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Can a court retroactively annul a vow that was already annulled by the father/husband?

If a woman made a vow and violated it, and it was later annulled by her father/husband, can the court now annul the vow retroactively if it finds an opening, thereby exempting her from being liable?
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Did David utter an unnecessary oath?

In 1 Shmuel 25 Avigail persuades David not to execute his plan to kill Naval and Naval's household. After David acquiesces to her plea he then continues in pasuk 34 to swear (see commentaries such as ...
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A Wife Taking a Vow

Why does the Torah seemingly repeat the same circumstance regarding a betrothed woman taking a vow twice? What does one learn with this repetition? Numbers 30:7-8 But if she is [betrothed] to a man, ...
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Is a typed vow of a Gentile binding?

If a gentile in an email 'types' that he promises not to do something [1]doesn't use G-d's name 2]has no intention to keep the oath 3]but doesn't say bli neder either] is that vow binding? Some hold ...
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Can one benefit from the Sechach through Hataras Nedarim

The Gemara (Sukkah 9a) learns out from the verse, that just like it is forbidden to benefit from a sacrifice, so too is it forbidden to benefit from the sukkah The question is: is it possible to ...
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What is Chazakah from 3 Times action [duplicate]

Hi I want to know what does it really mean a chazakah that gets formed after 3 actions and is it a sin of you don't do that same action the 4th time and what is the source of this law and how far does ...
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Indirect curses: whence the Rambam's formulation?

The Rambam writes (MT Sanhedrin 26:4) that someone is not liable to lashes for cursing someone indirectly, like saying "May God not bless you". היתה הקללה באה מכלל הדברים, כגון שאמר אל יהי ...
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May a Jewish actor playing a role swear "falsely"?

Avraham the Jew from New Jersey puts on a costume, takes off his head covering, walks onto a stage, or movie set ... action! And says "I, John Jacob Schmidt of Oklahoma, do solemnly swear that I ...
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Madir vs Mudar vs Noder

What are the roles of מדיר / מודר / נודר when it comes to נדרים? Originally I thought the Madir is the one who makes the Neder that makes an item forbidden, The Mudar is the subject to whom the item ...
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Is Bound By A Thought They Didn’t Fully Say But Verbally Came Into Agreement With It?

Is one bound by something that came to mind that they came in agreement with verbally? For example, a thought enters into one’s mind and they say “amen” or “I will.” Are they then bound by that thing?
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Can you make a Nedar against what is written in the Torah [duplicate]

Can I make a Nedar not to take something when the Torah tell me to take it? The Torah says to take the spoils of war, can I make a Nedar not to take the spoils?
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Coming Into Agreement With Thoughts

If one comes in agreement with something mentally in regards to doing or not doing something are they making a vow?
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How do I annul my vows? [closed]

I think there are things I’ve done three times and no longer do, or things I’ve committed to doing verbally, and I suspect they may have the status of a vow. How do I go about doing hataras nedarim on ...
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Can Vows Be Made and Established Mentally

Can a vow, i.e “I will” or “I won’t” do something, be said mentally just as it is said verbaly?
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Does stating that you made a vow (past tense) although never having actually said it, now constitute a vow?

If I had said "I made a vow to ____", yet this was false and my earlier statement was not an actual vow, does it now become halachically binding by the mere fact that I referred to it as a ...
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Make a neder to forbid from oneself reward in the World to Come

I always understood that a neder is forbidding physical pleasure or benefit from oneself. I believe this is the common understanding. However, I saw a surprising statement of the Maharal in his ...
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Is there any time or situation when a father revokes a minor son's vows?

The parsha Matot talks of a father revoking his young daughter's vows. This seems to refer to the time period when the daughter is between 11 and 12 years of age: https://dafyomi.co.il/nazir/backgrnd/...
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How specific must a neder or shevua be?

If one said, for example, "I will not engage in unnecessary talk" with the intention of not excessively talking about unimportant things but not to completely forbid it, what has he ...
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What happens when you jokingly said 'I'm a nazir'?

If somebody gave you a bottle of wine, and you say I don't drink. They ask why, and you answer, jokingly 'I'm a nazir'. Did you take on a vow even though you only intended to joke?
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Did אָכִיש actually use Hashem?

וַיִּקְרָ֨א אָכִ֜ישׁ אֶל־דָּוִ֗ד וַיֹּ֣אמֶר אֵ֠לָיו חַי־יְהוָ֞ה כִּי־יָשָׁ֣ר אַתָּ֗ה (שמואל א 29:6) This has the פְּלִשְׁתִּי swearing by Hashem.
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?

In Bemidbar/Numbers 30 a man is allowed to cancel his wife's (and daughter's) vow after it comes to his attention. If the woman made the vow previously (in her father's house or from a previous ...
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Origin of Vows in Judaism

Almost all of Numbers chap. 30 deals with annulation or confirmation of vows. Basically, Nazirite and Vows look the same: somebody invents a trade-off between a desired benefit and a consented ...
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Why does Nedarim 37b contradict Shabbat 86a?

Why does Nedarim 37b contradict Shabbat 86a? In Nedarim 37b, Children should not read a Torah passage [for the first time] on Shabbat : Rather, with regard to Shabbat, this is the reason that children ...
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How does a gentile annul a vow?

How does a gentile annul a vow? Also, do gentiles have equal laws of oaths to Jews? Thank you
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Shevuah worded in the negative

I've been bothered for a long time: Throughout Tanach, shevuos (oaths) and brisos (covenants) are phrased in the negative (where it doesn't just say, I swear __, like בי נשבעתי ___). Generally ...
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Can one make a שבועה to be מקיים a מצוה?

