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If a man wears no kippah at work, is it reasonable to believe that he might not be frum?

(Question inspired by a comment from Isaac Moses.) Many frum (Torah-observant) Jewish males wear a kippah at all times. Also, the Torah teaches us to judge people favorably. Let's say that a man ...
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Rashi and the Pun

A long time ago, I was in someone's house and they had a book about the life of Rashi. In it was a great story, which I will summarise to the best of my memory: Rashi was travelling Europe and in a ...
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Animal euthanasia in Halacha

According to Halacha, is it prohibited or permissible to do animal euthanasia on sick or injured animals? Or would it be prohibited as a violation of Tzaar Balei Chayim?
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Can Jews make a Siyum on mussar literature

In Halacha, can Jews make a Siyum upon completion of mussar literature? For example to eat meat during the 9 days. Or no, is this not a type of Torah learning which would warrant a Siyum Seudat ...
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Public nuisance in Halacha

Does Halacha recognize the notion of someone being liable for “public nuisance”? In secular law, a public nuisance is generally defined as someone who is doing something which is significantly ...
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Edition of Mesilat Yesharim

Can someone please recommend an edition of Mesilat Yesharim? I am looking for an edition with the following features. All Hebrew Nice, clear print Elucidations/commentaries for difficult passages ...
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Is advertising ever Lifnei iver for lo tachmod

Do a lot of advertisements ever constitute Lifnei iver for lo tachmod? The reason I ask is because the prohibition of coveting someone else’s goods (Lo Tachmod) seems more likely if one is culturally ...
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Is there a problem with gender pay discrimination

Inspired by this question I am curious if there is any issue in Halacha or anything else with paying (Jewish) women less than (Jewish) men or vice versa? Since there is a mitzvah to do business with ...
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Discerning how much one should trust Hashem

Shalom. I am far from being a Ba’al Bitachon, but from what I have read - e.g. this: https://www.torah-box.net/jewish-ethics-and-learning/jewish-thinking/emunah-and-bitachon-two-essential-tools_572....
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What is shalom bayit

I’m curious what the concept of Shalom Bayit means in terms of practical Halacha. Is it a mitzvah, a general halachic rule, an ethical principle, or something else? Where is it derived from ...
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Irritation vs. Anger

I know, according to Torah, its a sin to be angry but is it a sin to be irritated? For example, if a child yells really loud and I calmly tell him to stop yelling, does the fact that I calmly told him ...
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Does someone get punished for unknowingly committing a sin or unknowingly hurting a person?

Does someone get punished for unknowingly committing a sin or unknowingly hurting a person? Please provide sources, thanks.
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What is the explanation of And don’t let the evil inclination assure your that the grave will be a place of refuge for you mean

BH What do the main poskim and commentators explain “And don’t let the evil inclination assure your that the grave will be a place of refuge for you” mean in Pirkei Avot 4:22
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Caution against a person belittling himself

BH I heard someone say that a person should never say "I am this [negative character trait]" or "I am that [negative character trait]" because Chas ve Shalom Hashem can bring that ...
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What type of enemies are being spoken about in Shaar Habitachon?

In Duties of the Heart, Ibn Paquda writes in Shaar Habitachon (Treatise on Trust, Ch. 4): אבל עניני אויביו וחומדיו ומבקשי רעתו יבטח בעניניהם על הבורא יתעלה ויסבל חרפתם ואל יגמל להם כפעלם אך יגמלם חסד ...
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Lashon harah about someone who leads people astray

Is it lashon harah to publicly criticize or attack those who you perceive as misleading people/leading people astray? For example, Rabbi Natan Slifkin has a blog in which he’s publicly criticized ...
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When is it acceptable to be impolite or rude

Is it ever ok to be impolite or rude. Say an employee is not doing their job or won’t help you when you paid for a service.
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Rabbi Yaron Reuven - Severe torture in gehinnom

I was out to eat the other day and in the restaurant, where one can take more sauces, there was a pile of dvd'd that people can take for free with the Tikkun Habrit movie on it. I ended up watching ...
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Eating reduces spritual sensitivity and Yitzchak Avinu wanting a meal before giving his berachot - contradiction?

