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Can there be food during the Chuppah?

I was wondering if there a prohibition to have food during the Chuppah? A friend told me he thinks it's not allowed. I wanted to have something cute and small that is meaning full to us that everyone ...
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Birkat Kohanim under the Chuppah - Source?

There is a mainly Sepharadic custom to do Birkat Kohanim under the Chuppah, but I can't seem to find a concrete source for it. In Yalkut Yosef, Sova Semachot 8:5, Rav Yitzchak Yosef merely addresses ...
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Putting a ring on a Kallah that's a niddah

During a regular chupah the choson puts the ring on the kallah's finger. What happens in a case of when the kallah is a niddah by the chupah being that the choson can't touch the kallah? Who puts the ...
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Source for a chosson's aufruf?

A choshuv Rav (head of a kashrus organization) said the source for the chosson aufruf is that there was a gate in the Beis Hamikdash designated for chassanim. Is there any source which connects this ...
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What age were Leah and Rachel when they got married

Do we know what age Leah and Rachel were when yakove married them? If yes what is it? Source please. Are there any midrashim on the subject?
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Sephardic Wedding Custom: Avram Siz Reading

What are the verses one reads to fulfill the Sephardic custom of Avram Siz? Avram Siz (or Avraham Zaqein) is the Sephardic custom of reading a passage in Genesis the Shabbat following a wedding.
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Does the chuppah need to be completely open on all 4 sides?

Most weddings I have seen have the chuppah open on all 4 sides. Last night, when I attended a wedding, I noticed that the "far" side was covered with a curtain. (i.e. the ark is at the front of the ...
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Why does the Chatan arrive first to the Chuppa?

At every wedding I have attended, I have seen that the Chattan (groom) arrives at the chuppah before the kallah (bride). Is this a halachic requirement? Please provide both a source as well as the ...
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Sheva Brachos without Chosson? [duplicate]

Hypothetical situation: A Sheva Brachos meal is set up for the new couple. However, only the Kallah is there (for example, the Chosson is sick and the meal is right next door, so the Kallah can pop in ...
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Chosson and Kallah not speaking [duplicate]

What are the earliest sources for the minhag in some communities that a chosson and kallah don't speak to each other during the week before the wedding?
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Where did they have the Chosson's Tisch in Europe?

In Europe when they didn't make chasunahs in a hall and instead made chasunahs in private homes or in some open area in the town where did they make the chosson's Tisch? Was the whole procedure of ...
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Can an Orthodox Jew attend the Reform wedding of a close relative?

A Jew is marrying a non-Jew who converted in a Reform synagogue. The Chuppah will be held in a Reform synagogue and the party (dinner/dance) will be in a non-religious venue. Is there any reason why ...
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Does the timing of breaking a dish after the reading of the te'na'im before a wedding matter?

At a recent wedding I attended, the mothers of the bride accidentally broke the dish after the signing of the te'na'im but before it was read out publicly. It seems like the regular procedure is to ...
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Male photographers/videographers on the women's side at a simcha

Ordinarily, Jewish women would be expected not to dance or sing with men looking on, or even present in the same area. However, at every Jewish wedding I have been to, there has been at least one male ...
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What's the point of the b'dekin at a chasuna?

What does the "b'dekin" at a Jewish wedding accomplish? Does it play anow Halachic role in the marriage? Or is it just some sort of ceremony that's meany to symbolize something?
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Why do we walk down the aisle at a wedding

How old of a Jewish tradition is it for a chosson and kallah to walk down the aisle at their wedding?
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What is the source for making a “Shabbos Kallah”?

What is the source for making a get-together for a bride and her friends on the Shabbos before the wedding? What is the earliest record of such a minhag in the Jewish community?
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What is the first source for making an Aufruf?

What is the earliest record or source for making an Aufruf in some communities on the Shabbos before a wedding?
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What is the point of Sheva Brachos?

Kesubos 7b-8a (translation is mine, based on Rashi): ת״ר מברכין ברכת חתנים כל שבעה אמר רב יהודה והוא שבאו פנים חדשות מאי מברך אמר רב יהודה בא״י אמ״ה... The Rabbis taught [in a Braisa]: We make ...
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Kibbudim at a Wedding

Can someone please provide a list of all the kibbudim (honors) available at a Jewish wedding - from the beginning to end, in order.
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Mixing the wine at Shevah Brachos

When I'm at Shevah Brachos I've seen people pour from one cup to another or something to that effect. What is the exact procedure for mixing the cups of wine at Shevah Brachos? Is there a difference ...
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How to divide the honors at a wedding?

How are the kibudim at a typical Yeshivish American chasuna divided up between the choson's side and the kallah's side?
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When a man rape a virgin, how much shall he pay?

https://gotquestions.org/Deuteronomy-22-28-29-marry-rapist.html Deuteronomy 22:28-29 “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, then the ...
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Invei HaGefen: Why grapes?

Pesachim 49a compares a shidduch to a Talmid Chacham to grapes: "The mingling of the grapes of the vine with the grapes of the vine is beautiful and acceptable." It then contrasts this to a shidduch ...
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Shehechianu at a wedding?

The Rosh and the Rambam argue about whether Kiddushin is a mitzvah in its own right or if it's a preparation for the various mitzvos that can only be done when married, such as having children. The ...
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What other occasions cause forgiveness?

