I don't know if it's allowed on this site but I think the OP needs an answer from an outsider.
If this is inappropriate here, please feel free to delete it.
If any of it is factually incorrect, please correct it.
If any of it is inadvertently offensive, please let me know.
(In particular, Turk Hill's comment inspired this; I'm definitely not ridiculing it.)
All dairy products are forbidden with meat products. The law is that three aspects are forbidden.
Meat and milk products (including butter and cheese) may not be cooked together
Meat and milk products may not be eaten together
Mixed milk products and meat may not have any benefit (such as selling to a non-Jew)
I have shown two articles that discuss this ...