There is a principle in mussar that overeating desensitises/spoils our mood for learning and davening with kavana (see Hachsharat HaAvrechim ch.9 for example). E.g. if one is very into one's learning, ...
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Messages from Hashem

I have heard from my teachers that when something major happens in the world, this is a message from Hashem. But it is a message for Israel and actually for the religious people in our nation- because ...
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Ethics of working in defense

The following is not halacha l'maaseh. Say I am currently looking for a new role. In my search, I come across a fair number of (US-based) defense contractors that seem to have openings for what I am ...
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Pele Yoetz Question

Does someone know from which chapter of the Pele Yoetz this is taken or paraphrased from? There is a general rule in life, that we believe with perfect faith nothing bad comes from heaven, it is only ...
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Suggestion to help rid one's physical desire for food

What guides are there available in the corpus of Torah, including all Rabbinic writings, on ridding oneself of specifically the desire for food? Context/Reason for asking: It is a common theme in ...
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Case study in chesed: parking morally

A strong, fit man decides that instead of grabbing the absolute closest and most convenient parking spot to his destination, he will leave it and park further away, in case someone more infirm/...
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Does Halakhah say anything about secular/religious professionals like therapists separating personal and professional beliefs working with clients?

WASHINGTON (AP) — In a defeat for gay rights, the Supreme Court’s conservative majority ruled Friday that a Christian graphic artist who wants to design wedding websites can refuse to work with same-...
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Musar Study - recommendations

In our weekly chavrusa on Musar, we (retired baalei batim) have covered over several years: Michtav MeiEliyohu, Sifsei Chaim, Alei Shur and we are about to conclude Orchos Chaim. We would welcome ...
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Source of a Rabbi Salanter story

This article gives several stories about Rav Salanter, in section V of the article. There’s no citation but many of them are drawn from T’nuat ha-Mussar by Rav Katz. However, I can't find a source for ...
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Looking for mussar on not thinking oneself wise

Shalom. Mishlei makes clear that one should not think oneself wise and that it is very dangerous to do so. From what I can see (from Mishlei 26:16), diligence is one way - the only way? - of ...
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Does Judaism value selflessness?

Does Judaism value selflessness? In particular, Rambam in Shemoneh Perakim lists יתרון טוב הלבב as an extreme/negative character trait, and he defines this as someone who is giving to others at their ...
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What about Hashem are we emulating by battling our yeitzer hara?

Derech Hashem and mussar state that Divine service is emulating Hashem, becoming His partner, and similar to Him so we can attach to Him. Ramchal states that we should come to earn and therefore own ...
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וכבשוה ורדו - to what extent are we allowed to domesticate/kill animals in order to utilise the Earth for our civilisation?

Part of the point of Hashem giving the Earth into our domain is a permission for us to trap, subjugate and kill animals that would harm us or be pests for our crops and homes, e.g. see Sforno 1 & ...
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Online edition of Kuntres Tiferes Dovid

In the recently published sefer, Bircas HaTorah, Bringing Torah To Life And Life To Torah by Rabbi Nissim Tagger, a Kuntres is cited. It seems to be a Kuntres by Rabbi Dovid Leibowitz ztz"l, a ...
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Shar habechinah honoring parents

I saw something in shar habechinah from the chovos halevavos that he writes that people wouldnt honor theyre parents if not for shame, wondering why do people need shame to honor parents? And just in ...
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Does anyone know where to find the Sefer toras Avraham by Reb avraham grodzenski?

