Questions tagged [wedding]
wedding ceremony (and reception etc.)
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In this Shtar Tena'im (שטר תנאים) the chatan and kallah are represented by their mothers, not fathers, why?
I received a שטר תנאים dating 100-130 years ago possibly from Poland, possibly England, written in Hebrew. There are no dates or locations on the document! The chatan and kallah are represented by ...
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Origin of wedding rings [duplicate]
Where did the custom of giving wedding rings originate?
Was it always a part of Jewish custom, or was it adopted by other cultures, and if so, how come it is so important that we have Halachas ...
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Breaking a cheap glass under the Chuppah
The source for breaking a glass under the Chuppah according to many commentaries is a Tosfos in Berachos 31a. The Gemara there says the following- (taken from the Sefaria website)
רַב אָשֵׁי עֲבַד ...
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What is the source of the minhag for a chatan to wear a tallit under the chupah?
I am about to get married in Israel and I've heard that an Ashkenazi chatan typically wears a Kittel under a chuppah. However, in the UK my experience is that most wear a tallit.
What is the source of ...
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Seeing wedding dress before chuppah
Is it consider bad luck for the chosen to see the kallah’s wedding dress prior to the chuppah?
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Yarmulke with fur rim
I came across this picture of a Gur Chasid at his wedding wearing a black yarmulke with a sort of fur rim (not the spodik).
Why does the yarmulke/kippah have this fur rim. Is this because he is of ...
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Is there a Jewish source for the saying: "only the father knows when the wedding would take place"?
The website below describes what is apparently an ancient Jewish wedding custom, in which it was apparently said that "only the Father" of the groom "knows" when the wedding would ...
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Four witnesses on ketubah?
So my fiancé and I trying to have a more feminist orthodox wedding, and one thing we’ve heard is that (among other things) we can be more inclusive on the ketubah by having 2 halachic male signatures ...
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Do any minhagim use Psalm 45 during chuppah?
I know that many Ashkenazi communities of the community use Psalm 128 during the chuppah ceremony. However, there is a Psalm 45 that expresses the joy of marriage no less. I heard that some use it at ...
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Blessing on wine in "sheva brachos" without minyan at chuppah
In the absence of a minyan at the wedding (chuppah), some poskim offer to read from all 7 "Sheva Brachos" only the last one - "Asher Bara". However, isn't it necessary in this case ...
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Is there any source for the chosson to wear tefillin at the chupah?
A friend of mine sent me a video clip from a wedding, showing the chosson and kallah under the chupah and the chosson is wearing his tallis and tefillin.
I know there is a Sefardi and Yekke custom for ...
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Divorced Parents of Chosson/Kallah Escorting to Chupah
Many Poskim note the סימנא טובא of ensuring the couple escorting the chosson and kallah to the chupah are married to their first spouse [see Teshuvos V’Hanhagos (2:652), Minchas Yitzchak (5:80), and ...
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The ancient segulah of a "Black Wedding" to combat a plague
In the recent Mishpacha Pesach 5781 edition they ran a lovely feature entitled 'Eyes that Saw Angels' which is a written testimony from various people who were zoche (merited) to have seen / spent ...
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Inviting deceased relatives to a wedding
Can anybody send me the source for the custom of inviting deceased relatives (particularly grandparents) to a wedding. I understand that Netai Gavriel discusses the issue but I have no access to that ...
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Chuppah, Kiddushin in ברכת אירוסין
Why do we say על ידי חופה וקידושין, mentioning chuppah first when kiddushin takes place before chuppah (nisuin)?
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Halachot when the groom has been previously married
Are there any differences in halachot or minhagim in the wedding ceremony or sheva brachot when the groom has been previously married (and divorced), but the bride has not been?
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כּלּה kallâh "bride, spouse" < כּלל kâlal "to make perfect"?
Reading Strong's Real Hebrew dictionary, I discovered that כּלּה kallâh "bride, spouse" < כּלל kâlal "to make perfect". What does a bride have to do with perfection?
