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When can I attend service (Shabbat) after seminal emission? [closed]

Unmarried, 22 year old Jewish man here. I've been consciously trying to get myself rid of masturbation for a year now. I started to take precautions and I take this fight very seriously now. I put a ...
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What are reasons of מצוות עונה marital sex?

Besides the reason of having children, are there other reasons to the מצוות עונה (marital sex)?
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Aruch Hashulchan's comments about the form of a fetus

In his discussion of the sin of wasting seed, R. Yechiel Michel Epstein writes that scientists using microscopes have found that the drop of semen contains the entire image/form of a person, thus ...
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Noachide and sin confusion

For a noahide, do sexual thoights without actions or arousal constitute sins? I’m confused about this as it is not clear whether the sexual sins are just forbidden relations or also include more ...
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Does the Torah forbid visiting/hiring a prostitute?

I know that the Torah explicitly forbids adultery and also forbids selling the services of one's daughter: Lev 19:29  Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land ...
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Did the rights of a Jewish slave owner include having sex with his female slaves?

I know that Abraham had sex with his slave who acted as a surrogate for Sarah and I understand that to have been standard practice (even though God did not intend for his promise to be fulfilled ...
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Talmud passage relevant to #metoo

At the Seder table, my sister told me about a passage in the Talmud advocating that women go to the toilet together, lest they be raped. I was wondering if anyone had the exact location?
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Are forbidden relations forbidden to the passive non-jew?

(Rambam sefaria, HebrewBooks, Chabad.org) A non-jewish man cannot have relations with: (a woman who was) his father's wife his mother a (another) man's wife his maternal sister a man an ...
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is a person allowed to pray or learn with traces semen/zera on his underwear?

if a person has traces of semen on his underwear, is he allowed to pray or study Torah? because it's forbidden to pray when your garments are not clean.
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Who gets more rewarded for the Mitzvah of procreation?

The man is obligated in the mitzvah of Pru Urivu (Having children 1 male 1 female) while the woman is not (technically it's a machlokes in the gemara, but we hold of the one that they're not chayav). ...
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Mekor that bnei t'murah doesn't apply to women- berachot 20a?

I'm trying to recall a source that the issue of bnei t'murah (having thoughts of another while having relations with one's wife) does not apply to women. I saw the related posts but I seem to think I ...
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Pre Marital relations and wasted seed

Do pre-marital relations count as wasted semen after intercourse? What does Halacha say about this situation? It would obviously be a sin but would it count as wasted seed if ejaculation occurred ...
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what is the minimum requirement of onah (marital obligation) on the husband

(to my poor understanding it seems that usually, mitzovs have specific guidelines, of what is the minimum needed to be done to fulfill them) what is the minimum requirement of onah? (biblical and ...
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Why does Tanac“h frequently use the term for ”knowledge" when referring to sexual relations?

Frequently, when Tanac"h speaks about a man and woman having sexual relations, it uses the term ידע as in Breishit 4:1 וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם יָדַ֖ע אֶת־חַוָּ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וַתַּ֙הַר֙ וַתֵּ֣לֶד אֶת־קַ֔יִן ...
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What is minimum age for relations for a boy when passive

I understand that someone to be given the death penalty for relations with a girl she needs to be at least 3 years old But how about with a boy. What is the minimum age the boy needs to be for ...
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

I was told that one should not learn the laws of Nidda (I guess including orach Chaim 240 and even hoezer 25) until engaged, and not the laws of mourning until applicable (lo alainu) Is this true? Or ...
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Does Devarim 23:18 prohibit pre-marital relations

I was having a discussion with a friend, some weeks back, about adultery in Torah. The discussion hinged on the Christian understanding being incorrect (that is to say, that both the man and woman are ...
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Source that a Jewish girl is forbidden to have relations with a non Jew

I see that it is forbidden for a Jewish girl to get married to a non-Jew (E"H 16.1) but why is she forbidden to have relations with him without marriage? Source please. (I guess the source might be ...
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Was Rabbi Akiva exempt from his conjugal duties?

