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A halachic period of mourning after the passing of a close relative. There are many laws and customs relating to this period and those observing it.

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Father of baby is an onen by bris

We know an onen doesn’t perform any positive commandments, what happens if it’s the 8th day for his son and he needs to perform the bris, is he allowed to do that, or make a shliach, or does it get ...
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Source to comfort mourners "המקום ינחם אתכם" [duplicate]

What is the original source to comfort mourners with the exact phrase "המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים" - "hamakom (the Omnipresent, i.e., God) should comfort you among the ...
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Source that a mourner in his year does not lead the selichos in Elul and Tishrei?

I have been told that there is a Mishna Berurah that states that a mourner should not lead the selichos but can take over leading the prayers for shacharis. Please locate this Mishna Berurah.
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Why can't a person who's in his year of aveilus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov?

Why shouldn't a person in their year of avelus be a shaliach tzibbur on shabbos or yom tov or yomim noraim?
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Consequence of filial mitzvot with parents and children both converting

A person who converts loses his halachic connections to his family (see the gemara at the bottom of Yevamot 48b as well as Yevamot 98a). What happens to "filial mitzvot" (e.g., filial ...
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Avelut for today

A question on avelut. One whom is in avelut for a close family. Are they allowed to travel and eat out after 30days though it’s still within the Year
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Source Merit of the person who does the burying of spouse

I can’t recall where I saw it, but I somewhat remember is that there is some merit if the husband buries the wife or vice versa. Does anyone know the source for it?
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Mourning for a Noahide Father

This question is different than others I've read regarding mourning a Non-Jewish parent. I'm specifically interested in the case of a Noahide father and a Jewish mother who have divorced. What I ...
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Mourning for a parent for a year

Please provide as many different answers as you can on why is aveilus for a parent for a year and all others is only 30 days. What different heartfelt ideas come to mind? What are some ideas that ...
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Why does Mordechai agree to put on the king's clothing?

From the Megillah, we read that Mordechai put on sack-cloth and ashes upon hearing of Haman's decree. Esther, alarmed to see her cousin in such a state, sends him fine clothes to put on, but he ...
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Public mourning in Shabbos

Why isn’t the custom of changing ones seat in shul considered mourning in public , which is prohibited in Shabbos?
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Checking Tefillin after someone has died [closed]

Is there a source that one shouldn’t check the deceased Tefillin after they have died?
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Can one recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?

Is it halachically permissible to recite El Maleh Rahamim for a non-Jewish relative?
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Custom of two people not clothing someone together

Probably a common occurrence is when putting clothes on a baby, both parents will try to do it together to make it easier (one puts on the shirt, one puts on the pants, etc.). Someone recently told me ...
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Sefardi Hilchot aveilut online

Do we have any sefardi Halachic book (pdf format) in English dealing with Hilchot Aveilut Online? I need it a bit urgently to study it this Tisha b'Av.
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Does a mourner sit in a low chair outside the house?

A mourner, during the first 7 days sits on a low chair. The mourner also generally does not leave the house. One exception would be if there is no minyan that can be set up in the mourner's house, so ...
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Is there a "pre-aninut" status?

This is a question of 2 different possible statuses, each with its own implications. In Maurice Lamm's "The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning," he writes (page 26) He is not considered an ...
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Can you be menachem avel in silence?

While I know that the practice is to recite the statement of Hamakom when visiting an aveil, what if an aveil craves silence? Mere presence and no noise might be the only comfort that has any real ...
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Can one go from being an Aveil to being an Onein?

A person is an onein while taking care of arrangements for a burial, and, from what I have learned, if that person's work is finished and that person leaves the body or the body leaves the person for ...
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Aninut and food

After the death of a close relative and before the burial (or the cessation of involvement with the body) one is in a stage of Aninut. During that time, one is exempted (or even forbidden) from many ...
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An ovel attending a wedding on zoom

Is it possible for a Jew who is in mourning (an ovel) to attend a wedding on Zoom? My intial thought process was why not? If one cannot be משתתף (join) with a virtual minyan (quorum of 10 men) as all ...
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Shiva for an estranged parent?

Suppose someone has parents who are divorced. That someone is close with one parent, but has absolutely no relationship with the other. Must he sit shiva for the estranged parent? Is there any ...
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Not consoling mourners during shiva?

We read in pirkei avos (4:18) the following: רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר אוֹמֵר, אַל תְּרַצֶּה אֶת חֲבֵרְךָ בִשְׁעַת כַּעֲסוֹ, וְאַל תְּנַחֲמֶנּוּ בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁמֵּתוֹ מֻטָּל לְפָנָיו, וְאַל ...
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Is *HaMakom Yenachem* said Friday night in synagogue when the body's not yet buried?

If there are mourners in shul Friday night, they are greeting with HaMakom Yenachem Eschem etc. What if a relative died on Friday afternoon, but there's not enough time to bury before shabbos -- ...
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During Shivah must the mourner always sit on a low stool?

During the Shivah period, does one have to sit on a low stool all of the time or only when visitors are present?
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To say Kaddish if known the person has gone to Gan Eden

This story https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/1819358/tzaddik-of-bnei-brak-appears-in-dream-to-fellow-kovno-ghetto-survivor-im-already-in-gan-eden.html Got me thinking ...
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Is Tachanun recited in shul when a chattan and an avel are both present?

