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The basic rule is there is no allowance to speak lashon hara to relatives. See for instance Hilchos Lashon Hara (Klal 8, Sif 10). In fact, the Chafetz Chaim there advises against telling your wife all the ways you were mistreated during the day because it will cause her to lose respect for you too! The Chafetz Chaim in Hilchos Lashon Hara (Klal 6, Sif 4) ...


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See the Chafetz Chaim in Shmiras Halashon (חלק ב' פרק יח): פָּרָשַׁת בְּהַעֲלֹתְךָ ''וַתְּדַבֵּר מִרְיָם וְאַהֲרֹן בְּמֹשֶה עַל אוֹדוֹת'' וְגוֹ' {במדבר י''ב א'}. מִפָּרָשָׁה זוֹ אָנוּ לְמֵדִים כַּמָּה עִנְיָנִים: א. שֶׁאִסּוּרוֹ הוּא אֲפִלּוּ אִם הָאִישׁ שֶׁדִּבֵּר עָלָיו הוּא עָנָו וּשְׁפַל רוּחַ, וְאֵינוֹ מַקפִּיד עַל מַה שֶׁדּוֹבֵר עָלָיו [...


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The Igros Moshe YD 2:103 writes that it is a deplorable act for a Rebbi to ask his student to tell on another student who did something bad,and it will lessen the seriousness of loshen harah. The Chafetz Chaim in Hilchos Loshen Harah 5 writes that even if a father or rebbi asks him to say lashon harah it is prohibited. However, in a case of to'eles it is ...


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The Chofetz Chaim writes in a note to the fifth detail of permissible Lashon Hara in Hilchos Lashon Hara 10:14 אפשר דהוא הדין אם כוונתו בסיפורו להפיג את דאגתו מלבו - הוי כמכוון לתועלת על להבא, [ולפי זה מה שאמרו ז"ל, דאגה בלב איש ישיחנה לאחרים, קאי גם על ענין כזה]. אך שיזהר שלא יחסרו שאר הפרטים שבסעיף זה" It is possible that the same [allowance] ...


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There's an argument between R' Moshe Feinstein and R' Moshe Shternbuch. R' Moshe Feinstein (as mentioned by sam) says that it's disgusting , as (practically) the teacher is teaching that Lashon Hara is permitted. (or at least not so bad). Even though the Gemara reported instances when Amorayim would inform on their friends to their teacher, there the ...


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You cannot really know if the other person minds; he might be saying he doesn't mind out of a desire to avoid conflict, for example. So let us first consider the case where we do actually know (as well as we can): can you say lashon hara about yourself? This question has been asked. There is a famous story about the Chofetz Chayim saying this is forbidden....


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No the authorship of the whole Tanakh doesn't constitute l'shon hara since the purpose was positive; to teach lessons to future generations (Megillah 14a). Information, even negative information, that is inteded for some positive purpose, and not just to defame someone, is by deifinition not l'shon hara. This is the opinion of numerous authorities including ...


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One is allowed to speak Lashon Hora about a non-Jew. The Pasuk says "לֹא-תֵלֵךְ רָכִיל בְּעַמֶּיךָ" - "Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people" (Leviticus 19:16). The words "among thy people" teach you that one is only forbidden to speak Lashon Hora about those who are included within "thy people". This goes so far as to include a Jew ...


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In contrasting inappropriate speech with lashon hara, R. Judah Loewe writes as follows: Chiddushei Aggadot Ketubot 8b רק החטא הוא מפני הדבור עצמו ואפשר שאפי' אם היה מוציא דבר נבלה בינו ובין עצמו היה חטא דלא דמי ללשון הרע שהוא מדבר רע לאחר ואין עיקר החטא מצד הדבור רק מצד הרע שהוא עושה בדבור The sin is just because of the speech itself, and is is possible ...


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Not sure if just saying someone is stupid is Lashon Hara, it depends on the context and how it's said. But in general, when slandering to a Gentile, besides the sin of speaking slander about your fellow man, you are also desecrating the name of God by bad-mouthing his children. Source: https://torah.org/learning/halashon-chapter8/ "One who violates this ...


