלשה מ&...
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Why do women wear ponytail elastics on Shabas?

Shemirat Shabbat Kehilchata (16:18, cf. footnotes 69, 82) notes that the practice is to be lenient and cites the following from Orchot Chayim (Shabbat 261) to try and justify the practice, though in ...
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Source for Groom's Immersion in Ritualarium (mikveh)

Nitei Gavriel Nisuin1 9:7:11 quotes this Minhag in the name of Chupas Chasanim 6:1 (appx year 1800), Yalkut Mai'am Lo'aiz Devarim 22:12 (appx year 1700), Taamei Hamitzvos L'Rikanti (appx year 1300) - ...
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Shomer Negiyah- negated by Mikvah?

The issue of touching a woman when sexual intercourse is forbidden is addressed in Shulchan Aruch Yore Deah 195, sayf 17; Shach Sayf Katan 20; Gemara Shabbos 13; and the main discussion is in Sefer ...
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Can mikvah water become tamei?

Water in a Mikvah does not become Tamei. (Actually, Tamei water is the only food/drink which can become Tahor again, and this is by connecting it to a Mikvah (Mishna, Beitza 2:3).) See the first ...
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Where are the 24-hour keilim mikvaot in NYC?

I just called Washington Heights Keilim mikvah. Located on Bennet Ave. between W. 185 St and W. 186 St. Manhattan. Phone: 212 923 3582 The woman told me that the entrance is to the right of the ...
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How many times should I make sure to dip when I toivel in the mikveh?

You should dip once, as the Rambam says in הלכות מקואות - פרק ראשון that somebody who dips more than once is behaving inappropriately. The Kesef Mishne explains the reason: It looks like he's bathing ...
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May one immerse in a body of water that was used for baptism?

A private mikvah used for baptism would be prohibited. As per BT Avodah Zarah p.58B and 59A, though, a body of water in the public domain cannot become prohibited, see discussion below: ר"ל איקלע ...
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Why does one need to go to the mikvah before writing a letter in the Torah?

As @DoubleAA wrote in the comments, this is not halacha, but a minhag brought by some, e.g., from here #2 "Ritual immersion on a regular basis (not just because of the decree of Ezra) is fitting ...
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Embarrassed to go to mikvah

Find a distant Mikveh where nobody knows him and different hours Find a real frum Mikveh - Haredi guys don't care at all re-Consider the importance of going to Mikveh - it's not a necessity, not a ...
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Embarrassed to go to mikvah

Go the ocean, which is as kosher a mikvah as they come, wearing a loose-fitting garment
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Embarrassed to go to mikvah

You ask: How should I comfort him as a friend and tell it's importance? Answer: It's not important. You ask: Is there any solution for his problem? Answer: He doesn't have to go to the Mikveh ...
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