Questions tagged [shalom-bayit]
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A man leaving his wife and children to go to Uman
Another question deals with why people go to Uman (here).
Although, the relevance of Uman on Rosh HaShana is directly relevant to Breslov Hassidim, the practice of going to Uman has extended somewhat ...
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Is anger OK for a husband?
The Gemara says that
וא״ר חִסְדָא תּוּקְפָא בְבֵיתָא כִי קַרְיָא לְשוּמְשְמָא אִידִי וְְאִידִי בְאִיתְּתָא אֲבָל בְגַבְרָא לֵית לָן בָהּ
And Rav Chisda also said: Anger in a house is like a worm in ...
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Seeking advice from our Sages and Tanach about the dangers of 'national polarity'
Regardless of where you sit on the political divide regarding the situation in the United States it seems as if the country is being devoured by polarity. I am searching for advice from chazal ...
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How Halachic is Yaakov's reply to Rachel's begging him for children?
וַיִּחַר־אַף יַעֲקֹב בְּרָחֵל וַיֹּאמֶר הֲתַחַת אֱלֹהִים אָנֹכִי אֲשֶׁר־מָנַע מִמֵּךְ פְּרִי־בָטֶן׃
Jacob was incensed at Rachel, and said, “Can I take the place of God, who has denied you fruit of ...
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Changing husband's habits after remarrying
After remarrying, a husband inevitably keeps comparing the new wife to the former, no matter what was the reason for their separation (death or divorce), and that fact can undermine the ongoing Shlom ...
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An indefinite houseguest
Suppose one invites a guest over to stay by them for Shabbos or a few days.
Without chatting with the host, the guest doesn't "take the hint" and decides to stay.
The guest seemingly has no other ...
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Elder care, Shalom Bayit and Honoring parents - which has priority?
I'm asking this question as a follow up to my other question - Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?
The main answer given in that question indicates that honoring one's parents ...
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Shalom Bayit vs. Making shabbat bread [closed]
If someone has the option to fix their marriage and save it or make bread for Shabbat (which would put fixing the relationship on hold) which one should be the priority?
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Is it Lashon Harah to tell someone's wife that you found her husband's wallet, since this might cause her to get upset with him for being careless?
Is it Lashon Harah to tell someone's wife that you found her husband's wallet, (if the husband did not publicize the loss, and you can tell the husband himself), since this might cause her to get ...
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women (wife) have a bigger influence regarding shalom bais
the previous Lubavitcher Rebbe writes
ועלי' להשתדל לסבב סיבובים שיהי' שלום בית, אשר הוא דבר המסור ע"פ תורה לאשה יותר מלאיש
that according to Torah making peace in the house is more on the wife ...
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stubbing your toe and peace with you wife, what is the connection
one of the reasons for lighting shabbos candles is "peace in the home"
shulchan aurch harav 263.1 explains "peace in the home" that not to stub you foot on wood or stone
the mishna torah megila 4:...
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Everybody marries Rochel and wakes up to Leah
I think I heard this from Rabbi Jacobson, a lecturer in theyeshiva.net but I don't recall where. In this lecture (minutes 39 to 47), he mentions it again:
That everybody has expectations in his wife ...
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did anyone summarize/organize the laws of marriage (kesubois) after the Shulchan Aruch was written
i see that there is no aruch hashulchan for hilchois kesubois
is there anything similar?
someone who explains the shulchan aruch hilshos kezubois, or someone who lived after the shulchan aruch and ...
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Can i skip davening to help out at home? [duplicate]
Is it OK to skip davening in order to help out my wife at home with the kids?
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Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?
Let's say one has an emotionally abusive parent. When the parent visits someone, she is emotionally abusive to her son and daughter in law. The abuse is so harsh that it affects Shalom Bayit in the ...
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Can a friend assist someone in his lie?
Answers to this question state that one may lie / alter the truth for the sake of Shalom.
Can your friend assist you in your lie?
Let's say a close friend accidentally injured you, and you have a ...
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How to respect your wife (what type of respect)
What does it mean practically from a halohik point of view to respect your wife.
Can i do it by standing for her when she comes in?
I know that by parents it is to feed, drink, dress, cover, take ...
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Should one go out of his way to give his wife all the money and gifts she wants?
In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man should give his wife all the money she needs and not worry her about any financial issues you are experiencing.
To me, this seems a bit ...
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What is wrong if a wife rebukes her husband and(/or) does not watch over him
In this list
אם מקללתו בחנם או מזלזלת אביו ואמו והוכיחה בדברים ואינו משגחת עליו
(My translation "if she (the wife) curses him (the husband) without a reason, disrespects his parents, rebukes him ...
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How did the term "Shalom Bayit" come to mean "matrimonial harmony"?
A follow up to this M.Y. question :
The answer there (so far), addresses the source of the term, in general and cites Talmud Shabbat which seems to address the importance of lighting Shabbat candles. ...
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Husband deciding how his wife should cover her hair
Issues of Shalom Bayis (peace in the home) and any other deciding factor aside, does the husband have any "right" or "privilege" (from a halachic standpoint) to decide how his wife will cover her hair ...
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