Besides a person's wedding and Yom Kippur are there any other events which provide someone with atonement just by dint of the occasion itself?
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Is a woman allowed to break her hymen by herself?

Many friends have told me about their personal horror stories and physical pain, when consummating their marriage, that caused them panic attacks. Is it permitted for a woman to break her hymen by ...
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Chukos Ha'goyim at a wedding ceremony

Are there any practices that accompany weddings (and the whole engagement/marriage process) that one has to be careful to avoid because of the prohibition of following in the ways of the non-Jews (...
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Can a Gentile say a Bracha before a wedding feast?

If a gentile has been called upon to give the blessing before a wedding meal, with part of the wedding party being Jewish, would there be any problem with including a standard bracha at the end of the ...
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Bracha Shehechiyanu on a diamond ring?

I was always under the impression that a Kallah that receives a diamond ring makes the Bracha Shehechiyanu on it. Igros Moshe, Evan HaEzer 4:84 seems to say that the Kallah should make the Bracha "...
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Holding the bride's hand when giving her the ring

In art I see that it was done example From hukai noshim CH 45 I see that it is required (at least lehat'hila) My summery of this subject in that chapter He brings it twice once regarding when ...
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Use of phrase ברוך הבא

Based on what I have seen I Nusach Ashkenaz siddurim such as Art Scroll and Birnbaum, among some others, I noticed the phrase ברוך הבא is used at the beginning of a Brit (circumcision) when welcoming ...
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Wedding Blessings (Sheva Brachot)

There appears to be an uproar in "right leaning" circles caused by a bride and groom reciting the last 2 of the 7 blessings traditionally recited under a chuppah together. I have two questions about ...
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A wedding invitation insert to insert into a wedding invitation to inform secular friends and family about the customs of a religious jewish wedding

Is there a wedding invitation insert (in pdf or other presentable formats) somewhere online that one may freely use to insert into a Jewish wedding invitation to inform secular friends and family ...
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Is one suppose to engaged or married eighteen years old?

It says in Avos (5:21), "At eighteen years old לַחֻפָּה." What does לַחֻפָּה mean? Most people translate it to mean for the [marriage] canopy, [enter] the marriage canopy or enters the wedding canopy....
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If visiting the kosel before a joyous event, does one tear kriyah?

If visiting the kosel the morning of, say, one's wedding, should one tear kriyah? I am asking whether we should be in mourning for the temple even at a very joyous time. (My guess is yes, partly based ...
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Why do Chabad wedding invitations show the wrong time?

It has recently come to my attention that Chabad wedding invitations in the US are often bilingual Hebrew/English and the time given for the wedding on the Hebrew side is wrong (perhaps a copy of the ...
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My Orthodox Jewish co-worker invited me to his wedding. Anything I should know about?

My Orthodox Jewish co-worker invited me to his wedding, but I've never been to a Jewish wedding before. Is there anything I should be aware about if I plan to attend?
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Can the below procedure serve as an Agunah escape clause?

If one marries Mr. X under the assumption that he is a tzaddik (or rich or smart etc), but he is really a rasha,that marriage was done under a false understanding and is not valid and does not need a ...
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Purpose of “tana'im” today

In many Orthodox Jewish weddings I have attended, there is a short ceremony at the groom's table called "tana'im". This site explains: These are conditions agreed upon by the couple; both parties ...
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Menstruating on Wedding Day

What happens in the case of a bride menstruating on her wedding day or her menstruation ending a few days before her wedding day and cannot go to the mikvah? Does the rabbi refuse to perform the ...
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Can one marry halachically in New York State without a marriage license? [closed]

Can an Orthodox rabbi marry myself and my fiance without a marriage license? If so why have 2 rabbis already said no to me? Is it because they are certified by NYS and obligated to report? I need to ...
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What's a common blessing given to people at a wedding?

What is a common blessing given to the bride and groom when attending a Jewish wedding? What is a common blessing given to the family and friends of the bride and groom when attending a Jewish ...
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language of betrothal at wedding

Traditionally, before a husband betroths his wife he says, "Harei at mekudeshet li btabaat zo kdat moshe vyisrael." Is this language necessary in halacha or standardized by tradition (minhag)? If not ...
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Do contemporary Sefardi poskim absolutely require ten men at a wedding?

Beit Yosef, Tur Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 62: Rashba, responsum 1127, was asked about a city in which there are no ten men for reciting the [seven] blessings [at the wedding], and it's impossible ...
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Can ashkenazim do yichud after the meal

I understand that sifardim do yihud after the meal and ashkenazim do it before What is the reason/source ashkinazim do it before? Can an Ashkenazi person do it after?
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Standing during a wedding

During the bracha that weds that chassan and kallah are we required in the audience to stand? is it a minhag? Can we sit? What's your source?
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Must a ketubah be rewritten if, many years later, the date is discovered to be wrong?

Theoretical, perhaps: On their 25th wedding anniversary, a couple makes a big celebration, and displays their framed ketubah in the party hall. Someone notices the date on the ketubah and remarks to ...
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Must the first and second bracha of sheva brachos be said together by one person?

Must the first and second bracha of sheva brachos be said together by one person? Or may they be split between two honorees? There are a lot of people who I will need to honor at my wedding in a few ...
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What is the order in terms of level of cavod for sheva brachos under the chuppah? [duplicate]

In order of cavod of the sheva brachos 1-7 what are the levels of cavod or importance for each of the brachos? There are gonna be a lot of rabbis at my wedding in a few days