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I have faced this problem several times - sometimes a holiday and sometimes Shabbat (directly, or not having time to get home). How I handle it depends in part on whether the plans can still be changed, but the broad outline is the same. It goes roughly like this: (Name), I'd really like to be able to attend this event. (Something about why it's important....


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I have faced this issue many times myself - or advised younger colleagues facing the same. A few thoughts I have found it critical to be very clear, direct and consistent. If you can explain that you are a religious Jews, never work/use electricity/travel on Shabbat and religious holidays, and consistently take off all holidays, then most non-Jews will ...


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myjewishlearning.com has an article titled "How Do I Ask for the High Holidays Off?" which addresses how to handle this: First, provide straightforward information. Say, “You probably know I’m Jewish, and the High Holidays are coming up in a few weeks.” Mention the exact dates you’ll need to have off, and explain that you’ll be at services/ observing the ...


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I know this is essentially a repeat of the other answers, but this is a matter of life and death, chalilah! The floating wicks you are using are designed for OIL - not paraffin. To quote the Amazon link you provided: FOR CHANUKAH & SHABBAT: Perfect for your Hanukah Menorah or to use to light Shabbos candles, these wicks fit almost any oil cup. ...


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The Talmud in fact mentions that more people succeeded at becoming working scholars than at becoming just scholars: Berachot 35b ת"ר ואספת דגנך מה ת"ל לפי שנא' לא ימוש ספר התורה הזה מפיך יכול דברים ככתבן ת"ל ואספת דגנך הנהג בהן מנהג דרך ארץ דברי ר' ישמעאל ר"ש בן יוחי אומר אפשר אדם חורש בשעת חרישה וזורע בשעת זריעה וקוצר בשעת קצירה ודש בשעת דישה וזורה בשעת ...


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The rabbis of the Talmud had jobs to support themselves. Hillel was a woodchopper and welldigger. Shammai was a building contractor. Rabbi Yochanan b. Zakkai was a businessman for forty years. Rabbi Yehoshua b. Chananiah was a blacksmith. Rabbi Meir and Rabbi Chananel were scribes. Rabbi Chanina sold bees' honey. Rabbi Chiyya the Elder, Rabbi Shimon ...


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Maimonides, Laws of Torah Study 1:9: גְּדוֹלֵי חַכְמֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל הָיוּ מֵהֶן חוֹטְבֵי עֵצִים וּמֵהֶן שׁוֹאֲבֵי מַיִם וּמֵהֶן סוּמִים וְאַף עַל פִּי כֵן הָיוּ עוֹסְקִין בְּתַלְמוּד תּוֹרָה בַּיּוֹם וּבַלַּיְלָה וְהֵם מִכְּלַל מַעְתִּיקֵי הַשְּׁמוּעָה אִישׁ מִפִּי אִישׁ מִפִּי משֶׁה רַבֵּנוּ: Some of the great scholars in Israel were hewers of wood, ...


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Shabbat candle lighting, unfortunately, is fraught with danger, especially when you have toddlers and babies in the house. Generally, the smaller / shorter you can keep the flame and the shorter the flame stays lit, the safer things are. (I don't understand why most Shabbat wax candles stay lit for 4 hours, and some, as much as 6 hours. Do we need them on ...


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Great question! Regarding 1 - There is a rule (will add source, later - there are a few) that if one says "I will sin and do teshuva then sin again", the teshuva is ineffective. So, at the least, prior to doing to teshuva, one needs to realize the severity of the sin sufficiently to the point that he resolves not to repeat it. To me, that seems like he ...


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I think the problem is that we spend so much time focusing on learning. We overly focus on intellectual stimulation. On another question LN6595 repeated their teacher's advice: [I]t is imperative to periodically learn a new commentary on the Siddur in order to find new meaning in the old words. But that will only help for a short while, until you find ...


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I've found that most Gentile managers understand the importance of religious practice. In my working history, sadly, I've had the most problems with non-religious Jews, so, hopefully, you won't encounter the same problem that I have. I don't think you need to complicate things at all. If he's already allowed you to take off for your holidays, you can use ...


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If you take your talis from the sides and roll them in and under on top of shoulder it should stay in place without any movement.


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Others here have given sources which assure us that it is possible to become a talmid chacham while holding a day job, but without explaining how to do it. As I wrote in a comment, the question is really "How do I become a talmid chacham?" and then just squeeze that in whenever you can. Now, we often think that becoming a talmid chacham is accumulating book ...


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Rav Moshe Feinstein (Igros Moshe YD 2:141:3) discusses the possibility of using the parsha of Krias Shema used for the Mezuza as a protective amulet. This video shows how to write the parshiyos of a mezuza - not that Rav Moshe suggests you should do so, but that it would serve as an amulet.


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Sefer Chasidim (in many places) brings several practical advices regarding this. (See, for instance #175). It says that a person should always try to create barriers toward yetzer hara when it is about to subdue him. If these thoughts happens when one is sleeping, he should wake up and try to sleep in an uncomfortable position (in a chair for example). If ...


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Board Games Check www.boardgamegeek.com for games that are intellectually stimulating and can be played solitaire repeatedly. The longer sets can really help time pass.


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