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Do you force yourself to eat Shalosh Seuda if you are not hungry?

If eating is actually repulsive, at that point it is not considered halkhicaly eating and he will not fulfil his obligation of eating the third meal. See Mishna Berurah siman 291 #4. As far as making ...
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Do you force yourself to eat Shalosh Seuda if you are not hungry?

Shulchan Arukh OC 291:1 יהא זהיר מאד לקיים סעודה שלישית ואף אם הוא שבע יכול לקיים אותה בכביצה ואם אי אפשר לו כלל לאכול אינו חייב לצער את עצמו והחכם עיניו בראשו שלא ימלא בטנו בסעודת הבוקר כדי ליתן ...
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What's the source of a custom not to eat meat at seudo shlishis?

R. Pinchas Zavichi quotes a source for this custom. He begins by quoting R. Yissachar Dov Rokeach who proved that the post-Shabbat meal must have been dairy in the times of Israel's wanderings in the ...
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Inviting non-Jews to a Shabbos meal - practical considerations

I have non-Jewish guests fairly often (board games are a good way to spend Shabbat afternoon...). Here are some things I do: Wine: just use mevushal. Why risk either offense or waste? Your human ...
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Is Pas Shacharis a Chiyuv or can I skip breakfast?

dinonline responds to your question as such The idea of pas shel shacharis — morning bread, or breakfast — is not an “obligation,” but is stated by the Sages of the Gemara by way of good advice. The ...
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Brit milah during shloshim

Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 23:20 says that the father of the baby can participate in a Bris and Seuda for his son even during the Sheloshim. אבי הבן, כשהוא אבל עושה משתה ושמחה ביום המילה ומשתתף אף ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

By talking about something really interesting that applies to your crowd. Know your audience is rule #1. NOTE Some people will tune out easily when hearing a regular scholarly vort on the Parshah or ...
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Can kiddush be made in the shul?

The Beur Halacha says that beshaas hadechak, in pressing circumstances, when you make kiddush you can have in mind to eat in another room in the same building. He concludes that if you can see the ...
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Source for choosing your meal guests wisely

The source is a beraita quoted in Sanhedrin 23a: תניא נמי הכי כך היו נקיי הדעת שבירושלים עושין לא היו חותמין על השטר אלא א"כ יודעין מי חותם עמהן ולא היו יושבין בדין אלא א"כ יודעין מי יושב ...
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Should one eat matzah balls for seudah shelishit on Shabbat Erev Pesach?

This is an excellent question. Common knowledge would seem to indicate that there is no problem with eating cooked matza since you definitely can't use it for the seder and that Mezonot-foods seem to ...
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If meal continued into the night what do I say in benching

As far as I know the rule is: "If you eat kezais in kodesh you add special bench" Therefore, in all those cases you have to add Rtzei/Yaale Veyavo. After searching for sources Here is a booklet of ...
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Brit milah during shloshim

The Rama (YD 391:2) quotes opinions both ways if a mourner may partake of the meal at a circumcision (the doubt is if it is considered "celebratory" like a wedding is), and notes the custom is to ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

When everyone has to stop what they are doing in the meal and briefly be quiet for a dvar torah, it gives the impression that torah is apart from normal living. How do you avoid the presentation of ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

Here's an approach that I've found to be generally successful, when I've deployed it at my own table. Topic of interest As both previous answers indicated, and as multiple answers to this related ...
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How does one have Seudah Shlishit when Erev Yom Tov occurs on Shabbat?

Magen Avraham (OC 529:2) writes that ideally one should eat Seudah Shlishit before Mincha Ketanah (9½ halachic hours after sunrise), but if he forgot to eat before, he may eat the meal even after ...
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Eating fish on Yom Tov?

See Aruch Hashulchan 529:4 that one should have fish and meat on Yom Tov: ולקבוע כל סעודה על דגים ובשר, Mateh Ephraim 625:65/67 says similarly that one should have fish, meat, and wine: עתה נחזור ...
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How long do I have after a bread meal to bensch?

HALACHIPEDIA has part of its entry on Birkat HaMazon that deals with the question. The numbers refer to the references – please see the original especially ref 21. It's not the distraction that ...
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Cutting Challah on Shabbos

The source for cutting into the bread before making the blessing is in order to minimize the appearance of interruption between the blessing and the eating (S.A. O.C. 167:1 with Magen Avrohom 3). ...
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"Sending" mishloach manot by serving them

It's a safek if one is yotzei like this or not. It's best to be machmir and send more to a different person. Mikra'ei Kodesh - Hilchot Purim by Rabbi Moshe Harari, 12:24. המזמין את חברו לסעוד אצלו ...
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Why must we acquire Lehhem Mishneh for every Shabbat meal?

The Tur (orach chaim 291) quotes an opinion that 2 loaves are unnecessary for the third meal. The explanation offered is that from the double portion of Friday, four loaves were made. One was consumed ...
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Shmiras Einayim Problem

One of my Rabbis put it like this: When I see a pretty, half-dressed (undressed?) girl get on the bus I also get excited. That is the way we were made and is nature. What makes the difference is what ...
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Shmiras Einayim Problem

Below is part of an answer I posted with respect to another question, but it is directly applicable to your question: At [Yoma 29a][1], the Gemara quotes Rav Nachman who says that sinful thoughts ...
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live music and eating a meal?

The source is in Mishna Sota 9, 11: מִשֶּׁבָּטְלָה סַנְהֶדְרִין, בָּטְלָה הַשִּׁיר מִבֵּית הַמִּשְׁתָּאוֹת, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (ישעיה כד) בַּשִּׁיר לֹא יִשְׁתּוּ יָיִן וְגוֹ':‏Bartenura דִּכְתִיב (...
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Differences of Timing of Se'udah for Brit and Pidyon Haben

The sefer Pidyon HaBen KeHilchaso 8:37 brings two customs. One is as you described. The custom of starting the meal first and then performing the pidyon haben is brought by the Maharil, Shu"t Mahari ...
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Chasidic meal seder and bracha on dessert

Supposedly the compote (i.e., fruit-based dessert) symbolizes the highest world A't'z'ilus, which leads to the question: How could we then, given this understanding, make a new bracha on dessert ...
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End of Seven Days of Sheva Brachos

Sha'arei Teshuvah, Orach Chaim 188:8 quotes Ginat V'radim who writes that in such a case, even according to those who say we always follow the beginning of a meal, that only applies to mentioning the ...
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Getting drunk on Purim

Although many sources prohibit intoxication (Ramban Comm. to Kedoshim, Rambam Hil. Deos, Meoros Megillah 7b, Kol Bo and Orchos Chaim cited by Darchei Moshe and Beis Yosef respectively in Orach Chaim ...
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How long do I have after a bread meal to bensch?

Aruch HaShulchan Orach Chaim 184:7 & 8 says that we don't know how to determine if one is still full, therefore one should say Birchas HaMazon within 72 minutes of completing the meal. If it is ...
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How to express thanks for G-d's salvation when others weren't as fortunate

The Yosef Lekech on Megillas Esther addresses your question. He asks why we don't celebrate Chanukah with "mishteh v'simcha" (joyful partying) like we celebrate Purim. He answers that by Chanukah, ...
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