Christmas lights are a religious symbol. They are not secular. (Though obviously secular people have adopted Christmas lights for their own purposes.)
In this case, you should be learning from your daughter as Malachi 4:6 says will happen. There is no reason why you should be trying to make your daughter feel comfortable with Christian practices, or feel comfortable living in America while the perfectly good option of moving to Israel is available.
Gd said Lech L'cha, and the opportunity to do so is wide open.