If a chattan (groom) is present in shul during the week after marriage, the entire minyan does not say Tachanun. However, if an aveil (mourner) is present in shul during his week of shiva, the ...
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Why do mourners study Mishnah Kelim, Ch. 24 and Mikvaos, Ch. 7?

Mourners traditionally study two chapters of the Mishnah, these two chapters being Kelim Ch. 24 and Mikvaos Ch. 7. Besides these sections having to do with ritual purity, what is the underlying ...
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How can the mourner remarry within one month, if he has to wait two regalim?

Moed katan (21b): מתה אשתו ונשא אשה אחרת — אינו רשאי ליכנס לביתו לדבר עמו ]תנחומין, [כדי שלא לפגוע באשה החדשה. If it was the mourner’s wife who died and he married another woman within thirty ...
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Giving Gift to Mourning Spouse?

Although the Rema (YD 385:3) writes ואסור לשלוח מנות לאבל על אביו ואמו כל י"ב חדש - It is forbidden to send [or bring] gifts to one who is in mourning for his father or mother, throughout the ...
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Mourning for only certain relatives?

After learning the Rambam (Mourning 1:10) וְכֵן הָאֶפִּיקוֹרוֹסִין [וְהַמּוּמָרִים] וְהַמּוֹסְרִין כָּל אֵלּוּ אֵין מִתְאַבְּלִין עֲלֵיהֶן it seems that we don't mourn for these categories of ...
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Why does leading the Amud alleviate suffering for the deceased?

A question was asked here on the forum for clarification on the Chiyuv for an Avel to pray for the Amud. And in an answer that was given, the answerer provided a quote from Rabbi Neustadt: "...for ...
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Eating an Egg Whole

Is there a basis for this custom that one may not bite into an egg which is still whole, but must be first cut or broken in two, unless it's a time of mourning (aveilut) and only then the egg is ...
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Why was King David allowed to mourn on the floor?

I heard from my rav that one of the laws of a king is that during mourning, he is not allowed to sit on the floor. Rather he sits on a couch, so as not shame his status as the king. If this is true, ...
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May one do the Mitzvah of Nichum Aveilim/Consoling Mourners on Tish'a B'av?

Based on On Tish'a B'Av,can someone say the typical "Mourner's statement" to any/everyone else?, may one perform the mitzvah of Nichum Aveilim for one who is sitting shiv'a on ...
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An "Aveil" at Shabbat Mincha

An aveil (mourner) does not practice public aveilut (mourning) on Shabbat (Ketubot 4a), though he is still in aveilut and there is some impact on what he can and can't do. Would the presence of an ...
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What defines a "mourner's home" (bet aveil)?

I'm asking this as a follow-up to this question. Certain prayers such as tachanun are omitted when praying in a mourner's home. OU says that this is true even if the mourners are not present. ...
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Is tachanun omitted if the mourner in Shiva isn't part of the minyan?

I was at a shiva minyan this morning but the mourner was not there (he was running late from the airport and some people could not wait). He showed up in the middle and went in to another room, then ...
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How did Rabbi Akiva start again after losing 24,000 students?

Where did Rebbi Akiva find the inspiration to pick himself up and teach students again after losing 24,000 students?
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Which mourning laws does an Ashkenazi son follow after his Sefardi mother's death?

An Ashkenazi son (his father was a Yekke) who mourns after his Sefardi mother - does he follow Ashkenazi Minhagim of Avelut (Kaddish for 11 months exactly for example) of Sefardi?
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What halachos of mourning apply to a grandchild for his grandparent's death?

What halachos of mourning, if any, apply to a grandchild upon his or her grandparent's death? Do they tear keri'ah upon hearing of the grandparent's death? Do they sit shivah?
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Breaking an Omer restriction

In a hypothetical case, I have chosen to observe the restrictions of the Omer during the "first half." But then, I am placed in a situation at which happy live music is being played. Does my presence ...
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God's Nichum Aveilim

Asking for a friend: On Kiddushin 38a, Tosfos s.v. Tzei, explain that Hashem didn't approach Yehoshua until after the 30 days of mourning for Moshe had elapsed, since the Shechinah does not descend ...
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Kaddish for children

I heard some rabbanim say that if a baby or child is over the age of 30 days, one should say kaddish for him for a year (11 months) while I have heard others say that 11 months is only for a parent ...
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Yahrzeit plaque in shul for cremated relatives

Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah) 345:5 states: Those who deviate from the ways of the community, i.e. people who have thrown off the responsibility of mitzvoth from their shoulders, and are not included in ...
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How to comfort someone who has lost his non-Jewish parent

I came across a (Facebook) post the other day in which an acquaintance announced he had lost his non-Jewish father. The individual is not a convert; his mother had intermarried. The funeral will not ...
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To say Kaddish at the cemetery after burial, do the mourners count as part of the minyan?

I understand that onenim cannot be counted as part of the minyan. Thus, at the cemetery, when saying the Kaddish can they be counted as part of the minyan or do we need 10 others besides them?
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Kaddish not being said correctly

Should one respond to a Kaddish that a mourner is not pronouncing the words properly? I don’t know if this question has been asked before, but I found something similar - Is there such a thing as a ...
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Should tachanun be said in a mourner's shtiebl?

Many shtiebls are set up as shuls that are part of someone's home. This raises the question as to what is considered a "mourner's home" with regard to saying tachanun. Background: Tachanun is not ...
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Mourning the death of an infant

If an infant only survives for one day Rachmana litzlan, do the parents have to sit shiva or say kaddish?
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