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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday
I have faced this problem several times - sometimes a holiday and sometimes Shabbat (directly, or not having time to get home). How I handle it depends in part on whether the plans can still be ...
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How to explain the Talmud to someone who hasn't ever opened one?
(1) Compare it to an intellectual pursuit they already know. And (2), show don't tell.
I've never had the benefit of full-time learning in yeshiva, but I've participated in some shorter programs that ...
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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday
I have faced this issue many times myself - or advised younger colleagues facing the same. A few thoughts
I have found it critical to be very clear, direct and consistent. If you can explain that you ...
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How to have an easier time with Yom Tov?
Yeah, especially when a diaspora yom tov is adjacent to Shabbat, it sometimes feels like a long slog. I sometimes feel like I'm fighting an uphill battle because I didn't do this from birth -- it isn'...
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Learning Chabad Sichos
There are two types of Sichos:
Sichos Kodesh / Toras Menachem-Hisvaaduyos.
From the early forties until the stroke in 1992, the Lubavitcher Rebbe would hold a Farbrengen (at least) every Shabbos ...
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How can one kill the habit of speaking profanity?
Just a suggestion, but one which worked for me -- when I got married I thought to myself, "would it be appropriate for a 1 year old to have his or her first words be curses?" Children imprint on the ...
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How to suggest a kosher restaurant for a meeting?
In most cases, when this sort of thing comes up I say something like: "I have some dietary restrictions and wouldn't be able to eat there; could we meet at $other_restaurant instead?".
For someone ...
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How to get an urgent answer if your local rabbi isn't reachable
The best option is probably the Beis Din of your own community; see if they are reachable by phone; they may well be. That said, someone I sort of know has experience with the following hotlines in ...
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Keeping tzitzit knots from coming undone
The best way which works for me is by taking the last knot and dip into hot water ,then I tie it tightly. I have yet have a knot open. Simple and easy. Don't know why this isn't more known and ...
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How can one kill the habit of speaking profanity?
While I do not in anyway meant to minimize the difficulty of removing profanity from one's vocabulary (or the effort of those who have been successful), it may be helpful to recall that if you have ...
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How to have an easier time with Yom Tov?
I will start with the disclaimer that when I became religious, Yom Tov was a highlight for me, so I don't know how you will relate to what makes Yom Tov exciting for me.
I am generally more of an ...
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Taping the Light on a Freezer
It depends on the freezer, but one approach is to just unscrew the light bulb if you can reach it. That's what my family has always done.
You can leave it loosely hanging in the socket if you want to ...
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How do I repeal rabbinic laws? Who to contact? What is the process?
As far as I know there are currently no rabbis who are actively involved in legislating rabbinc-level laws. Those laws were set in stone centuries ago. As DoubleAA mentioned in the comments on your ...
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Washing Tallit Katan
The best way to wash a wool tallit katan is by hand washing it. Washing machines and dryers can severely mess up a wool tallit katan if you're not careful. I would suggest hand washing the tallit ...
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How can you quit a habit of visiting inappropriate websites?
Marry a wife
Pele Yoetz (here) says it helps with sin
Seifer Hachinuch (mitzva 582.2) explains that the reason of the Mitvzah that after the first year of marriage you need to be happy with your ...
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Reliable Tzedakah Websites
Here's a list of Jewish organizations I donate online to with some regularity. I spend about 10 minutes checking out each one for reliability and quality and usefulness of work before giving a ...
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How can one kill the habit of speaking profanity?
I would start by picking a window of time, maybe 30 min, maybe 15, where you can stay conscious and in control of what I am saying. "From 6 to 6:30 pm, I will not speak nivul peh."
After a week, ...
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How do I repeal rabbinic laws? Who to contact? What is the process?
Orthodox Jews live their lives based on rules explained/instituted by great Rabbis many years ago.
Throughout the generations many learned people have continued to interpret and apply those laws. ...
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Check out of hotel after shabbos
This is a fairly common problem in U.S. hotels. I've found that most hotels are quite happy to accommodate your religious requests if you explain things in advance.
The easiest idea is to prepay your ...
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Recommended program/method for creating sourcesheets?
Sefaria has a great source sheet creation community.
Although the end of your question was a drop vague, if not subjective, I’d suggest that your source sheet will only be as good as the work you ...
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how to get the Youth to come to shul
People in general come for a consistent experience that they value.
Kids come either because they're forced or because it's something the family values. So unless you have a super-strong youth ...
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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday
myjewishlearning.com has an article titled "How Do I Ask for the High Holidays Off?" which addresses how to handle this:
First, provide straightforward information. Say, “You probably know I’m ...
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Oil in Shabbos Candles Caught Fire - What to Do?
I know this is essentially a repeat of the other answers, but this is a matter of life and death, chalilah!
The floating wicks you are using are designed for OIL - not paraffin. To quote the Amazon ...
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Experience-based advice for focusing and slowing down prayers?
I experienced a significant improvement in my focus on davening when I discovered that it is halachically preferable to omit much of davening in order to better focus on a smaller part.
The Mishna ...
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How can I make my Judaism more enjoyable?
I changed my views on how I see Judaism. I find Judaism exciting and interesting because I went to a completely new place with it. If you can find a Jewish practice that gets you excited then go and ...
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Where can one find frum friends?
The above answer is excellent. One thing many shuls provide are shiurim (classes) on various subjects, and this another excellent way to meet a friendly group of people.
If your neighborhood has a ...
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How to have an easier time with Yom Tov?
My parents were observant from before I was born, and I have been Shabbat- and Yom-Tov-observant my whole life. I can honestly say that I don't believe I have ever intentionally violated either. So no,...
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How to have an easier time with Yom Tov?
B"H, I have solved my problem. I will post my experience here in case it could help anyone else.
It turns out that what was making Yom Tov impossible for me was the fact that I lived alone and spent ...
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How does one grow long peyos?
If you give them time and don't allow them to be cut, they'll be long. (How much time is necessary depends on how long you want them to be, of course. A tip of my hat to Isaac Moses for this link to ...
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How does one grow long peyos?
My hair is curly and i could grow peyoth all day long if i wanted to. But for those who can't, then there a few things one can do, but none of them sound especially pious or manly.
Once your peyoth ...
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