Questions tagged [niddah]

Ritual impurity related to menstruation

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Saying “I love you” during nidda

While a woman is nidda and she and her husband are observing harchakot, is it permitted for them to tell each other, "I love you," or is that too suggestive of a statement for the nidda period?
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Can a Cohen marry a bat niddah?

Can a Cohen marry a bat niddah? Are Cohens generally restricted from marrying baalot teshuva because of the possibility that they may be b'not niddah?
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Mikvah - Non Jewish Husband

Can a woman use a Mikvah if her Husband is not Jewish (She is currently on the road to becoming a BT)
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Menstruating on Wedding Day

What happens in the case of a bride menstruating on her wedding day or her menstruation ending a few days before her wedding day and cannot go to the mikvah? Does the rabbi refuse to perform the ...
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Should a woman avoid singing in front of her husband while she is a niddah?

Should a woman avoid singing in front of her husband while she is a niddah? Is it strictly prohibited or just inadvisable? (Obviously I am not talking about deliberately seductive songs.)
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Why doesn't a ben niddah acquire the status of a mamzer?

One who commits incest is punished with Kares (spiritual separation from the divine source), and any product of incest has the status of a Mamzer. One who has relations with a Niddah is also ...
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Is there such a thing as “Veset Halom”

One friend of mine told me that his wife always sees a special dream before her veset. Always the same one. Could such think be counted as veset kavua? I understand that technically a dream doesn't ...
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Is Niddah considered to be gilui arayos for purposes of martyrdom?

Gilui Arayos as is known is one of the 3 "big avaros" that one has to give up their life for. Is the prohibition of a Niddah considered forbidden to the extent that one would have to give up one's ...
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Are Jewish women permitted to use birth control that stops menstruation?

Is there any reason that a Jewish woman who has permission from her Rabbi to use birth control could not choose a pill that stops her from menstruating? Although certain birth control pills are ...
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Are “Halacha To Moses from Sinai” Undisputed?

I was listening to a lecture in my synagogue in which it was mentioned ( correctly or incorrectly - I don't know ) that a הלכה למשה מסיני - Halach to Moses from Sinai is a law that has never been ...
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S'feika D'yoma in Niddah

There are several types of vestos (patterns in menstrual cycles) that a woman is able to aquire. One such vesses is the vesses hachodesh, which relies on the day of the (Jewish) month. So for instance,...
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In a mixed marriage, is a Jewish woman liable for kareit if they have relations while she's niddah?

I know that per torah, if a (Jewish) man has relations with a woman who is niddah he is punished with kareit. I have been told that in this case the woman is also punished with kareit. Is the woman'...
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Can a woman converting to Judaism go to the Mikvah during her period?

When Gentiles convert to Judaism, they are "like a newborn". If I understand correctly, there is no such thing as Niddah vis a vis non-Jews. So, if I add those two together, I am inclined to assume ...
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שובבים and Taharas Hamishpacha

As we begin the weeks of Shovavim (the upcoming 6 parshiyos, Shemos through Mishpatim), many of us will notice signs going up all around us for improvement in keeping the Halachos of Niddah ("Taharas ...
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Halachic/sociological basis to support the split-apart beds for a nida couple?

I'd seen a clip from a TV show that's about Orthodox Israelis in which a married couple has a bed that's one big frame, upon which two mattresses can either slide together or apart, depending on the ...
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Discrepancy in section headings between Tur and Shulchan Aruch

Over here I asked about the source of the section headings in the Tur. In a comment it was indicated that the Tur himself assigned these headings. In most Shulchan Aruchs that I have checked, the Tur ...
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Do permanently unmarried women need to go to the mikvah?

Is the purpose of a woman's going to the mikvah so that she can permit herself to a man (be he her husband or any potential husband), or is it for her own sake? The nafqa mina is that of a woman who ...
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Taharas mishpacha class for men

Many women take kallah classes before getting married in order to be familiar and comfortable with the laws of taharas mishpacha. I have heard that there are similar classes for men, and it makes ...
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Taharas hamishpacha practices during pregnancy

I am basing this question on this quote from the Wikipedia page on Hasidic childbirth customs: At the beginning of pregnancy, a woman's separation behavior depends on the regularity of her ...
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Women had to sacrifice for purification each month?

In parashat Metzorah it says that after a woman's flow has ended, part of the purification process is bringing two doves as a sacrifice. Weren't sacrifices only allowed to be done at the Tabernacle ...
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Nature of restrictions on passing during niddah

I was taught before I got married that passing during niddah is strictly Assur. However, Upon looking into it I found that it's not mentioned in the gemara in berachos that is the source for most of ...
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First use of the term “Taharat HaMischpacha ”

When and by whom (and why) was the phrase "טהרת המשפחה" ("family purity") first used to describe the halachot relating to niddah?
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Onot perisha with birth control

If a woman is using birth control pills (after consulting with a rabbi) with a longer-than-one-month cycle, when are her onot perisha? For example, suppose the woman becomes nidda every 3 or 4 months; ...
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What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons?

What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons? Is a honeymoon taken, and, if so, is it done immediately after the wedding--or later, once the woman is again tehora?
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is there an issue in visiting a cemetery while menstruating?

