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Does stating that you made a vow (past tense) although never having actually said it, now constitute a vow?

If I had said "I made a vow to ____", yet this was false and my earlier statement was not an actual vow, does it now become halachically binding by the mere fact that I referred to it as a ...
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Make a neder to forbid from oneself reward in the World to Come

I always understood that a neder is forbidding physical pleasure or benefit from oneself. I believe this is the common understanding. However, I saw a surprising statement of the Maharal in his ...
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Is there any time or situation when a father revokes a minor son's vows?

The parsha Matot talks of a father revoking his young daughter's vows. This seems to refer to the time period when the daughter is between 11 and 12 years of age: https://dafyomi.co.il/nazir/backgrnd/...
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How specific must a neder or shevua be?

If one said, for example, "I will not engage in unnecessary talk" with the intention of not excessively talking about unimportant things but not to completely forbid it, what has he ...
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What happens when you jokingly said 'I'm a nazir'?

If somebody gave you a bottle of wine, and you say I don't drink. They ask why, and you answer, jokingly 'I'm a nazir'. Did you take on a vow even though you only intended to joke?
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Did אָכִיש actually use Hashem?

וַיִּקְרָ֨א אָכִ֜ישׁ אֶל־דָּוִ֗ד וַיֹּ֣אמֶר אֵ֠לָיו חַי־יְהוָ֞ה כִּי־יָשָׁ֣ר אַתָּ֗ה (שמואל א 29:6) This has the פְּלִשְׁתִּי swearing by Hashem.
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?

In Bemidbar/Numbers 30 a man is allowed to cancel his wife's (and daughter's) vow after it comes to his attention. If the woman made the vow previously (in her father's house or from a previous ...
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Origin of Vows in Judaism

Almost all of Numbers chap. 30 deals with annulation or confirmation of vows. Basically, Nazirite and Vows look the same: somebody invents a trade-off between a desired benefit and a consented ...
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Why does Nedarim 37b contradict Shabbat 86a?

Why does Nedarim 37b contradict Shabbat 86a? In Nedarim 37b, Children should not read a Torah passage [for the first time] on Shabbat : Rather, with regard to Shabbat, this is the reason that children ...
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How does a gentile annul a vow?

How does a gentile annul a vow? Also, do gentiles have equal laws of oaths to Jews? Thank you
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Shevuah worded in the negative

I've been bothered for a long time: Throughout Tanach, shevuos (oaths) and brisos (covenants) are phrased in the negative (where it doesn't just say, I swear __, like בי נשבעתי ___). Generally ...
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Can one make a שבועה to be מקיים a מצוה?

The Mishnah in Shvuos 27a says: If one takes an oath to refrain from performing a mitzva and he does not refrain, he is exempt from bringing an offering for an oath on an utterance. If he takes an ...
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Hataras nedarim judges have to be observant jews?

The halacha says that the "judges" for hataras nedarim need to be 3 Jewish males above the age of 13. However, do they also have to be observant Jews?
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If one vowed to fast for a set period of time, would he continue at sunset after Shabbat?

So say someone had vowed to personally fast for a certain amount of time, and a portion of this time overlapped with Shabbat. Now it is known that we are forbidden from fasting during Shabbat, except ...
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Doing something good 3 times is like a neder. Can the 3 times be even in the same day?

An acquaintance told me that the 3 times must occur on 3 separate days but I cannot find a source for this, please let me know if you know of a source either way.
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Is it worse to swear by Zeus or by Hakadosh Baruch Hu?

One should not swear by false gods. But also, לא תישא את שם ה׳ לשווא. So is it worse (better) to casually, and without really meaning it, promise something "by G-d" or "By all the gods on Olympus"?
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Kavana or Ma’aseh? What Matters?

Ohr Hachaim explains Breishit 50:20 by way of a mashal: someone intended to give his fellow poison but ended up giving him wine. The perpetrator is not deemed to be chayav for what he intended to do. ...
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Is one allowed to swear to do something that depends on someone else's approval?

