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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday

I have faced this problem several times - sometimes a holiday and sometimes Shabbat (directly, or not having time to get home). How I handle it depends in part on whether the plans can still be ...
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How to explain the Talmud to someone who hasn't ever opened one?

(1) Compare it to an intellectual pursuit they already know. And (2), show don't tell. I've never had the benefit of full-time learning in yeshiva, but I've participated in some shorter programs that ...
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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday

I have faced this issue many times myself - or advised younger colleagues facing the same. A few thoughts I have found it critical to be very clear, direct and consistent. If you can explain that you ...
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Learning Chabad Sichos

There are two types of Sichos: Sichos Kodesh / Toras Menachem-Hisvaaduyos. From the early forties until the stroke in 1992, the Lubavitcher Rebbe would hold a Farbrengen (at least) every Shabbos ...
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How to suggest a kosher restaurant for a meeting?

In most cases, when this sort of thing comes up I say something like: "I have some dietary restrictions and wouldn't be able to eat there; could we meet at $other_restaurant instead?". For someone ...
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How to get an urgent answer if your local rabbi isn't reachable

The best option is probably the Beis Din of your own community; see if they are reachable by phone; they may well be. That said, someone I sort of know has experience with the following hotlines in ...
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Keeping tzitzit knots from coming undone

The best way which works for me is by taking the last knot and dip into hot water ,then I tie it tightly. I have yet have a knot open. Simple and easy. Don't know why this isn't more known and ...
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Taping the Light on a Freezer

It depends on the freezer, but one approach is to just unscrew the light bulb if you can reach it. That's what my family has always done. You can leave it loosely hanging in the socket if you want to ...
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Washing Tallit Katan

The best way to wash a wool tallit katan is by hand washing it. Washing machines and dryers can severely mess up a wool tallit katan if you're not careful. I would suggest hand washing the tallit ...
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How can you quit a habit of visiting inappropriate websites?

Marry a wife Pele Yoetz (here) says it helps with sin Seifer Hachinuch (mitzva 582.2) explains that the reason of the Mitvzah that after the first year of marriage you need to be happy with your ...
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Reliable Tzedakah Websites

Here's a list of Jewish organizations I donate online to with some regularity. I spend about 10 minutes checking out each one for reliability and quality and usefulness of work before giving a ...
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Check out of hotel after shabbos

This is a fairly common problem in U.S. hotels. I've found that most hotels are quite happy to accommodate your religious requests if you explain things in advance. The easiest idea is to prepay your ...
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Recommended program/method for creating sourcesheets?

Sefaria has a great source sheet creation community. Although the end of your question was a drop vague, if not subjective, I’d suggest that your source sheet will only be as good as the work you ...
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how to get the Youth to come to shul

People in general come for a consistent experience that they value. Kids come either because they're forced or because it's something the family values. So unless you have a super-strong youth ...
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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday

myjewishlearning.com has an article titled "How Do I Ask for the High Holidays Off?" which addresses how to handle this: First, provide straightforward information. Say, “You probably know I’m ...
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Oil in Shabbos Candles Caught Fire - What to Do?

I know this is essentially a repeat of the other answers, but this is a matter of life and death, chalilah! The floating wicks you are using are designed for OIL - not paraffin. To quote the Amazon ...
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How can I make my Judaism more enjoyable?

I changed my views on how I see Judaism. I find Judaism exciting and interesting because I went to a completely new place with it. If you can find a Jewish practice that gets you excited then go and ...
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Experience-based advice for focusing and slowing down prayers?

I experienced a significant improvement in my focus on davening when I discovered that it is halachically preferable to omit much of davening in order to better focus on a smaller part. The Mishna ...
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How to have an easier time with Yom Tov?

B"H, I have solved my problem. I will post my experience here in case it could help anyone else. It turns out that what was making Yom Tov impossible for me was the fact that I lived alone and spent ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table

By talking about something really interesting that applies to your crowd. Know your audience is rule #1. NOTE Some people will tune out easily when hearing a regular scholarly vort on the Parshah or ...
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How to sit on the floor comfortably

The Mishna Berurah in siman 559 writes: ועיין באחרונים דמותר להניח תחתיו שק או כר קטן. וגם יוכל לישב על ספסל נמוך למי שקשה לו לישב על הארץ: One may place a bag or a small pillow underneath ...
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How do I build a cheap metal pole sukkah?

I doubt that it's possible to recreate a kit-like metal sukka frame without spending hundreds of dollars, at least not without creative sourcing of the materials (e.g. finding them in a junk yard, or ...
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What is the best way to correct someone who has unwittingly violated halacha in public?

I have been corrected on several occasions, so I can describe what worked better or worse for me. I've tried to apply this when I'm doing the correcting (doesn't happen often), and so far it has ...
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Good dimensions for a Shulchan (Reading Table)

I'm unaware of any specific halachic dimensions that are required. However, in viewing the common "Ashkenazy" type shulchanot on this site it seems that their common dimensions are 150 cm x ...
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Cleaning a Torah Scroll

I relayed your question to the sofer who maintains our scrolls. Here's what he said (my notes from a verbal conversation): The "dust" that came off of the scroll is white mold, not the parchment ...
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how to get the Youth to come to shul

Why do teenagers do anything? A few basic reasons: Their parents make them. Bribery. They get to see their friends. They get something out of the experience. You're heading straight for #4 and ...
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Is there an easy way to say you do not want to hear Loshon Hara?

Very practical question - thank you! So there are a few good approaches that I have seen: Rav Yonny Sack here notes several effective methods: If you already have close friends or family members who ...
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Is there an easy way to say you do not want to hear Loshon Hara?

I witnessed my son give the perfect repartee: "Can we talk about something else"?
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How to tactfully circumvent opposite-gender handshake

Why hasn't anybody, here, consulted a non-Jewish friend - or a Jewish person with a different belief system, at least - about how he or she would like to have their handshake declined? I would prefer ...
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How can we get people to stop talking (much, loudly) during minyan?

My personal experience, as Shaliach tzibur, to silence the Schul talkers has been to stop as soon as I sensed any utterances coming from the congregation. Following a few seconds of showing my "...
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