Is there an issue about going to a cemetery while menstruating? If so, is it a prohibition or recommendation? What about going to a cemetery at night? I was told there might be an issue with ...
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Sex-less Marriage

Do we allow an asexual man to marry an asexual woman with the understanding that there will be no conjugal relations?* And while we're at it: Does a woman have to go to mikve if her husband is home, ...
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Can a woman delay going to the Mikvah?

Can a woman delay going to the Mikvah on her Mikvah night? That is, if it is the seventh day and she is scheduled to go to the Mikvah, but it turns out to be inconvenient (for example if a friend's ...
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Does accepting Shabbos early absolve a woman from keeping Hilchos Vestos until sunset?

One may accept Shabbos early based on the concept of Tosafos Shabbos. See Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim, 267:2. If a woman has a Hilchos Niddah vest on Friday such as Yom Hachodesh & accepts Shabbos ...
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How complicated can a vesst pattern be?

Background: In the laws of niddah there is something called a vesst haflaga, which is a period that occurs at some consistent interval. If a woman establishes a pattern for some amount of consecutive ...
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Mikvah and illness

My understanding is that, as a general rule, a healthy woman may not delay going to the Mikvah for her own (or even her husband's) convenience. But I'm wondering if there are sources discussing ...
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Nidda after wedding

Without getting too graphic, after a wedding night, the kallah is likely to have some bleeding. Does this affect the nidda status of the kallah? If so, is it immediate? How could that be? Does it ...
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Is a woman technically a niddah after childbirth?

I understand that a woman becomes a yoledet after childbirth, and that this condition has very similar laws to niddah. But is she also a niddah? I ask because as far as I understand, niddah cannot be ...
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If a woman has only had 1 partner since her last period (i.e not three months) is that sufficient to determine the father?

I've heard that a woman should separate from men after a divorce for 3 months, so that there isn't a question as to who the father is. If this didn't occur, but a single period elapsed, would this ...
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Colored underwear during seven clean days

I know that during the 7 clean days of the nidda / tahara cycle, a woman has to wear white underwear. However, in extenuating circumstances (such as spotting for many weeks), is it ever permissible to ...
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Niddah and Counting 7 Clean Days - What are its Origins?

The following comment is made in the wikipedia entry on Niddah: In the days of the Amoraim, because of possible confusion in determining when menstruation began and ended and hence whether blood ...
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Food cooked by woman during Niddah?

If according to my Bible translation - please correct me if it is wrong - anything a woman in niddah or a state of tumah, or 'impurity', touches or sits on becomes 'impure', can food cooked by her be ...
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Playing Draidel with your wife when she is a Nidah

May one play Draidel with his wife when she is a Nidah? (sources please)
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Do those who practice family purity get cervical cancer less?

Is there a good study which shows that those who practice family purity get cervical cancer far less? Not just comparing Orthodox women to other groups, but amongst Jews? And is conclusive.
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Is the Ramban's observation of “red drops similar to blood developing on a mirror ” recorded by anyone else?

The Ramban in VaYikra 18:19 writes the following: (Source from Sefaria) (Partial Quote) ועוד הגידו בו נסיון אמיתי והוא ממפלאות תמים דעים בתולדה כי הנדה בתחילת זובה אם תביט במראה של ברזל הבהיר ...
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Source for Immersion after Biblical Niddah

Unlike other ritual impurities, which explicitly list various immersion or washing requirements, biblical niddah has no such explicit requirement in the written Torah ( to the best of my knowledge ) ...
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Virginal Defloration and Nidah

To the best of my knowledge there is a principle that if a woman knows with reasonable certainty ( or even reasonable suspicion ) that an emission of blood is from a wound and not from the uterus then ...
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How much blood makes a niddah? [closed]

Sometimes a woman is bleeding but is not having a clear period. What amount of blood (on colored clothing) would no longer be considered a kesem but would make the woman a nidah through a presumed ...
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How does one recover from Karet?

I know Teshuva will solve any transgression. Is there anything else that is required to heal one's self spiritually in the case of relations of a Jewish man with a Jewish woman who is a niddah?
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Do any movements forgo the seven clean days?

From what I understand the Torah only forbids a man from relations with his wife while she is on her period, until she goes to the Mikvah. The Rabbis decided to add the additional days as a stringency ...
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Searching for a halachic diagram of female anatomy

I am interested in finding a diagram that depicts female anatomy as it relates to the halachos of Niddah. Preferably, I would like to find two different models - one that displays anatomy as the ...
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What happens if a new chazaka of a veset kavua appears to have occurred while an old chazaka was still in place?

Suppose a woman notices a somewhat complicated veset kavua (in particular, perhaps one that doesn't apply every month). For example, say that she notices that she began to menstruate on 8 Kislev every ...
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Family purity by degree

I have the opportunity to reach out to someone who will be getting married soon, to discuss the laws of family purity. He has no real connections to any religious community at this point in life so ...
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Inserting an IUD & Niddah

Does inserting an IUD render a woman a Niddah even if there is no bleeding? If there is bleeding can it be attributed to a wound and thus the woman would not be a Niddah? (sources)
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Should women kiss the Torah with their hand or with a prayer book?

When the Torah comes around in shul, is it preferable for women to touch it with their hand (and then kiss their hand) or with their prayer book (and then kiss their prayer book)? Presumably some ...
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Cesem found on someone with dark skin

A cesem that is found on a colored piece of clothing is tahar. What about someone with dark skin (they are of some ethnicity/race that has darker skin), could the same idea be applied in such a case ...