Questions tagged [negia]

people touching people, particularly of the opposite sex

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Shomer negia for aunt and nephew

Is the prohibition of shomer negia applicable between aunt and nephew? Can you please provide sources?
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Shomer Nagia - How old should a girl be before she becomes shomer [duplicate]

At what ages do girls need to apply the rules of "shomer negia" (restricting contact between members of opposite gender)? Is there a difference between Ashkenazim and Sepharadim?
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Negiah before Nisuin

Unless I'm mistaken, after a non-ervah goes to the mikvah, affectionate touch would at most be prohibited rabbinically. I assume here it is prohibited rabbinically. If so, there are two cases I am ...
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Must a man that is unable to obtain an erection follow the laws of shomer negiah?

For a man that is unable to have an erection (and ergo unable to have relations) must they follow the laws of shomer negiah (lo tikr'vu "don't draw near to nakedness"), or is the "drawing near" to ...
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Touching a niddah other than one's wife

I am very confused. I had thought that the idea that a Jewish man may not touch a niddah, any niddah, except for perhaps his first-degree relatives, was basic information. Now, someone very ...
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What are the rules of negia as it relates to stepsons or stepdaughters?

What are the rules of negia as it relates to stepsons or stepdaughters? For instance, may a Jewish (not Orthodox) stepmother hug her son (Orthodox) at his weddding?
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Non-Jews touching Jews For Medical Care in an Emergency [duplicate]

I come from a family of female nurses (Christian.) Would it be allowed for them to give aid or help to the Orthodox community in an emergency since hand shaking is not allowed - we would not want to ...
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Harchakot while grieving, ch"v

If, G-d forbid, a wife learned of a terrible tragedy while a niddah, is there any possibility that her husband could hug her? To be clear, I am asking for respected sources that look at this matter ...
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Is negiah okay if the relationship would be forbidden?

Please excuse my lack of knowledge on this topic. Is non-sexual touch allowed between two people between whom a relationship would be halachically forbidden? I assume the answer is "yes" for, say, a ...
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Touching a Stepson [closed]

As an orthodox Jew, I married another orthodox Jew. This is a second marriage and he has a son. Am I allowed to touch the boy, as his stepmother, after he reaches the age of 9?
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Shomer Negiyah- negated by Mikvah?

If a woman in an unmarried relationship goes to Mikvah, does that allow for freedom of touching in any way, besides for actual intercourse or spilling of seed in vain, between said couple (both ...
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Being treated by a female doctor [duplicate]

Regarding the Issur of שומר נגיעה that prohibits the touching of a woman , would it be permitted for a young man to be treated by a female doctor in an office? Sources are appreciated .
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Is a person with one gender allowed to be a guide / interpreter for a deaf / blind person of opposite gender?

I saw this posting regarding a Shabbaton for the Deaf-Blind. They are seeking volunteers to be deaf-blind guides and interpreters. These people communicate by feeling the signs done in the hands of ...
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Is there any reason a Jewish woman should not shake hands with a non-Jewish man?

My question refers to the custom of certain groups to prohibit all physical contact between men and women who are not spouses or related. Although it is clear enough that Jewish men should not touch ...
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What is the source of Shomer Negiah?

What is the mekor for the very well known restriction of physical contact between men and women? Is it a biblical or rabbinical prohibition?
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Is shaking hands with opposite sex permitted at a business meeting? [duplicate]

I am sure many people face this awkwardness and confusion when facing a hand shake moment by the opposite gender. Of course I am referring to business meetings. I would like to know what the Halakha ...
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Hugging a crying close friend of the opposite sex? [duplicate]

Would hugging or otherwise comforting a close friend of the opposite gender who was visibly upset/crying be a violation of Negiah (prohibition against touching a member of the opposite sex)?
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May a male use a female for massage or vice versa?

There is a related question In a non-life-threatening emergency, can a female doctor do a hospital procedure on a male or vice versa?. The answer to that question, addresses limited situations, and I ...
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Do the laws of Negiah depend on sexual orientation?

The Rambam writes (Hilchos Isurei Biah 21:1): כל הבא על ערווה מן העריות דרך אברים, או שחיבק ונישק דרך תאווה ונהנה בקירוב בשר--הרי זה לוקה מן התורה One who comes upon one of the Arayos via ...
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At what age does negiah start applying for non-immediate family?

Wikipedia's article "Negiah" begins: The term negiah (Hebrew: נגיעה‎), literally "touch," is the concept in Halakha that forbids or restricts physical contact with a member of the opposite sex (...
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Is it considered Pikuach Nefesh if you break Shomer Negiah to give someone emotional comfort?

I've asked myself this before, but I'm not sure. Say that you see someone depressed, severely depressed and they just need a hug. If they're the same gender, that's all fine and dandy. However, if you'...
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Touching the opposite gender by way of an object

Is it permissible to touch someone of the opposite sex with an object (for example: to get their attention)?
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Plastic gloves in Halacha

If someone touches something while wearing gloves (i.e. waterproof rubber gloves), does that halachically count as touching? Practical examples include: Touching a neveilah, whether or not you become ...
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Halachic explanation of King David closeness with Avishag

Shulhan Aruch Even HaEzer 21 and 22 records the Halacha against men and women touching each other (especially Derech Hiba; whether it is Deorayta or Derabanan is a Mahloket Rishonim between Rambam and ...
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How can I determine if someone is Shomer Negiah?

I am not Shomer Negiah. However, I have been in mixed social situations where I was unsure if the person I was meeting was Shomer Negiah. I don't want to offend anyone, so I'm wondering if there is a ...
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Shomer Negiah without direct contact?

An interesting thought crossed my mind: does shomer negiah specifically only relate to direct, physical contact, or does it additionally extend to cover cases where there is no direct touch? Though I'...
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How to tell someone about Shomer Negiah

As I'm sure that many of you have had to "break it" to a coworker or friend that you're Shomer Negiah, have you found a strategy or choice of words that seems most effective? As I wasn't raised frum ...
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How to tactfully circumvent opposite-gender handshake

Say you're a man in a professional setting, and a woman who isn't used to dealing with observant Jews stretches out her hand to greet you -- but your practice is to avoid shaking hands even in ...
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Blind and Marriage

The Gemara tells us that a man may not marry a woman without first seeing her because if she turns out to be displeasing to him then he will transgress the mitzvah of "Ve'ahavtah lerei'acha kamocha"(...
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What are the halachic boundaries between a brother and sister?

Can they touch each other? Hug? Are they allowed to expose their legs, arms, etc., in front of each other? Can they swim together? Dance together?
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Shaking hands with the opposite gender?

What's the story: Can a man shake hands with a woman (or vice versa) in a business setting?