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Talk to me about din

We always hear about din vs. rachamim, which got me thinking: If rachamim is made up of chesed and gevurah, then what are the components of din? I find it interesting or else inexplicable that the ...
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Keeping your own community's dinim vs. yuhara

My chosen community--like every community, I suppose--has its own body of distinctive minhagim, horaos, chumras, hiddurim, and normative halachas. All, including the hiddurim, are observed with a high ...
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Why we have two ears vs. one mouth?

A Rebbi told us in the name of the Vilna Gaon that we have two ears and one mouth because we should spend more time listening than talking. (Sounds like Epictetus', "We have two ears and one mouth so ...
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Someone in authority apologizes?

I am looking for examples where someone in authority apologizes to someone lower than him. I am specifically looking for examples where we know that the authority figure is someone to emulate (eg. the ...
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mitzvos and middos

i heard the idea that mitzvos are to improves character what is/are the source/s for this? do others argue? what i found is in the name of the Ramban here and here but were it the original Ramban? ...
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Yishmael is the corruption of chesed

I once heard the following idea, and I'm wondering what is the source for it. Avraham was the pillar of chesed. His son Yishmael was rejected as being part of the Jewish people. Chazal say that ...
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it is for forbidden to do something good for someone who does not acknowledge the good

"it is for forbidden to do something good for someone who does not acknowledge the good" is this true? what is the source of this? who else holds like this? at this site it says: Maharal explains ...
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Source for Arizal’s teaching

I’m reading a book by Rabbi Shlomo Arush and he says the following: "According to our master, the Arizal, whoever wants to receive the light of Ein Sof in its entirety has to change its own nature ...
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Why isn't imitating Hashem's traits a constant mitzvah?

In the introduction to Sefer HaChinuch, the author delineates what he feels are six constant mitzvos from the 613. מששה מצות מהן שחיובן תמידי לא יפסק מעל האדם אפי' רגע בכל ימיו. ואלו הם. א' להאמין ...
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introversion and extroversion in Judaism

Is there anywhere in the Torah literature that discusses introversion and extroversion as being positive and/or negative traits? Is one preferred over the other?
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minimum honoring others

chazal tell us 24,000 students of Rabbi Akiva were wiped out in a plague due to not giving honor to each other. (Yevamot 62b) אמרו שנים עשר אלף זוגים תלמידים היו לו לרבי עקיבא מגבת עד אנטיפרס וכולן ...
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Flattery vs Being Nice

Flattery is forbidden talmud: Rabbi Elazar says: Any person who has flattery in him brings wrath to the world, as it is stated: “But those with flattery in their hearts bring about wrath” (Job 36:...
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A good maggid shiur who goes through an entire sefer of hashkafa

I have gone through the Mesilas Yesharim superficially once, I am now learning Likutei Amarim (Tanya) and The Kuzari. I have listened to shiurim on Chovos Halevavos, and Alei Shur. I have dipped my ...
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Is there an issue of arrogance to wear Tfilin Rabenu Tam

I have been putting on tefilin shel Rashi for many years and a friend recently said I should start putting on Tefilin Rabenu Tam as well. The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch says that only the especially pious ...
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“Kofin al midas Sedom” - what are the parameters of this concept?

The gemara in Bava Basra 12 discusses the splitting of a field in an equitable manner such that one of the individuals receives an additional personal benefit due to some external circumstance (having ...
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Mah hu af atah parameters

The Gemara (Shabbos 133b) brings down the mitzvah of emulating Hashem (derived from Shemos 15:2). Just as He is merciful, so should you be, for instance (mah hu rachum af atah rachum.) Sotah 14a ...
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In Judaism is there an idea that women are more grounded

Does Judaism see Jewish woman as more down to earth, regarding money (their support) more in a more physical way then men (the supporters), clearing about their support more then religious questions? ...
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Should a man be humble before his woman (wife/date)? or should he boast?

I understand that it is good for Jews to be humble and not boastful But are there times that it is not good? Specifically is it good to be humble (avoid boasting) before your woman (wife/date)? ...
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What is the difference between anger and hatred in Judaism

I see Kitsur Shulchan aruch 29.4,13 Regarding anger and hatred. What is the difference? Is anger the expression of hatred? Sources please.
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What's wrong Letzanut?

The Talmud in Sotah 42 says four groups do not receive the Shechina (divine presence) in the next world. One of these is the group of "letzim" (jesters). What is considered bad letzanut? I assume ...
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Going on a date

The custom nowadays is that a boy and girl go on shidduch dates to see if they are for eachother. Halachically speaking would a boy be allowed to go on a date if he is worried that he will excessively ...
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The Torah's perspective on waiting or patience

1) What are the virtues of learning to wait or having patience, סבלנות? 2) Is there anywhere in the Torah that shows because of lacking patience or the ability to wait, caused tragedies throughout ...
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Moshe, Ramba"m and humility

Numbers 12:3 informs us that “the man Moses was very humble, more than any person on the face of the earth.” This article cites Rambam's (Maimonides) view that humility is an exception to Rambam's ...
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What is “B'Nachat” in the Igeret HaRamban

the Igeret HaRamban starts off: "תִּתְנַהֵג תָּמִיד לְדַבֵּר כָּל דְּבָרֶיךָ בְּנַחַת, לְכָל אָדָם וּבְכָל עֵת, וּבַזֶּה תִּנָּצֵל מִן הַכַּעַס" what does the word "b'nachat" mean in this context. ...
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‫ is self esteem good or bad?

