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Questions tagged [wedding]

wedding ceremony (and reception etc.)

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Putting On Kittel Under Chupa

Does any one know of a source for the minhag for a chosson to put on his kittel after he is already under the chupah?
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Non-Jewish family in an Orthodox Jewish Wedding

In a case of a Ger/Convert, what role can non-Jewish parents play at the wedding ceremony? Halachically can the parents accompany their child down the aisle? Could they stand under the Chuppa? Any ...
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Why is the custom to put the wedding ring on the index finger under the chuppah?

Obviously the kiddushin would be valid if one put the ring on another finger, but: why specifically does the groom put the wedding ring on the bride's index finger under the chuppah? where did this ...
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What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons?

What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons? Is a honeymoon taken, and, if so, is it done immediately after the wedding--or later, once the woman is again tehora?
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Can a Bet Din's Halachic rulings be retroactively annulled if a Dayan is found to be corrupt or a grave sinner?

Are there any retroactive ramifications in a case where Ch"v there is fullproof evidence (or admission) of a Dayan being corrupt or committing sins such as breaking shabbat/adultery/murder or עבירות ...
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Strength of faith in coming of the Messiah

I recall hearing long ago that some Jews send out wedding invitations as follows: "The wedding will be in Jerusalem at this place and time. If, heaven forbid, the Messiah has not come by that time, ...
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Candle processions in Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl weddings

In both Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, the wedding scene includes the bride and groom being led to the Chuppah by processions wherein everyone carries a candle. All guests are also holding candles at ...
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Why doesn't the chatan sign the ketubah?

Perhaps, I may not completely understand the purpose of the ketubah in terms of it being a halachic legal document or a "shtar*. Aren't all legal documents supposed to be signed by the person drafting ...
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Ring and kiddushin

Where did the concept of the chosson (groom) giving the kallah (bride) a ring, specifically, for kiddushin (i.e. under the chuppah) come from?
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Are anniversaries celebrated in Adar I or Adar II?

For those who celebrate anniversaries, or for calculating the end of Shanah Rishonah, if a couple gets married in Adar of a non-leap-year, when is the anniversary celebrated in a leap year? Is it in ...
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Why not say סברי before the blessing on wine at a wedding ceremony?

The Rema in O Ch 174(8) says ויאמר סברי רבותי ר"ל סוברים אתם לצאת בברכה זו ולא יאמר ברשות רבותי (מו) וכן כל מקום שמברכין על היין משום ברכת היין שבתוך הסעודה אין אומרים ברשות אלא סברי מטעם ...
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Can a wedding band be made from white gold?

Is there any reason why a wedding ring for a woman should not be made from white gold? No gems, no in-carvings of course. I am interested in orthodox views.
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Wedding, menstruation, and the mikvah. What does one do?

When does a bride go to the mikveh for her wedding? Need it be before, or can it be after? What if she thinks that she will still be bleeding at the wedding? What sources are there that provide ...
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maftir: an honor?

A bar mitzva or bridegroom is usually (in congregations I'm familiar with, or, at least, Ashkenazic ones) given maftir. Why is this, considering that it's the lowliest of all the aliyos (e.g.)? (The ...
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What is the source for carrying candles down at a wedding?

I know that there are many explanations as to why many Jews have this custom (to commemorate the fire at har sinai, etc.), but where is the original source? Where originally did it come from? I have ...
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Is it possible to have a Jewish wedding after a civil ceremony?

My (legal) husband and I had a small courthouse wedding ceremony, which was done entirely for practical reasons after my cancer diagnosis. Neither of us are as frum now as we were raised, but having a ...
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How can there be only two Halachic witnesses at a large wedding?

By what power or logic can the mesader kiddushin saying that two specific, designated people are the only witnesses to a wedding change the fact that all assembled have seen all that transpired at the ...
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At a wedding, can non-designated witnesses testify later in the court?

This is a follow-up (a clarification) question on how-can-there-be-only-2-halachic-witnesses. Say, there are ten grown-up, Jewish, frum, non-related men presenting at a Chupah, two of which are ...
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What's the point of the b'dekin at a chasuna?

What does the "b'dekin" at a Jewish wedding accomplish? Does it play anow Halachic role in the marriage? Or is it just some sort of ceremony that's meany to symbolize something?
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Giving the ring, “harei at” is the kiddushin… what exactly is the nisuin?

I get that giving the ring and saying "harei at mekudeshet li etc" fulfills the kiddushin component of a Jewish Wedding, but when/ what/ how exactly is the nisuin component fulfilled under the chuppah?...
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Wedding ring composition considerations

I was recently told that the ring used for kiddushin should be made entirely out of one kind of metal (usually gold), with no other adornments such as diamonds, etc. I had been under the impression ...
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What age were Leah and Rachel when they got married

Do we know what age Leah and Rachel were when yakove married them? If yes what is it? Source please. Are there any midrashim on the subject?
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Is it required to read the Ketubah under the Chuppah?

Is it Halachicly required to read the ketubah aloud under the chuppah? Or, provided that it has been properly witnessed, is it sufficient to simply give the bride the text. I am thinking of a ...
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Why are the words Kiddushin, Erusin, Nissuin plural?

