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What does it mean practically that every kesuba has strife?

The Gemara Shabbos (130a) says וְכׇל מִצְוָה שֶׁקִּבְּלוּ עֲלֵיהֶם בִּקְטָטָה, כְּגוֹן עֲרָיוֹת, דִּכְתִיב: ״וַיִּשְׁמַע מֹשֶׁה אֶת הָעָם בּוֹכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו״, עַל עִסְקֵי מִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו — ...
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Where to buy Mamarei Hadracha LeKalos

Where can one purchase Rabbi Wolbe's Hadracha Mussar book for Kallos. I see the Chassan one floating around but can't seem to find the one for Kallos.
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Can a wedding band be made of multiple colors of gold? [duplicate]

To be kosher, a wedding band need be solid gold, so as not to leave room to question the value of the ring. As much of the gold used in jewelry is often 14k or 18k gold, as previous questions have ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom

Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom? My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Music at a Wedding

Someone told me that there is a requirement to have music at a wedding. He said that the Mishna Brurah says if one side does not want to pay for the music the other side can force them to pay for it. ...
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Reform wedding ceremony changes

I saw a video of a Reform wedding ceremony, and noticed many differences between theirs and a traditional Orthodox ceremony. Sheva Berachos were recited before Kiddushin (the giving of the ring) No ...
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Moment of application of Nissuin for Chuppah case studies

While Kiddushin is a necessary step in a Jewish wedding, all marital obligations only apply after Kosher Nissuin (Rambam Ishut 10). Nowadays we make Chuppah with some variations for Ashkenazis and ...
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Why do the mothers break the plate?

At a wedding [or by the engagement], a plate is customarily broken at the "tena'im." This has already been discussed over here. As I have seen at weddings, and as is brought over here the custom is ...
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Halachic issues with double ring wedding ceremony

I was at a wedding in Israel where the rabbi was religious (orthodox) and the couple wasn't. Towards the end of the ceremony, the Rav said that the bride also wanted to give a ring to the groom. The ...
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Wedding Day Minhagim for Him [closed]

What are some Minhagim that men are accustomed or unaccustomed to do on the day of the their wedding? Can you please list the minhag with its source, thanks.
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Touching on wedding day? [duplicate]

If the woman has gone to the mikva already and is not a niddah, can the groom and bride touch on the day of the wedding? For example, pictures before the chuppa or another shaas hadchak.
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Why does the Chasan perform Bedeken?

As explained in Taamei Haminhagim #950, the minhag of bedeken comes from the Pasuk in Chayei Sarah: "And she said to the servant, ‘Who is that man walking in the field towards us?’ And the servant ...
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How high can a Kosher Chuppah be?

I think that our Chuppah resembles [one form of] a Succah - 4 bars and canopy. For a Kosher Succah, 20 Amah high (~10m) is a limit. Imagine we do a Chuppah between two 5 stories high buildings - can ...
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What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah?

Following "the shape or form of chuppa": Halachicly speaking, Chuppah makes Nissuin - the start of the formal obligations of both sides. What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah? A square ...
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Can Chuppah have a fixed roof?

There are many approaches to a Chuppah and I only refer to our Ashkenazi tradition of 4 bars/hands and a canopy. I saw that many wedding halls have a fixed cube-like construction, but the covering is ...
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Non-Jewish family in an Orthodox Jewish Wedding

In a case of a Ger/Convert, what role can non-Jewish parents play at the wedding ceremony? Halachically can the parents accompany their child down the aisle? Could they stand under the Chuppa? Any ...
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Source for Baal Haturim Writing Commentary on his Wedding Night!

I've heard that the Baal Haturim wrote the whole commentary on the Chumash on his wedding night! Can someone please provide the source for this?
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Standing during a wedding

During the bracha that weds that chassan and kallah are we required in the audience to stand? is it a minhag? Can we sit? What's your source?
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Why דָּת in Esther but דַּת in kidushin?

There are two places "דָּת" appears in Tanach in a form that means "the law of": Esther 2:12 and 9:13. In both places it appears as "דָּת" with a kamatz.[1] Yet, when we marry, according to the ...
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Number of times the names of the husband & wife appear on the Ketubah

From a few Ketubot that I've seen, it seems that the husband's name is written 6x and the wife's name is written 3x. Is there a specific number of times a husband's and wife's names should appear on ...
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Source for blessing “Livnot Bayit Ne'eman B'Yisrael” [duplicate]

A classic blessing for a bride and groom is they should merit to build a לִבְנוֹת בַּיִת נֶאמָן בְּיִשְׂרָאֵל - a reliable house in Israel. The only source I could find for this expression is the Mi ...
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When were “acrobatics” introduced at weddings?

The "earliest" samples of "acrobatics" that I have seen at weddings were bottle dancers, which seemed to be popular among Hassidim, and I guess originated from Russian custom. The Talmud mentions in ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

I have seen some Orthodox weddings in which the groom steps on the bride's foot. What is the source for this strange custom?
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English explanation of Sheva Brachot at a Wedding

I was a guest at a wedding recently. During the sheva brachot under the chuppah in addition to calling up someone to recite the bracha a second person was called up to read a relevant English passage ...
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“Circling” a Kos Shel Bracha?