The Gemara (in Kesubos 63a) says, “When Rabbi Akiva returned, he brought twelve thousand students with him. As he approached his home, he heard a certain old man saying to [his wife], ‘Until when will ...
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“Recreational” use of ED medications

From what I understand, there is no problem using Erectile Dysfunction medications for ED. I am wondering if there is anything problematic about using a drug like Viagra for the purpose of extending ...
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Halachic consequences of raping one's wife

The Gemorah in Nedorim 20b brings a list of 9/10 "warnings"/"prohibitions" on sexual relationships with one's wife, with rape being the first. However, the Gemmorah does not mention any punishment, ...
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Is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried superior to marriage? [duplicate]

In Judaism, is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried a higher state of life than marriage?
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can a very poor Jew have relations with his wife?

i see that relations are forbidden if their is no Kesuba and i understand that a Kesuba is a lien on the property of the husband theoretically, can a husband have relations with his wife if he has ...
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How come a rape is considered a damage but not a crime in Judaism? [closed]

In our Western (Goyish) culture, rape constitutes a serious criminal offense (up to 15 years inside), that is probably based on a Pshat of Deu 22, 26: וְלַנַּעֲרָה לֹא־תַעֲשֶׂה דָבָר אֵין ...
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Is a man obligated to seek a medical remedy to fulfill onah?

If a husband is physically incapable or performing onah (the obligation for a husband to sexually satisfy his wife as outlined in Shulchan Aruch Even Ha'Ezer 76)due to an inability to have an erection ...
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Is masturbation prohibited for those that aren't married?

This article seems to claim that for single men masturbation isn't forbidden. It is a little bit over my head, especially since most of the modern day literature (albeit based largely on the Zohar and ...
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Does the Torah use the word טָמְאָה to imply physical defilement anywhere besides sotah?

In the parsha of sotah (Bamidbar 5:13) the Torah describes the woman who was secluded and had relations with another man as וְנִסְתְּרָ֖ה וְהִ֣יא נִטְמָ֑אָה meaning that she became physically defiled -...
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Sudden Menstruation and Sex

I am having trouble finding any treatment of this topic on the internet. A couple who has been having sex suddenly discovers that a blood flow has begun. Are they liable for kareth? Leviticus 15 ...
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Heter to be permitted to a Cohen after relations with a non-jew with condoms?

If a woman has relations with a non-Jew with condom use, are they still permissible to a Cohen? Does anybody have a reference to the specific heter which permits this. Edit: I know that relations ...
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what does the “uncovering of Boaz’ legs” have to do with Keri?

I was shown Shulchan Aruch Harav 619 : וְעַל כָּל פָּנִים יִזָּהֵר שֶׁלֹּא לְכַסּוֹת רַגְלָיו, זֵכֶר לַדָּבָר "וַתְּגַל מַרְגְּלֹתָיו" שֶׁל בֹּעַז, שֶׁלֹּא יָבוֹא לִידֵי חִמּוּם: One should at ...
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Does this Talmudic quote have any merit? [duplicate]

Sanhedrin 55b:4 אמר רב יוסף תא שמע בת שלש שנים ויום אחד מתקדשת בביאה ואם בא עליה יבם קנאה וחייבין עליה משום אשת איש "A girl who is three years and one day old whose father arranged her betrothal is ...
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Why were Er and Onan punished?

As discussed here, wasting seed is not forbidden for a non-Jew. Rashi to Bereishis 38:7 and Semak negative commandment 292 explain that Er and Onan died for that very sin. If non-Jews are allowed ...
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Did Adam have intercourse with animals?

Yebamoth 63a states that Adam had intercourse with animals: א"ר אלעזר מאי דכתיב (בראשית ב, כג) זאת הפעם עצם מעצמי ובשר מבשרי מלמד שבא אדם על כל בהמה וחיה ולא נתקררה דעתו עד שבא על חוה And Rabbi ...
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Is adultery permitted if the husband allows it?