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Auspicious time for tefillah when the bride is led down the aisle
I heard many times that when the bride is led down the aisle, it is an auspicious for tefillah.
Does anyone know of a source for this?
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History of מי אדיר and מי בן שיח
Where can I find sources about the history of the piyutim מי אדיר and מי בן שיח, which usually get sung at Ashkenazi weddings under the chuppah when the groom and bride walk in?
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What does it mean practically that every kesuba has strife?
The Gemara Shabbos (130a) says
וְכׇל מִצְוָה שֶׁקִּבְּלוּ עֲלֵיהֶם בִּקְטָטָה, כְּגוֹן עֲרָיוֹת, דִּכְתִיב: ״וַיִּשְׁמַע מֹשֶׁה אֶת הָעָם בּוֹכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו״, עַל עִסְקֵי מִשְׁפְּחוֹתָיו — ...
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Can a wedding band be made of multiple colors of gold? [duplicate]
To be kosher, a wedding band need be solid gold, so as not to leave room to question the value of the ring. As much of the gold used in jewelry is often 14k or 18k gold, as previous questions have ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom
Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom?
My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Music at a Wedding
Someone told me that there is a requirement to have music at a wedding. He said that the Mishna Brurah says if one side does not want to pay for the music the other side can force them to pay for it. ...
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Reform wedding ceremony changes
I saw a video of a Reform wedding ceremony, and noticed many differences between theirs and a traditional Orthodox ceremony.
Sheva Berachos were recited before Kiddushin (the giving of the ring)
No ...
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Wedding Day Minhagim for Him [closed]
What are some Minhagim that men are accustomed or unaccustomed to do on the day of the their wedding?
Can you please list the minhag with its source, thanks.
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Where to buy Mamarei Hadracha LeKalos
Where can one purchase Rabbi Wolbe's Hadracha Mussar book for Kallos. I see the Chassan one floating around but can't seem to find the one for Kallos.
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Touching on wedding day? [duplicate]
If the woman has gone to the mikva already and is not a niddah, can the groom and bride touch on the day of the wedding?
For example, pictures before the chuppa or another shaas hadchak.
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Why does the Chasan perform Bedeken?
As explained in Taamei Haminhagim #950, the minhag of bedeken comes from the Pasuk in Chayei Sarah:
"And she said to the servant, ‘Who is that man walking in the field towards us?’ And the ...
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Can Chuppah have a fixed roof?
There are many approaches to a Chuppah and I only refer to our Ashkenazi tradition of 4 bars/hands and a canopy. I saw that many wedding halls have a fixed cube-like construction, but the covering is ...
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How high can a Kosher Chuppah be?
I think that our Chuppah resembles [one form of] a Succah - 4 bars and canopy. For a Kosher Succah, 20 Amah high (~10m) is a limit.
Imagine we do a Chuppah between two 5 stories high buildings - can ...
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Moment of application of Nissuin for Chuppah case studies
While Kiddushin is a necessary step in a Jewish wedding, all marital obligations only apply after Kosher Nissuin (Rambam Ishut 10).
Nowadays we make Chuppah with some variations for Ashkenazis and ...
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What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah?
Following "the shape or form of chuppa":
Halachicly speaking, Chuppah makes Nissuin - the start of the formal obligations of both sides.
What is the minimal footage of a Kosher Chuppah? A square ...
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Source for Baal Haturim Writing Commentary on his Wedding Night!
I've heard that the Baal Haturim wrote the whole commentary on the Chumash on his wedding night!
Can someone please provide the source for this?
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Number of times the names of the husband & wife appear on the Ketubah
From a few Ketubot that I've seen, it seems that the husband's name is written 6x and the wife's name is written 3x.
Is there a specific number of times a husband's and wife's names should appear on ...
