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Does Devarim 23:18 prohibit pre-marital relations

I was having a discussion with a friend, some weeks back, about adultery in Torah. The discussion hinged on the Christian understanding being incorrect (that is to say, that both the man and woman are ...
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Source that a Jewish girl is forbidden to have relations with a non Jew

I see that it is forbidden for a Jewish girl to get married to a non-Jew (E"H 16.1) but why is she forbidden to have relations with him without marriage? Source please. (I guess the source might be ...
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Shemiras einayim & non-essential trips

What heterim are there for people to go on non-essential trips that will inevitably result in breaches of shemiras einayim and machshava. I heard on a recent Headlines podcast that Reb Moshe Feinstein ...
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Must tashmish at night be under a blanket?

From here it seems that relations by day must be under a blanket (e.g. a tallis). But, at night, is it necessary that the couple be covered, or is this a chumra (i.e. stringency)? What if there are ...
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Which prohibition does one commit when viewing pornography?

Excluding wasting one's seed (hotzas zera l'vatelah) and Bittul Torah (wasting one's time by not learning Torah), which Jewish commandment or law (Biblical or Rabbinic) is one breaking when viewing ...
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Are girls allowed to touch themselves?

I heard the guys aren't allowed to touch themselves because its wasted seed but what about girls. Would that be okay?
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Are women permitted to masturbate? [duplicate]

From Tosfos in Niddah 13a it would seem like women are permitted to masturbate. However, I haven't seen any modern teshuves permitting or prohibiting it. According to Wikipedia, The Halakhic ...
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Not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala?

Are there Kabbalistic or Talmudic sources saying that not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala (wasteful seminal emission)? I heard a popular rabbi make this claim in a class ...
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Maimonides on Circumcision

These are not questions about circumcision. They are about what Maimonides said about the practice. I would to know if the following things do, or do not, in fact represent things Maimonides said ...
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When can I attend service (Shabbat) after seminal emission? [closed]

Unmarried, 22 year old Jewish man here. I've been consciously trying to get myself rid of masturbation for a year now. I started to take precautions and I take this fight very seriously now. I put a ...
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Visualizing the Rebbe during marital relations

Rabbi Slifkin wrote in a recent post that: ... in some Chabad chosson/kallah classes, they are taught that during climax, they should visualize the Rebbe. Slifkin brings the writings of Rabbi ...
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What's the difference between wasting seed and having marital relations without the possibility of conception?

It is widely known that wasting seed is one of the big sins a person can commit. However, it seems that having relations when conception is not possible--such as during menopause or during pregnancy-...
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Why should one have marital relations as if forced by a demon?

The gemarah (nedarim 20b) mentions that one of the reasons for having beautiful children is due to having relations "as if forced by a demon". Rashi there explains the term as either indicating that ...
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What are reasons of מצוות עונה marital sex?

Besides the reason of having children, are there other reasons to the מצוות עונה (marital sex)?
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Who gets more rewarded for the Mitzvah of procreation?

The man is obligated in the mitzvah of Pru Urivu (Having children 1 male 1 female) while the woman is not (technically it's a machlokes in the gemara, but we hold of the one that they're not chayav). ...
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Does Judaism consider virginity to be a virtue?

Wikipedia outlines the attitudes of various cultures towards virginity including: Judaism In Judaism, sex is not considered to be sinful. Though premarital sex is disapproved, there is no ...
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Noachide and sin confusion

For a noahide, do sexual thoights without actions or arousal constitute sins? I’m confused about this as it is not clear whether the sexual sins are just forbidden relations or also include more ...
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Aruch Hashulchan's comments about the form of a fetus

In his discussion of the sin of wasting seed, R. Yechiel Michel Epstein writes that scientists using microscopes have found that the drop of semen contains the entire image/form of a person, thus ...
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Was Rabbi Akiva exempt from his conjugal duties?

The Gemara (in Kesubos 63a) says, “When Rabbi Akiva returned, he brought twelve thousand students with him. As he approached his home, he heard a certain old man saying to [his wife], ‘Until when will ...
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can a very poor Jew have relations with his wife?

i see that relations are forbidden if their is no Kesuba and i understand that a Kesuba is a lien on the property of the husband theoretically, can a husband have relations with his wife if he has ...
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Does the Torah forbid visiting/hiring a prostitute?

I know that the Torah explicitly forbids adultery and also forbids selling the services of one's daughter: Lev 19:29  Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land ...
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Talmud passage relevant to #metoo

At the Seder table, my sister told me about a passage in the Talmud advocating that women go to the toilet together, lest they be raped. I was wondering if anyone had the exact location?
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Holiness in Intimacy

My understanding of one functionality of blessings is that they help one to take a moment and focus one's intent on the Creator and on one's higher purpose. This idea is especially poignant when one ...
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Is causing oneself to have an erection forbidden or just not recommended?

In the Mishneh Torah Hilchos Issurei Biah 21:19 it says: It is forbidden for a person to intentionally cause himself to have an erection or to bring himself to [sexual] thoughts. Yet in Niddah ...
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Are forbidden relations forbidden to the passive non-jew?

(Rambam sefaria, HebrewBooks, Chabad.org) A non-jewish man cannot have relations with: (a woman who was) his father's wife his mother a (another) man's wife his maternal sister a man an ...
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Is a man obligated to seek a medical remedy to fulfill onah?

