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What are “the tokens of virginity”?

In Deut 22:13-21, there is a mention of a spurned young wife's "tokens of her virginity", that her own father or mother can "take and bring out". What were "the tokens of virginity" that parents of a ...
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Vayikra 15:16-18 - who must wash after an emission of semen, and when? [duplicate]

Does Vayikra 15:16-18 mean men must always wash their whole bodies after any emission of semen and couples must both wash after marital relations? When must they do it? eg immediately after? before ...
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Torah approach to getting out of inappropriate feelings/thoughts

What is the Torah approach to stop yourself from feeling sexually aroused in the moment? Anything from the mussar experts?
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Proper way for a man to urinate while standing

Maran HaShulḥan 'Arukh, citing the Talmud Bavli (Niddah 13B), states that a man must avoid holding his member when urinating (Oraḥ Ḥayim 3:14). That is, holding me'atarah u'lema'alah is forbidden ...
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What is the point of having a rapist marry the woman he raped?

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (JPS) 28  If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, that is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 then the man that lay with ...
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Would marriage really not solve this man's problem?

Another question on pikuach nefesh. The Talmud [Sanhedrin 74a] recounts this story: There was an incident involving a certain man who set his eyes upon a certain woman and passion rose in his heart [...
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Marital relations cover [duplicate]

I heard by a friend that during marital relations one needs to cover oneself and his wife with a blanket? Is there a reason for this? Is it a obligation or a minhag?
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Remedy for Desire for a Married Woman

Background: We are all human and sometimes tend towards the evil inclination. At times we successfully fight against the inappropriate feelings, thoughts, actions, etc. At other times we don't do so ...
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Not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala?

Are there Kabbalistic or Talmudic sources saying that not finding your bashert is a punishment for doing zera levatala (wasteful seminal emission)? I heard a popular rabbi make this claim in a class ...
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Resources for teaching chassan classes

I am looking for books that deal primarily with the halachos in Orach Chaim siman 240 and Even HaEzer siman 25. Due to the nature of the content it seems that the world has been reluctant to put out ...
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Gender and “Seeding” - Just Torah-Derived or Common Belief?

Niddah 31a writes (Davidson Edition translation): אמר רבי יצחק אמר רבי אמי אשה מזרעת תחילה יולדת זכר איש מזריע תחילה יולדת נקבה שנאמר (ויקרא יב, ב) אשה כי תזריע וילדה זכר Rabbi Yitzḥak says that ...
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Why use impossible cases to illustrate laws?

In Bava Kamma 27a we find the following scenario: If a man fell from a roof and was inserted into a woman [due to the force of the fall, but with no intention to engage in sexual intercourse,] he ...
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No Blessing on marital relations?

Yebamoth 61b discusses the positive commandment of being fruitful and multiplying. As far as I am aware, one makes no blessing before intercourse. Why not? Please cite sources!
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Marital relations in a time of plague? [duplicate]

I remember that the people and animals in Noah's Ark were not allowed to have marital relations because it was an inappropriate thing to do in light of the destruction going on all over the world. I ...
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Taking pictures for one’s husband

Would Jewish law prohibit or limit the types of pictures a wife could send to her husband in private? Assume that the means of sending the pictures would be secure and no one else would be able to see ...
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HaGra about Rambam's position concerning the status of pilagshim taken by Jewish commoners

I am an Italian noahide. My question expresses a purely intellectual curiosity, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. As we know Rambam states in Hilchot Melachim 4: 4: “A commoner is ...
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Who exactly is the “kedesha” according to Rambam's interpretation?

I am an Italian noahide. My question expresses a purely intellectual curiosity, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. I cannot understand what is the exact definition of "kedesha" by Rambam , as ...
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Does the talmud promote pedophilia? [closed]

I found a surprising claim from a conservative Christian web site about halacha and relations with children. Is what they say actually true or is this wrong? From http://truthtellers.org/alerts/...
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Is wasting seed a sin for a gentile?

I know that wasting seed is the worst sin in Judaism and a Jew who committed it is considered very wicked. Yet, I am not sure about wasting seed ? is it a sin or not? I am a gentile wanting to ...
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Teshuva related to Pgam HaBrit [closed]

If pre-ejaculate fluid is released prior to intercourse (while kissing etc), does a person have to do teshuva? Pre-jaculate can contain but typically doesn’t contain semen.
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Application of the baraita about “Don't profane daughter for Zenut” Leviticus 19:29 reported in Sanhredin 76a?

I'm an Italian Noahide. The topic in question manifests my purely intellectual interest, concerning the Jews and not the Gentiles. We read in Talmud Bavli-Sanhredrin 76a (English translation from “...
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Why are some stories in the Talmud? [closed]

I take the position that everything in the Talmud is there for a reason. That reason could be transmitting relevant facts through the generations. Even if they are not facts, surely there is a ...
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Does the Noahide Law allow prostitution to the Gentiles?

I am an Italian noahide. Unless I am mistaken, in terms of sexual conduct the prohibitions established by the Noahide Law are the following (see Rambam’s Mishneh Torah-Melachim uMilchamot 9:5): ...
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Jewish married man having relations with Jewish divorced woman [closed]

What is the Halacha of a Jewish married man engaging in physical relations with a Jewish divorced woman.
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable

I was told that one should not learn the laws of Nidda (I guess including orach Chaim 240 and even hoezer 25) until engaged, and not the laws of mourning until applicable (lo alainu) Is this true? Or ...
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Is there a Halacha that sons may not be present at the burial of their parents?