I just saw Fiddler on the Roof in Yiddish off-Broadway last night. In the wedding scene, the rabbi holds the Kos Shel Bracha from underneath but then kind of "orbits" the cup -- rotating his hand in ...
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Explain the combination of verses sung when the kallah first appears

At many weddings that I have attended when the kallah (bride) first walks into the reception room, the band plays / people sing a tune that combines two apparently unrelated verses: It starts with ...
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Candle processions in Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl weddings

In both Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, the wedding scene includes the bride and groom being led to the Chuppah by processions wherein everyone carries a candle. All guests are also holding candles at ...
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Why are huge challot displayed on the wedding couple / Bar Mitzvah's table?

I noticed that among Orthodox and, seemingly Hareidi Bar Mitzvah's and weddings, a huge challah is cut by the chattan or Bar Mitzvah. I assume that there must be some minhag behind this that ...
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Married At First Sight

There's this reality TV show where strangers meet at the altar for the first time and get married on the spot. Like a really intense arranged marriage. Would this sort of thing be permissible in ...
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Can one of the sheva berachot be said outside a wedding context?

Are there any sources which speak to the possibility of saying one of the sheva berachot outside of the wedding ceremony and ensuing celebratory period? (Excluding borei pri hagafen). I'm most ...
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Minyan for Brit Milah, Funeral & Wedding

Is a Minyan required for a Brit Mila/circumcision, funeral/burial, or for a wedding/Chuppa? Usually they tend to be done in the presence of a Minyan but is it an obligation and are there any ...
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How can there be only two Halachic witnesses at a large wedding?

By what power or logic can the mesader kiddushin saying that two specific, designated people are the only witnesses to a wedding change the fact that all assembled have seen all that transpired at the ...
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Putting On Kittel Under Chupa

Does any one know of a source for the minhag for a chosson to put on his kittel after he is already under the chupah?
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Why is the custom to put the wedding ring on the index finger under the chuppah?

Obviously the kiddushin would be valid if one put the ring on another finger, but: why specifically does the groom put the wedding ring on the bride's index finger under the chuppah? where did this ...
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What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons?

What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons? Is a honeymoon taken, and, if so, is it done immediately after the wedding--or later, once the woman is again tehora?
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Can a Bet Din's Halachic rulings be retroactively annulled if a Dayan is found to be corrupt or a grave sinner?

Are there any retroactive ramifications in a case where Ch"v there is fullproof evidence (or admission) of a Dayan being corrupt or committing sins such as breaking shabbat/adultery/murder or עבירות ...
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Strength of faith in coming of the Messiah

I recall hearing long ago that some Jews send out wedding invitations as follows: "The wedding will be in Jerusalem at this place and time. If, heaven forbid, the Messiah has not come by that time, ...
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Why doesn't the chatan sign the ketubah?

Perhaps, I may not completely understand the purpose of the ketubah in terms of it being a halachic legal document or a "shtar*. Aren't all legal documents supposed to be signed by the person drafting ...
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Ring and kiddushin

Where did the concept of the chosson (groom) giving the kallah (bride) a ring, specifically, for kiddushin (i.e. under the chuppah) come from?
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Are anniversaries celebrated in Adar I or Adar II?

For those who celebrate anniversaries, or for calculating the end of Shanah Rishonah, if a couple gets married in Adar of a non-leap-year, when is the anniversary celebrated in a leap year? Is it in ...
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Why not say סברי before the blessing on wine at a wedding ceremony?

The Rema in O Ch 174(8) says ויאמר סברי רבותי ר"ל סוברים אתם לצאת בברכה זו ולא יאמר ברשות רבותי (מו) וכן כל מקום שמברכין על היין משום ברכת היין שבתוך הסעודה אין אומרים ברשות אלא סברי מטעם ...
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Can a wedding band be made from white gold?

Is there any reason why a wedding ring for a woman should not be made from white gold? No gems, no in-carvings of course. I am interested in orthodox views.
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Wedding, menstruation, and the mikvah. What does one do?

When does a bride go to the mikveh for her wedding? Need it be before, or can it be after? What if she thinks that she will still be bleeding at the wedding? What sources are there that provide ...
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maftir: an honor?

A bar mitzva or bridegroom is usually (in congregations I'm familiar with, or, at least, Ashkenazic ones) given maftir. Why is this, considering that it's the lowliest of all the aliyos (e.g.)? (The ...
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What is the source for carrying candles down at a wedding?

I know that there are many explanations as to why many Jews have this custom (to commemorate the fire at har sinai, etc.), but where is the original source? Where originally did it come from? I have ...
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Is it possible to have a Jewish wedding after a civil ceremony?

My (legal) husband and I had a small courthouse wedding ceremony, which was done entirely for practical reasons after my cancer diagnosis. Neither of us are as frum now as we were raised, but having a ...
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At a wedding, can non-designated witnesses testify later in the court?

This is a follow-up (a clarification) question on how-can-there-be-only-2-halachic-witnesses. Say, there are ten grown-up, Jewish, frum, non-related men presenting at a Chupah, two of which are ...
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What's the point of the b'dekin at a chasuna?

What does the "b'dekin" at a Jewish wedding accomplish? Does it play anow Halachic role in the marriage? Or is it just some sort of ceremony that's meany to symbolize something?
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Giving the ring, “harei at” is the kiddushin… what exactly is the nisuin?

I get that giving the ring and saying "harei at mekudeshet li etc" fulfills the kiddushin component of a Jewish Wedding, but when/ what/ how exactly is the nisuin component fulfilled under the chuppah?...
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Wedding ring composition considerations

I was recently told that the ring used for kiddushin should be made entirely out of one kind of metal (usually gold), with no other adornments such as diamonds, etc. I had been under the impression ...

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