I noticed in parshat Vayechi that Yosef takes an oath that he will bury his father, Yaakov in Cana'an. After Yaakov dies, he asks for Pharaoh's permission to do so, and he grants him permission. In ...
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A shoteh doesn't vow to donate — isn't this obvious?

The Mishna says (Arachin 1:1): חרש שוטה וקטן נידרין ונערכין אבל לא נודרין ולא מעריכין מפני שאין בהם דעת A deaf-mute, an imbecile, and a minor are the object of a vow and are valuated, but neither vow ...
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Why do we say Dayanim Mumhim in Hatarat Nedarim (Canceling vows)?

The text of Hatatarat Nedarim starts like this: שִׁמְעוּ נָא רַבּותַי דַּיָּנִים מֻמְחִים "Please hear, expert Dayanim (court) It's not just that usually we gather three random people to be ...
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Is a neder against doing a prohibited behavior a neder?

If one makes a neder not to do something issur derabbanan, if they break it, are they liable for the neder?
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others

Although I heard in a shiur that there is a gemara which says a husband is not allowed to tell his wife not to lend to others since she would eventually develop a bad name, I can't find it - are there ...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?

If one states that they will do something to another person (e.g "I'll give you my favorite necklace"), and then that person no longer wants to fulfil the "promise" due to unforeseen circumstances, is ...
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Why the Minimum Nazirship Length?

In Nazir 2:10, the Mishna states: :אֵין תִּגְלַחַת פָּחוֹת מִשְּׁלשִׁים יוֹם There can be no shaving for a period of less than thirty days. Meaning, if you were in the middle of one nazirship when ...
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Annulment of women's nedarim

Can vows made by women nowadays still be annulled by father or husband (until sunset of the same day), as described in this week's parshah (mattos), or is this a practice of biblical/talmudic times ...
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Can a public fast day be used for a Yahrtzeit fast?

Some people have a minhag to fast on a yahrtzeit (see Shulchan Aruch OC 567,7-9). If the day of the yahrtzeit occurs on a public fast day such as 17 Tamuz, can the fasting done then count for the ...
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Did Yiftach's daughter have to comply with his vow?

In Judges chapter 11 Yiftach vows to dedicate whatever first comes out of the doors of his home to God (perhaps to be sacrificed as an offering) should he be victorious in battle. After his victory he ...
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Minhag 3 times, source?

In machzorim there is a nusach for hatarat nedarim, to annulate even "a good minhag that I did 3 times ..." But what is source for this counting like a neder (or other type of engagement)? Shulchan ...
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Why is garlic forbidden to one who forswore mikpa?

The last mishna of the sixth chapter of N'darim reads, in part: מן המקפה אסור בשום This means that if someone declared that mikpa is forbidden for own his use as sacrificial offerings are, then he ...
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Why do we care about a cow loan?

The mishna, N'darim 4:6, in my own, very loose translation: Aaron asks Baruch, "Lend me your cow." Baruch tells him, "It's not available." Aaron says, "My field is forbidden to me like a ...
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Why is "any promise I will promise" where it is in N'darim chapter 3?

The start of the third chapter of N'darim lists four categories of promise that are always null and void: promises meant to urge, promises of exaggeration, promises with an accident, and promises of ...
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If Kol Nidre is effective, why do people do hatarat nedarim?

It seems to be unnecessary. Also, why do the specific Hatarat Nedarim on Erev Rosh Hashanah if we do it anyway just before Yom Kippur?
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?

Nedarim 10:4, dealing with a case where a father has used his authority to marry off his 12-12.5 year old daughter through eirusin and is now finishing the marriage through nisuin, says: דֶּרֶךְ ...
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Would a "מתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה" (stipulating on something written in the Torah) by Purim be valid?

In Kesuvos 56a we learn about the principle of where one makes a stipulation on something that was written in Torah. For example: דתניא האומר לאשה הרי את מקודשת לי על מנת שאין ליך עלי שאר כסות ועונה ...
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Why did they need such an elaborate plan after Pilegesh Begiv'ah?

