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What's the source of a custom not to eat meat at seudo shlishis?

R. Pinchas Zavichi quotes a source for this custom. He begins by quoting R. Yissachar Dov Rokeach who proved that the post-Shabbat meal must have been dairy in the times of Israel's wanderings in the ...
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Inviting non-Jews to a Shabbos meal - practical considerations

I have non-Jewish guests fairly often (board games are a good way to spend Shabbat afternoon...). Here are some things I do: Wine: just use mevushal. Why risk either offense or waste? Your human ...
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Is Pas Shacharis a Chiyuv or can I skip breakfast?

dinonline responds to your question as such The idea of pas shel shacharis — morning bread, or breakfast — is not an “obligation,” but is stated by the Sages of the Gemara by way of good advice. The ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

By talking about something really interesting that applies to your crowd. Know your audience is rule #1. NOTE Some people will tune out easily when hearing a regular scholarly vort on the Parshah or ...
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Brit milah during shloshim

Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 23:20 says that the father of the baby can participate in a Bris and Seuda for his son even during the Sheloshim. אבי הבן, כשהוא אבל עושה משתה ושמחה ביום המילה ומשתתף אף ...
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Can kiddush be made in the shul?

The Beur Halacha says that beshaas hadechak, in pressing circumstances, when you make kiddush you can have in mind to eat in another room in the same building. He concludes that if you can see the ...
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Source for choosing your meal guests wisely

The source is a beraita quoted in Sanhedrin 23a: תניא נמי הכי כך היו נקיי הדעת שבירושלים עושין לא היו חותמין על השטר אלא א"כ יודעין מי חותם עמהן ולא היו יושבין בדין אלא א"כ יודעין מי יושב ...
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Should one eat matzah balls for seudah shelishit on Shabbat Erev Pesach?

This is an excellent question. Common knowledge would seem to indicate that there is no problem with eating cooked matza since you definitely can't use it for the seder and that Mezonot-foods seem to ...
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Brit milah during shloshim

The Rama (YD 391:2) quotes opinions both ways if a mourner may partake of the meal at a circumcision (the doubt is if it is considered "celebratory" like a wedding is), and notes the custom is to ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

When everyone has to stop what they are doing in the meal and briefly be quiet for a dvar torah, it gives the impression that torah is apart from normal living. How do you avoid the presentation of ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

Here's an approach that I've found to be generally successful, when I've deployed it at my own table. Topic of interest As both previous answers indicated, and as multiple answers to this related ...
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Eating fish on Yom Tov?

See Aruch Hashulchan 529:4 that one should have fish and meat on Yom Tov: ולקבוע כל סעודה על דגים ובשר, Mateh Ephraim 625:65/67 says similarly that one should have fish, meat, and wine: עתה נחזור ...
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3 meals on shabbat?

As you noted in the question, the accepted halacha is that one requires bread at the first two meals (Shulchan Aruch 274:4). At the third meal, one needs to eat bread as well; however, there are ...
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"Sending" mishloach manot by serving them

It's a safek if one is yotzei like this or not. It's best to be machmir and send more to a different person. Mikra'ei Kodesh - Hilchot Purim by Rabbi Moshe Harari, 12:24. המזמין את חברו לסעוד אצלו ...
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Shmiras Einayim Problem

Below is part of an answer I posted with respect to another question, but it is directly applicable to your question: At [Yoma 29a][1], the Gemara quotes Rav Nachman who says that sinful thoughts ...
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Shmiras Einayim Problem

One of my Rabbis put it like this: When I see a pretty, half-dressed (undressed?) girl get on the bus I also get excited. That is the way we were made and is nature. What makes the difference is what ...
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live music and eating a meal?

The source is in Mishna Sota 9, 11: מִשֶּׁבָּטְלָה סַנְהֶדְרִין, בָּטְלָה הַשִּׁיר מִבֵּית הַמִּשְׁתָּאוֹת, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (ישעיה כד) בַּשִּׁיר לֹא יִשְׁתּוּ יָיִן וְגוֹ':‏Bartenura דִּכְתִיב (...
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Differences of Timing of Se'udah for Brit and Pidyon Haben

The sefer Pidyon HaBen KeHilchaso 8:37 brings two customs. One is as you described. The custom of starting the meal first and then performing the pidyon haben is brought by the Maharil, Shu"t Mahari ...
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Chasidic meal seder and bracha on dessert

Supposedly the compote (i.e., fruit-based dessert) symbolizes the highest world A't'z'ilus, which leads to the question: How could we then, given this understanding, make a new bracha on dessert ...
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End of Seven Days of Sheva Brachos

Sha'arei Teshuvah, Orach Chaim 188:8 quotes Ginat V'radim who writes that in such a case, even according to those who say we always follow the beginning of a meal, that only applies to mentioning the ...
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Does birkat hamazon cover dessert (and other items requiring a separate bracha rishona during the meal)?

If they are eaten during the meal, you need only Bracha Rishona. After the meal, is also generally considered as during the meal until you say birkat Hamazon. In some special cases described in ...
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What is technically required for shalosh seudas?

You should use bread. That is the minimum Halakhic requirement. If you for some reason really, really can't have bread (eg. allergy, availability, repulsion), might as well satisfy some minority ...
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Do you have to eat bread meal(s) on every day of Chol HaMoed?

I can pass along this bit of halacha (I will add bold for the relevant part) which I got in my email: Every day of Chol Hamoed we add ya'aleh v'yovo in Shemone Esrei and bentching. In Shemone Esrei ...
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Music at Seduas Achashverosh

the Manos levi (see Manos HaLevi 1:8. ed Targum Simcha) on Megilas Esther says that Achashveorosh was afraid the Jews would hear music which would remind them of what their souls heard before they ...
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Eating after Kiddush Friday Night without Motzi?

Although msh210's answer would appear to reflect the opinion of Mishnah Berurah which does not differentiate between kiddush at night or during the day, there are opinions that argue and would limit ...
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Chasidic meal seder and bracha on dessert

Although all the four worlds are inseparably connected as you say, there is a distinction between the worlds of Briah, Yetzirah, Asiyah and the world of Atzilut. From the Chassidic context which you ...
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Stringentness of Melava Malka Meal

R Ari Enkin brings a number of sources on the topic here. He writes it is a mitzva worth every effort but ultimately optional. It is considered a great mitzva to prepare and partake of a special ...
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End of Seven Days of Sheva Brachos

Rav Ovadia (Yabia Omer (vol. 5 Even HaEzer 8), Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 3:17, 17:12-17)) and Rav Moshe HaLevi (Birkat Hashem (vol. 4 page 395)) make heavy use of Safek Berachot LeHakel to avoid ...
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