I have found that at Purim meals where [no one gets seriously drunk][1], everyone tends to have an equivalently-good time. How good a time that is, of course, depends on the quality of the company, conversation, etc., just like at any other gathering. If you're looking for a great source of both holy and fun holiday-appropriate conversation-starters, I recommend our free Purim book, [*Purim - Mi Yodeya?*](http://meta.judaism.stackexchange.com/questions/1568/mi-yodeya-publications#2013).

Conversely, at Purim meals where some people get drunk to the point of severely impaired judgement, others at those meals who choose not to attain that state, of any gender, tend to have a less good time as a result. I would advise people who want to enjoy the holiday without getting seriously drunk to try to avoid gatherings where others do.


  [1]: http://rechovot.blogspot.com/2013/02/drinking-and-purim.html