I've been thinking about this for a while, but this question reminded me. After the incident of Pilegesh Begiv'ah, the tribe of Binyamin had been almost wiped out and was down to 600 men. Everyone ...
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Can a Jew enter into personally made covenants with Hashem and are these held to the same standard as the true Jewish covenant?

I'm curious if there exists the ability for a Jew to challenge themselves and their faith to Hashem by creating new obstacles which don't actually exist in Jewish law. I was reading about the ...
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Can G-d be put in Charem

I came across this article: The Time Has Come for God to Reveal the Messiah, Says Jerusalem’s Chief Rabbi. The jist of the article that Chief Rabbi Amar and two other Rabbis announced as a ruling ...
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Why list קונם and קונס explicitly in Kol Nidrei but not other Kinuyim?

Nedarim 1:2 lists several kinnuyim, alternate expressions you can use for making a neder. In the Ashkenazi version of Kol Nidrei that I'm familiar with as well as the Nusach Sefarad one I found on ...
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Promise on a death bed

I once read that if a person makes a promise on their death bed to another person that they would come back to them in a dream and tell them whatever they wanted to know, then this is considered a ...
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Source for taking an oath on beard and payos

I remember seeing in a sefer that when Jews would take an oath they would take one on their beard and payos, this showed how much they valued the mitzvah of beard and payos. Does anyone know where ...
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Hatarat nedarim for a not-forgotten neder

About the התרת נדרים that some do every erev rosh hashana, I vaguely recall reading that, there could be some limitations? If the guy has not forgotten his neder and he still recalls it when he stands ...
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Was it a sin for Yitzchak to swear to Avimelech

The Midrash rebukes Avraham for swearing to Avimelech and making a covenant (Genesis 21:23-32): אָמַר לוֹ הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא אַתָּה נָתַתָּ שֶׁבַע כְּבָשׂוֹת בְּלִי רְצוֹנִי, חַיֶּיךָ ...
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Hatoras Nedarim - mentioning specific examples

If one is aware of specific examples of vows or a 'minhag tov' that one undertook, then one should articulate this to at least one member of the 'judges'. Is this informing essential or does the ...
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Tzedakah and tax deduction

In my country of residence there's a possibility to deduct charities from the tax. Since most have a daytime job and the tax is deducted in advance, in practice it means that at the end of the year ...
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If one is noder hana’ah from a smartphone, what is included?

Let’s say someone says he is noder hana’ah from a smartphone. What is included in the Neder? I assume that using the physical object (ex. as a paperweight) would be out. I assume that using the ...
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If one is noder hana'ah from something which sometimes is obligatory and sometimes is not, is the neder binding?

Let's say I make a neder not to benefit from the five grains - wheat, barley, rye, oat(?), and spelt. These are the only grains which can be used for Matzah on Pesach (Pesachim 35b). Assuming that a ...
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Can someone make a neder [vow] not to have any benefit from the area near the exit of someone else's house while he is in that house?

If a person invites someone into his house, and the invitee makes a neder [vow] not to have any benefit [ מודר הנאה] from any area near an exit of his host's house, Is the neder valid. If so, can he ...
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How did Chana vow that her son should be a Nazir?

How did Chana vow that her son (Shmuel hanavi) should be a Nazir, when the (Gemara Sotah 23a) says a woman can't impose Nezirut on her son?
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Why is "affliction of the soul" interpreted differently in two places?

The Torah (Leviticus 23:32) says regarding Yom Hakippurim וְעִנִּיתֶם אֶת נַפְשֹׁתֵיכֶם "and you shall afflict your souls." The Mishna (Yoma 8:1) gives the prohibitions of Yom Hakippurim as ...
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If Hataras nedarim on erev R'H voids all future vows, commitments, then is it even possible to make a vow or commitment?

Based on the text of Hataras Nedarim, specifically, "...I nullify from now on all the vows, all the oaths, prohibitions, assents and commitments in thought which I will take upon myself...and if I ...
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