The penultimate Lubavitch rebbe writes in his principles of education (Chapter 10, starting here), that to feel down is not good but to feel secure and have a healthy self esteem is not good either. ...
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Is there a problem with lying?

Is lying per se forbidden? If not, are there circumstances under which (certain lies) are forbidden? On what grounds? What about: If you have a good enough reason to lie (e.g. for the sake of a ...
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Where is it written that anger is like idolatry

There is a gemara that says that anger is like a form of idolatry. Which gemara says this and where in the gemara is it written?
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How to attain Humility

In the beginning of the Ramban's letter to his son, he talks about the importance of not getting angry, and that this will lead to humility. He says that a person should "speak gently to all people ...
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Does Graphology Have Any Basis In Judaism? [duplicate]

Graphology is the theory/science that one's middos can be deduced from one's handwriting. Is there any source for such ideas from the rishonim or earlier?
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Sefer HaMiddot - Has anyone successfully sourced each aphorism?

Sefer HaMiddot A.K.A. Aleph-Bet Book (Sefer Ha-Alef Bet, Book of Traits), was Rebbe Nachman’s first work, a collection of aphorisms on the various character traits, positive and negative, as well as ...
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Intentions of chesed

When doing a mitzvah which is an act of kindness such as charity or helping someone, what is the proper intention? To focus on the recipient? Or perhaps I should be thinking I am doing a command of ...
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Jewish saying: “To be lenient when you should be firm is to be cruel when you could be kind.”?

I heard today there is an old Jewish saying that goes something like this: "To be lenient when you should be firm is to be cruel when you could be kind." This, as so many Jewish sayings do, ...
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When a tzaddik dies, does he leave his positive traits in this world?

I heard it said once that, when a righteous person (tzaddik) passes away, they somehow leave their positive character traits in this world to be used by others. Does anyone know the source for this ...
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Is it haughty to wear a frock when one is undeserving?

Many Rabbis wear a long Black Coat called a frock as rabbinic garb. Since it is a rabbinical garb is it permitted for someone who is not a rabbi to wear it? is it haughty to do so? Rabbis wear black ...
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Is there a connection between truth and good?

we find that God is associated with truth and also good and that we are exhorted to pursue both, ex. "Teach me your ways, O Lord, that I may live according to your truth" Psalm 86:11 "Turn from evil ...
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Can one destroy a bird's nest if the noise bothers him?

If there is a bird's nest next to one's study and he finds the endless chirping to be annoying, is he allowed to destroy it or should he try to bear the annoyance. This is not a question of halacha, ...
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man is greater than an angel [duplicate]

I heard from someone, that man is greater than an angel. For an angel can never reach higher levels in spirituality, while man can. In addition, man struggles with his evil inclination and an angel ...
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Why is Ona'as Devarim not in Hilchos De'os?

The Rambam places most of the laws regarding social, interpersonal relationships (such as the prohibition against slander) in Hilchos De'os, but he seems to be missing an important one: ona'as devarim,...
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How can one control his envy?

Suppose someone feels jealous over something, and wants to make himself not be envious. What can he do to help himself? I am interested both in classical sources as well as anecdotal advice. Related: ...
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Are there any Torah sections dealing with frustration and anger management?

I'm often frustrated throughout the day by people who either have no regard for anybody except for themself or who are simply too negligent or incompetent to act in a reasonable fashion. I'm in a ...
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What kind of “tikun hamiddos” is advocated by the Torah?

Does the Torah require a person to 1- uproot and change the source of bad middos (and not simply to deny and suppress his desires) or 2- deny and suppress his desires and behavior (but not ...
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Is a Jew allowed to be annoyed about a minhag?

I heard that Minhag Yisroel is Torah, and that some Jews get annoyed about the minhag of Kitniyot. Should they try to stay away from that feeling? I understand the Rambam in hilchot daiot that a Jew ...
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Why were the Tanayim and Amoraim so easily offended?

There are many places in the Gemara where Tanayim and Amoraim were offended (such as when one wouldn't come to the shiur of the other, when one wouldn't start class over to let him catch up, when one ...
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Are women inherently lazy, or was it a temporary state?

The Yerushalmi Pesachim 1:4, as understood by most Rishonim and brought in Halacha, says that women are lazy (and therefore would have been less trustworthy to properly perform the check for Chometz). ...
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Parameters of Yuhara for women

This question asks about Yuhara - religious haughtiness - in general. In the current answer it discusses issues of one-upmanship on one's Rebbe or local Rabbis being a special concern. How is this ...
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Parameters of “kalus rosh”

What is the definition of kalus rosh? What are the halachos of kalus rosh and where do they apply?
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Parameters of Yuhara - When should someone be concerned that he's overdoing it?

There are many cases in halakha where one is discouraged from adopting a stringency because it appears to be an expression of 'religious haughtiness' (יוהרא). When should someone be concerned about ...
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The parameters of anger in halacha

Although I cannot, at the moment, bring to mind specific examples of the Torah stating that it is absolutely forbidden to be angry or act out of anger, I seem to recall seeing this idea many times. ...
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Source for Rambam on Habit and Character

Where does the Rambam say, "Habit and Character are closely interwoven. Habit (as it were) becomes second Nature"?
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how could Korach have ruach hakodesh

Rashi says that Korach saw with ruach hakodesh (divine inspiration) that the prophet Samuel would descend from him. Yet Rashi also implies he had the bad traits of jealousy and arrogance. How could ...