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How is gender halachically determined?

I apologize if this is a sensitive topic, but it seems that this question is foundational to some of the discussions that appear here. I hope that my wording is appropriate. If I understand correctly,...
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Location of halachos of “a chosson and kallah”

Where are the halachos found in shulchan aruch regarding the practical halachos that a chosson is taught before he gets married: how a chosson and kallah have תשמיש המטה on the first night (and other ...
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Is a man permitted to petition for permitted sexual relations during the Amidah?

Would a man be permitted to ask Hashem to bring about permitted sexual acts with his current or future wife as part of the requests he makes during the Amidah, given that we are generally highly ...
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Is a transgender man allowed to marry a cis gendered woman? [duplicate]

According to halacha is a transgender man halachically allowed to marry a cis gendered woman?
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Is a husband allowed to stay married to his wife if she decides to transition to become a transgender man?

According to halacha is a husband allowed to stay married to his wife if she decides to transition to become a transgender man?
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Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship?

Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship? In light of the idea that marriage can be contracted solely through bi'ah/public knowledge of the couple's relationship (as ...
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A puzzle in the Steinsaltz’ Talmud commentary

It is written in Shabbos 83a in the Steinsaltz edition of the Talmud that gentiles are designated the status of zav. The commentary explains that the reason is “So that a Jewish child will not grow ...
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Is wasting seed a sin for a gentile?

I know that wasting seed is the worst sin in Judaism and a Jew who committed it is considered very wicked. Yet, I am not sure about wasting seed ? is it a sin or not? I am a gentile wanting to ...
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Halachic consequences of raping one's wife

The Gemorah in Nedorim 20b brings a list of 9/10 "warnings"/"prohibitions" on sexual relationships with one's wife, with rape being the first. However, the Gemmorah does not mention any punishment, ...
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Married women rape by a stranger payments division

What sources which talk specifically about a married woman being raped and how the payments of embarrassment, damage (pegam), and pain (see Kesubos 3:4) is apportioned between her and her husband?
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Does acting “for G-d's sake” override Arayos prohibitions?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 81b describes the story of a Rabbi seemingly overriding the [as most agree, Biblical] prohibition of Kiruv Ervah. After a short debate, he finds an excuse that he was acting "...
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What constitutes the Biblical Mefateh?

I'm trying to understand the Biblical concept of "Mefateh" (a "seducer"): The Torah says (Shemot 22,15) without elaborating: וְכִי־יְפַתֶּה אִישׁ בְּתוּלָה אֲשֶׁר לֹא־אֹרָשָׂה וְשָׁכַב עִמָּהּ ...
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How come a rape is considered a damage but not a crime in Judaism? [closed]

In our Western (Goyish) culture, rape constitutes a serious criminal offense (up to 15 years inside), that is probably based on a Pshat of Deu 22, 26: וְלַנַּעֲרָה לֹא־תַעֲשֶׂה דָבָר אֵין ...
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How can I curb my sexual desire?

I am looking for the best and most practical suggestion as to what a man can do to curb his yetzer hara (evil inclination) for sexual desire. Please provide sources for why your answer should be ...
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What is the point of having a rapist marry the woman he raped?

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (JPS) 28  If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, that is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 then the man that lay with ...
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Besides mishkav zachar, what is sexually forbidden between consenting non-Jewish males?

Vayikra 20:13 forbids anal intercourse according to Rashi who describes the offense as "inserting a paint stick in a tube." Since non-Jews are not generally subject to laws asur mi'd'rabbanin, no ...
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a girl who has been raped - mikvah

Could a Jewish teenager go to the mikvah if she is not married and has been raped? If a girl has been raped is it acceptable for her to go the mikvah in order to cleanse herself or is this not ...
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How often should one have marital intercourse with his wife?

What is the frequency of marital intercourse prescribed by Halacha? I am confused as the Talmud in Ketubot 62a says that for men of independent means it is every day. But the Rambam in Mishneh ...
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Why did God created physical impulse towards the “wrong” women

When I was young and had struggles with my "yetzer hara" - sexual impulse, I was fascinated by the Jewish attitude towards that impulse. God created this impulse for a purpose. It is meant to push ...
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Did the rights of a Jewish slave owner include having sex with his female slaves?

I know that Abraham had sex with his slave who acted as a surrogate for Sarah and I understand that to have been standard practice (even though God did not intend for his promise to be fulfilled ...
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How could the law of marrying the rape victim ever be implemented?

I ask this in good faith as I am religious. How is it possible for this situation to come about? If you claim the rapist must receive a punishment via the fines, then we know that at least two ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to sex before marriage? [duplicate]

As far as im aware the prohibition of Shomer Negiah comes from two pesukim in ויקרא: אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל-כָּל-שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ, לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה: אֲנִי יְהוָה "None of you shall come ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?

One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles. That ...
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Minimizing Onah obligation for maximizing income

Where to find sources regarding what happens when a man needs to travel to support his family (he cannot support them if he does not travel) (in both cases that if he will not traval he 1. can live ...
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Is a Zav allowed to have relations with his wife?

Would a Zav be allowed to have relations with his wife while she is Tahor? I can't think of any source to forbid it.
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Is tearing the hymen something that should be avoided

I have always heard that tearing the hymen by beilas mitzva (first intercourse with a virgin after marriage) is a good thing and it should not be avoided (maybe to tear it is the mitzvah as it seems ...
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Why don't men go to the mikveh after relations/ejaculation?

