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Questions tagged [wedding]

wedding ceremony (and reception etc.)

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Why doesn't the chatan sign the ketubah?

Perhaps, I may not completely understand the purpose of the ketubah in terms of it being a halachic legal document or a "shtar*. Aren't all legal documents supposed to be signed by the person drafting ...
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Are anniversaries celebrated in Adar I or Adar II?

For those who celebrate anniversaries, or for calculating the end of Shanah Rishonah, if a couple gets married in Adar of a non-leap-year, when is the anniversary celebrated in a leap year? Is it in ...
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Why not say סברי before the blessing on wine at a wedding ceremony?

The Rema in O Ch 174(8) says ויאמר סברי רבותי ר"ל סוברים אתם לצאת בברכה זו ולא יאמר ברשות רבותי (מו) וכן כל מקום שמברכין על היין משום ברכת היין שבתוך הסעודה אין אומרים ברשות אלא סברי מטעם ...
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Candle processions in Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl weddings

In both Fiddler on the Roof and Yentl, the wedding scene includes the bride and groom being led to the Chuppah by processions wherein everyone carries a candle. All guests are also holding candles at ...
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Is it possible to have a Jewish wedding after a civil ceremony?

My (legal) husband and I had a small courthouse wedding ceremony, which was done entirely for practical reasons after my cancer diagnosis. Neither of us are as frum now as we were raised, but having a ...
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What is the source for carrying candles down at a wedding?

I know that there are many explanations as to why many Jews have this custom (to commemorate the fire at har sinai, etc.), but where is the original source? Where originally did it come from? I have ...
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At a wedding, can non-designated witnesses testify later in the court?

This is a follow-up (a clarification) question on how-can-there-be-only-2-halachic-witnesses. Say, there are ten grown-up, Jewish, frum, non-related men presenting at a Chupah, two of which are ...
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How can there be only two Halachic witnesses at a large wedding?

By what power or logic can the mesader kiddushin saying that two specific, designated people are the only witnesses to a wedding change the fact that all assembled have seen all that transpired at the ...
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Giving the ring, “harei at” is the kiddushin… what exactly is the nisuin?

I get that giving the ring and saying "harei at mekudeshet li etc" fulfills the kiddushin component of a Jewish Wedding, but when/ what/ how exactly is the nisuin component fulfilled under the chuppah?...
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Is it required to read the Ketubah under the Chuppah?

Is it Halachicly required to read the ketubah aloud under the chuppah? Or, provided that it has been properly witnessed, is it sufficient to simply give the bride the text. I am thinking of a ...
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Non-observant Jewish Couples Having Halachic Weddings

In a shiur, I learned that if secular or non-observant Jews have a halachically binding wedding, then if they separate and don't manage to perform a get (as a get may even seem irrelevant to them), ...
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Who composed the text for Tena'im?

In many Ashkenazy weddings, a document called tena'im is drafted and read at the Chatan's Tisch (Chattan's "table" - a separate rom or area where the groom, family members and friends gather prior to ...
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If the Kesubah was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated?

If, at a wedding, the Kesubah (marriage contract) was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated, because of the hefsek (interruption) ...
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The kittel as tachrich

I recently heard and was extremely moved by the idea that the kitlen worn on Pesach, Yom Kippur, and under the chuppah are intended to resemble tachrichim -- and are, in some cases, the actual ...
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Source for Chosson & Kallah holding hands after Chuppa [duplicate]

Is there any source for the Chosson & Kallah to hold hands between the Chuppah and the Yichud Room? Why is this not included in the prohibition of displaying public affection?
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Halachic issues with double ring wedding ceremony

I was at a wedding in Israel where the rabbi was religious (orthodox) and the couple wasn't. Towards the end of the ceremony, the Rav said that the bride also wanted to give a ring to the groom. The ...
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Source for a story about mistakenly thinking Mashiach was here

What is the story in the Gemara or Ein Ya'akov about the guy who ran into the streets when he thought the Mashiach was here, but really it was a wedding ceremony? I can't find it anywhere. The Rosh ...
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Which word is said under the chuppah - זוֹ or זוּ?

The groom tells the bride under the chuppah: הרי את מקודשת לי בטבעת זו כדת משה וישראל Is the word זו pronounced with a cholam (וֹ) as in "zo" or with a shuruk (וּ) as in "zu"? I have seen both ...
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Child marriage today

Suppose that in their infinite pubescent wisdom, a 12-year-old girl and a 13-year-old boy decided that they wanted to get married, somehow acquired a kosher ring and witnesses, performed kiddushin, ...
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Can a wedding band be made from white gold?

Is there any reason why a wedding ring for a woman should not be made from white gold? No gems, no in-carvings of course. I am interested in orthodox views.
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?

I have seen some Orthodox weddings in which the groom steps on the bride's foot. What is the source for this strange custom?
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Minhag of saying Tehillim 128 at the chuppah

I attended my friend's daughter's wedding last night. Just after saying Im Eshkachech and just prior to breaking the glass, the couple and all standing next to the chuppa recited Tehillim (Psalms) 128....
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What are Chattan or Kallah classes? [duplicate]

I guess I'm becoming more "outdated" regarding the current "frum fad". A shadchan as well as a few young boys and girls told me that at some point between engagement and marriage they must attend a ...
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Married At First Sight

There's this reality TV show where strangers meet at the altar for the first time and get married on the spot. Like a really intense arranged marriage. Would this sort of thing be permissible in ...
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Where is there a discussion that says both Naomi and Ruth were the wives of Boaz?