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In one the hayom yoms it says that it is even worse to speak lashon horo about a goy because it can also be a chilul Hashem


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According to R. Menahem HaMeiri the definition of l'shon hara, is speech that is meant to be defamatory or hurtful. Thus, statements of a negative nature that are said for a positive reason (for example to relieve ones streff and unload on one's spouse), and not to hurt others, are permissible since by definition they are not l'shon hara. These are his words ...


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If the information is related before three people, then it is considered publicly known, and should one of the three repeat it, he is not guilty of lashon hara , as long as his intent was not to spread it as much as possible. (Rambam, Hilchos Deos 7:5) Therefore, one may repeat anything heard from a public news source, and it is not considered lashon hara. ...


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According to R. Menahem HaMeiri the definition of l'shon hara, is speech that is meant to be defamatory or hurtful. Thus, statements of a negative nature that are said for a positive reason (in this case the improvement of health and possibly the preservation of life in the context of mental health therapy), and not to hurt others, are permissible since by ...


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Rabbi Hershel Schachter has a yutorah mp3 on academic integrity (and the need for students to report cheating to the appropriate board); he mentions there explicitly "if someone needs to pour their heart out to a psychiatrist" that would be permissible.


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I asked the question “Where is this Rambam to be found?” and I apologise – it is not a Rambam. The Ohr HaChaim on Vayikro 19 (17) says in part: ותוכיחנו ועל ידי התוכחה יהיה אחד מב' דברים, או יתן אמתלא להנעשה ואין חטא, או יתחרט על הנעשה וישוב לבל עשות כדבר הזה, והרי הוא כריע כאח לך: This is expanded on in this Aish article which says "The Ohr HaChaim ...


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See this answer which quotes the Chafetz Chaim (6:4) who allows one to listen to someone else vent their frustrations as long as the listener does not accept the words as true. (In fact, the Chofetz Chaim goes as far as to call this a mitzva!) Aside from the permission to vent to oneself about someone as long as you don't accept it as true - by judging them ...


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Rabbi Gil Student writes in his sefer "search Engine" page 273-276 about the idea of writing letters to vent about others . He brings many sources and concludes that one may write letters for their eyes only to calm oneself and to do in a constructive matter ,but if done just in anger seems more problematic for the reason of bearing a grudge. He also cites ...


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A relevant source might be Nedarim 50b: ההיא דאתיא לקמיה דרב יהודה מנהרדעא לדינא ואיתחייבת מן דינא אמרה ליה שמואל רבך הכי דנן אמר לה ידעת ליה אמרה ליה אין גוצא ורבה כריסיה אוכם ורבה שיניה אמר לה לבזוייה קאתית תיהוי ההיא אתתא בשמתא פקעה ומתה: A certain woman came before Rav Yehuda of the city of Neharde’a for judgment, and she was found guilty in the ...


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Mostly no. One is permitted to speak badly about others when A) the speech concerns a Rasha doing a sin (korach) B) A publicly known matter (Solomon having too many wives and doing idolatry) What about when David sinned with Batsheva, which didn't affect the public and he wasn't genuinely a rasha? I would have to say that it became a public matter when ...


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According to R. Menahem HaMeiri the definition of l'shon hara, is speech that is meant to be defamatory or hurtful. Thus, statements of a negative nature that are said for a positive reason (in this case asking a rabbi a question), and not to hurt others, are permissible since by definition they are not l'shon hara. These are his words in is Hibbur HaTeshuva ...


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Rav Elchonon Wassermann (Kovetz Ha’aros Yevamos #70) regarding Lashon Harah qualifies the prohibition that it only applies when there is no benefit or to'eles: It would seem that all that is prohibited between people (bein adam l’chavero) is only prohibited when done in a harmful and destructive manner without justification. For example regarding the ...


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There's a good YUTorah mp3 about this. Rabbi Hershel Shachter mentions that years ago, there was concern of widespread cheating going on at Yeshiva College. Its president, Rabbi Dr. Shmuel Belkin, told the student body -- "I studied with the Chafetz Chaim himself, and I know the laws of Lashon Hara! And the halacha is, you need to come forward." Rabbi ...


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There is no official set of laws called "hilchos biography", perhaps he was using the word "Hilchos" colloquially to say "do you know the way to go about writing a biography" ie. How to phrase certain things, what to leave out, what names to change etc. However, there are Laws of Slander and Gossip, as well as embarrassment. And those halachos should guide ...


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