Questions tagged [nedarim-shevuot]
Questions about oaths or vows that a person accepts upon oneself and obligations that stem from them
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Doing something good 3 times is like a neder. Can the 3 times be even in the same day?
An acquaintance told me that the 3 times must occur on 3 separate days but I cannot find a source for this, please let me know if you know of a source either way.
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Is it worse to swear by Zeus or by Hakadosh Baruch Hu?
One should not swear by false gods. But also, לא תישא את שם ה׳ לשווא. So is it worse (better) to casually, and without really meaning it, promise something "by G-d" or "By all the gods on Olympus"?
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Kavana or Ma’aseh? What Matters?
Ohr Hachaim explains Breishit 50:20 by way of a mashal: someone intended to give his fellow poison but ended up giving him wine. The perpetrator is not deemed to be chayav for what he intended to do.
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Is one allowed to swear to do something that depends on someone else's approval?
I noticed in parshat Vayechi that Yosef takes an oath that he will bury his father, Yaakov in Cana'an. After Yaakov dies, he asks for Pharaoh's permission to do so, and he grants him permission.
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A shoteh doesn't vow to donate — isn't this obvious?
The Mishna says (Arachin 1:1):
חרש שוטה וקטן נידרין ונערכין אבל לא נודרין ולא מעריכין מפני שאין בהם דעת
A deaf-mute, an imbecile, and a minor are the object of a vow and are valuated, but neither vow ...
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Why do we say Dayanim Mumhim in Hatarat Nedarim (Canceling vows)?
The text of Hatatarat Nedarim starts like this:
שִׁמְעוּ נָא רַבּותַי דַּיָּנִים מֻמְחִים
"Please hear, expert Dayanim (court)
It's not just that usually we gather three random people to be ...
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Is a neder against doing a prohibited behavior a neder?
If one makes a neder not to do something issur derabbanan, if they break it, are they liable for the neder?
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Source that you can't tell your wife not to lend to others
Although I heard in a shiur that there is a gemara which says a husband is not allowed to tell his wife not to lend to others since she would eventually develop a bad name, I can't find it - are there ...
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Must one fulfill a promise to another? What if circumstances change the initial reasoning behind the proposal?
If one states that they will do something to another person (e.g "I'll give you my favorite necklace"), and then that person no longer wants to fulfil the "promise" due to unforeseen circumstances, is ...
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Why the Minimum Nazirship Length?
In Nazir 2:10, the Mishna states:
:אֵין תִּגְלַחַת פָּחוֹת מִשְּׁלשִׁים יוֹם
There can be no shaving for a period of less than thirty days.
Meaning, if you were in the middle of one nazirship when ...
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Annulment of women's nedarim
Can vows made by women nowadays still be annulled by father or husband (until sunset of the same day), as described in this week's parshah (mattos), or is this a practice of biblical/talmudic times ...
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Can a public fast day be used for a Yahrtzeit fast?
Some people have a minhag to fast on a yahrtzeit (see Shulchan Aruch OC 567,7-9). If the day of the yahrtzeit occurs on a public fast day such as 17 Tamuz, can the fasting done then count for the ...
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Did Yiftach's daughter have to comply with his vow?
In Judges chapter 11 Yiftach vows to dedicate whatever first comes out of the doors of his home to God (perhaps to be sacrificed as an offering) should he be victorious in battle.
After his victory he ...
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Minhag 3 times, source?
In machzorim there is a nusach for hatarat nedarim, to annulate even "a good minhag that I did 3 times ..."
But what is source for this counting like a neder (or other type of engagement)?
Shulchan ...
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Why is garlic forbidden to one who forswore mikpa?
The last mishna of the sixth chapter of N'darim reads, in part:
מן המקפה אסור בשום
This means that if someone declared that mikpa is forbidden for own his use as sacrificial offerings are, then he ...
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Why do we care about a cow loan?
The mishna, N'darim 4:6, in my own, very loose translation:
Aaron asks Baruch, "Lend me your cow."
Baruch tells him, "It's not available."
Aaron says, "My field is forbidden to me like a ...
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Why is “any promise I will promise” where it is in N'darim chapter 3?
The start of the third chapter of N'darim lists four categories of promise that are always null and void: promises meant to urge, promises of exaggeration, promises with an accident, and promises of ...