The Mishnah in Shvuos 27a says: If one takes an oath to refrain from performing a mitzva and he does not refrain, he is exempt from bringing an offering for an oath on an utterance. If he takes an ...
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Hataras nedarim judges have to be observant jews?

The halacha says that the "judges" for hataras nedarim need to be 3 Jewish males above the age of 13. However, do they also have to be observant Jews?
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If one vowed to fast for a set period of time, would he continue at sunset after Shabbat?

So say someone had vowed to personally fast for a certain amount of time, and a portion of this time overlapped with Shabbat. Now it is known that we are forbidden from fasting during Shabbat, except ...
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Doing something good 3 times is like a neder. Can the 3 times be even in the same day?

An acquaintance told me that the 3 times must occur on 3 separate days but I cannot find a source for this, please let me know if you know of a source either way.
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Is it worse to swear by Zeus or by Hakadosh Baruch Hu?

One should not swear by false gods. But also, לא תישא את שם ה׳ לשווא. So is it worse (better) to casually, and without really meaning it, promise something "by G-d" or "By all the gods on Olympus"?
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Kavana or Ma’aseh? What Matters?

Ohr Hachaim explains Breishit 50:20 by way of a mashal: someone intended to give his fellow poison but ended up giving him wine. The perpetrator is not deemed to be chayav for what he intended to do. ...
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Is one allowed to swear to do something that depends on someone else's approval?

I noticed in parshat Vayechi that Yosef takes an oath that he will bury his father, Yaakov in Cana'an. After Yaakov dies, he asks for Pharaoh's permission to do so, and he grants him permission. In ...
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A shoteh doesn't vow to donate — isn't this obvious?

The Mishna says (Arachin 1:1): חרש שוטה וקטן נידרין ונערכין אבל לא נודרין ולא מעריכין מפני שאין בהם דעת A deaf-mute, an imbecile, and a minor are the object of a vow and are valuated, but neither vow ...
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Why do we say Dayanim Mumhim in Hatarat Nedarim (Canceling vows)?

The text of Hatatarat Nedarim starts like this: שִׁמְעוּ נָא רַבּותַי דַּיָּנִים מֻמְחִים "Please hear, expert Dayanim (court) It's not just that usually we gather three random people to be ...
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Is a neder against doing a prohibited behavior a neder?

If one makes a neder not to do something issur derabbanan, if they break it, are they liable for the neder?
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Although I heard in a shiur that there is a gemara which says a husband is not allowed to tell his wife not to lend to others since she would eventually develop a bad name, I can't find it - are there ...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?

If one states that they will do something to another person (e.g "I'll give you my favorite necklace"), and then that person no longer wants to fulfil the "promise" due to unforeseen circumstances, is ...
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Why the Minimum Nazirship Length?

In Nazir 2:10, the Mishna states: :אֵין תִּגְלַחַת פָּחוֹת מִשְּׁלשִׁים יוֹם There can be no shaving for a period of less than thirty days. Meaning, if you were in the middle of one nazirship when ...
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Annulment of women's nedarim

Can vows made by women nowadays still be annulled by father or husband (until sunset of the same day), as described in this week's parshah (mattos), or is this a practice of biblical/talmudic times ...
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Can a public fast day be used for a Yahrtzeit fast?

Some people have a minhag to fast on a yahrtzeit (see Shulchan Aruch OC 567,7-9). If the day of the yahrtzeit occurs on a public fast day such as 17 Tamuz, can the fasting done then count for the ...
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Did Yiftach's daughter have to comply with his vow?

In Judges chapter 11 Yiftach vows to dedicate whatever first comes out of the doors of his home to God (perhaps to be sacrificed as an offering) should he be victorious in battle. After his victory he ...
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Minhag 3 times, source?

In machzorim there is a nusach for hatarat nedarim, to annulate even "a good minhag that I did 3 times ..." But what is source for this counting like a neder (or other type of engagement)? Shulchan ...
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Why is garlic forbidden to one who forswore mikpa?

The last mishna of the sixth chapter of N'darim reads, in part: מן המקפה אסור בשום This means that if someone declared that mikpa is forbidden for own his use as sacrificial offerings are, then he ...
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Why do we care about a cow loan?

The mishna, N'darim 4:6, in my own, very loose translation: Aaron asks Baruch, "Lend me your cow." Baruch tells him, "It's not available." Aaron says, "My field is forbidden to me like a ...
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Why is "any promise I will promise" where it is in N'darim chapter 3?

The start of the third chapter of N'darim lists four categories of promise that are always null and void: promises meant to urge, promises of exaggeration, promises with an accident, and promises of ...
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If Kol Nidre is effective, why do people do hatarat nedarim?

It seems to be unnecessary. Also, why do the specific Hatarat Nedarim on Erev Rosh Hashanah if we do it anyway just before Yom Kippur?
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?

Nedarim 10:4, dealing with a case where a father has used his authority to marry off his 12-12.5 year old daughter through eirusin and is now finishing the marriage through nisuin, says: דֶּרֶךְ ...
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Would a "מתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה" (stipulating on something written in the Torah) by Purim be valid?

In Kesuvos 56a we learn about the principle of where one makes a stipulation on something that was written in Torah. For example: דתניא האומר לאשה הרי את מקודשת לי על מנת שאין ליך עלי שאר כסות ועונה ...
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Why did they need such an elaborate plan after Pilegesh Begiv'ah?

I've been thinking about this for a while, but this question reminded me. After the incident of Pilegesh Begiv'ah, the tribe of Binyamin had been almost wiped out and was down to 600 men. Everyone ...
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Can a Jew enter into personally made covenants with Hashem and are these held to the same standard as the true Jewish covenant?

I'm curious if there exists the ability for a Jew to challenge themselves and their faith to Hashem by creating new obstacles which don't actually exist in Jewish law. I was reading about the ...
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