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Source for blessing "Livnot Bayit Ne'eman B'Yisrael" [duplicate]
A classic blessing for a bride and groom is they should merit to build a לִבְנוֹת בַּיִת נֶאמָן בְּיִשְׂרָאֵל - a reliable house in Israel.
The only source I could find for this expression is the Mi ...
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When were "acrobatics" introduced at weddings?
The "earliest" samples of "acrobatics" that I have seen at weddings were bottle dancers, which seemed to be popular among Hassidim, and I guess originated from Russian custom.
The Talmud mentions in ...
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English explanation of Sheva Brachot at a Wedding
I was a guest at a wedding recently. During the sheva brachot under the chuppah in addition to calling up someone to recite the bracha a second person was called up to read a relevant English passage ...
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"Circling" a Kos Shel Bracha?
I just saw Fiddler on the Roof in Yiddish off-Broadway last night. In the wedding scene, the rabbi holds the Kos Shel Bracha from underneath but then kind of "orbits" the cup -- rotating his hand in ...
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Explain the combination of verses sung when the kallah first appears
At many weddings that I have attended when the kallah (bride) first walks into the reception room, the band plays / people sing a tune that combines two apparently unrelated verses:
It starts with ...
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Why are huge challot displayed on the wedding couple / Bar Mitzvah's table?
I noticed that among Orthodox and, seemingly Hareidi Bar Mitzvah's and weddings, a huge challah is cut by the chattan or Bar Mitzvah.
I assume that there must be some minhag behind this that ...
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Can one of the sheva berachot be said outside a wedding context?
Are there any sources which speak to the possibility of saying one of the sheva berachot outside of the wedding ceremony and ensuing celebratory period? (Excluding borei pri hagafen). I'm most ...
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Minyan for Brit Milah, Funeral & Wedding
Is a Minyan required for a Brit Mila/circumcision, funeral/burial, or for a wedding/Chuppa?
Usually they tend to be done in the presence of a Minyan but is it an obligation and are there any ...
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Why is the custom to put the wedding ring on the index finger under the chuppah?
Obviously the kiddushin would be valid if one put the ring on another finger, but:
why specifically does the groom put the wedding ring on the bride's index finger under the chuppah?
where did this ...
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Non-Jewish family in an Orthodox Jewish Wedding
In a case of a Ger/Convert, what role can non-Jewish parents play at the wedding ceremony?
Halachically can the parents accompany their child down the aisle? Could they stand under the Chuppa?
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Can a Bet Din's Halachic rulings be retroactively annulled if a Dayan is found to be corrupt or a grave sinner?
Are there any retroactive ramifications in a case where Ch"v there is fullproof evidence (or admission) of a Dayan being corrupt or committing sins such as breaking shabbat/adultery/murder or עבירות ...
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Strength of faith in coming of the Messiah
I recall hearing long ago that some Jews send out wedding invitations as follows: "The wedding will be in Jerusalem at this place and time. If, heaven forbid, the Messiah has not come by that time, ...
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Why doesn't the chatan sign the ketubah?
Perhaps, I may not completely understand the purpose of the ketubah in terms of it being a halachic legal document or a "shtar*. Aren't all legal documents supposed to be signed by the person drafting ...
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Are anniversaries celebrated in Adar I or Adar II?
For those who celebrate anniversaries, or for calculating the end of Shanah Rishonah, if a couple gets married in Adar of a non-leap-year, when is the anniversary celebrated in a leap year? Is it in ...
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Why not say סברי before the blessing on wine at a wedding ceremony?
The Rema in O Ch 174(8) says
ויאמר סברי רבותי ר"ל סוברים אתם לצאת בברכה זו ולא יאמר ברשות רבותי
(מו) וכן כל מקום שמברכין על היין משום ברכת היין שבתוך הסעודה אין
אומרים ברשות אלא סברי מטעם ...
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Candle processions in Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl weddings
In both Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, the wedding scene includes the bride and groom being led to the Chuppah by processions wherein everyone carries a candle. All guests are also holding candles at ...
