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Does Judaism consider women inferior?

This is a fair question. You are far from the only person who feels this way. As an Orthodox woman who respects the traditional prohibition on Talmud study for women, as well as the many other Jewish ...
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Does Judaism consider women inferior?

In addition, women are exempt and even discouraged from a large number of mitzvas that are central to Jewish practice, such as praying three times a day and laying tefillin. This is close to ...
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Is it a Kiddush Hashem to be kind to a gentile?

The Rambam (Hilchot Gezelah va'Avedah 11:3) writes that it is forbidden to return a lost item to an idol worshiper (Sanhedrin 76b). Nevertheless, the Rambam adds: If he returns it in order to bring ...
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Putting parents with mental issues in nursing homes

Ask your LOR if this is relevant but the Shulchan Aruch Yore Deah 240:10 says that if one can not deal with their elderly parents due to serious mental health defects he should have others do so: מי ...
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Is it really a Mitzvah to greet a fellow Jew?

Yes, at the very least, it is a mitzvah of following the words of our sages (Devarim 17:10) to greet a fellow Jew (or any individual) as the Mishna Avos (4:20) says: רַבִּי מַתְיָא בֶן חָרָשׁ אוֹמֵר, ...
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What to say to someone on a yahrzeit

The most common expression I have heard - "May the neshama have an aliyah". The concept is that while the physical body remains in the earth, the dead person's neshama (soul) should rise to Gan Eden,...
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Title to use when addressing a rav

The Shulchan Aruch (in Yore De'ah סימן רמב - שלא להורות בפני הרב, ודין רב שמחל על כבודו) discusses greeting one's Rav - and mentions that one doesn't greet him as one does any other person, and ...
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How to start loving someone after they become Jewish

You have asked some good general questions, here, SAH. But, within this, I have to ask - or rather, I think YOU have to ask yourself - if you may be judging her too harshly. Pirkei Avot states that ...
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What to say to someone on a yahrzeit

In Britain (certainly in Scotland) many ashkenazim say "you should have a long life" (not said as some kind of irony when being said to the one commemorating the yahrzeit but said in recognition of ...
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Is treating others decently more important than keeping Shabbos?

See the commentary of the רא"ש - Rosh, on Mishna Peah 1:1 -פאה פרק א' משנה א' . כי הקדוש ברוך הוא חפץ יותר במצות שיעשה בהם גם רצון הבריות מבמצות שבין אדם לקונו: Hashem prefers those mitzvos ...
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Is it permissible to trespass without damaging someone’s property

Yes: וּמְהַלְּכִים בִּשְׁבִילֵי הָרְשׁוּת עַד שֶׁתֵּרֵד רְבִיעָה שְׁנִיָּה and they shall have the right to walk in permitted paths, i.e., those paths that cut through a private field, throughout the ...
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Does Judaism consider women inferior?

B"H A user left the following very apt comment on my previous answer: You say that women have an important role in Judaism, but of course the question was not whether women have a role at all, ...
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Should you prompt someone to ask you for mechila before Yom Kippur?

It would seem that you should prompt the wrongdoer, or else wholeheartedly forgive them. The Kizur Shulchan Aruch in סימן קלא - דיני ערב יום כפור says: וְאַדְרַבָּה, אִם הַחוֹטֵא אֵינוֹ מִתְעוֹרֵר ...
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Keeping your own community's dinim vs. yuhara

This is not a complete answer, but... There is an interesting responsum of R. Sherira Gaon. The question posed to him was what one should do in a place where people don't wear tefillin. Specifically, ...
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Is P'ru Ur'vu a Mitzvah Bein Adom l'Chaveiro?

