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Do any minhagim use Psalm 45 during chuppah?

I know that many Ashkenazi communities of the community use Psalm 128 during the chuppah ceremony. However, there is a Psalm 45 that expresses the joy of marriage no less. I heard that some use it at ...
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Blessing on wine in "sheva brachos" without minyan at chuppah

In the absence of a minyan at the wedding (chuppah), some poskim offer to read from all 7 "Sheva Brachos" only the last one - "Asher Bara". However, isn't it necessary in this case ...
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Moment of application of Nissuin for Chuppah case studies

While Kiddushin is a necessary step in a Jewish wedding, all marital obligations only apply after Kosher Nissuin (Rambam Ishut 10). Nowadays we make Chuppah with some variations for Ashkenazis and ...
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Is there any source for the chosson to wear tefillin at the chupah?

A friend of mine sent me a video clip from a wedding, showing the chosson and kallah under the chupah and the chosson is wearing his tallis and tefillin. I know there is a Sefardi and Yekke custom for ...
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Divorced Parents of Chosson/Kallah Escorting to Chupah

Many Poskim note the סימנא טובא of ensuring the couple escorting the chosson and kallah to the chupah are married to their first spouse [see Teshuvos V’Hanhagos (2:652), Minchas Yitzchak (5:80), and ...
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Where to buy Mamarei Hadracha LeKalos

Where can one purchase Rabbi Wolbe's Hadracha Mussar book for Kallos. I see the Chassan one floating around but can't seem to find the one for Kallos.
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What do I need to make a Jewish wedding?

What do I need to make a Jewish wedding?
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Wedding Blessings (Sheva Brachot)

There appears to be an uproar in "right leaning" circles caused by a bride and groom reciting the last 2 of the 7 blessings traditionally recited under a chuppah together. I have two questions about ...
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Seven Brochos at a Wedding

I just read What do I need to make a Jewish Wedding. Is there a requirement for seven different people to say each of the seven Brochos, or can one say all of them?
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Why do Chabad wedding invitations show the wrong time?

It has recently come to my attention that Chabad wedding invitations in the US are often bilingual Hebrew/English and the time given for the wedding on the Hebrew side is wrong (perhaps a copy of the ...
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What is the source for the Kallah's circling the Chasan 7 times?

What is the source for a Kallah (bride) to circle her Chasan (bridegroom) seven times at their wedding?
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Why does the Chasan perform Bedeken?

As explained in Taamei Haminhagim #950, the minhag of bedeken comes from the Pasuk in Chayei Sarah: "And she said to the servant, ‘Who is that man walking in the field towards us?’ And the ...
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Kibbudim at a Wedding

Can someone please provide a list of all the kibbudim (honors) available at a Jewish wedding - from the beginning to end, in order?
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כּלּה kallâh "bride, spouse" < כּלל kâlal "to make perfect"?

Reading Strong's Real Hebrew dictionary, I discovered that כּלּה kallâh "bride, spouse" < כּלל kâlal "to make perfect". What does a bride have to do with perfection? cf. Hebrew ...
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The ancient segulah of a "Black Wedding" to combat a plague

In the recent Mishpacha Pesach 5781 edition they ran a lovely feature entitled 'Eyes that Saw Angels' which is a written testimony from various people who were zoche (merited) to have seen / spent ...
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Inviting deceased relatives to a wedding

Can anybody send me the source for the custom of inviting deceased relatives (particularly grandparents) to a wedding. I understand that Netai Gavriel discusses the issue but I have no access to that ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom

Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom? My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Mazinka dance (dance with a broom) source?

Some have a custom that, when their last child or last daughter (mazinka means youngest daughter) get married, they do a dance with a broom. Where did this come from and is it in any seforim?
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Chuppah, Kiddushin in ברכת אירוסין

Why do we say על ידי חופה וקידושין, mentioning chuppah first when kiddushin takes place before chuppah (nisuin)?
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What does it mean practically that every kesuba has strife?

The Gemara Shabbos (130a) says וְכׇל מִצְוָה שֶׁקִּבְּלוּ עֲלֵיהֶם בִּקְטָטָה, כְּגוֹן עֲרָיוֹת, דִּכְתִיב: ״וַיִּשְׁמַע מֹשֶׁה אֶת הָעָם בּוֹכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו״, עַל עִסְקֵי מִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו — ...
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Halachot when the groom has been previously married

Are there any differences in halachot or minhagim in the wedding ceremony or sheva brachot when the groom has been previously married (and divorced), but the bride has not been?
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Why do some Jews get married at night?

In images and other media I have seen of Jewish weddings, there seems to be a trend to get married in the evening or night time. Is this a Jewish custom a halachic requirement and what is the origin ...
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Auspicious time for tefillah when the bride is led down the aisle

I heard many times that when the bride is led down the aisle, it is an auspicious for tefillah. Does anyone know of a source for this?
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History of מי אדיר and מי בן שיח

Where can I find sources about the history of the piyutim מי אדיר and מי בן שיח, which usually get sung at Ashkenazi weddings under the chuppah when the groom and bride walk in?
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Can a wedding band be made of multiple colors of gold? [duplicate]

To be kosher, a wedding band need be solid gold, so as not to leave room to question the value of the ring. As much of the gold used in jewelry is often 14k or 18k gold, as previous questions have ...
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Music at a Wedding

Someone told me that there is a requirement to have music at a wedding. He said that the Mishna Brurah says if one side does not want to pay for the music the other side can force them to pay for it. ...
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Reform wedding ceremony changes

I saw a video of a Reform wedding ceremony, and noticed many differences between theirs and a traditional Orthodox ceremony. Sheva Berachos were recited before Kiddushin (the giving of the ring) No ...
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Why do the mothers break the plate?