Is there a Halacha that sons may not be present at their parents' burial? I've heard that if the sons wasted seed (G-d forbid) negative forces are created which would be detrimental at the burial site ...
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Halachic approaches to marital relations in a Succah

What are the Halachic approaches to allowing or prohibiting marital relations in one's Succah? Note: This question does not ask for the final accepted Halachah, but for the sources for different ...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

In Bereishis 19:30-38 the story is told how the 2 daughters of Lot thought (for whatever reason) that they should sleep with their father. From the psukim themselves, it is unclear whether or not what ...
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Did Adam have intercourse with animals?

Yebamoth 63a states that Adam had intercourse with animals: א"ר אלעזר מאי דכתיב (בראשית ב, כג) זאת הפעם עצם מעצמי ובשר מבשרי מלמד שבא אדם על כל בהמה וחיה ולא נתקררה דעתו עד שבא על חוה And Rabbi ...
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What are reasons of מצוות עונה marital sex?

Besides the reason of having children, are there other reasons to the מצוות עונה (marital sex)?
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Why is giluey arayos one of the big 3?

I get why murder and idol worship are things you have to give your life up for. But why is giluy arayos - sexual sin so fundamental as to require a person to give up one's life? I'm looking for a ...
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Pinchas-style act nowadays

Is there any situation whereby a Pinchas-style execution would be justified nowadays? I am particularly interested in whether a 'zealous act' against a public sexually problematic sin is possible in ...
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Is a nocturnal emission (Keri) a sin?

Is a nocturnal emission, also known as keri, a sin? If it happens to you at night, is teshuvah necessary?
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A holistic explanation of King David's use of Avishag

Melachim 1:1: וְהַמֶּלֶךְ דָּוִד זָקֵן בָּא בַּיָּמִים וַיְכַסֻּהוּ בַּבְּגָדִים וְלֹא יִחַם לוֹ׃ King David was now old, advanced in years; and though they covered him with bedclothes, he never ...
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How can I curb my sexual desire?

I am looking for the best and most practical suggestion as to what a man can do to curb his yetzer hara (evil inclination) for sexual desire. Please provide sources for why your answer should be ...
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Can a man hug or kiss a man?

There seems to be a custom that men hug (cheek kiss) each other when they greet each other (especially if they did not see each other for a long time). Are Jews permitted to do so? (does it matter if ...
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Is a man allowed to waste his seed for medical reasons?

Is a man allowed to waste his seed for medical reasons, for example if a couple is having difficulty conceiving and the fertility specialists are requesting a sample.
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Why does Tanac“h frequently use the term for ”knowledge" when referring to sexual relations?

Frequently, when Tanac"h speaks about a man and woman having sexual relations, it uses the term ידע as in Breishit 4:1 וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם יָדַ֖ע אֶת־חַוָּ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וַתַּ֙הַר֙ וַתֵּ֣לֶד אֶת־קַ֔יִן ...
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Do the laws of Negiah depend on sexual orientation?

The Rambam writes (Hilchos Isurei Biah 21:1): כל הבא על ערווה מן העריות דרך אברים, או שחיבק ונישק דרך תאווה ונהנה בקירוב בשר--הרי זה לוקה מן התורה One who comes upon one of the Arayos via their limbs,...
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How is gender halachically determined?

I apologize if this is a sensitive topic, but it seems that this question is foundational to some of the discussions that appear here. I hope that my wording is appropriate. If I understand correctly,...
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Location of halachos of “a chosson and kallah”

Where are the halachos found in shulchan aruch regarding the practical halachos that a chosson is taught before he gets married: how a chosson and kallah have תשמיש המטה on the first night (and other ...
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Is a man permitted to petition for permitted sexual relations during the Amidah?

Would a man be permitted to ask Hashem to bring about permitted sexual acts with his current or future wife as part of the requests he makes during the Amidah, given that we are generally highly ...
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Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship?

Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship? In light of the idea that marriage can be contracted solely through bi'ah/public knowledge of the couple's relationship (as ...
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A puzzle in the Steinsaltz’ Talmud commentary

It is written in Shabbos 83a in the Steinsaltz edition of the Talmud that gentiles are designated the status of zav. The commentary explains that the reason is “So that a Jewish child will not grow ...
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Halachic consequences of raping one's wife

The Gemorah in Nedorim 20b brings a list of 9/10 "warnings"/"prohibitions" on sexual relationships with one's wife, with rape being the first. However, the Gemmorah does not mention any punishment, ...
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Married women rape by a stranger payments division

What sources which talk specifically about a married woman being raped and how the payments of embarrassment, damage (pegam), and pain (see Kesubos 3:4) is apportioned between her and her husband?
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Does acting “for G-d's sake” override Arayos prohibitions?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 81b describes the story of a Rabbi seemingly overriding the [as most agree, Biblical] prohibition of Kiruv Ervah. After a short debate, he finds an excuse that he was acting "...
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What constitutes the Biblical Mefateh?

I'm trying to understand the Biblical concept of "Mefateh" (a "seducer"): The Torah says (Shemot 22,15) without elaborating: וְכִי־יְפַתֶּה אִישׁ בְּתוּלָה אֲשֶׁר לֹא־אֹרָשָׂה וְשָׁכַב עִמָּהּ ...
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How come a rape is considered a damage but not a crime in Judaism? [closed]

In our Western (Goyish) culture, rape constitutes a serious criminal offense (up to 15 years inside), that is probably based on a Pshat of Deu 22, 26: וְלַנַּעֲרָה לֹא־תַעֲשֶׂה דָבָר אֵין ...
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Besides mishkav zachar, what is sexually forbidden between consenting non-Jewish males?

Vayikra 20:13 forbids anal intercourse according to Rashi who describes the offense as "inserting a paint stick in a tube." Since non-Jews are not generally subject to laws asur mi'd'rabbanin, no ...

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