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A halachic period of mourning after the passing of a close relative. There are many laws and customs relating to this period and those observing it.

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Why is the last bereita in Avot often said before Kaddish?

In many minyanim I have attended there is often some form of torah learning after prayers have been completed and then someone (usually the teacher conducting the learning) will recite the last ...
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Source for minhag to not eat whole hard boiled eggs?

I know people (including myself) who don't eat whole hard-boiled eggs, i.e. after boiling the egg they cut the egg in half or quarters and then eat it. The reason I heard was that eating an egg whole ...
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Having someone recite a hesped for someone they didn’t know

Is there anything problematic in Halacha with having somebody recite a hesped for somebody else if they didn’t know each other? Or is there nothing wrong with it? Does it make a difference if the ...
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May Jews listen to music during the day of a Sefer Torah burning

According to the Shulchan Arukh, Yoreh De'ah 340:37 Jews are supposed to tear Kriah after seeing a Sefer Torah being intentionally burned. However, may they listen to music the day when they see it ...
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Does Yom Kippur end mourning

In halacha Yom Tov ends shloshim and shiva, my question is does the same rule apply to Yom Kippur if a close relative dies during the days of repentance? Or is Yom Kippur different from other holidays ...
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Source for finishing the entire Mishnayos for Shloshim

Lo aleinu someone has passed away in my life, and I am wondering about the customs that relate to aveilus. I have noticed that people have the custom of splitting the entire Mishnayos to be learned ...
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Does one act as an Onen if he can't bury his dead for the foreseeable future?

This may be a duplicate, but if so I didn't see the original. Recently, unfortunately, this question has become very realistic: If there is someone who knows a close relative is dead but won't be able ...
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Onen eating outside sukkah

Is an onen exempt from eating in the sukkah on sukkot? Are they allowed to eat outside the sukkah (sources much appreciated please).
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Halacha of national mourning

After the recent tragedy in Israel, I feel like every day is like how I should feel on Tisha B'Av. Most of the day I can feel tears close to the surface, thinking about the victims, remembering the ...
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Can you buy clothes during the Nine Days, for a job interview during the Nine Days, if you lack any appropriate clothing?

Imagine that an unemployed person suddenly gets a job interview scheduled for two days before Tisha B'Av, but doesn't have something appropriate to wear to the interview. May he/she buy new clothing ...
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Mishnayot at house of a mourner

There is a tradition to learn mishnayot at a mourner's house, where the mishnayot chosen start with the letters from the deceased person's name. (Lists of mishnayot corresponding to each letter can be ...
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In losing a very close friend recently am at a loss how to commemorate according to Judaic law and custom. How is this done?

A very close friend of mine passed away recently and I do not know what Judaism teaches specifically about how to grieve and mourn. I am seeking grief comfort passages in the Torah/Tanach from source ...
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Gerusha who marries a Kohen

I’m currently learning the Halachos of Aveilus with a Chavrusah and we discussed the following question if a gerusha who marries a Kohen and he dies, does she sit shiva and observe the mourning period ...
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Does a convert say kaddish for his parents when they pass? [duplicate]

Does a convert say kaddish for his parents when they pass? If yes is this limited to a Jewish parent (father) or does this include a non Jewish parent? If it does include a non-Jewish parent would it ...
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Source for "Miktzas HaYom K'Kulo"?

What is the source for "Miktzas HaYom K'Kulo"? I realize it applies to Availus (mourning) and it is also brought up regarding Nazir but I could not find its source?
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Is a person allowed to wear new jewelery during the 9 days? [duplicate]

Dumb question I know, but; does jewelery fall under the catagory of a garment, and as such is not allowed to be worn, if new, in the nine days?
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Father of baby is an onen by bris

We know an onen doesn’t perform any positive commandments, what happens if it’s the 8th day for his son and he needs to perform the bris, is he allowed to do that, or make a shliach, or does it get ...
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Source to comfort mourners "המקום ינחם אתכם" [duplicate]

What is the original source to comfort mourners with the exact phrase "המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים" - "hamakom (the Omnipresent, i.e., God) should comfort you among the ...
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Source that a mourner in his year does not lead the selichos in Elul and Tishrei?

I have been told that there is a Mishna Berurah that states that a mourner should not lead the selichos but can take over leading the prayers for shacharis. Please locate this Mishna Berurah.
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Why can't a person who's in his year of aveilus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov?

Why shouldn't a person in their year of avelus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov or yomim noraim?
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Consequence of filial mitzvot with parents and children both converting

A person who converts loses his halachic connections to his family (see the gemara at the bottom of Yevamot 48b as well as Yevamot 98a). What happens to "filial mitzvot" (e.g., filial ...
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Avelut for today

A question on avelut. One whom is in avelut for a close family. Are they allowed to travel and eat out after 30days though it’s still within the Year
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Source Merit of the person who does the burying of spouse

I can’t recall where I saw it, but I somewhat remember is that there is some merit if the husband buries the wife or vice versa. Does anyone know the source for it?
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Mourning for a Noahide Father

This question is different than others I've read regarding mourning a Non-Jewish parent. I'm specifically interested in the case of a Noahide father and a Jewish mother who have divorced. What I ...
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Mourning for a parent for a year

Please provide as many different answers as you can on why is aveilus for a parent for a year and all others is only 30 days. What different heartfelt ideas come to mind? What are some ideas that ...
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Why does Mordechai agree to put on the king's clothing?