Let's stick with Sefer HaChinuch 1, explaining the goal of this Mitzvah: משרשי מצוה זו, כדי שיהיה העולם מישב , שהשם ברוך הוא חפץ בישובו, כדכתיב: (ישעיהו מה יח) לא תהו בראה לשבת יצרה. (גיטין מא, ב ...
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How to respond to an insincere apology

There is a prayer that is found in many Siddurim before the bedtime Shema. You may have seen it, SAH. I took it from this site. Excerpts: Prayer of Forgiveness by Rabbi Yitsḥak Luria z”l, from the ...
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What to say to someone on a yahrzeit

Some say in Yiddish די נשמה זול האבען אן עלייה May the neshama have an aliyah
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If I hate myself, how can I love my fellow Jew like I love myself?

Practise it via the version of Hillel the Elder: "That which is hateful to yourself, do not do to your fellow man". Having taken that on board, perhaps address your self-hatred with his other maxims:...
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Don't disparage the entirety of another person

This sefer cites it in the name of the Divrei Yechezkel of Shinova (R' Yechezkel Shraga Halberstam, 1813-1898, son of R' Chaim of Tzanz): Edit (by author of question) - Thank you so much! With your ...
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Is there a source that says that anyone who embarrases or hurts someone verbally loses their mitzvos?

Orchot Tzadikim The Gate of Humility כי ליום הדין מראים מצוות להרבה בני אדם שלא עשו אותן המצוות ויאמרו הלא לא עשינו זה וישיבו להם אותם שסיפרו עליכם רע הם עשו אלו המצוות ונוטלים אותן מהם ונותנים לכם ...
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Is there a source that says that anyone who embarrases or hurts someone verbally loses their mitzvos?

The idea that one who talks loshon hora about another loses his own zechusim is quoted by the Chafetz Chaim in Shemiras Halahon (Shaar Zechira Ch. 7): בא וראה עוד כמה גדול ענש העון המר הזה, שבדברי ...
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Limitations to being dan l'kaf zechut

See Sefer Chofetz Chaim Hilchos Lashon Hara 3:7-8 And know further a great principle and foundation in these things: If he sees a man who did something or said something — both in the area of what is ...
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Source for dividing the ten commandments into Ben Adam Lamakom and Ben Adam Lechavero

The Ramban to Exodus 20:13-14 says this idea. I'm not sure if he is the first. והנה עשרת הדברות חמשה בכבוד הבורא וחמשה לטובת האדם, כי כבד את אביך כבוד האל, כי לכבוד הבורא צוה לכבד האב המשתתף ביצירה, ...
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Halachot of לֵיצָנוּת: cynicism, scoffing and mockery

Certainly. I've collected a few. Let me know if this is what you were looking for. I focused on "mockery", sometimes called "clowning" in Halacha. The Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chayim ...
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Maintaining A Convert's Privacy

Bava Metzia is talking about ona'at devarim -- verbal abuse. Ona'a from the same root as koneh (I think that's R' Hirsch) -- I want to dominate that person and make them feel "less than." So ...
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How does Hillel's answer summarize the whole Torah?

Rashi (Shabbat 31 s.v. d'alakh) explains (in his first explanation) that Hillel's statement in light of Proverbs (27:10) which refers to not forsaking the one who is your friend and your father's ...
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Is Offending Jews forbidden?

I believe the main prohibition is that of Ona'as Devarim (as derived by the Gemara, BM 58b). For instance, one is not allowed to remind a convert about the things he did as a non-Jew, because it might ...
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Praying for other people

See Gemara Baba Kama 92a: Rava said to Rabba bar Mari: From where is this matter derived whereby the Sages stated: Anyone who asks for compassion from Heaven on behalf of another, and he requires ...
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Is treating others decently more important than keeping Shabbos?

None of the בין אדם לחבירו overrides Shabbos. There are a couple of reasons: Mitzvot are ordered hierarchically according to their punishments. There's no way of transgressing Shabbos with the ...
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Do we stand up for a man or the Torah he learned?

Shulchan Aruch Yoreh De'ah 242:32: הרב המובהק שמחל על כבודו בכל הדברים האלו או באחד מהם לכל תלמידיו או לאחד מהם כבודו מחול ואף על פי שמחל מצוה על התלמיד להדרו (ואסור לבזותו)‏ A rav muvhak [...
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