If anyone knows where this Sefer,and other slabodka mussar seforim can be found. Or if anyone has them and is interested in selling them please call 929-842-8008 and leave a voicemail
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Question about degrees of honesty

I have been reflecting on some things I have done, and have begun to wonder whether my 'honest' words were simply a (subconsciously) clever way of gaining a person's trust, and thus of gaining power. ...
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Where can I find the Ramban's Letter in PDF?

I am looking to download or print a PDF of the Igeret HaRamban in the original Hebrew, to be able to view/read conveniently. Does anyone know where I can find this?
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The Gemara (Sukkah 25b) mentions "taking your mind off your worries." Do any commentators elaborate on exactly how to do that?

The Gemara (Sukkah 25b) mentions that an avel (mourner) is obligated in the mitzvah of Sukkah. One might have thought that since someone who is mitzta'er (in pain) is exempt from the mitzvah, that an ...
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Is it better to learn one mussar Sefer at a time or a few?

Would it be advisable to learn Mesillas Yesharim, Shaarei Teshuvah, Tomer Devorah and Chovas Halevavos etc. every day?
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Maayan HaMitgaber in Alei Shur (Rabbi Wolbe)

Maayan HaMitgaber in Alei Shur (Rabbi Wolbe) -- very strong concept, but I cannot locate the first mention in R Wolbe's Volume 1.
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Looking for a Mussar Sefer broken into short daily teachings

Looking for a recommendation on a mussar Sefer that has daily teachings, sort of like how the Chofetz Chaim Sefer was broken down into one page a day. Not any specific type of mussar, but something ...
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What can Torah teach us about if voting makes u responsible for the actions of the elected, or system?What does voting affect in the spiritual worlds?

If a nation has a national election with only so to speak "bad" candidates, what teachings from Tanakh, Talmud, Jewish law or Jewish ethics in general, and the mystical teachings of the ...
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Is being on welfare if you can work against the will of Hashem?

Genesis 3:17 And to man He said, "Because you listened to your wife, and you ate from the tree from which I commanded you saying, 'You shall not eat of it,' cursed be the ground for your sake; ...
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Is it appropriate for me as a landlord to make gifts to the minor children of my tenant if I believe it will make them happy or more successful? [closed]

I am landlord for a lady and her three minor children who rent a house I own next door to my residence. One of her children is a talented athlete who is on a local community football team. Since the ...
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What does Ramchal refer to, when he says to know “principles”?

In his introduction to Derech HaShem, Ramchal mentions the importance of organized and systematic thinking by breaking things down into general principles. He then details how he broke this Sefer down ...
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Why in the braisa of Pinches ben Yair is piety or humility called "greater than" the other levels that are listed?

In the braisa of Pinchas ben Yair it goes through a number of levels and ends with techiyas hamesim, then says חסידות גדולה מכולן שנאמר (תהלים פט, כ) אז דברת בחזון לחסידיך, and then another opinion ...
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Is it sinful to learn Torah and apply learnings to one’s business and worldly matters instead of for hasidut/holiness?

I’m learning Messilat Yesharim and found that, at least on a pshat level, it can be understood as a self-help book for achieving one’s goals regardless if those goals align with Ramchal’s profound ...
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Is there a master list(s) of Middot?

I am looking to find a master list of Middot. I suspect different texts have different lists: ie Cheshbon Ha Nefesh has one list and maybe other sefarim have other lists. At this stage of my research ...
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Looking for mussar on overcoming recklessness

Shalom. I have a terrible habit of behaving recklessly. I was wondering if anyone had any good mussar - from personal experience or from sources - that would help one overcome this bad character trait....
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Mesillas Yesharim in One Chart?

Years ago, I saw a printed chart hanging in a shul titled "Mesillas Yesharim in One Chart," or something very similar. I have been searching online for this but cannot find anywhere. Is ...
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Hi , what should a man do if he impregnates a woman before wedlock ? should he marry her or opt for co-parenting? [closed]

Lets say the child is already born , you are both not married, you are friends , you used to date but you had broken up. What should these two do ?
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