If a husband is physically incapable or performing onah (the obligation for a husband to sexually satisfy his wife as outlined in Shulchan Aruch Even Ha'Ezer 76)due to an inability to have an erection ...
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Does Judaism permit sexual relationships outside of marriage?

I am eager to know more about different religions from Islam to Judaism. Furthermore, how different religions look at women and comparing their kinds of approaches to the matter of gender and ...
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is a person allowed to pray or learn with traces semen/zera on his underwear?

if a person has traces of semen on his underwear, is he allowed to pray or study Torah? because it's forbidden to pray when your garments are not clean.
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Mekor that bnei t'murah doesn't apply to women- berachot 20a?

I'm trying to recall a source that the issue of bnei t'murah (having thoughts of another while having relations with one's wife) does not apply to women. I saw the related posts but I seem to think I ...
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What are “the tokens of virginity”?

In Deut 22:13-21, there is a mention of a spurned young wife's "tokens of her virginity", that her own father or mother can "take and bring out". What were "the tokens of virginity" that parents of a ...
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what is the minimum requirement of onah (marital obligation) on the husband

(to my poor understanding it seems that usually, mitzovs have specific guidelines, of what is the minimum needed to be done to fulfill them) what is the minimum requirement of onah? (biblical and ...
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Heter to be permitted to a Cohen after relations with a non-jew with condoms?

If a woman has relations with a non-Jew with condom use, are they still permissible to a Cohen? Does anybody have a reference to the specific heter which permits this. Edit: I know that relations ...
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What technically constitutes adultery

I would like to better understand what exact physical acts constitute adultery between a married woman and a man that is not her husband?
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

I was told that one should not learn the laws of Nidda (I guess including orach Chaim 240 and even hoezer 25) until engaged, and not the laws of mourning until applicable (lo alainu) Is this true? Or ...
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What is minimum age for relations for a boy when passive

I understand that someone to be given the death penalty for relations with a girl she needs to be at least 3 years old But how about with a boy. What is the minimum age the boy needs to be for ...
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Is masturbation prohibited for those that aren't married?

This article seems to claim that for single men masturbation isn't forbidden. It is a little bit over my head, especially since most of the modern day literature (albeit based largely on the Zohar and ...
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From where do we know that sexual intercourse with a non-jewish woman is forbidden?

From where do we know that a jewish man cannot have sexuel intercourse with a non-jewish woman? What say the Kabbala about this ? Is it related to dark forces, "qelipoth"?
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Convert in Ketubah

In a ketubah, there are 3 different categories for the woman's status. Virgin, Convert, and woman. Usually one of those statuses is represented on the ketubah, with the appropriate amount in zuzim. ...
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halachic definition of Zera [closed]

When a couple is having intimate relations, during foreplay, is the clear liquid that emits from the male organ considered Zera? Is a wife permitted to stimulate the male organ knowing that these pre ...
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“Recreational” use of ED medications

From what I understand, there is no problem using Erectile Dysfunction medications for ED. I am wondering if there is anything problematic about using a drug like Viagra for the purpose of extending ...
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Do any halachot change for a eunuch?

Do any halachot change if a man becomes (or is born) a eunuch? For example is he rabbinically allowed to listen to a woman's singing voice or be exposed to other sexually stimulating things if he is ...
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Looking for a definition of oneg Shabbos

Yeshaya 58:13 states that Shabbat is called oneg (delight). I have seen several different items described as oneg shabbos including taking a nap, marital relations, enjoying food at the shabbat meals ...
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Ba'al Keri and Learning

Many are stringent: if they become a bal keri (have a nocturnal emission) for any reason they don't learn or pray before going to the mikveh ("tevilas ezra"). However, even according to those that are ...
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Is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried superior to marriage? [duplicate]

In Judaism, is perpetual virginity or remaining unmarried a higher state of life than marriage?
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Proper way for a man to urinate while standing

Maran HaShulḥan 'Arukh, citing the Talmud Bavli (Niddah 13B), states that a man must avoid holding his member when urinating (Oraḥ Ḥayim 3:14). That is, holding me'atarah u'lema'alah is forbidden ...
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Does the talmud promote pedophilia? [closed]

I found a surprising claim from a conservative Christian web site about halacha and relations with children. Is what they say actually true or is this wrong? From http://truthtellers.org/alerts/...
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The use of intimate relationship as a mashal for g-dliness in chasidus and kabala

I in a shiur a story was told that it was asked: Why the relations between a man and woman are used as the mashal (since for chastity it is preferred not to use it, if you have the option). And it ...
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Does the Torah use the word טָמְאָה to imply physical defilement anywhere besides sotah?

In the parsha of sotah (Bamidbar 5:13) the Torah describes the woman who was secluded and had relations with another man as וְנִסְתְּרָ֖ה וְהִ֣יא נִטְמָ֑אָה meaning that she became physically defiled -...
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Sudden Menstruation and Sex

I am having trouble finding any treatment of this topic on the internet. A couple who has been having sex suddenly discovers that a blood flow has begun. Are they liable for kareth? Leviticus 15 ...
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what does the “uncovering of Boaz’ legs” have to do with Keri?

I was shown Shulchan Aruch Harav 619 : וְעַל כָּל פָּנִים יִזָּהֵר שֶׁלֹּא לְכַסּוֹת רַגְלָיו, זֵכֶר לַדָּבָר "וַתְּגַל מַרְגְּלֹתָיו" שֶׁל בֹּעַז, שֶׁלֹּא יָבוֹא לִידֵי חִמּוּם: One should at ...