The Mishnah says "האיש מקדש", just like on Shabbos. Nevertheless, on Shabbos we call it a Kiddush (single) but on wedding we call it either Kiddushin, Erusin, Nissuin which are all plural.
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Non-observant Jewish Couples Having Halachic Weddings

In a shiur, I learned that if secular or non-observant Jews have a halachically binding wedding, then if they separate and don't manage to perform a get (as a get may even seem irrelevant to them), ...
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Source for Raincoat under Chuppah

There is a minhag among some people in recent years to wear a raincoat under the Chuppah. What is the source of this minhag? When did this minhag start? And is there anyone who specifically says not ...
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Who composed the text for Tena'im?

In many Ashkenazy weddings, a document called tena'im is drafted and read at the Chatan's Tisch (Chattan's "table" - a separate rom or area where the groom, family members and friends gather prior to ...
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Rav Moshe on mechitzah and kalus rosh

I read somewhere in the Igros Moshe that a mechitzah is required at every wedding. Does anyone know where in the Igros Moshe it says that the reason we have a mechitzah at a wedding is to prevent ...
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If the Kesubah was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated?

If, at a wedding, the Kesubah (marriage contract) was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated, because of the hefsek (interruption) ...
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The kittel as tachrich

I recently heard and was extremely moved by the idea that the kitlen worn on Pesach, Yom Kippur, and under the chuppah are intended to resemble tachrichim -- and are, in some cases, the actual ...
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Earliest moment for interrupted wedding to be considered binding?

A Jewish marriage takes place but the ceremony is, Hashem forbid, interrupted by a terrorist's bullet. One of the couple dies. How far must the ceremony have gone for the bereaved to be considered a ...
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Halachic issues with double ring wedding ceremony

I was at a wedding in Israel where the rabbi was religious (orthodox) and the couple wasn't. Towards the end of the ceremony, the Rav said that the bride also wanted to give a ring to the groom. The ...
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Is there a minhag for a chassan and kallah to hold hands after the chupah?

I have been to many weddings where the chassan and kallah hold hands after the chupah on their way to the yichud room. It seems like a widespread (minhag?) thing that everyone does, even by couples ...
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Source for Chosson & Kallah holding hands after Chuppa [duplicate]

Is there any source for the Chosson & Kallah to hold hands between the Chuppah and the Yichud Room? Why is this not included in the prohibition of displaying public affection?
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Attending non-frum event

Is it permissible to attend a non-frum event, such as a wedding or bar/bat mitzvah of a family member or friend?
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Source for a story about mistakenly thinking Mashiach was here

What is the story in the Gemara or Ein Ya'akov about the guy who ran into the streets when he thought the Mashiach was here, but really it was a wedding ceremony? I can't find it anywhere. The Rosh ...
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Which word is said under the chuppah - זוֹ or זוּ?

The groom tells the bride under the chuppah: הרי את מקודשת לי בטבעת זו כדת משה וישראל Is the word זו pronounced with a cholam (וֹ) as in "zo" or with a shuruk (וּ) as in "zu"? I have seen both ...
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Child marriage today

Suppose that in their infinite pubescent wisdom, a 12-year-old girl and a 13-year-old boy decided that they wanted to get married, somehow acquired a kosher ring and witnesses, performed kiddushin, ...
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kissing in the yichud room

After a jewish couple gets married and they go to the yichud room, is the choson allowed to kiss the kallah?
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What's the reason for silver spoon at yichud door?

At a wedding, according to Chabad custom, a silver spoon is placed at the entrance to the yichud room. The chosson walks in first by stepping over it with his right foot first. What is the ...
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Can a Gentile say a Bracha before a wedding feast?

If a gentile has been called upon to give the blessing before a wedding meal, with part of the wedding party being Jewish, would there be any problem with including a standard bracha at the end of the ...
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what is the difference between “sasson” and “simcha”

The last of the Sheva Brachot (7 blessings) said under the wedding chuppah, as well as after benching throughout the rest of the week includes an acknowledgement to G-d for creating both "Sasson" and "...
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Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings?

Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings? I understand that in some ultra-religious groups they do, but there seem to be many groups within Orthodoxy where they do not cover their ...
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Why do we walk down the aisle at a wedding

How old of a Jewish tradition is it for a chosson and kallah to walk down the aisle at their wedding?
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Causing Rabbis Bitul Torah

Why is it not considered causing Bitul Torah if I invite Roshei Yeshivos to my wedding- let alone that not all will receive a recital of Berochos?
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House on wedding ring, why not?

It seems in the past at least for Ashkenazim the wedding rings had houses on them (some of them had a hinge on the roof so that the house opened, from the top) . See. https://www.pinterest.com/...
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the reason for a tallit being used as a chuppah

Is there any reason for or significance to a tallit being used as the chuppah canopy in a Jewish wedding?
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Do contemporary Sefardi poskim absolutely require ten men at a wedding?

Beit Yosef, Tur Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 62: Rashba, responsum 1127, was asked about a city in which there are no ten men for reciting the [seven] blessings [at the wedding], and it's impossible ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

I have seen some Orthodox weddings in which the groom steps on the bride's foot. What is the source for this strange custom?
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Minhag of saying Tehillim 128 at the chuppah

I attended my friend's daughter's wedding last night. Just after saying Im Eshkachech and just prior to breaking the glass, the couple and all standing next to the chuppa recited Tehillim (Psalms) 128....