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Someone in authority apologizes?

See Talmud Ta'anit 20a - 20b. Synopsis: Rav Elazar ben Rav Shimon was on the road and an ugly man greeted him. Rav Elazar offended him by asking, "Are all people from your village as ugly as you?" He ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

For example did Hashem ever apologize? Chulin 60b tells of how God tried to appease the moon after diminishing it, and eventually ordains the new month's sacrifices as a sin offering for his having ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

There are many stories of great rabbis apologizing to people much below their spiritual level. For instance, this story of the Steipler Gaon apologizing to a bar mitsva boy for mistakenly criticizing ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

Berachot 31b ויען עלי ויאמר לכי לשלום אמר רבי אלעזר מכאן לחושד את חברו בדבר שאין בו שצריך לפייסו ולא עוד אלא שצריך לברכו שנאמר ואלהי ישראל יתן את שלתך Then Eli answered and said, Go in Peace....
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Should you ask someone for forgiveness before Yom Kippur if doing so might embarrass them?

The Chafeitz Chaim (Hilkhos LH 4:12) rules that you cannot do real teshuvah for speaking ill of someone without confessing to the person you spoke about. Even if they did not know of it before, so ...
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Should you apologize before Yom Kippur for a wrongdoing that is more than a year old?

The Mishna in Yoma 8 (9) quoted in your link says עברות שבין אדם למקום, יום הכפורים מכפר........ עברות שבין אדם לחברו , אין יום הכפורים מכפר, עד שירצה את חברו Yom Kippur atones for sins between ...
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Is it a mitzvah to forgive without being asked?

There is no requirement to forgive someone that does not petition for forgiveness. Nevertheless forgiving someone that has not requested it can be an expression of piety. The Talmud (Megillah 28a) ...
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Why do we forgive past incarnations every night?

R Yisroel Reisman in his book Pathways of the Prophets asks exactly your question (p. 440) and answers In a previous life, Reuven may have lived as Yaakov. Today Yaakov is no longer alive. Still, ...
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When can you disrespect "ugly" people?

It is never permissible to disrespect people because they are ugly The Marsha is asking as a question that the word "accustomed" indicates that such behavior is sometimes acceptable. Why ...
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How to answer someone who chooses not to ask for forgiveness on Yom Kippur

This is a difficult question, because there is no right answer, and what will touch one person will not resonate with another. Therefore a few possible avenues to explore God is looking for sincere ...
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Why address Hashem when forgiving people?

Two possibilities come to mind: 1) After the declaration of forgiveness, the rest of the paragraph addresses God directly and asks Him, among other related things, to erase one's sins. Perhaps the ...
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Forgiveness in Judaism

The Rambam (Maimonides) in Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Teshuva describes what is necessary for asking and granting forgiveness. But before we get to forgiveness we have to talk about teshuva, repentance. ...
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Should you prompt someone to ask you for mechila before Yom Kippur?

It would seem that you should prompt the wrongdoer, or else wholeheartedly forgive them. The Kizur Shulchan Aruch in סימן קלא - דיני ערב יום כפור says: וְאַדְרַבָּה, אִם הַחוֹטֵא אֵינוֹ מִתְעוֹרֵר ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

After the plague of locusts, Exodus/Shemot 10:16-17 (Chabad translation) has Pharoah apologizing: Pharaoh hastened to summon Moses and Aaron, and he said, "I have sinned against the Lord your God ...
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Why address Hashem when forgiving people?

The simple answer is that it is not a legal declaration. One does not have a legal right to exact retribution from those who have angered him, which he can formally waive. Rather, God may punish those ...
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Is one allowed to ask forgiveness for a misdeed he committed towards another before he/ she was bar/ bat mitzvah?

While the child is still a minor: Minors basically can get away with anything and are technically exempt from all damages they may incur (see for example, this excellent article from the Business ...
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Why do we forgive past incarnations every night?

Rabbi Eliezer said: “Repent one day before your death.” So his disciples asked him: “Does a person know which day he will die?” Rabbi Eliezer responded: “Certainly, then, a person should repent today, ...
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Rosh Hashonoh. Pray for forgiveness and needs – or not?

I have Imgur blocked on my computer, but if this is the prayer said with the 13 attributes, then the answer is that the Vilna Gaon held to not say it. Look in the brackets here. The printers were not ...
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Source for Avraham's Conversation About Hoshana Rabba

Hagahot 216 to Minhagim (Tirna) on Sukkot quotes this statement. It's also brought in Matte Moshe 957, who seems to have copied directly from Minhagim. Neither explicitly says it's a midrash. However, ...
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What other occasions cause forgiveness?

death and getting killed by bais din http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/911888/jewish/Teshuvah-Chapter-One.htm in the end death atones as [Isaiah 22:14] states: "It was revealed in my ...
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Teshuva and non-Jews?

I want to point out that the answer is not nearly as cut and dry as @Matt made it sound. The Midrash Tanchumah (Warsaw edition) Ha'azinu 4 writes that Goyim can not do Teshuva. מדרש תנחומא (דפוס ...
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How to respond to an insincere apology

There is a prayer that is found in many Siddurim before the bedtime Shema. You may have seen it, SAH. I took it from this site. Excerpts: Prayer of Forgiveness by Rabbi Yitsḥak Luria z”l, from the ...
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Can only animal sacrifices forgive sins?

It is not a matter of sacrifice but a matter of repentance. In the book of Yonah the people of Nineveh were forgiven because they sincerely repented. It does not say that Hashem saw their fasting and ...
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Can only animal sacrifices forgive sins?

When the Beis Hamkdush was standing if a Korbon/sacrifice was required then it was the only way to atone for that particular sin. Technically speaking , even when the Beis Hamkdush was standing you ...
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Why Suspend the Kohen’s Checking of a Chatan with Tzara’at During Sheva Brachot If Becoming a Chatan Forgives Sin?

The Pardes Yosef to Leviticus 13:16 brings this question from Rav Aryeh Tzvi Frumer, a Rosh Yeshiva in Lublin. The Pardes Yosef suggests that once a groom is forgiven of all of his sins, he becomes a ...
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I "stole" an ice cube. What can I do for Kaparah?

The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch in siman 182 seif 2 concerning the laws of stealing says: Taking a thing of such trivial value, that no one would mind, like taking a splinter from a bundle [of wood], in ...
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Why address Hashem when forgiving people?

Vayikra 19:17 says not to hate your neighbor in your heart. Verse 18 says not to bear a grudge. It seems, then, that by forgiving your neighbor you are performing one or both of these mitzvoth. It is ...
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Does a teacher have to ask forgiveness for embarrassing a student after scolding him?

There is sufficient evidence to suggest that they would need to ask for forgiveness. Perhaps an important starting point is the famous משנה in פרקי אבות ד:יב that writes: "יהי כבוד תלמידך חביב ...
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How can a dead person forgive someone?

it's not that the dead person forgives but rather that you do your best and God absolves you. As the Chovot Halevavot writes in the Gate of Repentance ch.9-10 But for the sins towards G-d and man, ...
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Is there anyway to know that Hashem has forgiven you for good?

Sefer HaYashar 9 (end): אך אם יעשה דבר מצוה וישמח בה, ויחשוב כי כבר מצאה ידו, אף על פי שהיא נקלה, ואם יגע במצוה ההיא שמח מאד ביגיעתו ותמתק מאד לחכו, כאשר תמתק המנוחה לכסיל, זה לאות כי הבורא אוהב אותו....
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