Questions tagged [mourning-aveilus]
A halachic period of mourning after the passing of a close relative. There are many laws and customs relating to this period and those observing it.
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Mishnayot at house of a mourner
There is a tradition to learn mishnayot at a mourner's house, where the mishnayot chosen start with the letters from the deceased person's name. (Lists of mishnayot corresponding to each letter can be ...
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Proper day and time for a Shloshim Seuda
Per Chabad.org: "Traditionally, families gather on the eve of the Shloshim to share support, recite prayers and Psalms, and to give charity in the merit of the deceased. Many will also make a Siyum, ...
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In losing a very close friend recently am at a loss how to commemorate according to Judaic law and custom. How is this done?
A very close friend of mine passed away recently and I do not know what Judaism teaches specifically about how to grieve and mourn. I am seeking grief comfort passages in the Torah/Tanach from source ...
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May one do the Mitzvah of Nichum Aveilim/Consoling Mourners on Tish'a B'av?
Based on On Tish'a B'Av,can someone say the typical "Mourner's statement" to any/everyone else?, may one perform the mitzvah of Nichum Aveilim for one who is sitting shiv'a on ...
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Gerusha who marries a Kohen
I’m currently learning the Halachos of Aveilus with a Chavrusah and we discussed the following question if a gerusha who marries a Kohen and he dies, does she sit shiva and observe the mourning period ...
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How long does one say Kaddish for a sibling?
There is discussion here on MY about saying Kaddish for parents and also some discussion on Kaddish for a sister. One place on the Chabad website states that Kaddish should be said for 30 days for a ...
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How can a person visualize the Churban Bais HaMikdash?
It is now thousands of years since the Churban Bais HaMikdash. Many Jews feel very comfortable in their surroundings. How can a person help themselves visualize and understand the great loss of the ...
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Does a convert say kaddish for his parents when they pass? [duplicate]
Does a convert say kaddish for his parents when they pass? If yes is this limited to a Jewish parent (father) or does this include a non Jewish parent? If it does include a non-Jewish parent would it ...
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Source for "Miktzas HaYom K'Kulo"?
What is the source for "Miktzas HaYom K'Kulo"? I realize it applies to Availus (mourning) and it is also brought up regarding Nazir but I could not find its source?
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Is a person allowed to wear new jewelery during the 9 days? [duplicate]
Dumb question I know, but; does jewelery fall under the catagory of a garment, and as such is not allowed to be worn, if new, in the nine days?
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Wearing a new watch in the nine days
What do the sources have to say about wearing a new watch in the nine days?
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Aveilus and Davening from the Omud on Rosh Hashana / Yom Kippur?
Can a Ba'al tefillah in his year of aveilus daven from the Omud on Rosh Hashana / Yom Kippur?
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Father of baby is an onen by bris
We know an onen doesn’t perform any positive commandments, what happens if it’s the 8th day for his son and he needs to perform the bris, is he allowed to do that, or make a shliach, or does it get ...
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What does it mean for a mourner to "have a chiuv"?
I have noticed that in many synagogues, before davening, the gabbai customarily asks if anybody "has a chiuv". If there is anybody with a chiuv, he is asked to daven from the amud. The people who ...
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Source for "Hamakom" said at shiva and variations
What is the source for the text of hamakom?
In Israel I noticed that they add some words that I never heard in the States (something like"vlo yosifo lidavek?od") , what is the source for them and why ...
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Source to comfort mourners "המקום ינחם אתכם" [duplicate]
What is the original source to comfort mourners with the exact phrase "המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים" - "hamakom (the Omnipresent, i.e., God) should comfort you among the ...
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Source Merit of the person who does the burying of spouse
I can’t recall where I saw it, but I somewhat remember is that there is some merit if the husband buries the wife or vice versa.
Does anyone know the source for it?
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Source that a mourner in his year does not lead the selichos in Elul and Tishrei?
I have been told that there is a Mishna Berurah that states that a mourner should not lead the selichos but can take over leading the prayers for shacharis.
Please locate this Mishna Berurah.
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An "Aveil" at Shabbat Mincha
An aveil (mourner) does not practice public aveilut (mourning) on Shabbat (Ketubot 4a), though he is still in aveilut and there is some impact on what he can and can't do.
Would the presence of an ...
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Consequence of filial mitzvot with parents and children both converting
A person who converts loses his halachic connections to his family (see the gemara at the bottom of Yevamot 48b as well as Yevamot 98a).
What happens to "filial mitzvot" (e.g., filial ...
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Why can't a person who's in his year of aveilus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov?
Why shouldn't a person in their year of avelus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov or yomim noraim?
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Public mourning in Shabbos
Why isn’t the custom of changing ones seat in shul considered mourning in public , which is prohibited in Shabbos?
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Avelut for today
A question on avelut.
One whom is in avelut for a close family.
Are they allowed to travel and eat out after 30days though it’s still within the Year
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Mourning for a Noahide Father
This question is different than others I've read regarding mourning a Non-Jewish parent. I'm specifically interested in the case of a Noahide father and a Jewish mother who have divorced. What I ...
