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Giving a ham as a present to a gentile

Most likely inadvisable; may actually depend on the terms and conditions of the company from which you're ordering. Thanks to NJM for pointing to an essay from Rabbi Moshe Dovid Lebovits of Kof-K ...
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Immersing a dish used for a gift

See this article by R. Aryeh Lebowitz, discussing the very similar case of purchasing a dish which has been pre-filled with candies to give as a gift, which I think addresses most of your questions. ...
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Any Jewish holidays especially associated with gift giving?

Purim. There is a mitzvah to give one gift containing two foods to someone. Additionally, one must give gifts to two poor people.
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Any Jewish holidays especially associated with gift giving?

As DanF already answered, there's a requirement to give gifts on Purim. And as Joel K mentioned in a comment on the question, N'chemya 8:10–12 discusses gift-giving on Rosh Hashana (the date is ...
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Hannakuh gifts from a gentile

Yes, and I'm sure your friend and their kids will much appreciate it! Just use some common sense about it. Don't get them Christmas stuff, or anything from other religions. It's probably worth ...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?

It appears indeed one should keep his promises in the context of a small gift. The Rambam writes (MT Mechira 7:9) (based on the gemara in Baba Metzia 49a) Similarly, if a person promised to give a ...
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Gifting a kosher product one wouldn't eat or drink

I read a responsum years ago that said that if the gift giver feels he would not consume the item due to a personal chumra and the recipient would (e.g. I keep pat yisrael and you don't, here's a nice ...
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A verse similar to this

Deuteronomy 16:17: אִ֖ישׁ כְּמַתְּנַ֣ת יָד֑וֹ כְּבִרְכַּ֛ת יְהוָ֥ה אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ אֲשֶׁ֥ר נָֽתַן־לָֽךְ׃ Sefaria: But each with his own gift, according to the blessing that the LORD your God has ...
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Paying more for an item -- Ribis?

There is a disagreement among the poskim, when there is a debt resulting from a purchase (chov machmas mekach) whether one may add extra payment at the time of the payment of the debt (if no condition ...
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Why did Abraham give his sons impure gifts?

So the Daas Zekeinim asks your question and gives a reason albeit a somewhat mystical one - that Avraham gave them strength to overpower demons and the like: נתן אברהם מתנות, “Avraham had already ...
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Appropriate bat mitzvah gift from non-jew

In the circles in which I travel (American, generally modern/centrist Orthodox), there aren't any particular restrictions on acceptable gifts for a Bat/Bar Mitzva. The types of gifts I've seen most ...
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Can someone demand the return of a gift that was not used properly?

See Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat סימן רמא - המתנה במה תתקים וכן המחילה והנותן דבר שאינו מסים where is states: ה': יֵשׁ מִי שֶׁאוֹמֵר, שֶׁהַנּוֹתֵן מַתָּנָה לַחֲבֵרוֹ אֵינוֹ מַתָּנָה, אֶלָּא אִם ...
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Book suggestion for Bat Mitzva gift

If she is a thinker she may enjoy The Thinking Jewish Teenager's Guide to Life. Edit: Another idea: If she is already Shomer Negiah or dresses on the Tznius side she my appreciate understanding some ...
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Giving a ham as a present to a gentile

Rabbi Lebovitz explains, Food items which are forbidden to do business with on a d’oraisa level (like ham is forbidden in the torah) may not be given to a non-Jew as a present. The reason is ...
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Book suggestion for Bat Mitzva gift

I think one of the series by Rabbi Twersky such as "Living Each Day" ; "Learning Each Day", etc. are wonderful. It follows a calendar and each day it carries a few useful messages on how to behave and ...
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Why don't we distribute Ma'aser Rishon or Ma'aser 'Ani nowadays?

To address your final paragraph: I understand that if I buy a Jaffa orange in the US, it's impractical and undesirable for me to try to bestow one of the segments on a local Levite or poor person. ...
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bar mitzvah medals

Here you go for bronze. Here you go for silver. These are not from the current year (I'm not sure if they exist) but they do not have the year on them (only on the box) so it should do fine to give ...
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Rashi's comment on Abraham's gifts

One angle that the mefarshim explain explicitly, is that these "gifts" were not gifts in the literal sense but relating to the names of G-d or pagan deities. In other words, they came from ...
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Can you use your Maaser money on a Bar Mitzvah present?

R Yisroel Bronstein, writing in Halachos of Ma'aser Kesafim, answers your question (p. 123) It is permitted to use maaser to buy a gift for a poor chasan, for a bar mitzvah boy whose father is ...
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If someone received a coin or a dollar bill which had particular value as a gift item, would Maaser apply?

Those who hold the opinion than Maaser does not apply to non monetary gifts, reason it by the fact that the receiver does not intend to use its selling value for resale but just uses it, as if the ...
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Can one coerce someone to donate a mitzvah item that he is not using?

There is a concept in Halacha called כופים על מידת סדום - one can force somebody not to behave like they did in Sedom. This means if you have nothing to gain or lose from letting me do something, ...
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How can a man give a woman a gift without getting himself into a safek kiddushin?

Basically, just don't indicate it's for marriage, and don't do it in front of two witnesses. Yes there's complicated discussions brought down about mishloach manot, plus discussions about engagement ...
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How can a man give a woman a gift without getting himself into a safek kiddushin?

See Rema Orach Chayim 695, 4 ואשה תשלח לאשה ואיש לאיש אבל לא להיפך שלא יבא איש לשלוח לאלמנה ויבאו לידי ספק קידושין אבל במתנות לאביונים אין לחוש The Machatsith Hashekel explain that this Chashash ...
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Pharaoh should have asked for his presents back when he found out that Soroi was Abram's wife?

An article on thetorah.com describes how it was the perceived duty of the Egyptian king to keep cosmic balance. The article suggests that after accidentally taking Sarai, Pharaoh had to do something ...
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Complimenting or giving gifts to gentiles

In that pdf, there's a reference to Vayikra 7:3 as the part of the Torah that says it is forbidden to show certain favours to goyim. However, when I go to Vayikra 7:3, it only says "And all of its fat ...
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Time-limited promotional giveaways for some, fees for everyone later

The problem with making an early payment is that you are making a deal to pay cheaper now to get a better value later. You’re "lending" the money to them now. They're "paying you back" with more value ...
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Why did Avraham take gifts from Pharaoh, but not the King of Sodom?

The Kli Yakar on 12:9 gives another answer he focuses more on the gifts that all the Egyptians gave Avraham, as opposed to the gifts Pharaoh gave Avraham: הלוך ונסוע הנגבה. אולי רצה להתחכם באלהיות, ...
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