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If Kol Nidre is effective, why do people do hatarat nedarim?
It seems to be unnecessary. Also, why do the specific Hatarat Nedarim on Erev Rosh Hashanah if we do it anyway just before Yom Kippur?
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?
Nedarim 10:4, dealing with a case where a father has used his authority to marry off his 12-12.5 year old daughter through eirusin and is now finishing the marriage through nisuin, says:
דֶּרֶךְ ...
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Would a “מתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה” (stipulating on something written in the Torah) by Purim be valid?
In Kesuvos 56a we learn about the principle of where one makes a stipulation on something that was written in Torah. For example:
דתניא האומר לאשה הרי את מקודשת לי על מנת שאין ליך עלי שאר כסות ועונה ...
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Why did they need such an elaborate plan after Pilegesh Begiv'ah?
I've been thinking about this for a while, but this question reminded me.
After the incident of Pilegesh Begiv'ah, the tribe of Binyamin had been almost wiped out and was down to 600 men. Everyone ...
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Can a Jew enter into personally made covenants with Hashem and are these held to the same standard as the true Jewish covenant?
I'm curious if there exists the ability for a Jew to challenge themselves and their faith to Hashem by creating new obstacles which don't actually exist in Jewish law.
I was reading about the ...
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Can G-d be put in Charem
I came across this article:
The Time Has Come for God to Reveal the Messiah, Says Jerusalem’s Chief Rabbi.
The jist of the article that Chief Rabbi Amar and two other Rabbis announced as a ruling ...
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Why list קונם and קונס explicitly in Kol Nidrei but not other Kinuyim?
Nedarim 1:2 lists several kinnuyim, alternate expressions you can use for making a neder.
In the Ashkenazi version of Kol Nidrei that I'm familiar with as well as the Nusach Sefarad one I found on ...
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Promise on a death bed
I once read that if a person makes a promise on their death bed to another person that they would come back to them in a dream and tell them whatever they wanted to know, then this is considered a ...
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Source for taking an oath on beard and payos
I remember seeing in a sefer that when Jews would take an oath they would take one on their beard and payos, this showed how much they valued the mitzvah of beard and payos.
Does anyone know where ...
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Hatarat nedarim for a not-forgotten neder
About the התרת נדרים that some do every erev rosh hashana, I vaguely recall reading that, there could be some limitations? If the guy has not forgotten his neder and he still recalls it when he stands ...
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Was it a sin for Yitzchak to swear to Avimelech
The Midrash rebukes Avraham for swearing to Avimelech and making a covenant (Genesis 21:23-32):
אָמַר לוֹ הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא אַתָּה נָתַתָּ שֶׁבַע כְּבָשׂוֹת בְּלִי רְצוֹנִי, חַיֶּיךָ ...
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Hatoras Nedarim - mentioning specific examples
If one is aware of specific examples of vows or a 'minhag tov' that one undertook, then one should articulate this to at least one member of the 'judges'. Is this informing essential or does the ...
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Tzedakah and tax deduction
In my country of residence there's a possibility to deduct charities from the tax. Since most have a daytime job and the tax is deducted in advance, in practice it means that at the end of the year ...
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If one is noder hana’ah from a smartphone, what is included?
Let’s say someone says he is noder hana’ah from a smartphone. What is included in the Neder?
I assume that using the physical object (ex. as a paperweight) would be out. I assume that using the ...
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If one is noder hana'ah from something which sometimes is obligatory and sometimes is not, is the neder binding?
Let's say I make a neder not to benefit from the five grains - wheat, barley, rye, oat(?), and spelt. These are the only grains which can be used for Matzah on Pesach (Pesachim 35b). Assuming that a ...
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Can someone make a neder [vow] not to have any benefit from the area near the exit of someone else's house while he is in that house?
If a person invites someone into his house, and the invitee makes a neder [vow] not to have any benefit [ מודר הנאה] from any area near an exit of his host's house, Is the neder valid. If so, can he ...
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How did Chana vow that her son should be a Nazir?
How did Chana vow that her son (Shmuel hanavi) should be a Nazir, when the (Gemara Sotah 23a) says a woman can't impose Nezirut on her son?
