Questions tagged [sexuality]
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Is it a sin to watch a naked woman?
Is it a sin for a man to watch a naked woman?
In 2 Shmuel 11:2 David watched a naked woman, was that a sin?
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Tikkun for sex with a non jew?
The arizal says that it is a big sin to have sex with a non jew. If someone had sex with one how can he repent for that?
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Can a woman time intercourse to avoid conception?
Can a woman whose husband already has children refuse sex with him on days she may be fertile with the goal of not conceiving?
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Is wasting seed a sin for a gentile?
I know that wasting seed is the worst sin in Judaism and a Jew who committed it is considered very wicked. Yet, I am not sure about wasting seed ? is it a sin or not?
I am a gentile wanting to ...
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Is there a name for the timeframe when a wife is permissible to her husband?
Is there a name for the time when a woman can have sex with her husband?
The Torah tells married couples not to have sex during the period of niddah, when she menstruates until right before the moment ...
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Did any rabbis say that Adam and Eve did not have sexual intercourse in the garden? [closed]
Rashi as well as other rabbis said that Adam and Eve had intercourse in the garden. However, did any rabbis say that they did not have intercourse before they sinned?
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Demisexual and the Halachic Ramifications therein
According to the Cleveland Clinic:
Demisexuality is a sexual orientation. People who identify as demisexual only feel sexual attraction to someone after they’ve formed a strong emotional bond with ...
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May a couple forgo relations out of convenience?
In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple ...
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Are gentile women allowed to have multiple female sexual partners? [closed]
For a Jewish woman, lesbian sex is the way of the Egyptians. But what about for a gentile female. A gentile male, as with a Jewish male, can have multiple partners? How about a gentile female? Can she ...
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Is it true that yichud is less of an issue with Nachrim since its not relevant to do an issur with them?
I remember learning that yichud could be potentially more serious when a nachri is involved since they are known to be prutzim. However, recently I saw something (wish i could remember where) about a ...
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Is it effective and is it kosher to perform the practice that leads to seed being spilled, but not actually spilling any? [closed]
That was a difficult title to figure out how to write! Well, here is the question. Spilling seed is a sin, but what about doing the same activity but stopping before spilling seed? The deeper reason I ...
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How did people know that Tamar had engaged in prostitution?
ויהי כמשלש חדשים ויגד ליהודה לאמר זנתה תמר כלתך וגם הנה הרה לזנונים
About three months later, Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar has played the harlot; in fact, she is with child by harlotry.”...
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What is permissible on "anything-but" night (סמוך לוסתה)?
Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted.
What acts are included under this permission? Put another way,...
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Sexual Relations with a married woman that's asur to her husband
Is it ok for a man to have relations with a married woman who's already been unfaithful to her husband?
Is there still an isur kareth?
Or since she's already prohibited from being with her husband and ...
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How can I curb my sexual desire?
I am looking for the best and most practical suggestion as to what a man can do to curb his yetzer hara (evil inclination) for sexual desire. Please provide sources for why your answer should be ...
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Why were Er and Onan punished?
As discussed here, wasting seed is not forbidden for a non-Jew.
Rashi to Bereishis 38:7 and Semak negative commandment 292 explain that Er and Onan died for that very sin.
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May a normally impotent Jewish man marry if he can use Viagra?
This is a question regarding the marriageability of a Jewish man who knows he has ED. Does the Law say he must still be naturally capable of sexual intercourse without chemical assistance in order to ...
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Can Gentiles Work and Consume Pornography?
Would pornographic work be prohibited for Gentiles since casual relationships are not prohibited for them? And would anyone who consumes this being also a Gentile be prohibited since the wasting of ...
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Can Gentiles Perform a Vasectomy?
Can Gentiles perform a vasectomy once there is an understanding that they are not obligated to have children? If it is prohibited, what principle is it linked to? If vasectomy is prohibited, would ...
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Which to choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed
If a man had to choose, which should he choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed?
Someone told me that he was taught that relations with a non Jewish woman should be chosen (that is ...
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Yosef sold into prostitution
I remember hearing of a source that states that Yosef was sold into prostitution, or some other form of sexual slavery, by his brothers, and not just plain slavery as is commonly assumed. Does such a ...
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Onah and Sukkos?
Does the Mitzvah of sleeping in the Sukkah supersede the mitzvah of Onah? (one would think not, as it is a chov to someone else.) If not, is one supposed to fulfill mitzvas Onah and then retire to the ...
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Premarital relationships for noahides [duplicate]
Shalom, I am a 16 year old noahide and therefore quite young. I want to ask if it is permissible for a noahide to premarital relationships (of course only with the opposite gender and therefore sexual ...
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How did King Solomon and King David keep up his duties to his wives
How did King Solomon and King David keep their marital duties to so many wives? Was there a system of rights the woman of the kings Harem enjoyed?
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Sex in the world to come
I was reading Minhat Yehuda. In the book, the Tzadik Rabbi Yehuda Fatiya asks the destroying angels what they are like.
The angels mentioned things like how they ate manna, had kids, died, etc.
So my ...
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The halachic prohibition of sexual promiscuity and adultery in the case of an infertile woman
I am an Italian Noahide.
Here in Italy I participate online in a Biblical forum that sees the presence of some Israeli Jews.
Well, in the context of a discussion about the prohibition of sexual ...