At a wedding [or by the engagement], a plate is customarily broken at the "tena'im." This has already been discussed over here. As I have seen at weddings, and as is brought over here the custom is ...
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Halachic issues with double ring wedding ceremony

I was at a wedding in Israel where the rabbi was religious (orthodox) and the couple wasn't. Towards the end of the ceremony, the Rav said that the bride also wanted to give a ring to the groom. The ...
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Wedding Day Minhagim for Him [closed]

What are some Minhagim that men are accustomed or unaccustomed to do on the day of the their wedding? Can you please list the minhag with its source, thanks.
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Touching on wedding day? [duplicate]

If the woman has gone to the mikva already and is not a niddah, can the groom and bride touch on the day of the wedding? For example, pictures before the chuppa or another shaas hadchak.
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How high can a Kosher Chuppah be?

I think that our Chuppah resembles [one form of] a Succah - 4 bars and canopy. For a Kosher Succah, 20 Amah high (~10m) is a limit. Imagine we do a Chuppah between two 5 stories high buildings - can ...
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What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah?

Following "the shape or form of chuppa": Halachicly speaking, Chuppah makes Nissuin - the start of the formal obligations of both sides. What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah? A square ...
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Can Chuppah have a fixed roof?

There are many approaches to a Chuppah and I only refer to our Ashkenazi tradition of 4 bars/hands and a canopy. I saw that many wedding halls have a fixed cube-like construction, but the covering is ...
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Non-Jewish family in an Orthodox Jewish Wedding

In a case of a Ger/Convert, what role can non-Jewish parents play at the wedding ceremony? Halachically can the parents accompany their child down the aisle? Could they stand under the Chuppa? Any ...
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Source for Baal Haturim Writing Commentary on his Wedding Night!

I've heard that the Baal Haturim wrote the whole commentary on the Chumash on his wedding night! Can someone please provide the source for this?
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Standing during a wedding

During the bracha that weds that chassan and kallah are we required in the audience to stand? is it a minhag? Can we sit? What's your source?
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Why דָּת in Esther but דַּת in kidushin?

There are two places "דָּת" appears in Tanach in a form that means "the law of": Esther 2:12 and 9:13. In both places it appears as "דָּת" with a kamatz.[1] Yet, when we marry, according to the ...
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Number of times the names of the husband & wife appear on the Ketubah

From a few Ketubot that I've seen, it seems that the husband's name is written 6x and the wife's name is written 3x. Is there a specific number of times a husband's and wife's names should appear on ...
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Source for blessing "Livnot Bayit Ne'eman B'Yisrael" [duplicate]

A classic blessing for a bride and groom is they should merit to build a לִבְנוֹת בַּיִת נֶאמָן בְּיִשְׂרָאֵל - a reliable house in Israel. The only source I could find for this expression is the Mi ...
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When were "acrobatics" introduced at weddings?

The "earliest" samples of "acrobatics" that I have seen at weddings were bottle dancers, which seemed to be popular among Hassidim, and I guess originated from Russian custom. The Talmud mentions in ...
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

I have seen some Orthodox weddings in which the groom steps on the bride's foot. What is the source for this strange custom?
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English explanation of Sheva Brachot at a Wedding

I was a guest at a wedding recently. During the sheva brachot under the chuppah in addition to calling up someone to recite the bracha a second person was called up to read a relevant English passage ...
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"Circling" a Kos Shel Bracha?

I just saw Fiddler on the Roof in Yiddish off-Broadway last night. In the wedding scene, the rabbi holds the Kos Shel Bracha from underneath but then kind of "orbits" the cup -- rotating his hand in ...
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Explain the combination of verses sung when the kallah first appears

At many weddings that I have attended when the kallah (bride) first walks into the reception room, the band plays / people sing a tune that combines two apparently unrelated verses: It starts with ...
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Candle processions in Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl weddings

In both Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, the wedding scene includes the bride and groom being led to the Chuppah by processions wherein everyone carries a candle. All guests are also holding candles at ...
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Why are huge challot displayed on the wedding couple / Bar Mitzvah's table?

I noticed that among Orthodox and, seemingly Hareidi Bar Mitzvah's and weddings, a huge challah is cut by the chattan or Bar Mitzvah. I assume that there must be some minhag behind this that ...
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Married At First Sight

There's this reality TV show where strangers meet at the altar for the first time and get married on the spot. Like a really intense arranged marriage. Would this sort of thing be permissible in ...
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Can one of the sheva berachot be said outside a wedding context?

Are there any sources which speak to the possibility of saying one of the sheva berachot outside of the wedding ceremony and ensuing celebratory period? (Excluding borei pri hagafen). I'm most ...
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Minyan for Brit Milah, Funeral & Wedding

Is a Minyan required for a Brit Mila/circumcision, funeral/burial, or for a wedding/Chuppa? Usually they tend to be done in the presence of a Minyan but is it an obligation and are there any ...

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