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Why is “affliction of the soul” interpreted differently in two places?
The Torah (Leviticus 23:32) says regarding Yom Hakippurim וְעִנִּיתֶם אֶת נַפְשֹׁתֵיכֶם "and you shall afflict your souls."
The Mishna (Yoma 8:1) gives the prohibitions of Yom Hakippurim as ...
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If Hataras nedarim on erev R'H voids all future vows, commitments, then is it even possible to make a vow or commitment?
Based on the text of Hataras Nedarim, specifically, "...I nullify from now on all the vows, all the oaths, prohibitions, assents and commitments in thought which I will take upon myself...and if I ...
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To be Matir Neder or not to be, that is the question
According to those Shitos (such as the Ran) brought in Is a neder about something compulsory valid? that one violates Lo Yachel Devaro if they break a Neder not to do something which is already Assur, ...
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Is one obligated in a promise to do an issur made pekuach nefesh?
Chaim has an exotic disease for which the only possible cure is an experimental drug.
The drug company will permit him to enter the study as long as he agrees that if he dies, he releases his body for ...
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The Day After Yom Kippur, Does The Community Re-Excommunnicate People Who Were Excommunicated Before Kol Nidre?
Since we permit to pray with those who were excommunicated (I mean menudim or muhramim i.e. in niduy or 'herem) in Kol Nidre, does the community need to reinstitute relevant niduyim/haramot the day ...
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Can a husband forbid his wife from doing something (which will not hurt her)
A husband cannot make his wife do something using a vow (Helckas Mehokek 74.17 end, Bais Shmuel 74.12 end).
אם מדיר אותה דבר שהוא לטובתה כגון שהדיר קונם הנאת תשמישך עלי אם לא תתקשט והיא אינה רוצה א"...
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Oaths made in altered mental states
Is an oath (neder or shevua) valid if made while drunk? What if a person had a bad experience while under the influence of alcohol and while drunk swore never to drink again, but after becoming sober ...
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What's the story with nezirut Shimshon in hatarat nedarim?
In the standard text of hatarat nedarim, Artscroll has
וכל מיני נזירות שקבלתי עלי חוץ מנזירות שמשון
Koren has
ואפילו נזירות שמשון
There are three types of nezirut (maseches Nazir 1,2): nezirut ...
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Are unimposed or uncompelled vows (or any related synonyms) annulled by “Kol Nidrei”?
Are the following vows (or any related synonyms) annulled by "Kol Nidrei":
Any vows or promises or oath (or any related synonyms) that I said to God? For example, I say, God, I promise to give 20% of ...
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Why is Sabbath so important?
In Isaiah 58:13-14 we read:
“If you turn away your foot from the Sabbath,
From doing your pleasure on My holy day,
And call the Sabbath a delight,
The holy day of the Lord honorable,
And ...
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How long does a vow made “until it will be Shavuos” last?
The mishnah in Nedarim 8:3 gives the following general rule:
This is the rule: Anything that has a set time and he says, "until it
reaches that time," he is forbidden until that time. If he ...
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Don't have to articulate hataras nedarim?
I recently made a hataras nedarim in which two of the three dayanim were not articulating a single word, but simply intoning something like a low hum, during the part that is supposed to be said ...
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Nedarim 61 and multiple year neder
I'm a gentile and have studied Nedarim 61 a little bit recently. From what I've gathered so far, when someone makes a neder for "this year" or "a year", it means for the rest of the year, whether that ...
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Should you take on a chumra if you're not sure you can maintain it?
Should someone take on a new stringency/hiddur/optional mitzvah if he or she is not absolutely sure he and his progeny will be able to maintain it on all further occasions? In such a case, is it ...
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What if one swears to do something forbidden?
If one makes a neder or shevu'ah to do something that is forbidden by Torah (or perhaps to abstain from something that is mandatory) what happens?
Does his vow have any significance? That is, was it ...
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Text of prayer contains a neder
Sometimes I say prayers, typically tehillim, that appear to contain a promise to do something. Example: " חַסְדֵי יְהוָה, עוֹלָם אָשִׁירָה; לְדֹר וָדֹר, אוֹדִיעַ אֱמוּנָתְךָ בְּפִי. I will sing of ...