Bamidbar Rabbah 9:6: וְאוֹמֵר (תהלים לז, כא): לֹוֶה רָשָׁע וְלֹא יְשַׁלֵּם וגו', יֵשׁ אָדָם לֹוֶה וְאֵינוֹ פּוֹרֵעַ שֶׁאֵין הַדְּנֵיסְטֵיס מְשַׁבֵּר שִׁנָּיו וְגוֹבֶה אוֹתוֹ, מַהוּ: לֹוֶה רָשָׁע ...
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Visualizing the Rebbe during marital relations

Rabbi Slifkin wrote in a recent post that: ... in some Chabad chosson/kallah classes, they are taught that during climax, they should visualize the Rebbe. Slifkin brings the writings of Rabbi ...
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What is the perceived effect of circumcision on sexuality?

My understanding so far : Jews circumcise their sons at the age of 8 days in order to mark an alliance between the newborn and God, and this tradition has carried on for thousands of years. It is also ...
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The Arizal and Shovavim

This week begins the six week period of Shovavim, a time period that the Arizal wrote is an auspicious time to work on oneself, especially in the areas of sexual transgressions. I have two questions: ...
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When did masturbation become such a severe prohibition?

Before the kaballah of the Arizal began to filter into Jewish thought, was ho'tza'at zerah le'vatala considered as terrible of a sin as we tend to think today? Was it considered a sin at all?
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Is a man expected to be a virgin on the wedding night? [duplicate]

Just as the ketubah generally refers to a first time bride as a betulah (virgin), is any such language used to refer to a first time chosson? Are any expectations of virginity placed upon the chosson ...
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Where in the Gemara does it say a woman never forgets her first

Where in the gemara does it say a woman never forgets the first man she was ever with intimately? This is something I have recently heard. Is this referring to all women or just specific cases?
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Was Onan turning Yibum into Arayot?

There are many commentators that invoke the story of Onan as a source for the prohibition behind onanism, but there seems to be a distinctly different issue going on that is "evil in the eyes of ...
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In Book Of Genesis Chapter 6 Paragraph 2 is it referring to rape?

Genesis 6:2: בוַיִּרְאוּ בְנֵי הָאֱלֹהִים אֶת בְּנוֹת הָאָדָם כִּי טֹבֹת הֵנָּה וַיִּקְחוּ לָהֶם נָשִׁים מִכֹּל אֲשֶׁר בָּחָרוּ: That the sons of the nobles saw the daughters of man when ...
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Masturbating to stop prostate cancer

In Judaism it is forbidden to masturbate (link). This article brings two studies; one suggesting that masturbation can cause prostate cancer and another suggesting that it can help prevent it. In ...
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How what lea said is not hutzpo

I know that a wife can not demand relations (maybe only is using speech) and if she does it is bad for the children, from that relationship, so the husband should not do it. See "brazen woman" here ...
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What one must give up their life for

It is commonly known that there are 3 things that a Jew must give up their life for and not to be ovar (transgress) on these things: Giliah Ariyos (sexual relations that are not permitted), Shivchus ...
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Is a woman allowed to break her hymen by herself?

Many friends have told me about their personal horror stories and physical pain, when consummating their marriage, that caused them panic attacks. Is it permitted for a woman to break her hymen by ...
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Was Potiphar, being a captain of an Egyptian guard, likely a eunuch? [duplicate]

In Genesis, we read the infamous story of Joseph and Potiphar's wife. Potiphar's wife (who is named Zuleikha, at least according Sefer HaYashar) repeatedly makes sexual advances on Joseph, and as we ...
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Pinchas-style act nowadays

Is there any situation whereby a Pinchas-style execution would be justified nowadays? I am particularly interested in whether a 'zealous act' against a public sexually problematic sin is possible in ...
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What is the motivation behind the obligated number of times different workers are required to fulfill their conjugal rights obligations?

In Hilchot Ishut the Rambam gives different requirements to men to fulfill their conjugal rights obligations (http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/952888/jewish/Ishut-Chapter-Fourteen.htm). ...
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Who must initiate first in marital relations husband or wife?

Are there biblical/talmudic sources which note whether a husband or wife must initiate in their marital relations? There is a common conception that males must initiate because of their physicality as ...