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Rape perpetrated by an adult male towards a girl under three years of age: halachic framework
In his Mishneh Torah -Issurei Biah 1:13, Rambam states that if a male copulates with a girl under the age of three,also the male,even if he was an adult, is exempt from liability, for the act is not ...
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Are homosexual relations forbidden by God? Why?
To my understanding, Bible says that God does not like homosexual relations. But why? Why did God punish and destroy inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorrah? They were not Jewish and were not given the laws ...
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Who discovered Sexual intercourse [closed]
Who discovered sexual intercourse . How did Adam HaRishon know how to procreate with Chava. Did G-d tell him and then it was passed down?
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Where in the Gemara does it say a woman never forgets her first
Where in the gemara does it say a woman never forgets the first man she was ever with intimately? This is something I have recently heard. Is this referring to all women or just specific cases?
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Rambam's Mishneh Torah - Is a female pure after relations with a minor/gentile/animal?
In Rambam's Mishneh Torah, She'ar Avot haTum'ah, 5:19, it is written:
"גְּדוֹלָה שֶׁשָּׁכַב אוֹתָהּ קָטָן פָּחוֹת מִבֶּן תֵּשַׁע [אוֹ עַכּוּ''ם אוֹ בְּהֵמָה] הֲרֵי זוֹ טְהוֹרָה שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר [(...
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Is there anything wrong with getting married to have intimacy?
Is it halachically wrong to marry a woman to have a physical outlet and with mutual understanding that this is the purpose until a more suitable candidate arrives? This practice is found in Islamic ...
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Can intercourse mean marriage even without any actual marriage?
If two people have intercourse, can it sometimes be considered that they are now married on some level, or in any sense? I don't remember the sources, but there is a concept that a man gives a part of ...
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Would marriage really not solve this man's problem?
Another question on pikuach nefesh. The Talmud [Sanhedrin 75a] recounts this story:
There was an incident involving a certain man who set his eyes upon a certain woman and passion rose in his heart [...
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Is private crossdressing authorized?
Is it permissible to wear women clothes in total privacy without anyone watching it. Not for sexual purpose but to release pressure?
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Visualizing the Rebbe during marital relations
Rabbi Slifkin wrote in a recent post that:
... in some Chabad chosson/kallah classes, they are taught that
during climax, they should visualize the Rebbe.
Slifkin brings the writings of Rabbi ...
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Intercourse without pregnancy [closed]
Pregnancy
Can a married Jewish couple have intercourse when the woman is on birth control to avoid pregnancy? What are the opinions of different people?
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Hi , what should a man do if he impregnates a woman before wedlock ? should he marry her or opt for co-parenting? [closed]
Lets say the child is already born , you are both not married, you are friends , you used to date but you had broken up. What should these two do ?
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How can you quit a habit of visiting inappropriate websites?
The Torah teaches that, if you're an unmarried man, watching pornography is harmful to your soul. See, for example, this article by Chabad rabbi Tzvi Freeman. (If you're married and need to watch ...
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Does the Noahide Law allow prostitution to the Gentiles?
I am an Italian noahide.
Unless I am mistaken, in terms of sexual conduct the prohibitions established by the Noahide Law are the following (see Rambam’s Mishneh Torah-Melachim uMilchamot 9:5):
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What is the punishment for a Jewish non-married woman who has relations with a non-Jewish man?
I have heard that the punishment is that she will forever be Zonah but I have no sources
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Is it genevat daat for a Noachide to have relations with a gentile woman without commitment if you met her in a place where people normally hookup?
In other words, does a man have to disclose his intentions before hooking up with a girl if they met in a place where it is assumed that people meet to hookup except she may be ignorant of that and ...
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Why do we not say a bracha before sex? [duplicate]
There is a mitzvah to populate the world, pru urvu. For most mitzvot, there is a bracha we say before we do it. So why do we not say a bracha before sex? Also, whenever one benefits from anything, he ...
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Was Lot, himself, sodomized when he first moved into Sodom?
In Genesis 19, Lot defends the angels who came under his roof against the demands of the local men who want a chance to sodomize the three visitors. From the Torah's description, and Rashi's take on ...
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Can a man hug or kiss a man?
There seems to be a custom that men hug (cheek kiss) each other when they greet each other (especially if they did not see each other for a long time).
Are Jews permitted to do so? (does it matter if ...
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How what Lea said is not hutzpo
I know that a wife can not demand relations (maybe only is using speech) and if she does it is bad for the children, from that relationship, so the husband should not do it. See "brazen woman&...
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Wife's obligation to submit to her husband for relations
Some people say only a husband is obligated to provide relations to his wife but the wife has no obligations. If she wants to she submits, if not she does not (since her husband is not allowed to rape ...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?
What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age?
Or is it completely avoided until marriage?
Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Is a Jewish Male Allowed to Offer Free Hugs to People?
On a recent YouTube video, a religious Jew blindfolded himself and stood on the streets of New York City offering people the opportunity to stand with him for peace through a hug. Even though he ...
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What are the parameters of the “enjoyment/ שִׂמְחָ֗ה that the author of Kohelet did not deny himself?
Kohelet 2 (10) writes that he “denied myself no enjoyment”. Does that mean a mix of 'permitted' and 'no permitted enjoyment'?
Ecclesiastes 2:10
וְכֹל֙ אֲשֶׁ֣ר שָֽׁאֲל֣וּ עֵינַ֔י לֹ֥א אָצַ֖לְתִּי ...
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