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What is the halachic source for the minhagim of mourning during Sefira?
What is the earliest halachic source for the minhagim of mourning during sefira? Note that this does not mean the story of R' Akiva, I'm talking about halachic references to prohibitions such as not ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom
Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom?
My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Mourning for a parent for a year
Please provide as many different answers as you can on why is aveilus for a parent for a year and all others is only 30 days.
What different heartfelt ideas come to mind? What are some ideas that ...
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Why does Mordechai agree to put on the king's clothing?
From the Megillah, we read that Mordechai put on sack-cloth and ashes upon hearing of Haman's decree. Esther, alarmed to see her cousin in such a state, sends him fine clothes to put on, but he ...
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Checking Tefillin after someone has died [closed]
Is there a source that one shouldn’t check the deceased Tefillin after they have died?
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Can one recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?
Is it halachically permissible to recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?
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How to comfort someone who has lost his non-Jewish parent
I came across a (Facebook) post the other day in which an acquaintance announced he had lost his non-Jewish father. The individual is not a convert; his mother had intermarried. The funeral will not ...
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Custom of two people not clothing someone together
Probably a common occurrence is when putting clothes on a baby, both parents will try to do it together to make it easier (one puts on the shirt, one puts on the pants, etc.). Someone recently told me ...
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Prohibition to Wear Freshly Laundered Clothes in the 9 days
Normally is customary to avoid wearing freshly laundered clothes during the 9 days. Does this apply these days when freshly laundered clothes are no longer exciting and new? Perhaps the parallel today ...
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Sefardi Hilchot aveilut online
Do we have any sefardi Halachic book (pdf format) in English dealing with Hilchot Aveilut Online? I need it a bit urgently to study it this Tisha b'Av.
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When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth?
When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth in times of mourning and other times of distress (e.g., when fasting for rain)? (I presume sackcloth was quite uncomfortable.) Sackcloth is mentioned in ...
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Can you be menachem avel in silence?
While I know that the practice is to recite the statement of Hamakom when visiting an aveil, what if an aveil craves silence? Mere presence and no noise might be the only comfort that has any real ...
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Does a mourner sit in a low chair outside the house?
A mourner, during the first 7 days sits on a low chair. The mourner also generally does not leave the house. One exception would be if there is no minyan that can be set up in the mourner's house, so ...
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Is there a "pre-aninut" status?
This is a question of 2 different possible statuses, each with its own implications.
In Maurice Lamm's "The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning," he writes (page 26)
He is not considered an ...
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Can one go from being an Aveil to being an Onein?
A person is an onein while taking care of arrangements for a burial, and, from what I have learned, if that person's work is finished and that person leaves the body or the body leaves the person for ...
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Aninut and food
After the death of a close relative and before the burial (or the cessation of involvement with the body) one is in a stage of Aninut. During that time, one is exempted (or even forbidden) from many ...
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Shiva for an estranged parent?
Suppose someone has parents who are divorced. That someone is close with one parent, but has absolutely no relationship with the other. Must he sit shiva for the estranged parent? Is there any ...
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Not consoling mourners during shiva?
We read in pirkei avos (4:18) the following:
רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר אוֹמֵר, אַל תְּרַצֶּה אֶת חֲבֵרְךָ בִשְׁעַת כַּעֲסוֹ, וְאַל תְּנַחֲמֶנּוּ בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁמֵּתוֹ מֻטָּל לְפָנָיו, וְאַל ...
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Is *HaMakom Yenachem* said Friday night in synagogue when the body's not yet buried?
If there are mourners in shul Friday night, they are greeting with HaMakom Yenachem Eschem etc.
What if a relative died on Friday afternoon, but there's not enough time to bury before shabbos -- ...
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During Shivah must the mourner always sit on a low stool?
During the Shivah period, does one have to sit on a low stool all of the time or only when visitors are present?
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Why read about Rashb"i's death at a memorial ceremony?
Why do many people read the passage (known as אדרא זוטא) from Zohar about the death of Rabbi Shim'on ben Yochai at memorial ceremonies?
A description of it can be found here.
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Why was King David allowed to mourn on the floor?
I heard from my rav that one of the laws of a king is that during mourning, he is not allowed to sit on the floor. Rather he sits on a couch, so as not shame his status as the king.
If this is true, ...
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Placing stones on a grave
My office is situated right next to a Jewish cemetery. A coworker, noticing the yarmulke on my head, asked me why he sometimes sees stones placed on some of the gravestones. I told him that as far as ...
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To say Kaddish if known the person has gone to Gan Eden
This story https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/1819358/tzaddik-of-bnei-brak-appears-in-dream-to-fellow-kovno-ghetto-survivor-im-already-in-gan-eden.html
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Not to learn parts of Torah until they become applicable
I was told that one should not learn the laws of Nidda (I guess including orach Chaim 240 and even hoezer 25) until engaged, and not the laws of mourning until applicable (lo alainu)
Is this true?
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Learning laws of aveilut when your parents are alive?
Is it appropriate to learn the laws of aveilut when both your parents are alive? Or is there a superstition that it could be dangerous to them?
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