From the Megillah, we read that Mordechai put on sack-cloth and ashes upon hearing of Haman's decree. Esther, alarmed to see her cousin in such a state, sends him fine clothes to put on, but he ...
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Public mourning in Shabbos

Why isn’t the custom of changing ones seat in shul considered mourning in public , which is prohibited in Shabbos?
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Checking Tefillin after someone has died [closed]

Is there a source that one shouldn’t check the deceased Tefillin after they have died?
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Can one recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?

Is it halachically permissible to recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?
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Custom of two people not clothing someone together

Probably a common occurrence is when putting clothes on a baby, both parents will try to do it together to make it easier (one puts on the shirt, one puts on the pants, etc.). Someone recently told me ...
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Sefardi Hilchot aveilut online

Do we have any sefardi Halachic book (pdf format) in English dealing with Hilchot Aveilut Online? I need it a bit urgently to study it this Tisha b'Av.
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Does a mourner sit in a low chair outside the house?

A mourner, during the first 7 days sits on a low chair. The mourner also generally does not leave the house. One exception would be if there is no minyan that can be set up in the mourner's house, so ...
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Is there a "pre-aninut" status?

This is a question of 2 different possible statuses, each with its own implications. In Maurice Lamm's "The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning," he writes (page 26) He is not considered an ...
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Can you be menachem avel in silence?

While I know that the practice is to recite the statement of Hamakom when visiting an aveil, what if an aveil craves silence? Mere presence and no noise might be the only comfort that has any real ...
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Can one go from being an Aveil to being an Onein?

A person is an onein while taking care of arrangements for a burial, and, from what I have learned, if that person's work is finished and that person leaves the body or the body leaves the person for ...
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Aninut and food

After the death of a close relative and before the burial (or the cessation of involvement with the body) one is in a stage of Aninut. During that time, one is exempted (or even forbidden) from many ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom

Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom? My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Shiva for an estranged parent?

Suppose someone has parents who are divorced. That someone is close with one parent, but has absolutely no relationship with the other. Must he sit shiva for the estranged parent? Is there any ...
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Not consoling mourners during shiva?

We read in pirkei avos (4:18) the following: רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר אוֹמֵר, אַל תְּרַצֶּה אֶת חֲבֵרְךָ בִשְׁעַת כַּעֲסוֹ, וְאַל תְּנַחֲמֶנּוּ בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁמֵּתוֹ מֻטָּל לְפָנָיו, וְאַל ...
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Is *HaMakom Yenachem* said Friday night in synagogue when the body's not yet buried?

If there are mourners in shul Friday night, they are greeting with HaMakom Yenachem Eschem etc. What if a relative died on Friday afternoon, but there's not enough time to bury before shabbos -- ...
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During Shivah must the mourner always sit on a low stool?

During the Shivah period, does one have to sit on a low stool all of the time or only when visitors are present?
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To say Kaddish if known the person has gone to Gan Eden

This story https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/1819358/tzaddik-of-bnei-brak-appears-in-dream-to-fellow-kovno-ghetto-survivor-im-already-in-gan-eden.html Got me thinking ...
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Is Tachanun recited in shul when a chattan and an avel are both present?

If a chattan (groom) is present in shul during the week after marriage, the entire minyan does not say Tachanun. However, if an aveil (mourner) is present in shul during his week of shiva, the ...
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Why do mourners study Mishnah Kelim, Ch. 24 and Mikvaos, Ch. 7?

Mourners traditionally study two chapters of the Mishnah, these two chapters being Kelim Ch. 24 and Mikvaos Ch. 7. Besides these sections having to do with ritual purity, what is the underlying ...
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How can the mourner remarry within one month, if he has to wait two regalim?

Moed katan (21b): מתה אשתו ונשא אשה אחרת — אינו רשאי ליכנס לביתו לדבר עמו ]תנחומין, [כדי שלא לפגוע באשה החדשה. If it was the mourner’s wife who died and he married another woman within thirty ...
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Giving Gift to Mourning Spouse?

Although the Rema (YD 385:3) writes ואסור לשלוח מנות לאבל על אביו ואמו כל י"ב חדש - It is forbidden to send [or bring] gifts to one who is in mourning for his father or mother, throughout the ...
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Mourning for only certain relatives?

After learning the Rambam (Mourning 1:10) וְכֵן הָאֶפִּיקוֹרוֹסִין [וְהַמּוּמָרִים] וְהַמּוֹסְרִין כָּל אֵלּוּ אֵין מִתְאַבְּלִין עֲלֵיהֶן it seems that we don't mourn for these categories of ...
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Why does leading the Amud alleviate suffering for the deceased?

A question was asked here on the forum for clarification on the Chiyuv for an Avel to pray for the Amud. And in an answer that was given, the answerer provided a quote from Rabbi Neustadt: "...for ...
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Eating an Egg Whole

Is there a basis for this custom that one may not bite into an egg which is still whole, but must be first cut or broken in two, unless it's a time of mourning (aveilut) and only then the egg is ...
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Why was King David allowed to mourn on the floor?

I heard from my rav that one of the laws of a king is that during mourning, he is not allowed to sit on the floor. Rather he sits on a couch, so as not shame his status as the king. If this is true, ...
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