Where is there a discussion, if any, that says both Naomi and Ruth were the wives of Boaz? (Because Boaz is the goel / redeemer on Naomi's side of the family, if I understand it correctly.) The above ...
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Why are the words Kiddushin, Erusin, Nissuin plural?

The Mishnah says "האיש מקדש", just like on Shabbos. Nevertheless, on Shabbos we call it a Kiddush (single) but on wedding we call it either Kiddushin, Erusin, Nissuin which are all plural.
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Can a woman who did not receive a get but only a civil divorce marry again?

Scenarios Where is there a discussion where a woman (married in a religious ceremony) who did not receive a get but only a civil divorce can marry again? If she and her husband did not marry in a ...
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House on wedding ring, why not?

It seems in the past at least for Ashkenazim the wedding rings had houses on them (some of them had a hinge on the roof so that the house opened, from the top) . See. https://www.pinterest.com/...
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Use of phrase ברוך הבא - Version #2

Inspired by The previous version of my question I noticed that in Nusach Ashkenaz, ברוך הבא is said at both a Brit as well as when the Chattan (groom) walks down the aisle toward the Chuppah. ...
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Putting On Kittel Under Chupa

Does any one know of a source for the minhag for a chosson to put on his kittel after he is already under the chupah?
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Witnesses at a wedding for what parts are they necessary and why

Witnesses at a wedding for what parts are they necessary and why (reason/Source Specifically: I was taught that witnesses are necessary for the kiddushin,. **why? (To acquire other things witnesses ...
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Source and reason for a bridal Henna?

What is the purpose of the custom of a bridal henna, and what is its source? As a child I was told that it's for good luck, but I wonder if that would be permitted. (I have a personal theory, which I ...
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Wedding, menstruation, and the mikvah. What does one do?

When does a bride go to the mikveh for her wedding? Need it be before, or can it be after? What if she thinks that she will still be bleeding at the wedding? What sources are there that provide ...
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Can a wedding lasting into the 3 weeks have music playing?

Here are things that are forbidden during the 3 weeks. If an Ashkenazi got married the evening of the 3 weeks before Shkiyah (which is similar to another question on this site), can the music continue ...
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Attending a wedding in which a Jew would be marrying a non-Jew [duplicate]

I received invitation to attend my sister's wedding this December. However, this sister went off the derech many years ago, leaving Yiddishkeit and religion altogether behind. She is now an athiest, ...
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Why does the bride circle the groom in a counter-clockwise direction?

At a wedding, the groom is facing the audience. When the bride comes to the chuppah she begins to circle to her right as he is facing the groom, and circles first behind the groom proceeding in a ...
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Why are women on right side of room by a funeral & left side by weddings?

I just came from an orthodox funeral & noticed that the women were on the right side of the room & the men on the left. By weddings however it's the opposite with men on the right & women ...
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Can there be food during the Chuppah?

I was wondering if there a prohibition to have food during the Chuppah? A friend told me he thinks it's not allowed. I wanted to have something cute and small that is meaning full to us that everyone ...
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Birkat Kohanim under the Chuppah - Source?

There is a mainly Sepharadic custom to do Birkat Kohanim under the Chuppah, but I can't seem to find a concrete source for it. In Yalkut Yosef, Sova Semachot 8:5, Rav Yitzchak Yosef merely addresses ...
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Putting a ring on a Kallah that's a niddah

During a regular chupah the choson puts the ring on the kallah's finger. What happens in a case of when the kallah is a niddah by the chupah being that the choson can't touch the kallah? Who puts the ...
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Source for a chosson's aufruf?

A choshuv Rav (head of a kashrus organization) said the source for the chosson aufruf is that there was a gate in the Beis Hamikdash designated for chassanim. Is there any source which connects this ...
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What age were Leah and Rachel when they got married

Do we know what age Leah and Rachel were when yakove married them? If yes what is it? Source please. Are there any midrashim on the subject?
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Sephardic Wedding Custom: Avram Siz Reading

What are the verses one reads to fulfill the Sephardic custom of Avram Siz? Avram Siz (or Avraham Zaqein) is the Sephardic custom of reading a passage in Genesis the Shabbat following a wedding.
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Does the chuppah need to be completely open on all 4 sides?

Most weddings I have seen have the chuppah open on all 4 sides. Last night, when I attended a wedding, I noticed that the "far" side was covered with a curtain. (i.e. the ark is at the front of the ...
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Why does the Chatan arrive first to the Chuppa?

At every wedding I have attended, I have seen that the Chattan (groom) arrives at the chuppah before the kallah (bride). Is this a halachic requirement? Please provide both a source as well as the ...
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Sheva Brachos without Chosson? [duplicate]

Hypothetical situation: A Sheva Brachos meal is set up for the new couple. However, only the Kallah is there (for example, the Chosson is sick and the meal is right next door, so the Kallah can pop in ...
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Chosson and Kallah not speaking [duplicate]

What are the earliest sources for the minhag in some communities that a chosson and kallah don't speak to each other during the week before the wedding?
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Where did they have the Chosson's Tisch in Europe?

In Europe when they didn't make chasunahs in a hall and instead made chasunahs in private homes or in some open area in the town where did they make the chosson's Tisch? Was the whole procedure of ...
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Can an Orthodox Jew attend the Reform wedding of a close relative?

A Jew is marrying a non-Jew who converted in a Reform synagogue. The Chuppah will be held in a Reform synagogue and the party (dinner/dance) will be in a non-religious venue. Is there any reason why ...
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Does the timing of breaking a dish after the reading of the te'na'im before a wedding matter?

At a recent wedding I attended, the mothers of the bride accidentally broke the dish after the signing of the te'na'im but before it was read out publicly. It seems like the regular procedure is to ...