Wayikra 15:16-18 טז וְאִישׁ, כִּי-תֵצֵא מִמֶּנּוּ שִׁכְבַת-זָרַע--וְרָחַץ בַּמַּיִם אֶת-כָּל-בְּשָׂרוֹ, וְטָמֵא עַד-הָעָרֶב. 16 יז וְכָל-בֶּגֶד וְכָל-עוֹר, אֲשֶׁר-יִהְיֶה עָלָיו שִׁכְבַת-...
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Was Onan turning Yibum into Arayot?

There are many commentators that invoke the story of Onan as a source for the prohibition behind onanism, but there seems to be a distinctly different issue going on that is "evil in the eyes of ...
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Why were Er and Onan punished?

As discussed here, wasting seed is not forbidden for a non-Jew. Rashi to Bereishis 38:7 and Semak negative commandment 292 explain that Er and Onan died for that very sin. If non-Jews are allowed ...
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Thinking of another woman during sex [closed]

If a person is thinking of another woman during intercourse, what is it considered? Does it matter if it is his wife or not? (Could it be considered adultery if committed with let's say a girlfriend?...
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Pre Marital relations and wasted seed

Do pre-marital relations count as wasted semen after intercourse? What does Halacha say about this situation? It would obviously be a sin but would it count as wasted seed if ejaculation occurred ...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?

What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age? Or is it completely avoided until marriage? Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Why does Tanac“h frequently use the term for ”knowledge" when referring to sexual relations?

Frequently, when Tanac"h speaks about a man and woman having sexual relations, it uses the term ידע as in Breishit 4:1 וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם יָדַ֖ע אֶת־חַוָּ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וַתַּ֙הַר֙ וַתֵּ֣לֶד אֶת־קַ֔יִן ...
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Being with a non Jew [closed]

I’ve read on this site that teshuva fixes all sins except the ones done between you and someone else, like stealing someone’s shoe for example. If teshuva does work, will that take away her soul ...
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Tikkun for sex with a non jew?

The arizal says that it is a big sin to have sex with a non jew. If someone had sex with one how can he repent for that so he is not reincarnated as a dog?
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Teshuva for intercourse with non Jew [duplicate]

This question is different than the one people think is a duplicate because the other one doesn’t necessarily answer the questions I’m asking. If someone has intercourse with a non Jew even if he ...
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Resources for teaching chassan classes

I am looking for books that deal primarily with the halachos in Orach Chaim siman 240 and Even HaEzer siman 25. Due to the nature of the content it seems that the world has been reluctant to put out ...
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Importance of describing the lack of Rivkah's intimate experience

Gen 24:16: "וְהַנַּעֲרָה טֹבַת מַרְאֶה מְאֹד בְּתוּלָה וְאִישׁ לֹא יְדָעָהּ" The maiden was very beautiful, a virgin, whom no man had known. We know (Rashi on Genesis 34:7) that the nations ...
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A holistic explanation of King David's use of Avishag

Melachim 1:1: וְהַמֶּלֶךְ דָּוִד זָקֵן בָּא בַּיָּמִים וַיְכַסֻּהוּ בַּבְּגָדִים וְלֹא יִחַם לוֹ׃ King David was now old, advanced in years; and though they covered him with bedclothes, he never ...
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Why aren't there any Gay people in the Bible?

Our scriptures (the Bible and later) are full of people who sinned. Every kind of sin, including murder and sexual sins. The sinners are both from our people as well as non-Jews. Some of the sinners ...
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What is an overview of Judaism's arguments against the “unconscious violinist” analogy used to support abortion in the case of rape?

I am looking for the response of any denomination that is against abortion in the case of rape that has also responded to the scenario below or something similar to it. "A Defense of Abortion" (...
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Is it considered a good thing that Lot's daughters slept with their father?

In Bereishis 19:30-38 the story is told how the 2 daughters of Lot thought (for whatever reason) that they should sleep with their father. From the psukim themselves, it is unclear whether or not what ...
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Why does God hate sexual immorality?

After failing to curse the Jewish people, Bilaam advised Balak to lure the Jews into sexual immorality "for their God hates zimah" (Sanhedrin 106a). We also find that many cases of forbidden relations ...
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Wife's obligation to submit to her husband for relations

Some people say only a husband is obligated to provide relations to his wife but the wife has no obligations. If she wants to she submits, if not she does not (since her husband is not allowed to rape ...
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Does Devarim 23:18 prohibit pre-marital relations

I was having a discussion with a friend, some weeks back, about adultery in Torah. The discussion hinged on the Christian understanding being incorrect (that is to say, that both the man and woman are ...
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Is a noncturnal emission (Keri) a sin?

Is a nocturnal emission, also known as keri, a sin? If it happens to you at night, is teshuvah necessary?
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Source that a Jewish girl is forbidden to have relations with a non Jew

I see that it is forbidden for a Jewish girl to get married to a non-Jew (E"H 16.1) but why is she forbidden to have relations with him without marriage? Source please. (I guess the source might be ...
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Shemiras einayim & non-essential trips

What heterim are there for people to go on non-essential trips that will inevitably result in breaches of shemiras einayim and machshava. I heard on a recent Headlines podcast that Reb Moshe Feinstein ...
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Must tashmish at night be under a blanket?

From here it seems that relations by day must be under a blanket (e.g. a tallis). But, at night, is it necessary that the couple be covered, or is this a chumra (i.e. stringency)? What if there are ...
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Which prohibition does one commit when viewing pornography?

Excluding wasting one's seed (hotzas zera l'vatelah) and Bittul Torah (wasting one's time by not learning Torah), which Jewish commandment or law (Biblical or Rabbinic) is one breaking when viewing ...